3 ways to develop your Fi as an ENTJ / ESTJ ❤️‍🩹

Summary

In this video, Eva Anjos explores the development of the Introverted Feeling (Fi) function for ENTJ and ESTJ personality types, using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) as a guiding framework. She emphasizes the importance of fostering Fi to achieve personal growth and self-awareness. By encouraging ENTJ and ESTJ types to balance their dominant objective-focused thinking with deeper introspection of their own emotional needs and values, Eva advocates for personal development through methods like introspection, therapy, and meaningful communal experiences. Ultimately, she promotes the idea of fostering self-awareness to enhance relationships and well-being.

Highlights

• ENTJ and ESTJ personalities often overlook their Introverted Feeling (Fi) function while focusing on logic-driven goals 🚀.
• Balancing Fi can lead to better mental health and enrich personal relationships 🌼.
• Introspection can help identify deep personal needs often overshadowed by career focus 💡.
• Community and shared experiences are key to understanding oneself and others 🌍.
• Emotional needs, once understood, can guide to more fulfilling life decisions 🤔.
• Therapy and self-reflection are essential tools for personal development 🛠️.
• Sharing and expressing personal growth insights with others creates stronger bonds ❤️.
• Understanding and balancing emotions takes time but is essential for holistic development 🔄.
• Eva encourages FI development through creativity and emotional exploration 🎨.
• Breaking the stereotype, ESTJs and ENTJs can be deeply reflective and emotional too 🌊.

Key Takeaways

• Understand your emotional needs and values to enrich your life 🌈.
• Balance objective thinking with introspective emotions for personal growth 🌱.
• Engage in therapies like meditation or counseling for better self-awareness 🧘.
• Share your Fi-driven insights with loved ones to deepen connections 💪🏽.
• Continuously reflect on personal growth and adjust life goals accordingly 🌟.

Overview

In this insightful video, Eva Anjos takes us on a journey to explore how ENTJs and ESTJs can nurture their less dominant function, Introverted Feeling (Fi). Using the MBTI as a framework, Eva highlights the importance of recognizing and valuing one’s own emotional needs and findings. This involves a conscious shift from a purely results-oriented mindset to one that appreciates personal insights and emotional depth.

Eva shares practical strategies such as engaging in therapy, meditation, and communal activities to cultivate a better understanding of one’s Fi. She emphasizes the benefits of these practices not just for personal wholeness but for improved interpersonal relationships. Moreover, she encourages adopting creativity and emotional exploration to uncover deeper truths about oneself while maintaining logical objectivity.

