Good Men Will Be Shocked to Know This About Their Wives and Sex

Summary

The video by The Happy Wife School addresses the complexities of marital relationships, particularly focusing on why some married women may choose to cut off sexual relations with their husbands only to engage in an affair. It challenges the notion that women engage in sex for trust and connection, suggesting instead that some use it as a tool. The transcript highlights several painful truths about unmet expectations and emotional disconnect in marriage leading to infidelity.

Highlights

• Women may withhold sex as a form of punishment due to unmet expectations. 😫
• Infidelity is depicted as an escape from marital dissatisfaction rather than a pursuit of trust and connection. 🚪
• Both men and women need to take responsibility for their own happiness rather than relying on their spouse. ❤️
• The video promotes courses aimed at helping both genders improve their personal and marital lives. 📚
• Marriage should be approached with commitment and an understanding of its long-term requirements. 🔄

Key Takeaways

• The notion that women only have sex for trust and connection is challenged. Instead, some use it as a tool to manipulate or punish. 🤯
• Many women cut off sexual relations in a marriage due to unmet expectations and emotional grievances. 😧
• The lack of self-awareness about one's own role in the marital unhappiness can lead to destructive behaviors like affairs. 🤔
• Infidelity can often be a misguided attempt to find happiness, which must first come from within oneself. 😶
• Programs are available for both women and men to help resolve these marital and personal challenges. 💪

Overview

The video by The Happy Wife School delves into the often unspoken reasons behind why some women may cut off sex within a marriage and seek extramarital affairs. The underlying theme is that sex is sometimes used as a tool for manipulation or to punish their partners when expectations aren't met.

It suggests that many issues stem from initial false beliefs about marriage and roles within it, leading to dissatisfaction and blame. Instead of recognizing their part in the problem, some individuals may look outward for fulfillment through affairs, believing it will alleviate their unhappiness.

The video advocates for self-awareness and personal responsibility in relationships, promoting programs designed to rebuild individual happiness and marital strength. It challenges viewers to reflect on their life choices, encouraging them to invest in personal growth for a more fulfilling marriage.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to Marital Issues The chapter explores the dynamics of marital sex from a woman's point of view, emphasizing the roles of trust, connection, and respect. It presents a dilemma where a married woman may cease sexual relations with her husband and engage in an affair with another married individual, highlighting the complexity and emotional difficulties for those involved. The narrative empathetically acknowledges the struggles experienced by a husband in such situations.
• 00:30 - 01:00: The Story Women Tell About Sex The chapter discusses the narrative that women often share about sex, which typically emphasizes themes of trust, connection, and respect. However, it suggests that this narrative might be misleading or incomplete, as it claims that women can use sex as a tool to achieve their desires, even at the expense of their responsibilities, marriages, and loved ones. The chapter challenges the conventional understanding by presenting a different perspective on women's motivations and actions concerning sex.
• 01:00 - 02:00: The Real Reasons Behind Withholding Sex The chapter explores the underlying reasons why some individuals choose to withhold sex in a marriage. It highlights that one of the main reasons is marrying for the wrong reasons, such as the desire to be taken care of, and having unrealistic expectations that a partner should be responsible for one's happiness. The text suggests that these expectations can lead to a breakdown in trust and communication within the relationship.
• 02:00 - 03:00: Emotional Disconnect in Marriage The chapter delves into the emotional disconnect that can occur in marriages, highlighting how unmet demands and fluctuating standards may lead individuals to use sex as a tool of punishment. It explores the misconception that one’s partner is often wrongly perceived as the root cause of personal unhappiness. This points to a fundamental misunderstanding of emotional wiring between men and women, elaborating on how good intentions may be misinterpreted, ultimately contributing to this disconnect.
• 03:00 - 05:00: The Fantasy of Affairs The chapter delves into the dynamics of relationships, highlighting how it's often hard for a 'good man' to comprehend the levels of cruelty and selfishness that can exist within a partnership, particularly from women. It reflects on the disbelief and shock a good man might feel when faced with such behaviors.
• 05:00 - 06:00: Commitment Differences Between Men and Women The chapter discusses the different ways in which men and women perceive and enact commitment within relationships. It highlights issues such as manipulation, emasculation, and gaslighting behaviors that some women may exhibit, which can lead to trust, respect, and connection breaking down. The chapter concludes by addressing the tendency to place blame on the male partner for unhappiness and misery within the marriage.
• 06:00 - 07:00: The Solution for Women The chapter explores the reasons behind why some married women engage in affairs. It suggests that these women often fail to recognize the role their own choices and behaviors play in their unhappiness. Feeling let down, they may perceive themselves as entitled to seek out someone new in hopes of filling their sense of emptiness and achieving happiness, although this method ultimately proves inadequate. Additionally, for a deeper understanding, viewers are invited to watch a related discussion under the 'live' tab on the channel titled 'Why Married Women Cheat.'
• 07:00 - 08:00: Courses for Improvement and Conclusion This chapter explores the complexities of infidelity, particularly focusing on the motivations of women who engage in affairs with married men. It suggests that some women may target married men due to their perception that these men are miserable, often attributing their misery to the behavior and emasculation by their wives. Meanwhile, the other woman often presents a facade of being wonderful, which leads the man to believe she is being mistreated by her husband, thus idealizing her.

