ENTJ, I COMMAND you to....

Summary

This video dives deep into the intriguing world of ENTJs, highlighting their strengths, struggles, and dynamic personalities. The creator, Alexis Kingsley, compares her own INTJ personality to ENTJs and shares her admiration for their boldness, efficiency, and ability to lead. With insights into Myers-Briggs cognitive functions, Alexis offers a comprehensive look at how these personality types perceive, judge, and make decisions. The balance between extraverted and introverted functions, the importance of embracing one's cognitive strengths and weaknesses, and the journey to personal growth are key themes. This is not just a video about definitions; it's about using these frameworks for personal development and self-awareness.

Highlights

• Alexis Kingsley discusses her personal journey trying to incorporate ENTJ traits as an INTJ. 🌟
• The importance of developing extraverted thinking for achieving goals is emphasized. 💼
• Alexis appreciates ENTJs for their bold and decisive approach to life. 🌠
• Cognitive functions offer a deeper understanding of personality beyond the basic Myers-Briggs types. 🧠
• ENTJs have a unique ability to lead groups efficiently and bring structure where there is chaos. 🚀
• Balancing personal and external goals is highlighted as essential for life satisfaction. ⚖️
• The significance of self-awareness in personal growth and relationships is discussed extensively. 🌿
• Alexis offers services for type verification and coaching for those interested in personal development. 📈

Key Takeaways

• ENTJs are natural leaders and are highly efficient, getting things done with bold determination. 💪
• Understanding cognitive functions can help in personal growth and efficiency in achieving goals. 🌟
• Balancing introverted and extroverted cognitive functions leads to a healthier, more integrated personality. ⚖️
• ENTJs and INTJs can complement each other in work settings, enhancing growth and efficiency. 🤝
• Emphasizing on personal values and self-care is crucial for long-term satisfaction and fulfillment. 🌱
• Cognitive functions like introverted intuition are crucial for planning future orientations and making informed decisions. 🚀

Overview

In a lively discussion, Alexis Kingsley shares her insights into the powerful world of ENTJs, comparing her journey as an INTJ striving to assimilate some of their dynamic traits. ENTJs, known as 'The Commanders', shine with their natural leadership and ability to convert challenges into opportunities. Alexis expresses her admiration for their efficiency and boldness, making them highly capable individuals dedicated to reaching their goals.

Peeling back the layers of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, the video delves into the cognitive functions that define ENTJs and INTJs. These functions influence how individuals perceive the world, make decisions, and interact with their surroundings. Alexis explains how extroverted thinking and introverted intuition play crucial roles in shaping the personalities of ENTJs, guiding them to plan effectively and act decisively.

Drawing from her own experiences and the challenges of balancing introverted and extroverted functions, Alexis emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and personal development. She advocates for embracing one's strengths while also addressing areas for growth. In doing so, both ENTJs and INTJs can achieve a more harmonious and fulfilling life, both professionally and personally.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to ENTJs and INTJs The chapter provides a discussion on ENTJs and INTJs, focusing on the characteristics and behavior of these personality types. The narrator frequently attempts to emulate an ENTJ in videos, trying to present content in a manner that would appeal to them. However, they find it challenging to maintain this approach consistently, often reverting to their natural INTJ traits. The chapter highlights the struggle of an INTJ wanting to embody the commanding presence of an ENTJ, reflecting on their first introduction to Myers-Briggs and cognitive functions through Personality Hackers.
• 00:30 - 01:00: Developing Extroverted Thinking The chapter focuses on the importance of developing extroverted thinking, especially for individuals who may not naturally have it as their primary cognitive function. It shares personal advice about emulating personality traits of certain types, like ENTJs, known for their boldness and ability to accomplish goals. The narrator reflects on the impact of being around such personalities and mimicking them to improve their own extroverted thinking skills.
• 01:00 - 01:30: The Importance of ENTJs in Groups This chapter discusses the significance of ENTJ personalities in group settings. ENTJs are often admired for their ability to lead and get tasks done efficiently. Despite occasionally being perceived as pushy, their dominant thinking and extraverted traits (explained briefly as 'Te' or 'etj') are essential in driving groups forward. The narrator expresses respect for ENTJs, emphasizing that they are crucial in social or work groups because of their dynamic and decisive nature.
• 01:30 - 02:00: Introduction to Cognitive Functions The chapter discusses the impact of dominant extroverted thinking (Te) users, specifically ENTJs, on efficiency and order in scenarios. The absence of a strong Te presence often leads to chaos and inefficiency, such as delays and errors in decision-making. A personal reflection is included on the importance of stepping into a leadership role rather than remaining in the background to mitigate these issues.
