7 Mindsets That Make You Weak & Insecure Around Women

Summary

In this engaging talk, Dan Bacon discusses seven mindsets that can make men feel weak and insecure around women they are attracted to. He explores the pitfalls of waiting for women to choose you, believing that all desirable women are taken, and thinking that initiating a conversation gives away power. By addressing these limiting beliefs, Bacon encourages men to take control, interact confidently with women, and break free from mindsets that hold them back. Emphasizing the importance of confidence over looks and societal fears over making mistakes in conversations, Bacon offers insight into overcoming insecurities and building genuine attraction.

Highlights

• 'Choose women who choose you' makes you feel powerless and dependent on being chosen. 🚫
• Many attractive women are available despite assumptions they're all taken. 🌟
• Starting a conversation shows confidence; it doesn't hand over power. ✊
• Men in every decade have believed women have changed, but attraction remains the same. 🔄
• You don't need to be a 'Chad' – pretty women values confidence over just looks. 😎
• Believing you need success to get a girlfriend is a myth; confidence matters more. 📉

Key Takeaways

• Waiting for women to choose you can make you feel powerless. 🤔
• Most beautiful women are open to meeting confident men, even in modern times. 💃
• Initiating conversation doesn't mean giving away power; it's a sign of confidence. 💪
• Focus on what you want and you'll find it - many sweet and feminine women are single. 🥰
• Success isn't a prerequisite to getting a girlfriend; confidence and attraction are key. 🔑
• Pretty women aren't only attracted to tall, handsome men - be confident! 👌
• Making mistakes in conversation is forgivable if she feels attracted to you. 😌

Overview

The idea of 'choosing women who choose you' can limit a man's potential in dating, leading to encounters with women who may not be attractive to them. Dan Bacon points out that this creates a lack of control, increasing feelings of insecurity. This approach often leads men to miss opportunities with women they genuinely find appealing.

Despite the discouraging notion that all desirable women are taken, Bacon emphasizes that this isn't true. There are plenty of sweet and feminine women who are single and looking for a genuine connection. Recognizing this misbelief can help men open their eyes to more possibilities in the dating world.

Initiating conversations with women does not give away power; instead, it showcases confidence and courage. Bacon argues that approaching women can help men overcome the belief that they must be successful before dating, pointing out that confidence often outweighs success in romantic pursuits.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to Insecure Mindsets This chapter identifies seven detrimental mindsets that cause men to feel insecure, weak, and powerless around women they are attracted to. These mindsets can lead to missed opportunities with desired partners or result in compromising on one's standards to avoid loneliness, ultimately leading to regret and dissatisfaction in relationships.
• 00:30 - 10:30: Mindset 1: Choose Women Who Choose You This chapter discusses the popular mantra in the 'manosphere,' which advocates for men to choose women who already express interest in them. While this may initially seem empowering for men as they don't have to pursue women who are uninterested, it also implies that a woman's interest is crucial for a relationship. It suggests that men should recognize their own value and wait for women who recognize it too, rather than feeling obliged to seek validation by proving themselves to uninterested parties.
• 10:30 - 18:00: Mindset 2: All Attractive Women Are Taken The chapter discusses the common mindset that all attractive women are already in relationships or uninterested in new ones. It explores scenarios where men notice attractive women in public spaces, like shopping malls, and question whether these women are likely to approach them or show interest. The chapter emphasizes that, in reality, attractive women do not usually make the first move or show obvious interest in men, thus challenging the belief that all attractive women are taken.
• 18:00 - 22:00: Mindset 3: Starting a Conversation Gives Her Power The chapter delves into the mindset of "Choose women who choose you" and how it can lead to feelings of powerlessness and insecurity in men. While it might sound appealing, the approach leaves men dependent on others' choices, particularly affecting those who are not traditionally handsome. The speaker, who self-identifies as average-looking, criticizes this philosophy, suggesting it creates a sense of helplessness rather than empowerment.
• 22:00 - 25:00: Mindset 4: Women Are Different These Days The chapter discusses the experiences of handsome men when it comes to relationships with women. It highlights that while handsome men may catch the attention of beautiful women, it is often the less attractive women who are more proactive in pursuing these men. The narrative suggests that these less attractive women are more likely to 'throw themselves' at handsome men, contrasting the behavior of more attractive women.
• 25:00 - 31:00: Mindset 5: Only Tall, Handsome Men Are Attracted The chapter challenges the mindset that only tall, handsome men are desirable by discussing a scenario in which a woman acts persistently and kindly towards a handsome man to make him feel special. Despite her efforts to win his affection by being indispensable, the man's interest stems more from convenience than genuine attraction.
