3 Mistakes That Quietly DESTROY Her Respect for You as Her Man

Summary

Coach Raph shares three common mistakes that men make that erode their partner's respect in relationships. These mistakes include avoiding speaking up to prevent conflict, matching negative energy, and issuing empty threats that aren't followed through on. The video emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, maintaining one's own grounded behavior, and being truthful in one's intentions. Coach Raph encourages proactive measures for personal growth and offers a structured program for men seeking to enhance their relationship skills.

Highlights

• Avoiding conflict by not speaking up can ruin a relationship silently. 🗣️
• Reacting by matching her negative emotions undermines leadership. 💥
• Empty threats reveal weakness and lack of resolve. ⛔
• Respect is built by controlling one's reactions, not hers. 🙌
• Growth comes from structured efforts and self-improvement. 🌼

Key Takeaways

• Emotion regulation is key; don't let fear make you avoid communication. 💪
• Matching her negative energy only leads to chaos; stay calm and be the leader. 🌊
• Empty threats won't earn respect; follow through with your actions. 🚫
• Focus on your own choices instead of controlling her actions. 💡
• Invest in personal growth to improve relationship dynamics. 🌱

Overview

Coach Raph dives into the nuances of maintaining respect in relationships, addressing the subtle mistakes men often make that lead to a loss of respect from their partners. With a candid and conversational tone, he emphasizes the importance of addressing issues head-on instead of avoiding them to prevent conflict, as well as the need for emotional regulation to communicate effectively.

He highlights the mistake of matching a partner's negative energy, explaining that it can lead to a lack of clear leadership in the relationship. Instead, he advises staying grounded and calm to set a positive and constructive tone. The power of choice in reactions rather than attempting to control a partner's behavior is a central theme, encouraging individuals to take responsibility for their actions and decisions.

To conclude, Coach Raph stresses the significance of consistent follow-through in one's words and actions, warning against the futility of making empty threats. He calls for a shift in focus towards personal growth and the enhancement of relationship skills through structured programs, beckoning viewers to take actionable steps for a transformational change in their personal lives and relationships.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction and Video Overview Coach Raph welcomes viewers to his channel and sets the stage for the discussion by introducing himself. He highlights the theme of the video, which is about identifying three mistakes men make that undermine their respect in women's eyes. These mistakes often go unnoticed or are not clearly communicated by women, either because they are unaware themselves or are trying to understand the situation.
• 00:30 - 02:00: The Problem of Disrespect in Relationships The chapter delves into the issue of disrespect in romantic relationships, starting with the question of why a partner may not show respect, despite having love or affection for you. It emphasizes that the viewer has the power to address and resolve this issue. The discussion is framed as an informal, direct conversation aimed at providing actionable advice. The raw and unedited style of the presentation is highlighted to make the audience feel as if they are engaging in a personal, one-on-one dialogue with the speaker.
• 03:30 - 06:00: Mistake 1: Avoiding Arguments The chapter 'Mistake 1: Avoiding Arguments' emphasizes the importance of learning from experiences and seeking growth rather than dwelling on frustrations and issues. It encourages taking notes from discussions to implement changes in one's life. The chapter also promotes community building by urging viewers to subscribe to the channel to enable more men to join the community and grow together by understanding and supporting one another.
• 06:00 - 09:00: Mistake 2: Matching Her Energy In this chapter titled 'Mistake 2: Matching Her Energy,' the author discusses the common mistake men make in relationships by matching the emotional energy of their partners. The transcript highlights a situation where a man feels constantly on edge, worrying about whether his partner will have another emotional outburst or if she'll distance herself. This scenario creates a tug-of-war dynamic, causing stress and instability. The chapter suggests that instead of mirroring this unpredictability, one should maintain emotional stability and understand the underlying reasons for these cyclical relationship patterns.
• 09:00 - 12:00: Mistake 3: Making Empty Threats This chapter emphasizes the issue of making empty threats in relationships. It discusses how one partner might give their all in terms of effort and time, yet not receive the respect they deserve in return. Particularly highlighting the imbalance when the man is investing heavily into the relationship but finds his efforts unreciprocated and unappreciated. Despite meeting demands or following suggestions provided by the partner, the expected reciprocation remains absent. The chapter might delve into the importance of setting boundaries and ensuring words and actions align to avoid the pitfalls of empty threats.
• 15:00 - 19:00: Conclusion and Call to Action In the conclusion and call to action chapter, the focus is on addressing a situation where one's efforts to satisfy another, particularly in a relationship, are met with a lack of respect. The speaker emphasizes the internal struggle of trying to meet someone's expectations while neglecting one's own needs. The central issue identified is operating from a place of fear and lack of confidence rather than certainty and assertiveness. The chapter suggests this stems from not having a clear guide or "blueprint" for action and understanding one's role and direction.

