a burnout care vlog ~ tips, routines, and downtime ideas

Summary

In a heartfelt and introspective vlog, Cozy K takes viewers on her journey towards healing from burnout. Drawing from her experiences as a former lawyer turned full-time content creator, she shares the challenges of balancing work and personal life. Cozy K emphasizes the importance of intentional rest, embracing nostalgia, and engaging in 'head empty' activities. She encourages viewers to reflect on their lifestyle, identify stressors, and practice meaningful self-care to avoid burnout.

Highlights

• Cozy K shares her burnout recovery journey with viewers, aiming to heal and get ahead of another burnout season. 🌟
• She reflects on her past workaholic tendencies and emphasizes the need for intentional rest. 🛀
• The vlog explores how childhood nostalgia, like reading old favorite books or playing retro games, can be healing. 📚
• Cozy K encourages doing easy, rewarding tasks over 'bad tasks' during the burnout phase. 🧺
• Communicating needs and sharing tasks with loved ones helps manage burnout effectively. 💬
• A balance between work, rest, and fun is crucial to maintaining mental health and avoiding burnout. ⚖️
• Cozy K addresses different stages of burnout and shares practical steps toward healing and prevention. 🚀
• Reflection on stressors and lifestyle choices is vital to creating a balanced and joyful life. ✨

Key Takeaways

• Intentional rest is key to recovering from burnout. 😴
• Embrace nostalgia to reconnect with your inner child and unwind. 🕹️
• Identify 'easy tasks' that also feel rewarding and skip the 'bad tasks' during burnout. 🌀
• Lean on loved ones for support and share your needs openly. 🤗
• Reflect on stressors in your life and determine if they're within your control. 🧘‍♀️
• Mindful rest and self-care aren't just indulgent—they're essential for well-being. 🌿
• In moments of burnout, start small and rebuild routines gradually. 🍃

Overview

Cozy K shares her personal journey of combating burnout, emphasizing the significance of intentional rest and self-care. Having transitioned from a demanding legal career to content creation, she reflects on her workaholic tendencies and the pursuit of balance in life. Her narrative encourages viewers to reassess their routines and prioritize rest as a critical component of overall well-being.

Throughout the vlog, Cozy K details her approach to burnout recovery through nostalgia and simple self-care routines. She advocates for revisiting childhood joys, like beloved books and retro games, as a way to reconnect with simpler, happier times. In doing so, she illustrates how these activities can serve as an effective method to alleviate stress and promote mental health.

Cozy K concludes by advising viewers to openly communicate their needs and lean on support networks during burnout recovery. Emphasizing the importance of reflection, she encourages understanding if stressors are within control and adjusting life accordingly. Her thoughtful insights aim to inspire a shift towards a more mindful and balanced lifestyle.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 05:30: Introduction and Rest Advocacy In this introductory chapter, the speaker discusses their experience with burnout and the importance of rest advocacy. They reflect on a prolonged period of intense work that has led to burnout and express a desire to heal and rejuvenate. The speaker is aware of another potential burnout phase on the horizon, creating a sense of urgency to find balance and recovery in their daily life. The emphasis is on taking the audience through this personal journey of healing and advocating for the necessity of rest in such demanding times.
• 05:30 - 15:00: Burnout Causes and Reflections The chapter discusses the speaker's struggle with burnout and the importance of self-care. Key points include the need to acknowledge and manage one’s emotions, establish routines, and prioritize rest for healing and rejuvenation. The speaker emphasizes the significance of intentional rest and listening to one's body, which aligns with their goal for the year. This message is consistently advocated in the speaker’s channel, highlighting rest as a vital component of well-being.
• 15:00 - 27:00: Nostalgia as a Burnout Remedy The chapter explores the idea of discarding societal norms that dictate productivity as a measure of worth. It emphasizes the importance of rest as a means of healing from burnout. The speaker reflects on their own experiences with burnout, attributing it to a year of excessive work, acknowledging their past tendencies toward being a workaholic.
• 27:00 - 39:30: Easy Tasks and Mental Rest The chapter discusses the notion of workaholism as a socially accepted coping mechanism. The author reflects on their past as a workaholic and highlights the realization that their work habits were a way to avoid addressing internal emotions and feelings. By overworking, they avoided processing emotions, which society often misinterprets as mere productivity. The chapter emphasizes the importance of not running oneself into the ground through excessive work but instead addressing underlying emotional issues.
• 39:30 - 55:00: Importance of Communication and Reflection In this chapter, the focus is on the importance of communication and personal reflection. The speaker discusses their internal struggles, which are not overwhelming demons but rather simple, everyday concerns such as how to effectively use free time and questioning self-worth outside of being an overachiever. These reflections drive the individual towards a relentless 'grind' mentality, illustrating how even minor introspections can significantly influence behavior and mindset.
• 55:00 - 70:00: Prioritizing Downtime and Self-Care In the chapter titled 'Prioritizing Downtime and Self-Care', the speaker reflects on the past five to eight years and expresses a desire to rewrite that period, focusing instead on healing, rest, and nourishment for the soul. The speaker acknowledges the privilege of choosing where to direct energy and intends to utilize this privilege by prioritizing self-care over constant output. This chapter emphasizes the importance of redirecting one's energy towards personal well-being and self-renewal.
• 70:00 - 84:30: Final Thoughts on Burnout and Rest The author reflects on the importance of balancing work and rest, questioning why they worked so hard in their 20s instead of enjoying life. They share their personal journey of transitioning from a legal career to content creation, driven by a desire to excel in this new field just as they did in law. This chapter emphasizes finding passion in work while understanding the need for rest and avoiding burnout.