• 31:00 - 35:00: Mindset 6: Success Before Relationships The chapter explores the dynamics between superficial choices and deeper attraction in relationships, focusing on the concept of self-image among handsome men. These men often develop a self-perception based on external validation rather than genuine connections. It highlights the challenges faced by men who may settle for available choices rather than pursuing genuine attraction, influenced by the societal perceptions of their attractiveness.
• 35:00 - 40:30: Mindset 7: Perfect Conversation Needed The chapter discusses the concept of attractiveness and social dynamics, focusing on the myth that handsome men naturally engage with attractive women. It reveals that often, these men do not make advances towards women they are genuinely interested in but instead settle for what comes their way, which may not always match their preferences. This challenges the perception that physical appearance automatically leads to meaningful social interactions.
• 40:30 - 45:00: Conclusion and Master Attraction Promotion The chapter discusses the mindset of men who wait to be chosen by women, highlighting the idea that this mentality gives away their power and control over their dating lives. Since many women are passive and also wait to be chosen, this often leads to a lack of connection or attracting partners they are not truly interested in. The conclusion emphasizes the need for men to be more proactive in their pursuit of relationships rather than waiting passively for women to choose them.

7 Mindsets That Make You Weak & Insecure Around Women Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 There are seven mindsets that mess you up as a man and cause you to feel insecure, weak, and powerless around women that you find attractive to the point where you'll either miss out on being with women or you'll lower your standards so much just so you can get something and then you'll end up regretting it. Right? You'll wish that you hadn't been thinking that way and gotten yourself into a relationship with a woman that you don't even find attractive, right? You know the types of women that you find attractive. you see them, you feel that attraction, but these messed up mindsets stop you from
• 00:30 - 01:00 getting what you want. Right? So, the first one is something that's actually quite popular in the quote unquote manosphere, and that is choose women who choose you. It sounds fantastic, and it seems like it's empowering for men. All right? I don't have to lower myself and talk to no damn woman, right? If a woman wants to be with me, right, she's going to have to recognize my value, right? and she's going to have to choose me. All right. Yeah. Yeah. That's what's going to happen, right? But what
• 01:00 - 01:30 actually does happen, right? When a guy sees a woman that he finds attractive, does she come over and choose him? No. When he's going about his everyday life, say for example, he's at a shopping mall, do the attractive woman that he really likes that he's choosing in his mind come over and choose him. When he talks to a woman who works as a waitress or a cashier or she's working in a clothing store and he's interacting with her, is she choosing him and wanting to be with him and making it obvious and asking him out? No. So the whole thing
• 01:30 - 02:00 of choose women who choose you means that you have no control. You have no power. You're at the mercy of women. You're waiting for women to choose you. And as a result, you feel powerless. You feel insecure because when you see women that you find attractive, it's not working, right? That choose women who choose you. Yeah. It sounds really cool, but what a lot of guys don't realize is that it's a problem that handsome men experience. I'm not a handsome man myself. I'm average looking at best, but I have
• 02:00 - 02:30 helped a lot of handsome men over the years and I have a lot of handsome friends. And something that handsome men experience is that they may get looks from pretty women and beautiful women. They may get a bit of a look, but in almost all cases, the only women who choose them and throw themselves at him are the unattractive women, the less attractive women. And what happens for a handsome man is that the woman who is less attractive, she is below average looking or just pushing average looking,
• 02:30 - 03:00 she'll be so persistent and she'll be so nice to him and make him feel good about himself, make him feel like a king, make him feel like he's the man that he will give her a chance and she will then become indispensable in his life. She'll do everything for him. She'll be as good as she can be to hopefully win him over and get him to fall in love with her. But the handsome man has never really been attracted to her. It was more just convenience. It was like, "Okay, she's throwing herself at me. She seems all
• 03:00 - 03:30 right. Why not? It's a woman who chose him, right?" But the whole time he's been looking at other women who he's actually attracted to and wishing he could be with them, but they're not throwing themselves at him. And what a lot of guys don't realize about handsome men is that handsome men develop an image about themselves, a self-image where they are a stud. That's what everyone tells them, right? Their friends, family, and co-workers assume that he's a stud and he gets all the girls because they see the way that girls react to him because he's so
• 03:30 - 04:00 handsome, right? And they see that he has that edge. He gets that foot in the door because of his looks. But what they don't realize is that in many cases, right, some handsome men are confident and they go after what they want. But what they don't realize is that in many cases, a handsome man doesn't actually walk up and talk to women that he finds attractive and try to get something to happen. Instead, he takes what is being thrown at him. And what's being thrown at him are usually average at best looking women or below average looking women. So, he doesn't actually get what