Acknowledging the challenge, Eva motivates ENTJs and ESTJs to invest in self-awareness which, although demanding, is immensely rewarding. Her approach propels us towards holistic personal growth, urging for a balance between logical pursuits and emotional understanding, ultimately aiming for a more fulfilled and well-rounded life.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 03:00: Introduction to Fi Inferior in ENTJ/ESTJ In this chapter, the host named Eva introduces the topic of Fi (Introverted Feeling) as the inferior function in personality types ENTJ and ESTJ, according to the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) framework. She explains that Fi is the fourth function in these types' cognitive stack. The chapter discusses Eva's perspective on MBTI, highlighting her skepticism about its reliability and completeness, but acknowledging that it may reflect certain personality patterns.
• 03:00 - 05:00: The Struggle of Te Dominants with Fi The chapter discusses the tendencies of individuals with dominant Te (Extraverted Thinking) functions, specifically those with ESFJ and ENTJ personality types. It highlights how these individuals focus on achieving attainable results, objective data, and solutions that can be quickly implemented. They prioritize efficiency and maximization of structures in their daily lives. This chapter delves into the challenges they face in balancing their autopilot mode of seeking quick objective solutions with the more subjective aspects of their personality.
• 05:00 - 08:00: Importance of Recognizing Emotional Needs This chapter discusses the importance of recognizing and understanding one's emotional needs as part of personal growth. It emphasizes that personal development often involves sacrificing certain aspects of oneself but ultimately leads to becoming a more well-rounded individual. The author clarifies that this growth does not imply a change in personality type, but rather the expansion and integration of various functions within oneself, contributing to a more complete psychological profile.
• 08:00 - 12:00: Therapeutic Approaches to Understanding Fi The chapter "Therapeutic Approaches to Understanding Fi" explores the observation that CJs (ENTJs and similar types) seem not to recognize their own needs as much as other types. This is tied to the self-respect they may lack compared to others. The narrative emphasizes learning from Fi-dominant and Fi-secondary types by observing their behavior, particularly in how they value their opinions on moral and ethical issues. The main distinction focuses on how self-awareness and self-respect in recognizing one's needs and opinions differ between these personality types.
• 12:00 - 15:00: Balancing Fi and Logical Decision Making The chapter discusses the balance between using an emotional compass (Fi) and logical decision-making (Te) in various aspects of life. It highlights the tendency of individuals with a dominant thinking function (Te Dom) to rely on objective data and logical reasoning, particularly in professional settings. However, it also suggests the importance of taking emotional needs seriously, especially in personal lives, where relying solely on logic may not always be beneficial. The chapter encourages finding a balance between these two approaches to decision-making.
• 15:00 - 18:00: Navigating Emotional World to Discover Truths The chapter discusses the importance of communicating one's needs and how a lack of awareness of these needs can lead to tension. It highlights the tendency of people with inferior feeling (Fi) to seek control as a defense mechanism against fears such as loss, loneliness, or lack of external validation, which may lead to feelings of unworthiness. Additionally, it touches on the struggle of dominant thinking (Te) individuals to look beyond tangible external outcomes.
• 18:00 - 21:00: Community and Connection: Embracing Fi The chapter 'Community and Connection: Embracing Fi' highlights the lifestyle and challenges faced by key dominant individuals like Yantiagers or TJs. These individuals often work themselves to the point of burnout and seek escapism as a relief. In contrast, 'Mojo types', who are perhaps more self-aware, recognize the importance of regular breaks to maintain efficiency and ensure alignment with their long-term goals. This reflective approach allows them to consistently check their 'compass' and ensure they are moving in the desired direction. The chapter suggests that embracing community connections can aid in finding this balance, ultimately fostering a more sustainable and fulfilling lifestyle.
• 21:00 - 25:00: Sharing Fi Discoveries with Others The chapter discusses the importance of valuing one's inner feelings and beliefs when making decisions. It contrasts the emotional decision-making process with purely logical or calculated decision-making. The narrative implies that to make truly balanced decisions, especially during challenging times like delivering bad news, one must consider their emotional intuition and internal compass. The metaphor of a 'telescope' might suggest gaining perspective or seeing things more clearly by relying on one's emotional insight.
• 25:00 - 28:00: Conclusion and Encouragement In this conclusion, the speaker reflects on future projects and success while encouraging self-improvement and understanding in relationships. Emphasizing the complexity of interpersonal relationships, they highlight the importance of being aware of one’s needs and mastering personal understanding. This is particularly crucial for an ETom personality, as they work on improving their function in life, especially focusing on identifying and addressing emotional needs. The speaker encourages an ongoing journey of personal growth.