3 Mistakes That Quietly DESTROY Her Respect for You as Her Man Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 what's going on my guy and welcome back to my channel my name is Coach Raph and I'm looking forward to giving you some wisdom today man um we're going to be covering a very good topic it's going to be three mistakes three mistakes that you're quietly doing right now that is destroying your respect in the eyes of your woman and I promise you she's not telling you this cuz of two reasons one she has no idea that this is why she's not respecting you or number two you know she doesn't even know what's going on right she she's trying to figure it
• 00:30 - 01:00 out herself why is it that you know she's not respecting you she knows that she loves you or she likes you but she can't come around to respect you so the good thing is that you have the power to fix this right now so stay tuned with me lock them with me take some notes and let's make sure we can get this down packed together all right now before we get into this as you know all my videos as of right now are all raw and unedited all right is just me and you having a conversation man-to-man talk all right i want you to feel as though like we're
• 01:00 - 01:30 having this talk and you can learn from every single video so be sure to take notes you're going to have the the issues the problems the frustrations that we have you can relate to me cuz we we understand each other but at the same time we're not staying there we want to grow so I'll be giving you solutions of what you can do right now to start making a change in your life all right now don't forget please subscribe to this channel because we want other men just like us to understand and to see and to grow together we want to build this community so please whenever you
• 01:30 - 02:00 whenever you press that button and subscri and and subscribe it's helping everybody to grow including yourself all right let's tap in so again man there's three mistakes that we're making and I want you to understand the pain you know that we're probably going through right now right as men you feel like you're the one that's constantly on edge and you're wondering you know when when she'll blow up you know is she going to blow up again is she going to pull away is she going to you know leave is she going to come back like it's this back and forth tug of war and you're trying to do everything you can right to give
• 02:00 - 02:30 her all the all the all the all the things you can give her right all of your effort all of your time but she's not she's not giving you back that you know that that respect that you deserve and especially you as a man you deserve this because you're the one putting in a lot of the effort you're the one putting in everything to this relationship right and you're not getting anything back that you deserve and no matter how much no matter how much you do no matter how much you adjust no matter how much you even listen to what she's asking cuz she probably give have she probably giving you different you know suggestions hey
• 02:30 - 03:00 try this do this I need this I need that and you're trying everything that she's telling you and she's still not respecting you it's like what like what what do you want woman how can I How can I be there more for you i've been doing everything and almost abandoning yourself right well look the problem that you have is that you're operating from a a place of of fear a place of of of of you're not not you're not confident in where you're trying to go and it isn't your fault because you don't have the blueprint right you were never given the blueprint you were just
• 03:00 - 03:30 told as a man go ahead make money provide give her protect and from there she should just love you unconditionally right that was what you were taught that's what we were all taught as as men who are responsible right and we take it seriously we care we want to provide we want to make sure that she understands and sees us but unfortunately that is not what gets the respect you're looking for that is just making you a man that is what makes you a man right and I'm proud of you because you are doing the right things that makes you a man to be
• 03:30 - 04:00 able to provide and protect for your woman and for your family yes this is good but on the flip side you have to not understand what generates respect from your woman okay this is what you want to understand and what we have not been taught and what you're going to learn right now so mistake number one you avoid speaking up to prevent an argument you avoid speaking up to prevent an argument and a lot of times a lot of times this is happening because you may have tried to speak up before in
• 04:00 - 04:30 the past and she hits you with some kind of push back some kind of you know issue and it it makes you feel less of a man and at this point now you're like you know what it's better for me to just avoid it than have to actually go and speak up and cause more conflict or cause more fight which in your mind means more stress right but again like I said you probably didn't have the blueprint of of how to handle this right so your solution you want to learn how to regulate your emotions all right your emotions are information you you you
• 04:30 - 05:00 don't run from the emotions emotions actually are going to give you the tools or the direction that you need to be able to set a boundary clearly yeah and the key is to be calm speak calmly okay you don't have to rush you don't have to go back and forth just speak calmly the goal isn't to get her to understand right away the goal is to be able to just say what you got to say right and please understand this the arguments that you avoid today it will double in size every single day every single day
• 05:00 - 05:30 if you keep on refusing to bring it up right so if you say today there's a problem today and you don't say anything today and tomorrow comments it will double in size and then the day after that it will double that double and it's going to increase and it's going to compound in significant ways the longer you delay saying what you got to say so please stop delaying saying what you got to say number two you're matching your her energy this is a big mistake you're matching her energy because she doesn't listen to you
• 05:30 - 06:00 right away right so you come to her you have this whole prepared um talk in your head and you have this expectation right that you want to go and you're going to let her know and that she's going to have to listen and understand and what happens she doesn't listen and she has understand and now she gets silent so you get silent too she gets mad you get mad too she starts yelling you start yelling too she gives you an attitude you give her an attitude too she gets um petty you get petty right back too you're literally matching her energy big mistake big mistake right because what's