• 02:00 - 02:30: Cognitive Functions and Brain Regions The chapter discusses cognitive functions and their relationship with brain regions. It mentions the 16 personalities test and delves deeper into the origins of these cognitive concepts, initially coined by Carl Jung in the early 1900s. Jung identified eight cognitive functions, which describe the ways in which individuals perceive and judge information, as well as make decisions. The chapter also references Dario Nardi's work in which different personality types were connected to an EEG machine to perform brain scans, presumably to study the correlation between cognitive functions and brain activity.
• 02:30 - 03:00: Understanding Myers-Briggs Types The chapter titled "Understanding Myers-Briggs Types" explains how different personality types, as determined by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), correlate with the usage of specific regions of the brain. The MBTI assigns personality types with labels like ENTJ and ISFP, based on the brain functions individuals use frequently. These labels are essentially codes where the middle two letters signify the crucial functions or 'meat' of the personality type. Specifically, the second letter in the code represents what is known as the 'perceiving letter', which plays a significant role in the typology.
• 03:00 - 03:30: Perceiving and Judging Functions in ENTJ The chapter discusses the perceiving and judging functions in ENTJs (Extraverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging). It highlights how ENTJs perceive information, focusing on patterns and trends and how these can affect the future. The chapter also explores how ENTJs make judgments and decisions, noting that everyone's 'judging' process involves making decisions based on criteria to evaluate which choices are better. Specifically, for ENTJs, decision-making is approached with a focus on efficiency and future implications.
• 03:30 - 04:00: Integration of Introversion and Extroversion This chapter explores the integration of introversion and extroversion with a focus on decision-making processes. It explains that individuals who identify with the 'J' or judging personality type tend to extrovert their judging function, specifically through external thinking, which involves focusing on efficient external execution and completing tasks. Consequently, these individuals introvert their perceiving function automatically.
• 04:00 - 04:30: The Role of Extroverted Thinking This chapter delves into the dominance of extroverted thinking (Te) as a primary cognitive function for certain individuals, while also emphasizing the secondary role of introverted intuition (Ni). The discussion highlights the prioritization of extroverted functions in extroverts, and how these cognitive functions, among the eight identified by Carl Jung, are organized and utilized in personal cognitive processing. The orientation towards inner intuitions and patterns about the future is explored, demonstrating the balance between extroverted and introverted cognitive functions.
• 04:30 - 05:00: Introverted Intuition in ENTJs This chapter delves into the role of introverted intuition in ENTJs. It explains the concept of cognitive functions, focusing on how each function complements its opposite. The second function, introverted intuition, is balanced by the third function, extroverted sensing, illustrating a yin-yang relationship. Similarly, the first function, extroverted thinking, is contrasted with the fourth function, introverted feeling, to create a complete dynamic for the ENTJ personality.
• 05:00 - 05:30: Balancing Speed and Depth In the chapter titled 'Balancing Speed and Depth', the transcript dives into the concept of duality in character attributes, represented by polar opposite functions similar to the yin yang philosophy. It suggests that understanding one function facilitates comprehension of its opposite. The discussion also highlights the unreliability of online personality tests, often being inaccurate by a letter or two in the final assessment. This indicates the subtleties involved in self-assessment and the necessity to explore the definitions carefully for a more precise self-understanding.
• 05:30 - 06:00: Extroverted Sensing and Its Impact The chapter discusses the significance of having an accurate understanding of one's personality type, particularly in relation to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personalities like INTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ, and ENTP. The 'P' characteristic is highlighted as crucial for an accurate typology result. Alexis M. Kings offers typing services, including type verification and coaching, with an emphasis on personal growth through understanding one's type, appealing particularly to INTJs who may value this developmental insight over mere definitions.
• 06:00 - 06:30: Quality vs. Quantity and Youthful Balances The chapter explores the concept of 'Quality vs. Quantity and Youthful Balances' by discussing personal growth and self-improvement. The speaker shares an interest in coaching individuals tailored to their experiences, possibly through a Myers-Briggs playlist designed to simplify complex ideas in a recommended sequence. The focus is initially directed toward those identifying with the ENTJ personality type, emphasizing the significance of understanding one's first cognitive function. Overall, the chapter aims to promote a deeper self-awareness and growth by encouraging exploration of personal cognitive functions and traits.