• 84:30 - 87:00: Outro and Sponsor Mention The chapter reflects on the speaker's experience over the past year, highlighting the initial fear-driven motivation that led them to work excessively hard to ensure success and self-sustainability. Now, with a year of reflection, the speaker realizes the importance of balancing work and personal life, acknowledging that while work can be something you love, it's essential to also engage in activities separate from work to truly enjoy the things you love without the pressure of them being work-related.

a burnout care vlog ~ tips, routines, and downtime ideas Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 hi cozy friends I want to just take you along with me for a couple days of me trying attempting to heal from just a week plus of burnout it's like a combination of residual burnout from like this long period of a lot of work and then like trying to get ahead of this other season of burnout I feel coming up so I'm kind of in this weird limbo where I'm like
• 00:30 - 01:00 I need to get a hold of things I need to get a hold of my feelings of my routines and just have a little moment to heal to really just let my body refresh let my body rest that's the stuff I always talk about y'all that's that's the stuff we've talked about and you know our our goal setting for the year was like I need to listen to my body more I need to rest more I need to have more intentional rest it's also just something I always advocate for and talk about on this channel is how important rest is and how important listening to your body is
• 01:00 - 01:30 and you know unpacking the ideas that if we aren't productive in the way that you know society might deem was the only valid way to be productive then we aren't productive people or we're not deserving of something or other all of that we're throwing that out the window and we're just resting so that we can heal from this this season of burnout for me where this burnout came from was I guess the past year of of going a little bit too ham you know I am a workaholic not am let me not claim that okay I have been drawn to tendencies
• 01:30 - 02:00 of being a workaholic in my past but I am working on that actively so I will not claim that title anymore I will not claim being an workaholic but those are my my past tendencies it's just another form of like avoiding emotions it's another form of running from feelings not processing feelings it's another coping mechanism it's just is one that I think society values and accepts because you are quote unquote being productive when really you're just running yourself to the ground so that you don't have to face whatever it is that you don't wanna face internally
• 02:00 - 02:30 for me it's not like I have these these big internal demons to face or anything it's just like simple things you know like what would I do with the free time that I have am I deserving of that free time all of those it's it's very simple things that like is hard for me to face or like who am I if not the like overachiever super productive person it's simple things like that that I I personally deal with facing I know for other people it can be more serious things but that's what got me into the kind of like grind grind grind energy that I've had for basically I don't know
• 02:30 - 03:00 the last like five to eight years of my life I want to rewrite that I want to unlearn that I don't wanna claim that anymore I want to step into a season of my life that's more healing that's more rest based it's more food for the soul based and it's less output output output output and I think that we should all strive to do that although it is definitely a privilege to be able to choose what you're putting your energy into I luckily do have that privilege so I am wielding it when I can okay when I have it I'm going to wield it and not look back 20
• 03:00 - 03:30 30 years down the line and be like why was I working myself to the ground in my 20s when I could have been frolicking around having a lovely old time so there was also this element of like it was my first year doing content creation full time I had left my legal job behind as a lawyer and and I was like if I'm gonna be a content creator I have to be the best content creator ever because you know I just always had to be the best ever to be able to get to like the point of being a lawyer once I switched and realized my passions were in contact creation I was like well
• 03:30 - 04:00 I have to apply the same logic I don't I don't but I did for the first whole year because I think it was just fear based and it was like I have to succeed at this otherwise what did I leave everything for like I have to succeed at this to be able to like sustain myself which I totally didn't need to go as hard as I did to just like sustain myself so now a year later I'm reflecting and I'm stepping back and I'm saying I don't want to be that person whose whole life is work even when work is something you love there's still work being something you love and then there's just the thing that you love apart from work and I was only doing this
• 04:00 - 04:30 and I didn't have any free time for the stuff that I actually do love to do for myself then I make content about you know what I mean so I didn't have time to play games I didn't have time to do hobbies for myself and this year realizing is something that I want to prioritize at least on the same level as my work because I love what I do but if I only do that the love for that's gonna dwindle and I don't want that so I want a little bit more balance I hope that there's something that y'all can resonate even if you're not a creator just like how much are you balancing your personal life and your personal hobbies
• 04:30 - 05:00 and your personal time with your work life your career even like family I know a lot of women in particular consistently de prioritize themselves to prioritize their family and just thinking about who you can look around to and ask for help who you can kind of offload onto if possible to be able to prioritize yourself a little bit more and not feel guilty about it okay because you need it you need it you're not a machine you can't you're gonna like burn yourself the ground and lose yourself along the way if you are constantly giving giving giving giving and not pouring back into yourself
• 05:00 - 05:30 that is my burnout rest manifesto okay but what I wanna do today and for the next couple of days is just kind of take you through a few short little things that I like to do when I am feeling the burnout coming or I'm kind of in the process of post burnout once you're in kind of a burnout healing phase like you're in autopilot fight or flight go go go mode once you're in a moment you can rest your body like shuts down body is like oh my God please don't lift a finger you are not gonna do anything because I am so tired
• 05:30 - 06:00 we finally lifted our foot off the gas a little bit and now I'm fully off I can't I can't get back on forever so I was kind of going through that for a little bit for I would say like a month where I was just so overwhelmingly tired I feel like I couldn't do anything I couldn't bring myself to lift a finger I was so so so tired holding that feeling and like trying to hold space for that feeling for like the entire month of January was really rough was really hard and so now I'm in the stage where I have kind of worked through that post burnout burnout phase and my body