• 04:00 - 04:30 he really wants. So in terms of all sorts of men now, not just handsome men, if they're using that mindset of choose women who choose you, then the reality is that they're saying to themselves that they have no control or power over the situation and it's up to women. It's up to women to come and choose them. And since most women are passive and they are waiting to be chosen, nothing usually happens. The only thing that will usually happen is with a woman that he's not even that attracted to, right? Will choose him and he will then get
• 04:30 - 05:00 with her. And what often happens as well is that because the guy isn't getting any other options and she seems really nice, she's throwing herself at him and she's being really friendly and supportive and so on, he may get into a relationship with her yet because he doesn't really find her attractive, right? It's not genuine. He's just with her for convenience really or for something to do. She isn't feeling chosen, wanted, and loved in the way that she wants to feel. And she knows that, right? And she understands what's
• 05:00 - 05:30 going on, but she's hoping that she's going to be able to change how he sees her, but she's not going to be able to do that because he's not truly attracted to her. It's not genuine. He's just with her because she chose him, she threw herself at him, or it was easy, so he's just like, "Okay, I'll get with her." And as a result, what often happens is that the woman ends up feeling resentful towards the guy for making her feel unloved. unwanted and not being chosen by him, really wanted. And eventually, if he hits a point in his life where
• 05:30 - 06:00 he's feeling vulnerable and insecure, things aren't going his way, or if he's just feeling a bit needy, she will pull back and she'll use that as a strategy to hopefully make him love her, need her, and want her more. And if he falls for that and he starts becoming needy and clinging on to her for dear life, then she feels like she's in the position of power and it seems like she's going to get what she wants. But then she feels turned off by the fact that he's become needy and insecure now. So she usually then dumps him and he
• 06:00 - 06:30 then is trying to get back with a woman who he didn't even really find that attractive initially and she has completely messed him up and it wasn't even the woman that he really wanted to be with anyway. So it seems like a great mindset. It seems really tough, man. Like, yeah, choose women who choose you. But it's not tough at all, right? If a man is at a bar, for example, and he wants to meet women that he finds attractive, and he has that mindset of choose women who choose you, then he's going to be standing around and in his mind, he might not really have obvious,
• 06:30 - 07:00 nervous, insecure body language like I'm showing now where he's sort of like doing that sort of thing. But he may display subtle body language uh that suggests he's hoping to be chosen, right? You know, standing as good as he can stand, right? acting as good as he can act, right? Hopefully, I'm being impressive enough that women are going to come over and choose me. But the women that he actually finds attractive, they don't do it. And he's standing there thinking, why aren't they
• 07:00 - 07:30 interested in me? Why isn't it happening? And he feels insecure. He feels weakened by his mindset where he is hoping to be chosen by women. Whereas other guys don't fall into that mindset trap, right? They realize that women aren't going to come running over and hit on them and choose them. If they want a woman that they find attractive in almost all cases, they're going to have to walk over and talk to her. They're going to have to make her feel some attraction and shoot their shot. They're going to have to make something happen. Otherwise, she's not going to do
• 07:30 - 08:00 anything about it. Number two, all the sweet feminine women are already taken. Something a lot of guys forget about or they may not realize is that most boyfriend girlfriend relationships don't actually work. As a result, women come back onto the dating market all the time and are single and are hoping to meet a lover, boyfriend, or husband. And that includes the pretty women, the sweet feminine women, the beautiful women. They're trying to find themselves a boyfriend or a husband or potentially just a lover, right? Something casual,
• 08:00 - 08:30 but they are available. They're not already taken. Yet, if a guy believes that all the women that he finds attractive are taken, then he's not going to feel like he should be walking up and saying hi to a woman that he finds attractive. He's just going to assume that she's already taken. Additionally, some guys have a mindset where they believe that the only women who are left available are the blue-haired women with a ring through their nose or the overweight women and the really angry ones who maybe are man-hating, right? They're the only women who are available. All the other
• 08:30 - 09:00 women are taken. And as a result, what happens is that it's sort of like when you're thinking of buying a certain brand of car or you're thinking of getting a certain color of car when you get a new car and all of a sudden what happens is that you start to notice that brand of car everywhere or you start to notice that color of car everywhere. You're like, "Oh, yeah, right. Another white car." Or, "Oh, another one of those brands or whatever it may be." And what's happening is that your brain is now paying attention to that. You're noticing those things. And that's something that happens to everyone,
• 09:00 - 09:30 right? with all sorts of things. And when it comes to women, what will often happen is that if a man thinks that the only women left are the blue-haired ones with the ring through their nose or overweight women, then every time he sees women like that, he'll think, "Yeah, look, they're all just like that these days. They're all overweight. They're all blue head or purple head or greenhaired, and they seem angry and things like there are no sweet feminine women left." Meanwhile, guys who aren't