3 ways to develop your Fi as an ENTJ / ESTJ ❤️‍🩹 Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 hi there welcome back to my channel my name is Eva and today I will be talking about three things that I've noticed in fi inferiors I'll be using the mbti system simply as a compass if you are an entj or ESTJ you'll last function on your fourth function Stark would be F5 as I've mentioned in a lot of videos I don't think mbti is in this reliable system I don't think it's complete but I do think there are some patterns in reality that maybe distinguish your personalities and ways that are somewhat similar to mbti and it has served me
• 00:30 - 01:00 well for superficial reasons in the past so if you're an esdj or entj you're likely to focus on attainable results objective data and objective Solutions things that are solved quickly and trying to maximize these structures in your day-to-day life now when someone's got that as an autopilot so T like wanting to maximize time and wanting to seek out the quickest solution with the most subjective sense then it's kind of expected that for you to be on that mode
• 01:00 - 01:30 at all times you're going to have to sacrifice something within yourself and that is the FI usually as you grow into a whole individual you realize that your functions do grow and so some might start to take as much space as the one that you originally kind of programmed to house you first I'm not talking about types changing to other types I'm just talking about becoming a more whole person in general with your psychology I think the main problem that I see with
• 01:30 - 02:00 yes CJs and entjs from observation is that these steps with a fine period do not recognize their own needs at least they don't do it with the same self-respect that all the types might do I look at a lot of fi Doms and fi secondaries for guidance sometimes and not really like asking them but just observing what they do and it feels like the main difference between those types is that people actually value what opinion they have on certain moral questions or ethical concerns and
• 02:00 - 02:30 sometimes it's just your emotional needs need to be taken seriously right so if you're a tea Dom you're likely gonna always want the objective result to make sense and the way that makes sense as well even if it's not to a TI level you're gonna prioritize logic right you're going to try to seek objective data that makes you sort of solutions for you rather than your emotional Compass this works well in day-to-day life especially in work environments but when it comes to our personal lives we
• 02:30 - 03:00 need to actually be able to communicate our needs and if we're not aware of them that's going to create a lot of tension I think that a lot of people who have fi inferior sometimes seek a bit of control because ultimately they're afraid of something else they might be afraid of losing or being alone or not having external validation therefore not being worthy it's very hard for tea domes in general to seek a world outside of external results so I will people often
• 03:00 - 03:30 watch the few friends that I have which are key Doms either yantiagers or yes tjs work themselves to burnout all the time and then seek out this Escape because they desperately need it and I feel that Mojo types which maybe have noticed this fun in themselves and I mean more whole entities or yes he does notice that a break every now and then more regularly is actually more efficient because you can actually look back at your compass of where you want
• 03:30 - 04:00 to go which is ultimately from your an info I guess like you're in a compasses of what you believe in and what you feel is right when you don't value what you feel is right then you're not gonna make decisions based on your emotional balance you're gonna make decisions based on what makes sense and that's all good for calculating decisions that we have to do if you want a tea Dom to make the really hard decision to give bad news to someone about at telescope
• 04:00 - 04:30 project that's going to be fine they're going to succeed at it but if you're looking for your tea Dom to maybe explain to you in a relationship why they're becoming distant that might be a complex one I don't want to just present to you that this is a problem I won't actually work with you on this so the best way for me as a tea Dom to understand what my needs are and I'm still working on this throughout my whole life I think fi is a very important function for an etom to master at least like be able to understand as young says like until you make your
• 04:30 - 05:00 subconscious mind conscious it's gonna dominate you not exactly like this but that's the the role so when I look at my fi I look at something deep inside of me that's trying to get something out of me and my tea is trying to get there but it often dismisses it so it just goes on its own way and I and T together in society I guess they can look at patterns in the world and then try to figure out the systems I work in it but we're all humans and that's the thing that we have to realize we all have
• 05:00 - 05:30 needs and once you go into something such as a friendship or relationship or maybe even work environments in which you need to navigate different political situations you're going to have to understand what you value and until you do this you're gonna go to hit the wall over and over again throughout your life the only way that I've been able to access this well is through meditation therapy therapy is the big one right like every time I've been in therapy for a couple of months because of accidents I've noticed so many truths about myself