• 06:00 - 06:30 is a little bit more regulated my body my mind are more regulated and it's like okay now we're back at equilibrium but I do you have some residual lingering burnout effects and then I do have like a super busy couple of months coming up and so I'm trying to kind of get ahead of burnout so that's a long winded explanation of just like where I'm at what burnout needs to me and just a couple things I need to do okay so the first thing that I love to do is dabble and nostalgia I don't know what it is about
• 06:30 - 07:00 really immersing myself in something nostalgic for me that brings me just so much peace I think it's that peace and freeness of childhood and when I put myself back into do something that I like engaged in when I was a child that I love when I was a child it's like being transported back into that mindset you know like everything was so simple all you needed to worry about was like having fun and like finding something to fill your time for the day cause you had nothing else to do like those were the days you know what I mean and so I think reconnecting with something that
• 07:00 - 07:30 made me feel that way when I was a kid or I was excited to like fill a day with as a kid it really puts me back in the mindset of like I deserve this I can have a full day of just having fun reconnecting with things that sparked joy as a child that's okay that's good it's healing it's helpful I think it's particularly good for both healing burnout and getting ahead of burnout because it puts you in that space that you feel so secure and justified and like taking that downtime for yourself cause I think there's some things people have certain associations with and certain
• 07:30 - 08:00 I don't know connotations with like if you're watching Tik Toks on your phone or you're binging a show I think that's totally valid down time I think that is something that 100% is fine depending on like how much you're doing it whatever but I think that like it's so hard for us to unpack some of those like modern day connotations of like this is a time waste or time suck whatever that reconnecting to something like from childhood or just that like has the sense of nostalgia kind of takes that away I don't it's something about like the simplicity of the things we used to engage with
• 08:00 - 08:30 it takes away those connotations and it just feels like I could be here for hours I could be here for hours and I'm happy doing it and I'm like transported to this other mindset that's why I think it's particularly good for getting ahead of burnout or healing burn out because you're just so transported to this other mindset where there's not those like more negative limiting thoughts kind of coming at you so a couple examples we could do some of these together reading books that you loved as a child it's literally the simplest way to be transported into your child mind is to be like
• 08:30 - 09:00 I read this when I was a child I enjoyed this as a child I reread and reread this as a child it is an integral part of my reading journey as a child now I'm gonna read it as an adult and see kind of like how my adult mind perceives something that I only perceived when I was a child I've collected both of these just cause I I just love nostalgia you guys I cling on to nostalgia I don't know what it is I just love it so much I mean I do know what it is we just talked about it for fun things like Magic Tree House and Little House in the Prairie books these were like my favorite books as a kid growing up I had as many as I could I constantly read and reread these
• 09:00 - 09:30 they were like such a comfort for me and it was just such a nice like immersion such a nice escape to be able to like dive into these books what better way if you have a favorite book that you had what is it Junie B Jones Babysitter's Club Nancy Drew Books whatever it is this is the simplest way if you only have like a little short amount of time to have some downtime read kids book read kids book why not not just any kids book but the kids books that you really connected with and loved as a child it's quick it's easy and it's such a journey like it's such an experience to kind of reconnect with little you in that way
• 09:30 - 10:00 I love it it's very healing these are my two favorites I don't think I'll probably get any more other than this this does the job and I just like love the look of these two that's why I have them so that's one way another way is like actual childhood toys like Tamagotchi Pixel Chick I searched for this far and wide I think I found this one on either Mercari or eBay but I used to fiend after Pixel Chicks when I was a kid I loved them I loved any virtual toys as a kid I always had to like go find them and try and beg my parents to get them for me
• 10:00 - 10:30 or save up money for them but I had like so many Tamagotchis growing up and so I collect them as an adult and I do have this little pixel chick too and sometimes I do play them when I wanna feel that connection again I wanna just just ease up from modern day life reconnect to the olden days the retro virtual pet days before you know video games and all that video games existed speaking of video games this is something I literally just got in the mail recently might be saying what is that what is that
• 10:30 - 11:00 Kennedy it's a Wii it's a Wii retro gaming consoles if that doesn't transport you back into your childlike wonder okay of playing a Wii for the first time playing GameCube NES SNES the 64 those were such magical times for me those were like such formative my brain is shifting my understanding of reality to make room for these like magical thing called video games finding the retro consoles and the retro games that you really
• 11:00 - 11:30 really loved and connected with is the exact same experience as like reading books from your childhood again it's such a perfect little little moment a little gift of downtime for yourself to just like play a little bit play for an hour or two you're both getting that nostalgia and that kind of kind of escapism storyline problem solving achievement based satisfaction from it at the same time I love it I also have a DS and a three DS two that I whip out sometimes just the best
• 11:30 - 12:00 just really hit something just does something for me okay but I'm gonna read my magic tree house and then I'm going to set up my Wii because I just got it and I wanna set it up and test it out one of the games that came in this was haha this is hilarious m and m's car racing I've never heard of that is Animal Crossing City folk and I have never played this Animal Crossing and I'm so excited for it I feel like this was not too loved in the Animal Crossing community but I just have never played an Animal Crossing game on anything other than switch
• 12:00 - 12:30 and like a little bit on a on a what's called emulator I'd like the very first one so I'm excited to try that so let's go do that let's go do that come on I don't know about y'all but I just have like the funniest memories just like the purest memories with the Wii it was just like such a big thing at the time like for some reason everyone got one was it what was this had to be like pre recession right such a staple of childhood the like late 2000's twenty tens when did the Wii come out when did the Wii come out 2006 it was pre recession you guys