• 09:30 - 10:00 focusing on that and are focusing on what they want, all right, which is sweet, feminine women are getting those women because they're talking to those women and making something happen. Or the guy is going to places where women like that are going to be in a lot of numbers, right? If you go to a crappy pub, it'll often attract averagel looking women or overweight women. And there may be some sweet, beautiful, feminine, pretty women in there as well,
• 10:00 - 10:30 but they'll be the minority. Yet, if you go to a lounge bar, a cocktail bar, or some other bar where the guys have to dress up a bit more and wear very smart casual with good shoes or maybe a shirt and jeans and good shoes, and women wear dresses and do themselves up, you will usually find a lot of attractive women there. In those places, the bouncers managing the doors will usually try to make sure that there are more women in the bar or club or at least 50/50 men and women, but they will try to avoid
• 10:30 - 11:00 having too many men in there. It usually won't look like this image here where it's mostly women, but certain bars will definitely have a lot more women than men. And there'll often be a lot of attractive women there, including the sweet feminine women that a lot of guys are looking for. those easygoing, down to earth, sweet, feminine type of women who just happen to be in that environment on that night to hopefully meet a lover, boyfriend, or husband. It doesn't mean that she wants to do that for her entire life, but she's out there opening up the opportunity for her to
• 11:00 - 11:30 potentially meet a lover, boyfriend, or husband. So, you go in there, you talk to those women, you make something happen, you shoot your shot, and the next thing you know, you're having sex with one of those women or you're in a relationship with them. But if you don't put yourself in a situation like that and you just walk through the world focusing on the types of women that you don't want, then you're not going to be getting anywhere. And it's not just bars, of course, right? You will see pretty sweet, friendly, feminine women working in clothing stores or they might
• 11:30 - 12:00 be working in a department store where they're selling makeup to women and they're right there, right? It's a beautiful, pretty, sweet looking woman. And in some cases, she's going to be single, right? And if you go over and talk to her and you make her feel attracted, you ask for her number and you get it. The next thing you know, you're texting back and forth with her, you're setting up a date, you and her are kissing on the date, you're having sex, you get into a relationship, but if you don't do anything and you just think that all the women that you're attracted to are taken, then it messes you up. It
• 12:00 - 12:30 weakens you. It makes you think that there's just nothing available for you. But there is. And the guys who were learning from me at Master Attraction, for example, yes, they're going out to bars and they're having sex on the first night with women. They're kissing women on the first night that they meet them and so on. And that just keeps happening. They're doing that, yes, but they're also meeting women in cafes. Another guy met a woman in a taco shop. He got a number from a woman in a taco shop. And another guy got a number from a woman when he was at the traffic
• 12:30 - 13:00 lights, right? She called out her number to him. Guys can get results with women in all sorts of situations, right? You don't have to just go to bars. However, when you go to bars, what usually happens is that 95% approximately of the women there are going to be single. Whereas, if you meet a woman during the day, it's basically a coin flip, right? Heads or tails, right? Is she going to be single or not? Because women who go to bars and clubs, they go there to meet guys, right? They don't go around admitting that. They say they go there
• 13:00 - 13:30 just to dance and have fun with their friends. But when single, girls go to bars and clubs to hopefully meet a lover, boyfriend, or husband. And you just need to go over and talk to them and make something happen. And when you do that, you realize that, hang on a second, there are a lot of sweet, beautiful, pretty, feminine women available and single. But when you don't do that and you're just walking through the world and potentially focusing on the fact that there are a lot of overweight women that you don't want or blue-haired women with a ring through
• 13:30 - 14:00 their nose and so on, then you're going to feel insecure. You're going to feel like there's just nothing available for you, right? You don't have any control over the situation. Beautiful women aren't available anymore. Pretty women aren't available anymore. You can't get anything. So, you just continue on in your life thinking that dating these days is screwed. You can't get anything. Nothing works anymore. when in reality guys who are just getting on with it, right? Talking to women that they find attractive are getting results. And something else to point out here which a lot of guys don't realize is that
• 14:00 - 14:30 something I discovered when I was out there hooking up with lots of women and enjoying my choice of women for over 10 years. I've settled down now, but I did that for over 10 years. And it's the same thing that works in today's world because attraction is attraction. Women feel naturally attracted to certain traits. For example, confidence rather than insecurity, flirting rather than just being neutral with her, right? Women feel attracted to certain traits, to certain behaviors, to certain things that you can do. And when you do the
• 14:30 - 15:00 things that make women feel attracted, they feel attracted to you. Regardless of the fact that there are dating apps these days, which by the way are majority male users, because most women don't like the idea of meeting a guy on a dating app. Most women assume, and it's not always correct, by the way, but most women assume that if a guy is on a dating app, he can't get girls in real life. So, they're turned off by that. And that's one of the main reasons why women have never been the majority users on dating apps and probably never will