• 06:30 - 07:00: Introverted Feeling in ENTJs The chapter discusses the predominance of the dominant cognitive function in an individual's life, particularly in ENTJs, whose primary function is extraverted thinking. It states that, regardless of external support or societal pressures, people naturally gravitate towards using their dominant function, as it is the one most frequently applied across various contexts such as at home, work, or social environments. This repetitive use across different areas of life suggests that the function is well-developed and integrated.
• 07:00 - 07:30: Balancing Extroversion and Introversion The chapter explores the concepts of extroversion and introversion, focusing on the idea of 'turning outward' (extroversion) and 'turning inward' (introversion). It delves into how these terms are used differently in psychology compared to everyday language. The emphasis is on how extroverted thinking and feeling aim to influence the external environment and logical criteria, with a particular focus on the desire to control and manage external factors.
• 07:30 - 08:00: The Benefits of Introverted Feeling This chapter discusses the cognitive function of Extroverted Thinking, particularly in ETJ personality types, and its drive for productivity and efficiency. It highlights the natural inclination of individuals with this function to set and achieve goals, emphasizing a strong orientation towards tangible outcomes, including financial success.
• 08:00 - 08:30: Developing Cognitive Functions Over Time The chapter titled 'Developing Cognitive Functions Over Time' discusses the traits and characteristics associated with different personality types, particularly focusing on extroverted thinking (Te) and extroverted sensing (Se). The transcript highlights how people with these functions are goal-oriented and focus on achieving external objectives, like increasing revenue by a certain percentage. However, the misconception that extroversion always corresponds to being sociable or a 'party animal' is addressed, emphasizing that while extroverted sensing could lead to sociability, extroverted thinking mainly drives task completion and external impact rather than social activities.
• 08:30 - 09:00: Work-Life Balance and Personal Growth The chapter discusses the importance of efficient scheduling and time management, particularly using tools like Google Calendar to avoid double booking. It emphasizes a preference for consuming practical, non-fiction content, such as business and personal development books, over fiction. These resources are valued for providing actionable insights that can improve professional skills, leadership, and personal growth. The text also touches on personality types, specifically mentioning how certain types, like ENJTs, might gravitate towards such material due to their cognitive functions.
• 09:00 - 09:30: The Value of Relationships for ENTJs The chapter 'The Value of Relationships for ENTJs' discusses the underutilization of intuition as an introverted function by extroverts, particularly ENTJs. It highlights how extroverts, during their teens and twenties, tend to gravitate towards extroverted functions that provide enjoyment and pleasure, as opposed to the more challenging and less comfortable introverted functions. The chapter uses the example of an ENTJ working solo and how they can still be productive and impact the external environment, despite the less familiar introspective process.
• 09:30 - 10:00: Conclusion and Contact Information In the concluding chapter, the discussion emphasizes the importance of balancing introversion and extroversion for personal well-being. It is compared to the necessity of both food and water for survival, despite individual preferences. The chapter suggests that both introversion and extroversion provide essential benefits that work together to fulfill different aspects of a person's needs.

ENTJ, I COMMAND you to.... Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 and tj's what bosses i'm trying to make myself be a fish every time i do a video about one of the types i'm like okay what would this type want okay i'm gonna try to do it in a way that they would like it and i don't really succeed i start off maybe for the first little bit doing it but you know eventually you just come back to er and that's what you gotta do which i guess is good entjs are bosses okay so i'm an intj and i try so hard to be like entjs when i very first heard about myers brings in cognitive functions through personality hackers who i first heard about it from and their
• 00:30 - 01:00 whole advice is like to develop your co-pilot which is extroverted thinking which i think is fantastic advice um i was like maybe 18 18 ish somewhere anyway somewhere in that ballpark when i first heard about cognitive functions and stuff i really took that advice to heart to develop extroverted thinking and my method of doing that was to get around entjs and to try to be more like them and be better about it you guys freaking are great you guys can just like accomplish anything you want you're just bold you have a boldness like i think what intjs need to learn from me and tj's is freaking boldness like you just like go out there and do it i know i need to jay and she has like so many projects going
• 01:00 - 01:30 she's like ahead of them all i mean you guys just like get done anyways i really admire entjs and i know that sometimes dominant like te users if you don't know what that is i'll explain in a second but i know that dominant like etj sometimes get a bad rap for being like too pushy or whatever but like you go do your thing we freaking need it somebody's got to do it can entj might not know this because you're never in a group when you're not there obviously but when i'm in a group and an entj is there like a friend group or
• 01:30 - 02:00 if an entj is not there like it's so much more chaotic when there's no dominant te user like just things are not done efficiently people take like the wrong route to get somewhere they're like oh we might hear it oh no it's closed i don't know just kind of like these annoying halts in the day just like don't happen with in when tj's are there and so i really enjoy it it's like that ever happens i'm like why didn't i get into te a little bit more i should just take in charge of the thing instead of being a background character that's something that i have to work on