• 12:30 - 13:00 that makes so much sense yeah pre recession just everyone throwing money around oh my gosh that's so funny it's not funny but it is I feel like that was the last console that everyone like it was like a family console that was the last like family console we used to play Super Monkey Ball on GameCube all the time as a family my dad was GonGon Stone was always AiAi my mom was MeeMee and I was the baby one I don't remember what the baby's name was Baby it was Baby it's basically like a platformer
• 13:00 - 13:30 you're like a little ball you're a monkey in a ball hence monkeyball navigating like these little obstacles basically and they get really hard toward the end they get really really hard me playing as a child with no motor skills watching everyone else do is like wow how are you guys doing this and like practice never helped I was still pretty bad at it but then I got older I would revisit it and be like oh I get it now I got this easy peasy but that was GameCube pre Wii but then on Wii I think by then we weren't playing as much as I think it was like my brother and I just playing Wii Sports Wii Play
• 13:30 - 14:00 was another one that was really fun anyways haha I have just like the fondest memories of the Wii and then just like stone and I running off to the to the little game room computer room a computer room remember we used to have computer rooms we used to have literally a dedicated room for a computer it was a guest room usually a guest room plus a computer oh pre recession days oh okay so let's hook her up remember these remember these I'm gonna line these puppies up let's see y'all yay oh
• 14:00 - 14:30 look at that yeah okay my 2024 brain is like not understanding that you don't have to use internet for everything so I guess I'll just I don't know put a game in I don't know let me see I definitely want to order the like the classic Wii games Wii Play not Wii Fit my god that's like the most fatphobic game I've ever encountered in my life Wii Play and Wii Sports are fun and then what other Wii game I like this is 4 20 p
• 14:30 - 15:00 I need y'all to see this first of all this banger this absolute banger look at this you see how just the unbridled joy that this brings me yay oh my gosh heyy caption friends!! love youuu!! there's me okay I'm gonna put in gonna put in Animal Crossing for a little bit
• 15:00 - 15:30 test that out and then I'm gonna read some dinosaurs before dark look let's start this is like I can't explain how much joy this is bringing me so much joy unbridled so pure I'm locked in I'm locked in I saw this TikTok and it was this he's I think he's a therapist and he was talking about how like you might not have time to like do this thing that you love throughout the week because you're busy and you're human and then it comes time to have free time and be able to do the thing and you're like I can't I don't know why I really want to
• 15:30 - 16:00 but I just like don't feel like it like I'm opening this game I'm opening this book I'm opening this like puzzle I'm starting this hobby I just don't feel like doing it like it feels daunting it feels like too much for my brain so I'm just gonna like scroll my phone or whatever so I don't know if he's a counselor or therapist I don't know but he said that's just the thought a thought doesn't have to be true we have thoughts and that's okay and they're coming from somewhere so both try to like identify where it's coming from or like why that thought is happening and then also just like hold the thought with you as you do the thing that you do wanna do because you do wanna do it
• 16:00 - 16:30 and it's just this thought that you have of like I don't wanna do it and if you really like dig deep and you find that you really don't wanna do it and that thought is actually a feeling then you can release yourself from that you don't have to do it you know like shackled to these hobbies if you don't wanna do them if you actually don't wanna do it that's different story but if you know that you wanna do it and for some reason you have this like mental block just hold on to that thought he was like just carry it with you like put it to the side as you start the thing and as you're sitting there just kind of observing the thought let it sit there let it sit there as you go about playing the game starting the puzzle
• 16:30 - 17:00 starting the book and just kind of like ride along with it you know go okay you still you still thinking this yeah okay let's keep going we're not thinking this anymore cool and he's like usually after the first like 30 minutes you're locked in and you're like ready to go and the thought is no longer there anymore I thought that was just such a good observation I think I think obviously that's gonna look different for different people I think it's a little bit harder for some people to do it anyways even if you have that thought but I did I did think that was a good observation cause sometimes I give so much truth to the the thoughts that I do have and I am like
• 17:00 - 17:30 this is a feeling I I can't I just can't do this right now I don't wanna do it I don't know and then I get like defeated but that's not true it's not true yet it's not true yet unpack it and then see if it's true so that's just another thing is like jumping into things with that are like nostalgia based is still you know like this activity that some people can hold these thoughts around of like maybe I shouldn't be doing this maybe it's easier to do something else right now push past those carry it in a in a sidecar along with you while you're while you're driving towards the task and just like see how far you can get with it
• 17:30 - 18:00 and see if that thought doesn't just disappear and it's replaced by a feeling of pure joy and enjoyment that's it just my thoughts on that guys look it's me I couldn't make my character it's just you get one or the other it's me and it's Tom Nook and it's my little house how cute I love it okay I just wanted to set it up have a little bit of a little play a little intro to it and then I'm gonna get to reading but this was literally made me so happy I feel so at peace right now that was such a good trip down memory lane
• 18:00 - 18:30 it's gonna read gonna do some reading it's just so funny like the world you remember imagining as a child and like the experience you remember imagining as a child and reading it now it just being so simplified and like you realizing how much more detail and depth you need to be able to like world build in your head like this I am world building my head but it's so different the level of complexity but like how as a kid you didn't need that much complexity
• 18:30 - 19:00 your mind could just go you were sucked in so interesting that was so cute y'all that was so cute my gosh I'm like literally transported back to my childhood oh my God that was lovely I feel like revived I feel like I feel calm and revived all at once okay I will see you tomorrow when we pick up with some more activities bye okay y'all know another thing that I love to do is a space refresh
• 19:00 - 19:30 we're gonna do a little bathroom Mini Makeover Refresh and Brooklinen's our cozy sponsor thank you Brooklinen you'll know I've loved Brooklinen for their sheets because of their quality cause of the designs I just love them but I've been needing new towels I'm tired of my towels but I'm gonna show you just how cute these Brooklinen towels are oh my God Brooklinen bath towels are made of 100% Turkish cotton which just sounds fancy I mean I'm excited to feel them but that just sounds fancy and they're meant to be like spa like thick look how cute these are the hand towels