• 15:00 - 15:30 be. Also, dating apps don't actually have as many users as some people think they do, despite what certain sponsored stories that you'll see online will claim. They'll say that it's the main way that people meet these days, which is not actually true. Most women are not on the apps and most people don't use dating apps. Likewise, there is Instagram now and many people definitely use that as a dating app. But despite all that, attraction still works in the same way and all sorts of guys can still attract pretty women right now. Pretty women are available and you just need to
• 15:30 - 16:00 talk to them. So, when I was single, what I discovered is that beautiful women and pretty women rarely get spoken to in bars and clubs by men who are confident and normal, right? They do get spoken to by guys who are coming over and being sleazy or they're drunk and they're saying, "Hey, hey, what's going on, girls?" Or guys who come over and they're being really nice and sucking up to them. But they rarely get spoken to by a guy who can just be confident and normal when he's interacting with her and he feels worthy. They rarely
• 16:00 - 16:30 experience that. So what happens is that for beautiful women and pretty women, they don't actually have a lot of good options. Instead, they have a lot of attention, right? They're getting a lot of attention from men by men looking at them all the time. Sure. And they're getting some bad options from guys who are being sleazy or drunk or being way too nice and sucking up to them and being insecure or nervous around them. But they'll rarely come across a guy who can be confident, normal, and make them feel attracted, use some flirting, make
• 16:30 - 17:00 them start to feel a bit turned on as he's talking to them. They'll rarely ever experience that because most guys are terrified of beautiful women. They feel so attracted to them that they think that women have way more value than them to the point where the guy is afraid. He's afraid of getting rejected. He doesn't feel worthy. He doesn't know how to think in a way that is confident. He doesn't know how to do that. He has a lot of insecure mindsets that are hurting him. But when you are confident and you feel worthy of attractive women, they feel that and they respect you
• 17:00 - 17:30 because of it. They feel like you're an equal, right? You're one of them, right? You're part of the quote unquote cool crowd, right? You are a man who deserves to be with a woman like that. They don't feel like they're going to be doing you a favor. They feel like, "Yeah, this guy's cool. This guy's confident. I like him." Right? And it then works. So, if you go through your life thinking that all the sweet, beautiful, feminine women are taken, then you're going to cause yourself to feel insecure and powerless and weak, that you can't get what you
• 17:30 - 18:00 want, right? It's going to feel like it's all just too difficult when in reality, they are available. Loads of them are single. They're hoping to meet a confident, normal guy, and all you've got to do is talk to them and make something happen. The third mindset that messes men up is starting a conversation with a woman gives her all the power. There are so many knuckleheads on YouTube and Tik Tok who have talked about this sort of thing, right? If you walk over and talk to a woman, then you know, you're giving her essentially your power there. Like, she's in the power position because you're obviously
• 18:00 - 18:30 interested in her. Yet, the way that a woman sees it is that you're a confident man who has balls and is going after what you want, right? You're a man who isn't afraid to go after what he wants. You're not intimidated by women and you're taking on the traditional role of a man and also the role that is built into nature. It's built into our brain that we have a larger area of our brain dedicated to sexual pursuit compared to women. We are wired in that way. Women are wired to be passive. And some guys will feel like, well, they should just do it. You know, women want equality.
• 18:30 - 19:00 Why can't they just walk up and talk to men? And one of the reasons they can't do it is that pretty much every man would happily have sex with her once or maybe more than that if she opened up to it. Men have a very simple attraction, right? Yep, she looks good. All right, I'll have sex with her. Why not? Right? So, women can't just go around talking to men and hitting on them because they're going to talk to men who don't even like them and will just have sex with them. Or guys who may not be confident and the only reason he's confident is that she came over and talked to him. But women want to get themselves a confident guy. They want to
• 19:00 - 19:30 see that you have the confidence as a man to go after what you want with women and in life. So the messed up mindset of starting a conversation with a woman gives her all the power makes you feel insecure. It weakens you. Right? If I walk over and talk to a woman, I'm, you know, giving her all the power now. I'm going to be like lower value than her. And you're creating that in your mind. If you listen to these knuckleheads out there who say that, you know, you know, if you walk over and talk to a woman like you're you're lowering yourself,
• 19:30 - 20:00 you know, like uh you know, by default, she has all the power now. What a knucklehead. It just doesn't work that way. No one can take away your power, right? You get to decide who is in the power position. It doesn't matter what you say or do or what she says or does, you're always in the power position. Why? because you said so. I'm the man. You've come over and talked to her. You're in control of the situation. You feel worthy. You're not feeling like
• 20:00 - 20:30 you're lowering your value. You're a man who goes after what he wants. And you've decided to talk to her. So, she's actually quite a lucky girl that such a man has come over and talk to her. And she knows that if you honestly believe in yourself and you have that type of confidence. But if you've listened to some clueless, naive guy on YouTube or Tik Tok who said that if you go over and talk to a woman, then you know you're giving away your power. Like you're showing her that you like her, so therefore she has all the power, then you're unnecessarily making yourself
