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Summary

This video uses a thought experiment involving a used car to discuss the topic of women's past relationships and how it supposedly affects their ability to form new emotional bonds. The speaker argues that women, unlike men, are more impacted by their past relationships because each one leaves a 'mark.' As a result, women with a 'high body count' allegedly find it harder to fully commit to a new partner due to constant mental comparisons with past partners. For men, the speaker suggests that this understanding of female psychology is crucial to avoid emotional disappointment. The video advises men to be cautious about dating women with extensive relationship histories, as they may be less likely to form lasting attachments due to numerous past experiences.

Highlights

• Imagining a used car with many owners paints a picture of how past relationships affect women's attachment. 🚗
• Women are said to accumulate 'reference points' or emotional benchmarks from past relationships. 📈
• Emotional bonds in women are likened to glue – they weaken with more partners, unlike in men who can separate emotions and physical presence. ✨
• Men's loyalty is termed a choice, whereas women's is depicted as a feeling, impacting repeat bonding. 😮
• 'High mileage women' allegedly find it hard to bond due to constant comparisons with past partners. 👀

Key Takeaways

• Women with many past partners supposedly struggle to form strong bonds with new ones. 👫
• Understanding 'female nature' and past relationships is deemed crucial for men's relationship choices. 📚
• Past relationships are said to leave emotional marks that complicate new bonds. 🧠
• Men should be wary of women with a 'high body count' who might constantly compare them to past partners. 🤔
• Men's and women's bonding and loyalty are portrayed as fundamentally different. 🔄

Overview

The video employs a thought experiment comparing women to a sports car that has had many owners. It suggests that just like a car's value is perceived to decrease with more previous owners, so does a woman's ability to bond when she has had many relationships. This is presumably due to every relationship leaving a 'mark,' making it harder to form new attachments.

Further, it is argued that women and men bond differently, with men being able to separate emotions from physical presence, akin to choosing loyalty, while women supposedly attach more emotionally to their partners, making past relationships a persistent psychological presence. The more partners a woman has had, the weaker her new bonds might be, akin to glue losing its stickiness.

The speaker advises men to be cautious about forming relationships with women who have had numerous past partners. Such women might constantly compare their new partners to previous ones, especially if those past partners were 'high status' or exciting. This perceived inability of women to reset emotionally makes them allegedly less likely to be fully present and loyal in new relationships, emphasizing the need for men to understand this aspect of 'female nature.'

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to the Concept The chapter introduces a concept through a vivid and engaging scenario where the reader is asked to imagine themselves at a car dealership looking to buy their first new sports car. The narrative sets the scene with a friendly salesman leading the reader to admire a stunning red sports car with a shiny paint and purring engine, creating a perfect sales image. However, the situation takes a mysterious turn as the salesman says something unusual as the reader reaches for the car door handle, setting up a pivotal moment that is meant to intrigue and engage the reader further.
• 00:30 - 01:00: The Salesman's Revelation The chapter titled 'The Salesman's Revelation' depicts a scenario where a potential car buyer is informed by a salesman that the car they are considering has had 40 previous owners. This revelation causes the buyer to pause and reconsider their decision, as their mind fills with questions and concerns about the car's history, such as the manner in which it was driven, the care it received, and its overall condition after being handled by so many people. The chapter delves into the impact of unexpected information on decision-making, highlighting the internal dialogue and turmoil that ensues when trust is questioned.
• 01:00 - 02:00: The Hidden Cost of Experience This chapter draws a parallel between the initial allure of a new car and the dynamics of attraction, particularly in relationships. The narrator addresses how novelty can wear off when a car, initially perceived as special and desirable, becomes less so once it's known that many others have owned it before, likening this situation to relationships. The comparison serves to explore deeper themes about perceived value and experience impacting desirability.
• 02:00 - 03:00: Attachment and Emotional Bonds The chapter explores the concept of attachment and emotional bonds, using a thought experiment involving cars as a metaphor. Despite mentioning cars, the central theme is about women, attraction, and the nature of female relationships. It emphasizes understanding the hidden cost of experience in these dynamics, suggesting a deeper exploration of emotional connections and their implications in relationships.
• 03:00 - 04:00: Comparison Points and Reference Points In this chapter, the misconception that love is simple is addressed. It discusses how men often think the process of love is straightforward: meeting someone, liking them, and becoming romantically involved. However, it highlights that the human brain, especially in women, does not operate in this manner. The chapter emphasizes that every experience a woman has with a man affects her and leaves a psychological imprint, particularly during emotional highs.
• 04:00 - 05:00: The Problem with High Body Count The chapter titled 'The Problem with High Body Count' delves into the concept of 'reference points' that women accumulate from their past relationships. It explains that every significant emotional experience or heartbreak a woman has with different partners adds to her mental database of comparison points. These reference points enhance a woman's understanding of relationships, effectively teaching her 'the game' of dating. The narrative suggests that with more dating experiences, a woman gains more insight and becomes better equipped to navigate future relationships.
• 05:00 - 06:00: Men vs Women: Different Bonding Processes The chapter discusses the differences in bonding processes between men and women. It highlights that women with more reference points may find it more challenging to bond with just one partner. This concept is crucial for men seeking a deeper relationship, like having a girlfriend or wife, as attachment plays a significant role.
• 06:00 - 07:00: The Challenge of Competing with the Past The chapter discusses the dynamics of a woman's emotional connections and how they change over time. It uses the analogy of glue to illustrate how the strength of a woman's bond in love diminishes with each subsequent relationship. The initial bond in a first love is described as strong and lasting, similar to fresh glue on a clean surface. However, as a woman experiences more relationships, akin to peeling and reapplying glue, the emotional bonds become weaker and less tenacious over time. This poses a challenge in forming strong connections with future partners.
• 07:00 - 08:00: Biology and Bonding This chapter explores the dynamics of relationships, particularly focusing on women who have had multiple partners. Initially, being in a relationship feels magical and exciting, with a strong emotional investment. However, after experiencing multiple relationships, a shift occurs where the novelty diminishes as familiarity with different types of partners grows. This chapter delves into how repeated experiences can alter the perception and emotional responses in subsequent relationships.
• 08:00 - 10:00: Conclusion and Advice The chapter discusses the challenge men face when dating women who have had diverse past relationships. It explains that women, having experienced various personalities and lifestyles in their past partners, naturally create reference points. Subsequently, any new man a woman meets is subconsciously compared to these past experiences. This sets up a sort of competition with 'ghosts of her past,' where new partners are measured against the standards set by previous ones. The chapter aims to shed light on this dynamic and its implications.