• 19:30 - 20:00 oh my gosh you guys are so thick look at that that's a bath towel that's a bath towel right there look at that and like making your home beautiful is the ultimate act of self care you can also like mix and match with over 20 colors and patterns that's really fun so this is the super plush towel moving bundle and so that's why I got like hand towels bath mat washcloth bath towels and you're saving 15% by doing the bundle too and then you can mix and match within the bundles that's perfect okay let's go replace the towel this is the situation right now
• 20:00 - 20:30 I think it's been two years at this point that I have these they don't really mesh with the space especially in the spring like spring is coming these are giving fall and winter right it's so cute here's the finished product look at that so much more cohesive a little bath trays
• 20:30 - 21:00 but Brooklinen's offering a special discount it's $20 off any order over $100 you can click the link in the description or use the code COZYK20 thank you Brooklinen good morning so the next thing I like to do or not the next just another thing that I like to do is a easy task trademark big E big t task TM okay not a bad task bad task no shove that out of the way we're not doing those for me bad tasks dishes grocery shopping cleaning a bathroom
• 21:00 - 21:30 easy task laundry I don't know why y'all I love laundry I love a good laundry another easy task for me organizing something those things actually bring me joy and revive me so I feel like I'm contributing back to my space I'm like staying on top of things in my space during a burnout episode or to prepare for incoming burnout but it's not draining me in fact it's doing the opposite it's making me feel good and productive and and like I'm taking care of business okay
• 21:30 - 22:00 but it's not a bad task bad tasks make me feel bad so whatever that is for you if you need to make a list a bad task easy task what are your favorite tasks to do in the house errands whatever maybe you like grocery shopping and errands slap that on there maybe you hate laundry slap that on the on the bad task okay for me I love you some laundry just oh oh I love it great way to start the day cause cause the thing about laundry you just pile everything in you start it you set a timer you leave you could go do other things I love it let's go do some laundry is what our laundry situations looking like it's full
• 22:00 - 22:30 it's time it's time let's bring it out I also took all of the sheets right and I took all the sheets off the bed and just replace them with like extra ones we have so that is done feel great about that
• 22:30 - 23:00 hey Chila you overseeing the laundry you a laundry overseer yeah you're doing great Careful Chila laundry monster's gonna get you so now that the laundry is in I'm feeling very clear of mind my mind is clear of any lingering uh I'm gonna have to like pick this back up later I'm gonna have to make up for for the time that I was resting my body and mind one of the things that I like to do
• 23:00 - 23:30 when I know that I'm feeling either burnt out or burnt out quickly approaching is asking for help if you have people in your life that can help you with the bad tasks okay capital B reminder you have people in your life that can help you with a bad task please ask them to do those for you or help you with them or just like can you please for this period that I'm feeling a little overwhelmed that I'm feeling like I need a freaking break can you please just take these over I think some of us who are like very much need to do everything in equal parts you know
• 23:30 - 24:00 if you feel like you normally divide household tasks and you're like okay I I do like half of the dishes and then like other people do the other half of the dishes whatever and you're like if I don't do that somebody's gonna it's fine it's gonna be okay they're gonna be okay and if you have healthy communication which you should they're gonna tell you I can't do that this week because XYZ or absolutely absolutely I can't you know what I mean like it's all about communicating with each other about your capacities and things like that so roommates friends partners family whoever it is
• 24:00 - 24:30 just communicate just communicate your needs it doesn't come intuitively I think for a lot of us we're just either do it ourselves kind of people or we're like I'm just gonna ignore that that task is there and hope that people don't get mad at me for not doing it and I think either or is not sustainable so definitely just communicate just communicate everybody understands being in a state of burnout as a friend partner family member you would wanna provide that for them you know when they're in that position so trust that other people love and care and want to be there for you that's my that's my like burnout task advice
• 24:30 - 25:00 and like I said knowing which tasks are easy tasks for you are tasks that like fill the soul versus absolutely draining and that is what I won't be doing today at all this weekend really at all I will not be doing the dishes I will not be doing any kind of errands I refuse so now that my my tasks are done I really like to get into complete head empty activities that is when I feel like you truly truly heal in burnout mode is when you can actually enter into brain off activity
• 25:00 - 25:30 I feel like it helps you process the feelings you've been having I feel like it helps you get in touch with actually how you're feeling because when you are in fight or flight go go go mode autopilot you don't have time to sit there and like check in with yourself and see what you're feeling so you enter the state where you finally can like connect with your mind and your body and listen to it also grant yourself that time of rest to truly like shut down it's like your body is not a machine but if it were a machine you're go go go go go go going and you need to shut down
• 25:30 - 26:00 you need going to sleep mode sometimes like like you know my pooter my little computer needs to go in sleep mode every now and then otherwise it can't do it software updates and it can't I don't know whatever pooters do when you shut them down so your mind is a pooter too your mind is but a pooter and it needs to shut down sometimes so we are gonna do that today I am in desperate need of that one of the things I like to start off with is like a long shower or a bath I haven't taken a bath in so long since the freaking Penguin
• 26:00 - 26:30 the black Penguin bath bomb that scarred me and I was scrubbing black dye out of the bathtub for months the real ones y'all were there with me for that through that but I'm ready I'm ready I've Learned have I Learned I don't think so cause I'm still gonna use colorful dye but now I know how to get rid of it it's magic erasers that did the job that did the trick the magic erasers work so if the dye dyes again Mr Clean will handle it for me so I'm gonna start for the bath that always puts me in like I am baby mode mentally where I like fully shut down and I get really sleepy after