• 05:30 - 06:00 that weren't real and I think therapy is like the thing that everyone should put a lot more work in I'm not currently on therapy but I do self-work nearly every day I try to understand my attachment style I try to understand my own patterns I'm constantly over analyzing what I do why I do certain things and what the way that I do things serves me and I think if tea domes took a bit more time to look back at themselves and seek the patterns in their lives like when were you angry at your loved one why was
• 06:00 - 06:30 that what did you inherently feel so for instance let's say that you got angry at someone because they wasted your time I'll give an example like imagine your friend arrives late two hours to something that you you put time in your schedule for so maybe you stop doing some work on X Project because you really value this friend and now you're gonna put time in it for it if they come and you act really angry but you cannot express to them that really what's
• 06:30 - 07:00 happening is you think they don't value your time they're just gonna be confused if you are a mature human being and you have understood your needs which is hard and I don't blame anyone for not getting there yet I'm still on my way but until you understand the the subtext of why you get angry or sad or why you want to be alone why you feel antisocial you're not going to be able to master the thing that's underlying that right so these these can be really hard feelings to go
• 07:00 - 07:30 through and you'll see entjs and escjs cry literally when they discover that oopsie their whole lives have been kind of an illusion of themselves fighting towards something that they might not even want because they never really had that check with themselves what did they want out of life right so in relationships I would just advise you to make however you want to do this I literally made a PowerPoint a few like a
• 07:30 - 08:00 list of your needs essentially what you think makes you a healthy human so for instance I need to work out regularly I really like intermittent fasting when I'm not doing it I feel a bit out of balance just because I'm not being true to myself and what I value at those tiny things they can be so simple and I'm sure you're friends and loved ones will understand but if you don't make them come out and show themselves as important as they are they're gonna be very hard for the people to read They're Not Gonna understand why you being a upset or why are you lashing out why are
• 08:00 - 08:30 you being distant people need to understand how you want them to respect you and how you want them to love you the only way to do that is to be a mature human being and make it clear what things are important for you if that's time and people being on time you can just say when you don't show up on time I feel like you're not being respectful of a friendship that might not be the true thing right like your emotions are valid but maybe that person legit had the car accident so this also is useful for you to navigate different
• 08:30 - 09:00 problems and understand that your ego and what you feel isn't always true there are so many things that go on in the world and if someone's late or if someone doesn't want to come you never know the full picture of why that's happening the same thing with maybe people have mood changes and they don't want to do something anymore you don't have to think that they promise you this and New Valley promises therefore this is really disrespectful and then lash out instead of rationalizing you know like what I'm really craving is to feel love story is shed by this person I
• 09:00 - 09:30 don't need to Lush out and this way I can actually let them know what makes me feel loved so you can teach people to navigate your needs in a better way the second thing is pretty straightforward this was the most important one the first but and TJ's can be very blunt and dismissive of people's emotions so I mean we all know this right and I don't mean to create more of a stereotype because there are very mature entjs who
• 09:30 - 10:00 navigate new manual motion like anyone else but some people might make decisions based on how they feel literally that's just it and yeah CJs don't work that way but instead of trying to think to yourself that they're wrong because the objective data makes more sense I want you to navigate your spiritual world or whatever you want to call it your sense of purpose and meaning and think to yourself why do you create systems why do you you value
• 10:00 - 10:30 logic so much and a lot of it is just how your brain is wired right but it's probably gonna open a door for you that allows you to navigate more meaningful existential metaphysical conclusions and I think especially entjs might navigate this from a young age because of Ben and I but I I guess any and yes CJs does too I don't know you can tell me in the comments I've always been very existential but I always found that I needed to basically put that metaphysical side of me into things that
• 10:30 - 11:00 are not work related so I would do films or shorts Clips or I'd write I wrote a poetry book um I still write poetry because even though it's a very non entj thing stereotypically it's something that I don't think as seriously because I'm just navigating my emotional world so I can unravel different truths about myself or how I feel music is a way of doing that as well and that's a way of kind of letting you if I come out but But ultimately I want you to go deep
• 11:00 - 11:30 into that like I'm pretty sure you have just as much of an emotional world as everyone else in the sense that you also want things out of life you also want meaning and you want to to understand why you're here and fi might be useful for you if you want your life to make continuous sense because let's face it the meaning of life is a big mystery but some of us have gone into philosophies