• 02:00 - 02:30 anyways so yeah so if you just took like the 16 personalities test you know like e versus i n versus s it goes a whole level deeper and it actually originated like a long time ago and way deeper um so in the early 1900s carl jung coined what are called cognitive functions and these are basically eight ways that your cognition functions eight ways that your brain functions the way that you perceive information the way you judge information the way you make decisions and since then dario and already has hooked different personalities up the eeg machine and done brain scans and
• 02:30 - 03:00 he's found that it really does correlate the different personalities use regions of the brain more often than other personalities will use that same region of the brain so then later on what myers and briggs is they kind of named these types so they said okay if you use this region in this region like this function in this function we'll call you the entj if you use this function in this function we'll call you the isfp so the way you figure that out those names that they gave like isfj those are kind of a code um so the way you figure out the regions like the functions that you use you take the two metal letters those are kind of the meat of it i mean everyone's second letter is considered their perceiving letter it's
• 03:00 - 03:30 what information you're interested in perceiving like in a room what are you interested in what do you take in like how do you learn and for entjs it's like it's the patterns and the trends and um how this impacts the future i'm kind of taking in intuitions like that um and everyone's third letter is their judging letter not judging like in a bad way but it's how you make judgments how you make decisions it's kind of the criteria you use to say this decision is better than this decision and for entjs they're like the more
• 03:30 - 04:00 efficient thing the thing that works the things that will get done like that is the best thing to do and that's how we make a good decision so you might notice like the words judging perceiving that corresponds to your last letter so if you're a j a judger it means you extrovert your judging function which for you is thinking so you're oriented on the external the extroverted thinking like what works out here how can we get done out here uh lead people uh getting things off the to-do list and then since you extrovert your judging function you just automatically introvert your perceiving function
• 04:00 - 04:30 so you're oriented on your um inner intuitions your inner patterns of your future you kind of like go in your mind and you think about how things are going to pan out and it's like the one thing and since you're an extrovert that letter out front it means that you dominately prioritize your extroverted function and you secondarily prioritize your introverted function so that means that your first cognitive function is extroverted thinking abbreviated t e and your second cognitive function is introverted intuition abbreviated ni but out of the eight cognitive functions that carl young coined every person dominantly uses four of those in kind of
• 04:30 - 05:00 specific ways some are more of a strength some are more of a weakness the way you figure out your third function is it's the direct opposite of your second function since your second function is introverted intuition the opposite of introverted is extroverted the opposite of intuition is sensing so extroverted sensing is your third function in your second and third function they're direct opposites they're like a yin yang they're like a polarity together they come together and they complement each other and create kind of a complete picture your fourth function is the direct opposite of your first function since your first function is extroverted thinking the opposite of extrovert is introverted the opposite of thinking is feeling so introverted feeling is your fourth
• 05:00 - 05:30 function and it's the direct opposite of your first function once again like a yin yang polarity they come together and complement each other and they're the exact opposites so if you can get a grasp on the definition of one side of the polarity you can just think of like what's the opposite of that that's kind of the definition of the polarity on the other side so i'm gonna get into kind of the definitions of these functions and as i go through if this does not seem like you it doesn't seem like it's resonating you could be mistyped i notice a lot of the times online tests are one letter off sometimes they're correct sometimes they're two letters off but most of the time they're one letter off
• 05:30 - 06:00 so you might want to look into the intj the estj the enfj and the entp and just see because like especially if the last letter p is off it creates a whole different result that letter is kind of crucial to get right i do offer like typing services like a type verification um so if you want to like message me on instagram alexis mkings i do type verification i do coaching what i'm really interested is how people can grow with type and i think antjs would be interested in that as well like i'm not so much interested in definitions as much as i'm interested in how you can
• 06:00 - 06:30 grow from it and be a better person and so if you're interested in that like tailoring it to your experience i would love to do any sort of coaching and i also do have a myers-briggs playlist this goes from easiest to most complex it goes kind of chronologically in the order that i feel like is best for people to watch them so you can kind of check that out if you want um more information or kind of like how did i get to this point because i'm kind of like skimming over the top and directing this toward the entj but i do have more deep dives in that playlist so your first cognitive function is extroverted thinking and everyone's first cognitive function is like who they feel like they are you're using