• 26:30 - 27:00 and it's like you know someone was swaddling you and in the warmth of warm soapy liquid and then I like to just like sit and decompress and do whatever hobby activity it is I like to do but making sure it's like a brain off activity which we'll talk about later but let's start with breakfast and a bath how good does that sound oh my God breakfast in the bath should I eat breakfast in the bath I might I might I might have some tea in the bath that's for sure let's go come on
• 27:00 - 27:30 got some breakfast that's going here
• 27:30 - 28:00 this is soap it was the tomato soap now it looks kind of gross but it is soap then I got the rest deck and my iPad for some coloring got my tea as well I'm gonna do some dry brushing now dry brushing is done I'm gonna pick a face mask from my collection
• 28:00 - 28:30 looks good little moisture let's do that mask time so goopy now that I look like a serial killer it's bath time officially in the bath here's my tea here's my scrub a dub stuff the candle some snacks and brekkie some soap I say we start with a rest deck pull to get us started in the right mindset
• 28:30 - 29:00 okay here's a couple good ones rest is a lifelong practice says what if you rejoiced at the beauty of this being a lifelong meticulous love practice what if you listen to what your body is trying to tell you what if you took your time or what if the way to healing is waiting for you in a nap what if you accepted that you don't have to fully unravel from grind culture immediately love that and then this one is exactly what we were just talking about I am not a machine I am a divine human being begin to grieve the ways in which grind culture has tricked
• 29:00 - 29:30 you into thinking you are a machine grieving is a gift and a sacred act grind culture has pushed you to a pace of living that is unsustainable the sooner you push back against this the sooner your rest journey begins rest for the journey I love it fantastic way to start the bath I love it I'm gonna eat I was trying to eat my oatmeal just kept getting on my face
• 29:30 - 30:00 but there's like oatmeal masks you know that's fine every time I take a bath I'm like I need to do this more baths are great and then you know here we are one every couple months this one in particular has been nice a morning bath with breakfast just a quick one little face mask on the weekends I'm here for it I'm here for it okay I will catch you after the bath cause I'm just gonna be loungin here for a long time okay bye
• 30:00 - 30:30 okay y'all now that the
• 30:30 - 31:00 like getting into head empty mode is and the bath was me entering stepping into head empty relaxation mode there's got to be like
• 31:00 - 31:30 scientific studies on why taking a bath makes you feel like such a little little baby I never wanna nap ever like I have a complicated relationship with naps in that I never take them they sound like a great idea they sound really fun my body just can't do it unless I'm like at rock bottom tiredness and I like have to but I always wish I could take naps and I and I can't it's a rough life but right now I feel like taking a nap that bath soothed me so much I'm like so sleepy which is the exact state I wanna be in whenever I need to heal from burnout or like prep myself for upcoming stress
• 31:30 - 32:00 that is the exact state I wanna be in where my head is just completely blank at peace my body can rest my body can shut down I'm going into sleep mode and I love it the things that I really like to do in my downtime are things that don't take a lot of like mental activity for me and that's gonna look different for everybody for some people maybe that's like doing a hobby that you're really used to like maybe for you that's crocheting maybe for you that's knitting maybe for you that's embroidery you know like maybe there's a specific hobby that you've done so much that you can do it without thinking and that's something you might you might wanna do for me
• 32:00 - 32:30 that kind of hobby is like coloring or like the coloring app that I have happy color listening to audiobook while you do those things popping on a show maybe a comfort show you don't have to like get too involved in anything where like your brain is still idle you know it's not like you're using a lot of energy to like ah stress about a new storyline in a show or like figure out problem solve when you're starting a new craft like nothing those aren't the things that I think are great for um this this like moment of burnout care
• 32:30 - 33:00 so think about what that might be for you it might it's gonna look different for everybody like I said for me it's just like coloring listening to audiobook maybe playing like a game I've played a million times and just kind of letting my brain go into sleep mode so that's what I'm gonna do right now let's go
• 33:00 - 33:30 I made some rice cakes yay
• 33:30 - 34:00 you wanna try one they were really spicy so I did like half of the packet and I did hoisin so that sweet cuts the spice okay y'all the next thing I like to do is spend some time with loved ones of people in your life whether that's partner friend family whoever it is that you can spend time with maybe you don't wanna you know like call the friend that you go out and party with
• 34:00 - 34:30 but call the friend that you know you can just like chill out with I'm having a friend come over this evening we're just having like a chill movie night and then I didn't even film it but I just spent the last hourish playing video games with Ryan I'm gonna try and recruit Maya to play some Wii Play since it just came in the mail today yeah so some just some friend time is always a good good burnout cure I think oh but don't hit yourself oh ah
• 34:30 - 35:00 nice what's next what's next what's next what's next oh look at Azula damn it whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa I actually have no clue what I look like alright eyebrows no no no what the fuck don't clap for her doesn't feel good does it this music slaps
• 35:00 - 35:30 hi oh my God okay y'all today we are doing the thing that I don't often like to do but it's good for us it's good for our bodies for our minds it's just good for us and that is leaving the house I know but it can be just like the simplest like quickest thing you can leave the house for an errand you can leave the house and step outside and just look up into the sky for a couple minutes you can go on a little walkie walk you can listen to a podcast just sitting in a chair outside
• 35:30 - 36:00 you can listen to a podcast on a walk you can listen to an audiobook you go grocery shopping whatever you wanna do whatever comfortability you have with going outside and I know for some people that's way way more comfortable than others for us homebodies now going outside during a burnout moment just seems like the worst thing possible but I promise you it always makes you feel a little bit better it's both like a change of environment that kind of changes your brain and your habits a little bit it's also just good you can get some vitamin d get some fresh air
• 36:00 - 36:30 get some fkn non inside air in those lungs so I'm just gonna go outside to go to this candy place that I went to once and I wanna go to again so gonna do a little outdoor trip and a walk a walk and then a trip walk trip I'm doing both it's it basically counts as two outside things come on let's go let's go walk time these will be going in your pocket thank you so much I need my hand for chips doing it we're walking for once in my life
• 36:30 - 37:00 he didn't think I could do it but I did I believed in myself right babe yeah, I'm praying on your downfall yeah haters in every corner watch out