Good Men Will Be Shocked to Know This About Their Wives and Sex Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 if marital sex is all about trust connection and respect from the woman's perspective how is it that a married woman can cut off sex with her husband the father of their children and then enter into an affair with a married man so my heart goes out to this man and that it's clear this is is what he's experiencing um and it's a very difficult situation to be in so in answering the question
• 00:30 - 01:00 this is the story we tell the world that for us as women sex is about trust connection and respect that's a story and it it's a lie that good men don't know any better in sex is a tool we use to get what we want as women and we will abandon our responsibilities abandon our marriage the man we say we love the most and go run off with someone who has no connection or respect
• 01:00 - 01:30 for us uh and there's no trust there so that's just a story The reason we cut off sex is because we marry for the wrong reasons we cut off sex because we got married to be taken care of and the unrealistic expectation that our husbands are supposed to make us happy when men can't live up to our ridiculous expectations
• 01:30 - 02:00 standards and the ever moving goalposts of our demands we cut off sex as a a punishment and withholding from you because of the hurt we feel you are doing to us in our emotional delusion that we're so unhappy and thinking you're the cause of our unhappiness when you're not this is another example of how a good man can't understand a woman and are wiring internally in this because a
• 02:00 - 02:30 good man would never ever do this in his marriage to his wife and would never have uh that level of Cruelty and mean-spiritedness just randomly to his wife it's a a shocking disbelief for a good man to grasp how selfish cruel and mean-spirited we can be as women so all we focus on in the
• 02:30 - 03:00 marriage is what we think you're doing wrong that we believe is making us unhappy so the trust respect and connection is gone we killed it we brutally murdered it with our woman ways and and how we show up in our manipulative emasculating and and gaslighting behaviors to make you feel that you are the problem and then the hurt and the blame we have toward you for our miserableness
• 03:00 - 03:30 we can't see our own role and our own choices and our own behaviors that are making us unhappy from that place some married women will then have an affair because they feel you've let them down they feel entitled and are extremely selfish to go find someone to fill that emptiness and make us happy which they won't be able to do it either you want to watch uh why married women cheat under the live tab on the channel
• 03:30 - 04:00 to get more more of a more in-depth perspective to this but some women will find a married man to have an affair with because he's miserable often because of what his wife has done to him and her emasculation and the woman that's after him is in her facade so he thinks she's wonderful and how could her husband treat her so poorly she's so wonderful
• 04:00 - 04:30 and then they have an affair and so many men and and even outside this context of what we're talking about in an affair have fallen for her wife's stories of how AER awful her ex-boyfriends were how awful her ex-husband was and don't even question it it's a story it's a story so the emotional connection that a married woman and a married man make make from
• 04:30 - 05:00 their own being miserable in their marriages is that emotional connection is a fantasy world it's not based in reality it's based in in in this fantasy of coming together and and having something new and being able to relate to each other and how sad and and lonely or unhappy they are in their marriages and create a a whole other FAL relationship that isn't going to have a strong foundation and and won't
• 05:00 - 05:30 work again or wired different men make a vow make a commitment and mean it as women we say our vows but they're empty words there's no commitment behind it we don't even realize what we're saying or that we're even making a commitment we haven't thought about the Long Hall of marriage we've just thought about the wedding day or what we want out of marriage but don't think of of what we have to do to
• 05:30 - 06:00 actually make the marriage work and make it good or what we need to do for ourselves to be happy in ourselves and because then there's no commitment behind those vowels we can't see how our choices such as having an affair married man or not affect and impact our kids our husbands other people just no awareness of that because we feel entitled to what we want
• 06:00 - 06:30 that we think will make us happy so the solution here women you've got to learn to be happy in yourself to feel good about who you are you need to grow up and get out of the fantasy land that your husband is supposed to make you happy and that or that there's some other man out there that will make you happy no wherever you go there you will be it's you so working on yourself to to build a relationship with yourself and and to be
• 06:30 - 07:00 happy hello again thank you so much for taking the time to watch today for those women listening who know you are the problem and you want a path forward to change your woman ways and truly be happy in yourself I have a course for women called the happiness program and the happiness program teaches you to resolve the unhealthy relationship you have with yourself so that you can be the solution to the issues and challenges in your marriage and your life you can find the link in the
• 07:00 - 07:30 description below to learn more about the course and apply to enroll for the good men listening who want a way to take back the power you've unknowingly given away to your wives I also have a course for you called the marriage rescue course for good men only and the course teaches you how to rebuild your strength and confidence so that you can navigate the relationship with your wife in a healthy constructive way again you can find the link below in the description to learn more about the
• 07:30 - 08:00 course and apply to enroll again thank you so much for watching today and I look forward to seeing you again soon