• 06:30 - 07:00 it like 98 of the time you know even if like in childhood your parents didn't really support this function people will find a way they find a path for they're going to use their first function even even if society like doesn't really want them two people find a way and it's the function that you use in the most contexts of your life so you tend to use extraverted thinking at home at work with your friends at church you know in all areas of your life you tend to use your first function and that's how you can kind of tell that it's well developed and well integrated is you use it in more and more contexts of your life um so what the words mean extroverted thinking is it means you're
• 07:00 - 07:30 paying attention to the thinking kind of like the logical criteria in the extroverted world meaning the external world extrovert means to turn outward introvert means to turn inward we use those words kind of differently than like the everyday public uses the words introvert and extrovert so it's basically like turning out um an extroverted thinking as well as extroverted feeling really want to impact the external environment you kind of want to impact the logical criteria so that means that extroverted thinking really likes to like to control things also it likes to
• 07:30 - 08:00 likes to lead it likes to get things done it likes to be productive like all the etj's i know get so much stuff done even if extroverted thinking itself isn't like a body moving function doing things it has a desire to be effective and to be effective you got to get stuff done so this region of the brain is going to lead you to then take actions it's kind of like a cause effect and it really wants to be productive it wants to be efficient it wants to set goals achieve goals very oriented around money you might say things like by the end of
• 08:00 - 08:30 quarter two i wanna up our revenue fifteen percent um you know it's very numbers oriented especially like in the external world how can we impact things in the external world um and it's not particularly people-y like um when i think like when everyday public thinks of extrovert they think like party animal sociable but ncjs aren't necessarily party animals they do have an extroverted sensing function which could make them a party animal potentially but extroverted thinking on its own is just it's mostly impacting things in the external world getting things done tasks done setting
• 08:30 - 09:00 up a google calendar um efficient not double booking really into i've noticed a lot of uh te users are into like nonfiction books like business books personal development books it's like what's the usable information like i don't want to just read some like fiction book about this couple and this love story or whatever that's just kind of useless to me i can't use that really in my everyday life what's more usable is like how to grow your business and how to be a better leader and so i noticed that tjs will tend to read books like that more so entj's second function is introverted
• 09:00 - 09:30 intuition i mean everyone's second function tends to be kind of an underused strength especially when you're younger like in your teens and twenties and the reasons because you're an extrovert and so going to introversion is not as comfortable you know people get a lot of like enjoyment and kind of like pleasure seeking from their extroverted functions if they're an extrovert and so to go to an introverted function that's not gonna be like as pleasurable per se it's not going to be as comfortable it's like out of your comfort zone to like turn inward like that kind of introversion like i could see an entj working by themselves and getting a lot of stuff done impacting the external environment
• 09:30 - 10:00 but to go inside and do nothing with the external environment only working inside yourself that is a little bit less comfortable to go to and i think it's so important for people to go to that because introversion and extroversion are both needs you have a preference for one and you need both and the analogy i use is like food and water you might have a preference for food over water but at the end of the day you need both despite your preferences and the reasons because food and water give you different things and you like need them to survive and the same way introversion extra virgin are it's kind of like a bell
• 10:00 - 10:30 curve you've got a small amount of people that are like 100 introverted you've got a small percentage of people that are a hundred percent extroverted and those are the least healthy people um the people that are like more healthy those are more integrated and more balanced and that's kind of evidenced by when i look at older people like people are 60s 70s they seem a little bit more balanced they've been a little more well-rounded a little bit more seasoned a little bit more mature as they've gotten older and when i look at people that are very extreme i look at like junior hires um i taught junior high for a while and they're very extreme i've had some very
• 10:30 - 11:00 introverted students some very extroverted students and that's you know that's kind of just like stereotypically the worst time of life so the things that introversion extroversion give you are this introversion gives you a depth and a clarity and a wisdom and a clear vision it distills down this is what i want it gets deeper and deeper until you know this is exactly the thing extraverted functions kind of expand and explore and give impact and when you have both that's perfect you have input and output and input and output if you have too much of either one of those things you feel very depleted if you have way too much
• 11:00 - 11:30 introversion very depleted you're no longer getting that diverse information from people um you're no longer having wisdom based in reality because you're never participating in reality so you might get these very like convoluted complex theories but it's like not really based on anything for extroverts they get really scattered and shallow and they're running ragged and they're way too busy and so that theoretical impact that extroversion gives you is lost because you don't have any depth like only if you have deep engaging with the world do you really have impact but introverts can tend to just