• 37:00 - 37:30 Sockerbit time taste test wow okay the regular Swedish I don't know about here's one you haven't tried the best part about it was the rest of the sour stuff from the other candy that stuck to it -I agree oh my god that was the good one I forgot about those Chila you want to try you want to taste test you wanna sniff it
• 37:30 - 38:00 okay what's your rating Chila oh ooh mmm okay okay maya you have to try the actual good one this ones good watermelon oh that's tasty that was a fun little trip I feel revived I feel renewed tried new things walked okay y'all now that we've gone through all of the kind of floofy more light hearted activities and things that I like to do to address burnout to either heal from it or prevent it the last thing I wanna talk about is
• 38:00 - 38:30 the kind of like crawling out of burnout method that I like to use I've seen therapist on TikTok talk about this being kind of a good method for crawling out of burnout and that is when you are at the point of burnout cause there are definitely stages of burnout there's like I'm feeling it and I feel like coming on but I could still do my tasks at hand there's the like I am struggling so much to do the tasks at hand but I can still do them because I know that I have to and then there's the point of burnout that's like the hardest to crawl out of and that is just I literally cannot lift a finger
• 38:30 - 39:00 I can't I know that I have to but I cannot I have nothing left in me and I actually just stopped caring about the fact that I do have to get these things done because I know that I can't and I just simply can't be bothered like I just can't care anymore I can't bring up the energy to care and that's kind of like the end stage of burnout that is really difficult to crawl out of and even if you do crawl out of not being able to do your daily tasks and like you are able to do your daily task again you still have lingering effects of burnout for like years it can be years to heal from that so those are the different stages of burnout
• 39:00 - 39:30 but when you are in kind of one of these stages down here where you just can't do your tasks anymore and you are also attempting all these other things we talked about in the video and really really giving yourself intentional rest both sedentary rest and rest in movement and activities that you like to do and that make you happy while you're trying those things one thing you can do is slowly slowly slowly adding back pieces of your routine so if one day you're like I cannot do anything try taking just a shower
• 39:30 - 40:00 try looking at your email inbox not going through it just try looking at it try making yourself food try doing the dishes just try one thing starting off just try one thing and each day try to do that one thing and when you get to the point where you're like I can do this one thing every day add a new thing the next time when you feel like that is maybe not easy for you to do but when you feel like it's it's part of your routine again to do that one thing that's when you then add on a second thing and if for you that takes a day and you're like okay today I was able to do this
• 40:00 - 40:30 tomorrow I'm able to do two things the next day I'm able to do three things that's great if it takes a week that's great if you one week you're able you're able to do one thing the next week you're able to do two things that's great if it takes months whatever it is slowly adding back in pieces of your routine is what can help pull you at a burnout because you are retraining your brain basically to be able to make room for these tasks again because your brain is in the space where it's like no you worked too hard I can't do anything anymore so we're not doing anything and I I I'm not giving you any energy or
• 40:30 - 41:00 serotonin or anything to do anything so if you you show your brain by just just pushing yourself a little bit to do one task a day you're kind of relearning it's like baby steps you know you're relearning routine and then you're also relearning your routine in a way that's still making room for meaningful rest I am not a therapist I'm not a mental health expert don't you know take my word as anything like that but I have done a lot of research on burnout and that is something that's always recommended when you you really do have to like get your routine back on track
• 41:00 - 41:30 and it feels impossible just think of it as baby steps and be very patient with yourself if you feel like it's too much it's too much take a step back take a step back take one thing off the list hopefully that can help and the last thing that I wanna talk about is a little bit what we talked about in the beginning of the video but just like general reflection on burnout general reflection on how you got here or are approaching burnout reflection reflection reflection is the most important part of all of this I would say the No. 1 thing to keep in mind is to not ignore
• 41:30 - 42:00 your feelings if you are feeling a little bit stressed even a little bit stressed it's time to step back it's time to step back if like two days in a row you feel stressed you feel your bodily cortisol high you feel like tense if you feel the signs of stress look inward in your mind look in your body listen to your body for all the signs of stress that it gives you are your muscles tense are you getting headaches are you getting chronically sick like are do you keep getting sick from just you know seasonal flus is your attention span
• 42:00 - 42:30 not as great and I don't mean in like a spicy brain way like where it's permanent I mean like are you genuinely not able to like sit and focus on a task in whatever your usual whatever your equilibrium is is that affected are you not sleeping as well are you grinding your teeth are you clenching your jaw are you getting irritable at people at yourself are you inviting more negative self talk in than you normally would all of these things are signs of stress knowing what stress
• 42:30 - 43:00 looks like for you and your body and your mind is so important in life is so so so so so important in my life and those are things I've had to learn over time and they look different over time as well for me the stress that I used to have you know in law school looks totally different than I the stress that I have now with content creation in this this career and stuff so I've had to kind of adjust that in different seasons and stages of my life and I've had to reflect on what that stress does look like but the most important thing is to not ignore those signs reflect on them acknowledge them
• 43:00 - 43:30 write them out if you have to and say these are my signals in my body and mind that I am stressed and do not ignore them as soon as you feel them that's when you need to start addressing your stress and changing things in your life and changing things in your habits and your practices and how you're treating yourself to address the stress because it's when you do ignore those signs that it does turn into full on burnout you might start up here and the stress might just be stress and it's just a little bit of stress but stress is a signal that burnout is coming and then burnout is a signal that more serious things