• 20:30 - 21:00 feel weak and insecure. Likewise, if you're coming over thinking that um you know, you're starting a conversation, you've got that nervousness about you, she's going to pick it up and she's going to know that you're worried about getting rejected, losing value, stuffing up, and so on. You're coming from a lower place already and that just weakens you. It makes you feel insecure. Yet importantly, women don't see you as having lower value or having no power because you've come over and talk to her. She sees you as powerful. You're a
• 21:00 - 21:30 man who has the confidence, the courage, the power to go after what he wants to walk over and talk to a woman and not be intimidated. She looks up to you and respects you because of that. So, you're not giving away your power and she doesn't feel like she has more power than you. Unless you think she does. All right? Unless you think she does. If you think she has more power now, then that's going to come across in your vibe, your energy, your body language, the way that you're talking to her, the way that you react to her, the things you say and don't say, and she's going to pick up on that. She's going to be like, "All right, yeah, this guy's
• 21:30 - 22:00 trying real hard. He's worried about getting rejected. He doesn't feel like he's good enough." And she then feels like she has more power. Yes. But that's based on your thinking, what you're creating, because of how you're looking at the situation. Number four, women are different these days. So, is it true though? Are women different these days? Heck yeah. Right. Hang on a second, Dan. You're saying that women are different these days. You said that's a bad mindset. No, no, no. The insecure mindset, the mindset that is going to weaken you is to think that women are different these days and therefore you
• 22:00 - 22:30 can't get what you want, right? But the reality is that men in the 60s were saying that about women. Men in the 60s were saying, "Yeah, well, women these days, they're different. They all want to do their own thing these days." Yeah. Oh, women in the 70s, oh jeez, they're all about this free love thing. Feeling free to have sex with a guy or have a relationship with him and not get married. Jeez, you know, what have women come to these days? And then in the 80s, all right, Cindy Lor song, girls just want
• 22:30 - 23:00 to have fun. A lot of men back then would have been listening to that sort of song in their car radio thinking, "Yeah, girls these days, they just want to have fun. They don't want to like be a housewife and like settle down and things, right?" Messing themselves up in their head, right? Thinking that all women are like that. You can't find a good woman anymore. Women are different. Everything's changed now. I can't get a woman because yeah, girls just want to have fun. I don't want to just have fun. I want a committed relationship. Here's the thing, though. Women have always changed just like men have always changed. The superficial layer of
• 23:00 - 23:30 culture has always been changing, but underneath the surface, attraction has always remained the same. Regardless of what decade it was, women are always attracted to men who are confident and turned off by men who are insecure. Women are always attracted to men who flirt with them and they feel sexual tension and they feel that sexual vibe. Whereas, they usually just feel neutral with guys who are being neutral. Right? The guy who's just talking to her and getting along with her like a friend is usually just going to end up in the friend zone unless he's really
• 23:30 - 24:00 good-looking or something and she wants him because of that or he's famous or whatever, right? If he's just a normal everyday guy and he's just talking to her and getting along with her, it will usually just feel like a friendly type of conversation. Unless of course he can add in some other traits that are attractive. For example, being assertive rather than being passive, right? So asserting himself in a conversation or asserting himself in a situation and then the woman starts to feel attracted to him versus if the guy is passive and he's just following along with whatever the woman is talking about. Doesn't want
• 24:00 - 24:30 to assert himself in the conversation, doesn't want to assert himself in the situation, then the woman isn't going to be feeling attracted to him. So the thing is attraction has always remained the same under the surface, right? It doesn't change. And the guys who have been successful with women in every decade despite cultural changes are the guys who just get on with making women feel attracted and shooting their shot. They don't sit around complaining about these days. Instead, they just get on with having sex, getting into
• 24:30 - 25:00 relationships, being in love, enjoying their life with women while other guys are sitting around at cafes or bars or hanging out with their friends talking about how women have changed these days. I mean, there was a woman the other week that I I heard her say this or that. I can't believe women are saying that these days. It was that woman who said that. And yes, that woman who said that, there are other women like her, too. But she's not every woman, right? If you focus on those sort of women, it's like when you're going to get a new brand of
• 25:00 - 25:30 car or a new color of car, you'll see it everywhere. Your brain will be focused on that. You'll pick up on it. You'll talk about it. You'll focus on it, and it'll become a bigger thing for you. But if you focus on what you want, the type of women that you want, and you go after that, then you get that. Another mindset that will mess you up is pretty women only feel attracted to tall, handsome men with muscles. There are a lot of insecure videos on Tik Tok and YouTube these days, and guys will say things like, you know, women only want the Chads now, right? The top 5% of guys,
• 25:30 - 26:00 you got to look perfect, and if you don't, then women aren't going to be interested in you. They love that sort of thing, right? because it makes them feel that anger, the frustration, and they get to avoid facing up to their biggest fear of all, which is to talk to women that they find attractive, be confident enough to handle the conversation, make her feel some attraction, and shoot their shot. They don't want to have to face up to that. They'd rather watch videos where other insecure or naive guys are saying that