• 11:30 - 12:00 start you know binging netflix and that's not a deep kind of introversion that's going to give you wisdom extroverts tend to just be busy all the time and that's not you know the valuable impactful time that really impacts people's lives you know it's fun but it's not necessarily impactful so for intjs to get a little bit more introverted the main function they can pull on is introverted intuition and so into introverted intuition is one of those perceiving functions how you take in information and it's kind of taking in intuitions which are patterns trends things that are not there and it's processing them inwardly
• 12:00 - 12:30 so it's kind of looking at where do i think college attendance is trending is college on the uphill or is it on the downtown you're going inside kind of thinking about the trend and it's not thinking about the possibilities like college could be doing this it could be doing this it could be doing this it could be doing this but it's zoning in on what is it doing like what is the one thing that it's doing and it's zoning in on your own future how you want your own future to look like how you think other things are trending um how you think the stock market is trending or real estate market like how things are trending it's a long time lines
• 12:30 - 13:00 it's a slow moving function it's not in its body it's not very energetic it's just kind of like like introvert intuition right recognize like it's like sitting alone in a dark room thinking about how you think things are trending and you're just like going inside and it's like 50 years from now it's very long timeline it's very slow not moving its body and it slows you down and i think entjs like to move fast but this function kind of slows you down because you need kind of a balance also with speed like you don't want to be a sloth but you don't want to be a cheetah your whole life like on a hamster wheel you know so you
• 13:00 - 13:30 introversion extroversion kind of regulate your speed as well so introverted intuition feels like it doesn't have that much energy to burn so it's very particular about the activities that it engages in it says this is what i want my future to look like and so i'm going to go toward that path this true north like all the time with every action i take and i think sometimes the entjs can be a little scattered like engaged in 12 projects at once and then maybe by the time you complete all 12 projects you're like okay well i got some um resources like i got new contacts
• 13:30 - 14:00 but in the long run are those contacts valuable like in 70 years so i look back and be like oh that was a good contact to have or was i just trying to impress that person and so it's really important to get clear on you know what do you want out of the next 60 years of your life and just make sure that every action you take is going toward that long-term vision because in djs intjs and they're known as like the commanders they can be very visionary taking a group of people on this one path that's really impactful um and seeing kind of you know carving forward that one little path it's like the stream finding that one little rut
• 14:00 - 14:30 and and following it i think this function like slows you down it gives you kind of a sense of um sitting with people i think sometimes at the end tj's i've said this before but it feels like they've got 400 stops 400 things to do today and you're just stopped 267 so be quick and get out of their way and that's only with like unhealthy entjs when engineers are healthy you know they feel very present and it feels like they're with you and it feels like they haven't over booked themselves they've done the few important things and are very intentional with their time
• 14:30 - 15:00 and so they can afford to move slower you know they're able to move 100 miles an hour metaphorically but you don't they don't need to you know you can just cut down on the quantity of things so that you can up the quality of the things that you do and i think also you know entjs consumes all the etjs well all the tj's i guess can be workaholics and i think introverted intuition says you know what in 80 years is this going to have been an important thing and you know some of the work you do is and some of the work that you do isn't going to be important and it really
• 15:00 - 15:30 looks to the future and says like is my future self going to thank me for this and if not i'm not going to do it because sometimes the most effective thing is to have fun you only get one life and you know you want to make a name for yourself you want to have impacts but i don't know that you want to spend your whole life working on unimportant things so your third function is extroverted sensing i mean everyone tends to over rely on their third function especially when they're younger like junior high high school 20s people tend to be over reliant on this third function and it's taking in the sensory experiences like the five senses the
• 15:30 - 16:00 thing is around you and it's external so you're paying attention to the external experiences so it's really liking loud noises and sounds and expending energy and moving your body and moving quickly it's the exact opposite of introverted intuition it's that yin yang like i said so if introverted intuition likes to be slow and be only in its mind extrovert sensing likes to move quickly and be in its body introverted intuition is in the future and casting a vision for 70 years from now and how are things going to trend extroverted sensing is just like what's
• 16:00 - 16:30 happening right now and how can i have fun right now and be playful right now and be fully immersed in the moment insurance tuition is a lot more serious it's not so um playful and fun so i think for people that use extroverted sensing dominantly like esps i can make them very present very fun and fully immersed in the moment i think for entj sometimes all it does is amp up their speed so extroverted thinking wants to be efficient extroverted sensing has the energy to burn it'll move really quickly and so you get a lot of things done in a short amount of time
• 16:30 - 17:00 now the question is just because you can do something efficiently i don't know that means that you should do something efficiently because it could be the wrong action to take maybe you shouldn't have taken the action in the first place um it could bold those people like maybe it's better to take the inefficient route for the sake of keeping relationships long term i mean you really have to think about what works long term versus what works now and you have to try your hardest to choose always what works in the long run delayed gratification is kind of something that i think of with introverted intuition you're kind of extroverted sensing can just be a lot about indulgence we're just going to eat