• 11:30 - 12:00 too deep that we find something that works right but that philosophy might not always be pleasant and so you're gonna have to navigate that you're gonna have to create things that you really love and cherish and be truthful to those a thing that I only realize in the posture is that I really want community and I realize this because I'm always running away from it but I really want it and if I didn't align a bit with my fi it's a very difficult experience then
• 12:00 - 12:30 I wouldn't be able to navigate this now and at the time I realized I had this pre-judgment against people who just seek each other and don't have self-reliance and rather ask each other for help I had this judgment that I was bad but then I realized it actually works like only if you want to go efficient being friends with other people will save you so much time and it'll make you happier because you can I speak for myself I lose myself I get so genuine in like some connections that I'm not even afraid to just say dumb
• 12:30 - 13:00 stuff and be myself and be quirky and say sarcastic stuff because I just like entertaining sometimes and if I didn't realize that Community is such a big thing for me I'd keep going on being this judgmental person who every time I see like communities and um I don't know especially like spiritual communities I used to have such a weird judgment towards like I didn't understand that being with other people is actually so enriching for your mental Health but also your mental world
• 13:00 - 13:30 because you're going to be seeing so many perspectives and I've realized I without that social interaction all of us are so unhappy because we're not being shown new native right we want to experience this world and live our own lives in a certain way but it's so important for us to also get feedback and input from other people not necessarily telling us how to live our lives but telling us how the living does and share their experiences and be in it with one another so that we can all get
• 13:30 - 14:00 more information and understand bigger things I think the only way we're going to solve problems as a society is if we are together and we work more in collaboration rather than competitiveness and I think throughout my life I was always in this like competitive emotion not even with others but with myself and I didn't even look out for others because I didn't like competition with others in general like anything that was other I was just like oh I need to self-rely which also feels like a very tea thing to do or just if
• 14:00 - 14:30 you're someone who grew up to be self-reliant and disciplined because excellent factors so for fidoms which have Fe in the eighth function I want you to start navigating how you feel about Harmony and being with other people and maybe letting your ego down and just shutting up and listening literally instead of telling people what to do so I think I'm going to talk about is how teas technically ignore there are five by projecting
• 14:30 - 15:00 whatever they learned about their fire and to other people right away a good example is every time I learn something on how to navigate my own psyche I take it in I fully understand that I crossed the concept but instead of integrating on to me which would be like a feel selfish sometimes like oh I'm Gonna Keep all this knowledge to myself and just work on myself I immediately go to other people to like share on YouTube or shed with my partner or share with my mom or anyone that I really care about I'm just gonna be like hey like I found this
• 15:00 - 15:30 technique that does this and it's just like anytime I find a cool tool instead of me putting that towards myself for a bit and then I can share once I fully grasp the tool and I've actually understood it I I used to just go right away to other people and give this tool that I have to everyone else like I'd see a cool website that does X thing and that could allow my friend who's really interested in writing to do his work better and instead of me thinking oh do
• 15:30 - 16:00 I like this maybe I should try with this maybe I should be a bit more childish and just engage in play which is good not like being childish is amazing I've become to realize but I would just go and tell this to other people and just never touch it again I have so many bookmarks that I give out to everyone who asks about like whatever resources they need I just have like a bunch of resources that I'm ready to give and I love it and I I'm gonna keep doing that but would I what I want you to do is if you did the same also use it for
• 16:00 - 16:30 yourself like nerd to yourself if you've read that the book is about this and you might be really interested in it you're projecting it to other people it might just be a secret desire for you to read it for yourself you know or a new app and maybe you've already done the app and done that but I just want you to keep some things some rituals private you don't need to tell everyone how to live their lives I know it's tough I constantly live the EJ struggle try to focus on myself not on the tribe but I
• 16:30 - 17:00 promise you these tips are going to be useful and I want you to not reflect a bit to yourself if you are one of these types and see if you can navigate your fiber better it's going to take a lot of work but I promise you it's such a rewarding thing to just be able to communicate your needs in a better way and people around you are going to thank you trust me you'll become a better human in general if you have a partner I'm sure they'll appreciate it because it can be really hard to navigate tease
• 17:00 - 17:30 feelings since they're so like on the surface but you can't really gross them as yourself let's not lash out let's try to detangle or needs and just make them clear and be accepting that we need other people that's all good all right I hope you liked this video and I'll see you next week bye [Music]