• 06:00 - 06:30 happening is that you're doing you're doing literally you're doing the the same thing that she's doing you're behaving the same way that she's behaving so who's leading at this point she's leading because she's starting at first and you're following in the direction that she's going so you may think "Okay I'm going to prove a point i'm going to show her who's the man." But you're not showing her who's the man you're showing her who's the woman yeah and this this this this isn't an insult i'm letting you know i want you to to see how the mistake that we're making
• 06:30 - 07:00 right now right is what's causing you to have this lack of respect because she's going one way and she's pulling this way which is the way that you don't want to go but you're following her down the direction right you want to go the opposite way and this is your solution go the opposite way we don't go tit for tat we are men we're grounded right so if she wants to yell okay boundary you can yell if she wants to cuz she has the freedom to yell but you don't have to stay there listen baby girl I can see
• 07:00 - 07:30 that right now yelling right now and I don't tolerate yelling so I'm going to go to the other room i'm going to go get go for a walk and when you calm down we can have a talk does that make sense right do you see how you're not matching her energy she wants to go silence okay well she can go and give you this the sound treatment you go and have some time with your boys with your friends with other people out there right until she's ready to come back to you the key is not trying to go back and forth with her right because she's not listening to you right away like I said to you right she's not going to more often than not she's not going to get it right away so
• 07:30 - 08:00 be okay with her not getting it right away and go and get some space get some time time is your best friend all right number three you're This This one I know for a fact most of us do this one right because we're trying to get this control back so the mistake you're making right now is that you're you're handing out empty threats that you know for a fact you're not going to follow through on right so this this is like your last attempt to get some kind of respect back from her right she say things like "Hey
• 08:00 - 08:30 you know what i'm going to leave or I'm going to get a divorce or I'm going to I'm I'm going to just you know get out of here i'm going to just going to run away." When you say all these things to try to get her to try to listen hopefully listen to you right and you know for a fact you ain't going nowhere you ain't doing anything right because you know you still love her you still you used to like her you just want her to just see you so you explode and you say all these ridiculous things even these ridiculous ultimatums if you don't do this right now then I'm doing right
• 08:30 - 09:00 and you start to get upset right she's not she's not going to respect that cuz one you're not going to you aren't following through with it in the first place and she knows for a fact whatever you have said you've probably told her this before in the past and you're still there you're still doing exactly the same thing that you said you was you weren't you weren't going to do so how can she respect you if what you're saying you're saying it out of anger you're blindly enraging and you're trying to get her to to respect you in the same moment which I get but she can't respect you because your words are not holding any weight with your actions all right so here's the key you want to
• 09:00 - 09:30 stop trying to control her choices right so when a woman when a woman is calling you controlling as a man you have to understand what controlling is controlling is just make is you want her to do something that she only she can change right if she wants to be upset that's her choice if she wants to be angry if she wants to go and do something that that that you don't like that is still her choice but you also have the ability to make a choice as well and that's where you have the power
• 09:30 - 10:00 so what you want to do is you want to control what you can do listen baby girl you are you're yelling right now right we we get it so you can keep on yelling that's perfectly fine but if you keep on yelling I am going to now remove myself from the conversation until you're ready to have a respectful conversation do you see how we're putting you're putting yourself back in power and here's the and here's the most important part if she yells again follow through stop giving empty threats
• 10:00 - 10:30 because you're teaching her that hey your words have no weight your words have no action back behind it so she knows for a fact you just told her "Hey I'm going to leave and go and get some fresh air go for a walk." And then she still yells and now you go back and forth with her all you have just told her is "Hey your worries don't mean your words don't mean anything." All right so again three mistakes that you're making right now that is not allowing her to give you the respect and it's so subtle because you you probably
• 10:30 - 11:00 don't even realize you're doing it right you're doing it right now this is this this is one of the biggest these are probably the three biggest ones that that that happening right now for you and you're not getting that respect that you want from her all right now again you know by now I want to talk to you i want to help you i'm looking for men like you men like me and you because I see you and what I teach you every single day here is what I have been through and what I am learning and what I teach to all the clients that I have every single day all right and I want you to work with me too as well if you're saying to yourself you know what
• 11:00 - 11:30 I need a structured program that can keep me accountable right you're probably getting all the advice and the tips and the books and the therapy you have all that down but you're looking for now more of a structure to get you from point A to point B guaranteed looking for a transformation you want to be that better man you want to be able to pour back into your cup you want to be able to say to yourself you know what i don't I I never had the tools to be able to lead a relationship properly i could probably I can get the girls i can I I can I can you know finesse and talk but it's hard when it comes to
• 11:30 - 12:00 maintaining it so that's where I want to help you so go ahead and book a call below press the link below book a call let's talk oneonone about my boundaries coaching program it's a structured program it's literally 12 weeks it's five It's five steps and it's two phases it's very simple but I promise you you will see a shift guaranteed once you work with me so go ahead press that link below and let's have a conversation brother about your options okay that's come