• 17:00 - 17:30 all this decadent food and i'm going to watch the bachelor just kind of do all these pleasure seeking activities that my future self may not necessarily thank me for if i'm using it in an unhealthy way you know people get too extroverted like in their first and third functions it can make them very quick to speak so if you're too extroverted you're too quick to speak you don't listen very much if you're too introverted you listen all the time never share anything about yourself so there are issues both ways and i think sometimes it can make um entj just jump in like if they have a subordinate uh sometimes like have you done this you need to do this
• 17:30 - 18:00 and the person already did they had it handled and if there's a little quicker to listen without jumping in they would know oh yeah they did do it you could just observe rather than having to like jump in and say something in a good way i think this makes entjs very attractive i really like their sense of style personally same with enfjs i love the way extroverted sensors dress when they have it in this position i think it could lead to some indulgences like maybe spending too much money on indulgences that could be clothing that could be food you know whatever your personal brand of indulgences are
• 18:00 - 18:30 and i think overall this dichotomy just illustrates quality and quantity i think for the entj it's good to go for the fewer quality um than it is for the bigger quantity and i think that's kind of the fight the entjs have to fight are you going to be on the hamster wheel uh at the whip if you need to be productive you need to productive you need to get stuff done get it done right now um or you're going to like slow down and just choose wisely the things that you want to do i think the second and third function like especially people are younger they're using them like a lot and i think it's like a light
• 18:30 - 19:00 switch flipping up and down since they're a polarity yin yang and it's like the introverted intuitions like when the light switch is flipped up and it's like the angel on your shoulder and then when the light switch flips down that's like the devil on your shoulder down to extroverted sensing that's just when you're younger i mean i've found when people are older they do a better job at integrating all their functions than younger people but like if you're younger you may just want to like stay away from extroverted sensing a little bit so entj's fourth function is introverted feeling um and it's the exact opposite of extroverted thinking it's like another
• 19:00 - 19:30 light switch polarity so it's all about the inner feelings and convictions so extroverted thinking is like how can we be productive and get stuff done introverted feeling is like i just only want to do what i want to do extroverted thinking is like how can we get stuff done quickly introverted feeling is moving a lot slower and thinking about what it wants to do extrovert thinking we'll do something done because it looks good on a resume introverted feelings like i only want to do if i truly want to do it it makes sense to my convictions extroverted thinking sees kind of a means to an end it's like i don't want to do this
• 19:30 - 20:00 right now but that'll get me somewhere i do want to go um sometimes exploiting kind of a utilitarian perspective introverted feeling is like every action is kind of its own isolated thing we need to be moral at every step of the way there's not a means to an end we don't want to do things we don't like to get things we do like we're just only going to do things that we like for people especially when they're younger they tend to be in their first function like 98 of the time which means they're only in their fourth function flip down like two percent of the time i think it's important people to bump that up not a lot but maybe go from two
• 20:00 - 20:30 percent of the time to ten percent of the time to start to integrate it if you're older you could do it even more so than that but i see it as kind of like a seesaw you've got your extroverted function on one side and your introverted functions on the other side and you're trying to get to a point where you're as balanced as possible um so since your first function is extroverted thinking let's say that's on the side of the teacher that's a heavy hitter extroverted thinking that is a massively heavy function that's your dominant function and then you also on this side have extroverted sensing and if you're younger and kind of unhealthy that's going to weigh that down a lot so you want to get a little more balance
• 20:30 - 21:00 with introversion um so you put introvert intuition on this side and it like can almost move the scale but it's like if you just get a little bit more introverted feeling it tips it even more so i think introverted feeling is helpful for just kind of balancing the scale a little bit more with introversion you don't need to be like 100 percent of ambivert but you know getting more and more balanced so what i've heard before like different personalities kind of have their own issues and what i've heard before is like introverted feelers so ifps they know exactly what they want but they don't know how the tech the
• 21:00 - 21:30 steps to take to get it with the extroverted thinking it's like the starving artist they know exactly that they want to be um like a musician but they cannot take the productive steps to get there and then etjs are like the opposite they could accomplish anything they want with extroverted thinking they are so productive they know exactly what steps they would have to take and they could get there but they don't know what they want they don't have the introverted feeling i think sometimes with the ntjs they don't take enough time to slow down for themselves the idea of like a self-care day i can't imagine that they're even doing that sort of thing i can imagine that they're in businesses