• 26:00 - 26:30 women only want the Chads these days. They only want the top 5% of men. If you don't look like those men, you're not going to get anywhere. And they ignore the fact that they see guys who don't have big muscles with a girlfriend. Hang on a second. Don't you have to be tall and have big muscles to get with a pretty woman? That guy's skin looks like he's had a lot of pimples on his cheeks there. Why is she with him? That guy looks like he's losing his hair. You have to have a full head of hair to be with women, don't you? Hang on a second. That guy's shorter than the woman. No,
• 26:30 - 27:00 no, no, no, no. You have to be taller than the woman. Hang on a second. What's going on here? Why is she with him? Right? What's going on? I thought you had to be a tall, handsome Chad. What's happening here? Why is she with him? The reality is that yes, women do find tall, muscular, handsome men attractive. Wow. Right. They find them attractive. Fantastic. So, does that mean every other guy doesn't have a chance? Right. Oh, they find tall, handsome men
• 27:00 - 27:30 attractive. So therefore, I should just, you know, give up. Yeah. Uh women aren't going to be interested in me, right? I've just got to basically Yeah. Maybe if I can become successful in life one day, maybe then a woman will want me. And in the meantime, I'll watch all these videos on YouTube and Tik Tok where they're hating on women. Yeah. Cuz women are like screwed up. They only want the chats. And the guy is messing himself up. He's causing himself to feel insecure, weak, and
• 27:30 - 28:00 powerless when he doesn't need to be. So, what you need to be able to do is just interact with a woman and make her feel some attraction to traits that trigger attraction inside of women. And I've mentioned a number of them already, but another one to mention is when a guy is emotionally intelligent versus emotionally naive. And something emotionally naive that guys do that turns women off and screws up their chances with women is not understanding that women will test a man's confidence when they're interacting with him.
• 28:00 - 28:30 Right? A guy who's emotionally naive will think that if a girl likes him, then she's going to be really nice to him, right? She's going to make it easy for him. But if a girl likes you and she's quite confident, then in almost all cases, she's going to be testing your confidence to see if you can handle being with a girl like her. because almost all women want a guy who's more confident than them. It doesn't mean that a guy has to be the most confident guy in the world, but she wants him to be more confident than her so she doesn't end up feeling like a big sister
• 28:30 - 29:00 to him or a mother figure because that doesn't create sexual attraction, right? She wants to be able to look up to you and respect you. And a guy who's emotionally naive will be talking to a girl and he'll like her. And when she then plays a bit hard to get or she says something to tease him during an interaction to see how he's going to handle it, he'll then start to fall apart. He'll think, well, maybe this girl doesn't like me or, you know, what am I going to do now? Like, I'm feeling insecure about this. Like, she's saying that about me. How am I supposed to handle this? What am I going to do? He
• 29:00 - 29:30 doesn't understand that in moments like those, the woman just wants to be able to see that he can handle it. Right? And so a guy who's emotionally intelligent in a moment like that and he's confident will say something like, "Is that all you got, girl? Come on, you can do better than that." Or, "Oh no, now you're making me feel insecure. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm really insecure now." And she then realizes that he's not insecure, right? That her teasing remark, that her saying those sort of things hasn't thrown him off,
• 29:30 - 30:00 that he can handle it. He can handle being with a girl like her. And what happens is that when a woman tests your confidence and she can see that you can handle yourself, then she doesn't feel like she needs to do that anymore. It's going to be pointless. If she throws tests your way and it doesn't throw you off, she's going to end up feeling stupid, feeling silly, right, for saying things that just don't have any effect on you. So, she stops doing it for the most part, right? She may do it sometimes just for a laugh, but for the most part, she stops. Yet, if you're
• 30:00 - 30:30 interacting with a woman and she tests your confidence and she can see that you can't handle it or that you are an emotionally naive guy that thinks that if a girl likes you, she's just going to be nice and make everything easy, then she's going to lose interest because women don't want to get into a situation where they feel like they're going to be a big sister to a guy, right? They want to be able to look up to you and respect you. So, it's because of those subtle type of things that guys get rejected and don't really understand what's going on. And then they see a video on Tik Tok
• 30:30 - 31:00 or YouTube or they hear a friend say something or maybe even they believe it themselves that women only feel attracted to tall, handsome, muscular men and they have evidence for themselves where they've interacted with women that they find attractive and it just doesn't go anywhere. Those women seem to be a bit difficult. They seem to play hard to get. They seem to tease him a bit and he doesn't know how to handle it. And in many cases, he assumes that women are only doing that to him because he's not tall, handsome, and muscular. He doesn't realize what's going on. The
• 31:00 - 31:30 next mindset that will make you feel weak, and insecure is you have to be successful in life before you can get a girlfriend. This is another popular one for insecure, naive guys who post videos on Tik Tok and YouTube where they say you have to grind and become successful in life to be able to get a girlfriend. They don't mention the fact that, hang on a second, guys who are working in a casual job or a part-time job get a girlfriend when they're still trying to figure out life. Guys who are working in a low paying full-time job get a