Don't watch this video if you want a 'girlfriend' Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 so I want you to imagine this imagine you walk into a car dealership and you're looking to buy your first brand new sports car now imagine the salesman greets you with a smile and leads you to a stunning red colored sports car now you're looking at this car and the paint is super shiny the engine is purring it's you know it's the perfect car right it's it sounds good it looks good but then imagine as you reach for the door handle the salesman says something strange to you imagine he says to you oh
• 00:30 - 01:00 and by the way this car has had 40 previous owners now at that exact moment you would probably freeze right you'd probably be like what 40 and your mind would probably start racing and you probably start thinking to yourself well how hard did these 40 previous owners drive this car how many miles are on the car did they take care of the car or did they just use it for a while and abuse it and then move on and so suddenly after the salesman tells you this
• 01:00 - 01:30 guess what happens all of a sudden that same car no matter how good it looks no matter how good it sounds no matter what it could do for you all of a sudden that car doesn't feel so special anymore now you're probably wondering what does this have to do with women what does it have to do with attraction and the answer is very simple so at this point you're probably hesitating about the car you're probably wondering you know if all of those you know people had this car before me especially if they were other men you're probably wondering would this
• 01:30 - 02:00 car even last and here's the thing this thought experiment even though it mentions cars it's not really about cars at all it's actually about women and it's actually about attraction and it's honestly one of the most important things that you will ever learn in your entire life about women and female nature and attraction and all that stuff okay so what you have to understand is that there is a hidden cost of experience
• 02:00 - 02:30 okay most people most men in general they think that love is very simple they think that you know you meet someone you like them and then you know your girlfriend and boyfriend right that's not how the human brain actually works especially not for women because every experience that you have with other people leaves a mark okay so every time a woman dates a man it affects her in a way it affects her mind in a certain way it leaves a mark on her okay every emotional high that a
• 02:30 - 03:00 woman has with other guys that she's dated every heartbreak that she's had every intense emotional moment that she's had with a man all of these things create a comparison Point okay so what we call these you know in training is reference points okay so essentially what this means is every time a woman you know dates a guy she's getting reference points okay she's she's basically understanding the game right she's learning the game and the more
• 03:00 - 03:30 comparison points that a woman has the more of these reference points that she has the harder that it becomes for her to attach to just one guy okay so the harder it is for her to essentially bond to just one guy now this is extremely important for guys out there who are looking you know at some point to have a girlfriend or a wife or if you already have these okay and the reason why is because attachment is like glue okay so
• 03:30 - 04:00 when a woman falls in love for the first time the bond typically is strong okay it's kind of like fresh glue sticking to a clean surface it holds tight and it never really lets go too easily but what happens if you keep peeling glue off and then reapplying it again what do you think is going to happen each time it's going to stick a little bit less a little bit less the bond is going to get a little bit weaker the connection isn't as strong and this is exactly what happens when a woman moves from man to
• 04:00 - 04:30 man this is exactly what happens when a woman has dated many men or when a woman has what we would call a high body count so at first the love that she has you know with whatever guy she's with it feels magical it feels exciting she's all in right but after she's had multiple guys after she's been with multiple partners multiple men something really peculiar happens something changes and so now she knows what what else is out there okay she's been you
• 04:30 - 05:00 know with different men she's seen different personalities different Lifestyles different ways that a man can make her feel so she has all these reference points okay and this is actually where the problem Begins for you as a man this is where the problem begins because now what'll happen is that every new guy that a woman meets has to essentially compete with the ghosts of her past okay every guy that woman meets now has to
• 05:00 - 05:30 compete with all these men that she has dated in her past and most men don't even realize that anytime you're interacting with a woman you are constantly in competition with all the other men that she is not only dated but even just men that she has interacted with men that she you know saw casually okay even just men that have given her attention you will be compared to those men okay so here's where it gets even crazier even deeper so if you
• 05:30 - 06:00 look at men and women men and women actually Bond very differently you see for men loyalty is a choice okay a man can basically be with multiple women and he can still commit to one women one woman without much issue because For Men We tend to keep the things we do in the bedroom and emotions separate from each other but for women loyalty is basically a feeling okay and so what this means is that that feeling gets weaker the more