• 21:30 - 22:00 that they originally got into just because they wanted to be successful and then after 20 years they think about it and they're like why did i want to be successful again what you know what was the point of me doing this because extra thinking can be very success chasing and making a name for yourself when you get there introverted feelings like i don't know that we wanted this and if you don't develop introverted feeling until you're in your 40s by that point you've already you know covered a lot of ground careerize and already wasted a lot of time so it's important to use your two introverted functions to think with
• 22:00 - 22:30 introverted intuition what do i want my future to look like an introverted feeling what are my values what do i want what is the top important thing and then you can use your extrovert functions to get there but i think sometimes this function um a lot of times is turned off and people their fourth function's turned off and so it means so you're just kind of unaware of your feelings maybe unaware of your own feelings unaware of other people's feelings kind of external feelings and that can create some issues you know time can go on things can build up and you can realize that you've been doing things that you don't like and you because you're unaware of your feelings you might not realize it for a long time so i've got some entjs when
• 22:30 - 23:00 they're older they got into yoga they got into meditating they got into praying and i think the younger you are like the sooner you can implement that i think i think that's good for anyone honestly it's just kind of this prayer routine this journaling routine but any sort of activity where you turn inward because introvert means to turn inward and so if you can turn inward toward the future you want and think about that turn inward and think about like your feelings and your convictions and your beliefs and what you're passionate about and what you like to do that time is well spent and if you can try to balance it out i you know i don't think anyone's ever gonna be 50 50 but if you can just try
• 23:00 - 23:30 to keep pushing more toward being in that turning inward that reflective slowed down place by yourself you know closer and closer to 50 of the time i think that's incredibly healthy as people get older i notice they just tend to naturally do that but if you can implement that when you're younger i mean that's ahead of the game i'm gonna be a great thing for you to do there are you know general things are helpful i mean like reading a book i mean that's helpful because it'll slow you down that's not necessarily turning inward that's still kind of your mind oriented toward a book that's still not even asking yourself what you
• 23:30 - 24:00 think so that one's kind of like a mixture between introversion and extroversion i would say it's like it's like not around people it's probably one of the it's probably technically an extroverted activity but it's like one of the least extrovert activities you could do reading a book depending on what it is but you gotta like turn inward to yourself and reflect on on what you think and what you want out of life so i think for entjs the big thing is for them to just learn how to sit still and ask themselves what they want and what they want their future to be like i absolutely love intjs i admire them so much i think a good growth relationship is for intjs and entjs to hang out because
• 24:00 - 24:30 they can kind of rub off on each other like especially in a work setting but one thing i've heard like if you're familiar with strengthsfinder for example for example their whole thing is you hone your strengths don't work on your weaknesses only hone your strengths and that's the best and the thing about that is that it's designed for a work setting and so in a work setting i do agree with that like at work you hone your strengths t e and i you don't even need to worry about your back two functions which are kind of weaknesses just do your top view functions and the reason is because you're in an employee setting so you have other people that are
• 24:30 - 25:00 managing your weaknesses so if you're weak in one area another employee can pick up the slack and that's their strength so in a work setting it's fine the only difference is like when you come home like say you're married there's only two of you your weaknesses are not going to be managed by another person so if you communicate poorly to your spouse there's not another employee like managing your bad communication it's like it's just youtube so i think in relationships it's especially important to manage your weaknesses your back two functions that's just something like to note and work on i think weaknesses really trip
• 25:00 - 25:30 people up in relationships and then your strengths are really good at work introversion just gives you a sense of depth where you don't have to perform and run on a hamster wheel i think sometimes etjs can feel like let me dance for you i'll dance for you you know different personal types of different things like the efjs are like look i'll be anyone who you want me to be all dance for you and etj's or like i'll be productive for you i'll do anything you want look at what a high performer i am and it gives you a sense of just like slowing down and doing things for yourself and you know you don't have to perform for people to love you you don't have to feel like you have to do 80 things a day uh to be valued
• 25:30 - 26:00 um you found the value within yourself and you don't have to chase value externally i really appreciate entjs for the work ethic and how they charge society forward how they take charge and they take leadership roles i also love how entjs develop people they can find the hidden talents and hidden strengths and people and really call that out and develop the employees that are under them so i really admire entj's ability to do that yeah so we're interested in type verification um you can just reach out to me on instagram my account is alexism kingsley
• 26:00 - 26:30 i've been loving the instagram conversations i've been having so even if you don't want a coaching session if you just want to reach out and chat i've really been enjoying those um yeah so if you want a deeper dive i have a myers-briggs playlist which i will pop on the screen right now i do also have like an entj versus intj video if you're interested in that thanks so much for watching