• 31:30 - 32:00 girlfriend. Guys who are still trying to figure out life and get somewhere get themselves a girlfriend. Yet, a lot of guys hold on to that mindset of you have to be successful first because what does it do for them? It allows them to avoid facing up to their biggest fear of all, which is walking over and talking to a woman that they find attractive and potentially getting rejected and then feeling horrible about themselves. So, they hold on to the mindset of, "Hey, I've heard a woman on TikTok say that a man has to be making six figures or be a millionaire to get with me." I've heard
• 32:00 - 32:30 women say that they want a guy who's successful. So, it must be that. It must be that the reason I'm not getting the pretty girls or the women that I want is that I'm not successful yet. And what that does for him then is that it weakens him. It makes him feel insecure. It makes him powerless. He has no control over the situation. He can't get himself a girlfriend unless one day he becomes successful in life. And that is just a messed up mindset that isn't true and isn't going to help you. Yes, focus
• 32:30 - 33:00 on becoming successful in life as a man. Fantastic. But you can get laid or get a girlfriend in the meantime, no problem. And number seven on the list here, have to say everything perfectly or she'll lose interest. The reality is that many women forget most of the things that you said, but what they remember is how you made them feel. So if, for example, a guy is confident and charming and the woman is feeling attracted to him as a result, she's going to be remembering how she felt with him. But if a guy is insecure and awkward, but he's saying
• 33:00 - 33:30 great things, she's also going to be remembering how she felt with him. The insecure, awkward guy may have said things that seem perfect, but the confident, charming guy made her feel the way that she really wants to feel. Additionally, if you're talking to a woman and you're making her feel attracted, what happens is that she becomes forgiving of the things that you're saying. If you make some mistakes during the conversation, she lets it slide because you're making her feel so much attraction. But if you're talking
• 33:30 - 34:00 to a woman and you're scrambling to hopefully come up with something that will get her to like you and you don't know how to make women feel attracted to you, then she's going to be a lot more judgmental, right? She's not going to be feeling the attraction that she wants to feel. And if you make mistakes when you're talking to her, social faux pars and so on, then it's just another thing that she then has to say, "Well, I don't really like that about him as well." while not feeling much attraction and so on, right? So, if you're not making women feel a lot of attraction, sure, you do need to be more on your game. But
• 34:00 - 34:30 if you're able to display traits that make women feel attracted to you, you're triggering that attraction inside of women. They're so much more forgiving, right? They want to get with you because of how you're making them feel. So, if a guy has the sort of mindset where when he's talking to a woman, he feels like he needs to say everything perfectly, otherwise she's going to lose interest, then he's walking a tight rope, right? He's on thin ice, and his body language is going to be so much more tense. His energy is going to be tense, and the
• 34:30 - 35:00 woman is going to pick up on that. She's going to realize that he's worried about getting rejected, about messing up. Yet, when a guy is more confident and easygoing and free flowing, the woman can sense that as well. and she feels attracted to that. She respects the fact that he's not desperate and needy for a result and that draws her to him even more. And by the way, if you want to have that type of confidence, I teach it in the first lesson at Master Attraction. The guys who have used the mindset, the confidence mindset from the first lesson are saying things like
• 35:00 - 35:30 you'll see on the screen now where the guy is saying it's absolutely incredible how he's gone from where he was in terms of women just ignoring him, overlooking him and not feeling anything to women suddenly blushing and feeling attracted to him. And he is amazed by how attractive he is now. And another guy experienced it as well where the beautiful women in the venue were drawn to him and he ended up getting two results that night. And another guy used
• 35:30 - 36:00 the mindset to just get over his fear of talking to women that he finds attractive. And he did it and he realized that the woman wasn't as scary as he initially thought. And of course, it doesn't just end there. I give you more attraction secrets and techniques that allow you to get results such as kissing women as soon as you meet them, having sex with them on the first night. And for some members, they're having sex with new women multiple days in a row. Not that you need to do that. Many guys who start out learning from me just want to be able to get a girlfriend. And that's fine, but a lot of members
• 36:00 - 36:30 experience having sex with a lot of women very quickly because they have the confidence to interact with the women and they're able to make the women feel attracted and turned on. and then they have the confidence to shoot their shot and it just works. So if you want to end the stage in your life, the phase of your life where you've been feeling insecure, unworthy, powerless, and like you have no control around women that you find attractive, and you want to end the rejection, being overlooked, being friend-zoned, and so on, then head over
• 36:30 - 37:00 to masterattraction.com and start watching the video lessons there. You'll be amazed at how confident you feel right away and how competent you become where you know how to make women feel attracted. You know what to say and do. You know what works and you start to get results.