• 06:00 - 06:30 times that she's giv it away to other men okay because now she's no longer fully present okay women have this thing where they mentally compare you constantly okay so for example anytime you're with a woman who has a high body count a woman who's been with many many men she will be comparing you constantly and she'll be thinking in her head you know my ex used to make me feel more excited or you know the guy be for him
• 06:30 - 07:00 had a stranger had a stronger presence you know or you know this guy's nice but something's missing okay these are the thoughts that will go through her head and she might not essentially do this on purpose it's just simply how the brain works okay and as an example I mean it's like you know I've driven many different types of cars in my life and once you drive you know something crazy like a you know like a Ferrari or something like that it's really diff ult to go
• 07:00 - 07:30 back to any other car it's really difficult to get excited to even get just a little bit excited about any other car I mean the car that I drive right now is a you know 310 horsepower Nissan it's just a a basic Nissan Maxima okay this is the car that I drive a lot and it's honestly even with 300 something horsepower it's it's pretty hard to get excited with this car because of the cars that I've driven in the past I've driven Ferraris and Lambos and stuff and it's it's the same exact idea with women it's the same
• 07:30 - 08:00 concept okay and so what you have to understand is that this is why men who understand female nature men who truly understand women and understand everything I'm I'm sharing with you in this video okay the guys who are you know the players the high status guys you know the guys who get the women right these guys never actually take high mileage women seriously okay they never take women who have a high body count or women been with many many men
• 08:00 - 08:30 seriously and the reason why is because they know the truth they understand the truth and the truth is that loyalty from a woman isn't about what she says okay attraction from a woman isn't about what she says it's about what she's capable of okay so what this means is that if a woman's past is full of men that she once loved and then discarded why do you think that you would be the last one why do you think
• 08:30 - 09:00 that you would be one of the guys that she wouldn't love and then discard okay so what nobody wants to talk about is that we live in a world that tells women that their past doesn't matter that you know their body count doesn't matter how many men that they've been with doesn't matter and that they can basically do whatever they want and when the right man comes along they'll be able to settle down like nothing happened but here's the thing biology doesn't lie my friends okay biology doesn't lie and so
• 09:00 - 09:30 women who have you know been with many different men many different partners in the past like a large number relative to how many for example you know you or I have been with these women struggle to bond they struggle to be attracted even to the overwheling majority of men because their brains aren't designed for Endless resets in the same way that a man's brain is okay
• 09:30 - 10:00 and so what this means is that the more that a woman has given herself away over time the harder that it becomes for her to truly give again the harder it becomes for her to be loyal to one man the harder it becomes for her to be attracted to 95% of men out there especially if that woman has been with a lot of you know very exciting very high status men you know the the the top tier top percentage of men those are the women who are you know who you should be
• 10:00 - 10:30 the most skeptical of because those women will always be comparing you to these past partners that they've had they'll always be comparing you to these super high status you know high value men that often times 95% of men out there just simply cannot compete with okay so the more that a woman has given herself away the more you know Partners she's had in the past the harder that it is for her to truly give again this is this is why some women
• 10:30 - 11:00 fall in love and you know and never get over it they fall in love one time and they never get over it While others you know will bounce around from man to man to man always searching and never ever satisfied and so what this means is that essentially you know the women that you should be the most skeptical of are the women who have been with the most Partners okay the women who have been with the most guys okay this is why women often times are
• 11:00 - 11:30 really hesitant to even talk about their past especially if they've been with many different guys okay so always be wary of women who have been with many different guys in the past women who have been with a large number of Partners or women that you would say have a large body count okay because these are the women especially if you're looking for a girlfriend or wife okay because what's going to happen is she'll constantly be comparing you to all of these guys that she's been with in the past and if these men were you know top tier men this will
• 11:30 - 12:00 make it even harder for you to basically fill the shoes or to you know fill you know the gap or the hole that these other men have left in her okay no pun intended so that said I hope you guys enjoyed this one and until next time thank you so much for watching