• 43:30 - 44:00 are coming that are a lot harder to pull yourself out of than it is to pull yourself out of burnout or it is to just pull yourself out of stress it gets harder the deeper you go down and the more you ignore your feelings and the more you kind of double down on whatever routine it is that's bringing you the stress in the first place some more things to reflect on as well are are the stressors in your life in your control or are they out of your control and that's a really really big one for me and has been different at different parts of my life a couple years back when I was in law school the stressors were
• 44:00 - 44:30 out of my control and that's when I knew I had to change things surrounding those stressors to kind of make room for those stressors so if it's out of your control you have to accommodate your routines around that stress or you have to make difficult decisions about your life whether it's your job whether it's people in your life whatever it is that is out of your control technically you have to make difficult decisions about that and say I have to remove myself from these people I have to remove myself from this living situation I have to remove myself from this job difficult decision
• 44:30 - 45:00 sometimes have to be made if that stressor is actually out of your control and then if the stressor is out of your control but how you're perceiving that stressor is what's giving you that stress that's another thing so that then is in your control right so like if your job is your stressor but you are adding the stress to do the job by maybe hyper focusing on something that you don't need to be hyper focusing on taking on more than you need to because you're trying to achieve something specific at your job entertaining kind of intrusive
• 45:00 - 45:30 thoughts that you might be having about people are mad at me somebody doesn't like the work I did all those things that used to be something I went through is just having stressful thoughts about my work when that was not based in reality if that makes sense so in that case that was in my control and it wasn't necessarily that I had to leave this job it was that I had to change my mindset around this job this is the bucket of when it is out of your control just considerations of how you might have to make difficult decisions to change that stressor the other thing to reflect on is when the stressor is in
• 45:30 - 46:00 your control so that involves unlearning so much so much so much unlearning lots of unlearning and lots of asking yourself why reflecting on why you do things why do you not allow yourself to rest why do you you push yourself so hard at work why do you not feel worthy of rest lots of asking really tough questions to yourself do you need to see a therapist to be able to like unpack and unlearn these things do can you do it yourself can you do it with a friend lots to unpack
• 46:00 - 46:30 with yourself and definitely diving into like childhood things did you only get praise for your accomplishments and your overachieving nature in childhood did you get yelled at when you were relaxing around the house thinking about those things and how they might affect how you view rest is vital vital vital and changing your pattern moving forward so that you don't end up on the same cycle of burnout because say you go through all of this this work to heal and reset and prevent burnout or
• 46:30 - 47:00 bounce back after burnout and you're you're happy you're good you're ready to go but you still have these underlying causes that cause you to get to the burnout place in the first place you need to address those and you need to unlearn those things and that's something that I'm still doing you guys I'm still doing this I'm not this is not me coming from a place of like I'm the expert and you have to do this because I did know this is something I am still still struggling with and still unlearning and 100% my stressors are in my control I'm self employed and so 100% of my stressors
• 47:00 - 47:30 are in my control so that has been rough to kind of grapple with because I have to meet myself I have to put a mirror up to myself and tell myself some really hard truths and lots of tough pills to swallow let me tell you about my views on rest my views on my self worth and why I feel like my only value is overachieving overachieving overachieving so that's just something I want everybody to reflect on as much as possible because sometimes just resting won't help sometimes just resting is not going to help you need to restructure
• 47:30 - 48:00 either your life if it's out of your control or restructure your mindset and your routines and how you view yourself and others in this structure over here if your stressors are in your control like I talked about in the beginning of the video I think we all have been taught that there is inherently less value in rest and downtime and time we pour into ourselves and that we are our most valuable when we are being productive in the eyes of kind of society when we are working like you know society views
• 48:00 - 48:30 productivity as work in our work product and that's just not true we are being productive in so many ways when we are resting when we are hobbying when we are enjoying ourselves and having fun that is productive it's just not productive in the definition that kind of society puts forward these days it is productive we are contributing to society in a positive way and a lot of us have to kind of restructure how we view productivity how we view self worth value all of that because overworking is a form of self harm it really is
• 48:30 - 49:00 and I'm that girl I am the I'm a workaholic I'm a and there's like you know the tiny part of you that takes a little bit of pride in that and takes a little bit of pride in like being someone who their whole life can be about work that is inherently like a self harming behavior and again I'm not a therapist this is just my own you know work I've done with therapists and internal work I've done with myself is realizing that it is it is self harm because it is keeping you from addressing certain things it is numbing
• 49:00 - 49:30 you to certain things and the more and more you engage in that behavior you're on a short path for burnout and much more if you keep at it past the burnout so put yourself first put yourself first that's the most important thing cause I think a lot of us are putting other things before ourselves when we do the workaholic thing whenever we are focusing on our stressors more than ourselves we're not putting ourselves first we're not putting ourselves first and I wanna I wanna say just as a general disclaimer I
• 49:30 - 50:00 understand that a lot especially now especially in like the current climate a lot of the stressors that cause burnout that are out of our control in this little bucket over here that we were talking about a lot of the stressors that are out of your control are like truly truly out of your control I just see so much discourse about like what happens when yeah my job is my stressor but like I have to have two jobs to be able to pay rent because in this economy I can't have one job that covers rent
• 50:00 - 50:30 and be able to buy groceries you know what I mean and healthcare and whatever else I need to survive so I have to have two jobs so inevitably I'm going to be burnt out like there's no there's no wiggle room here it is such an fortunate place that our world is in right now where that is a reality for a lot of people my only note on that is just like whatever you do have control over as much as you can focus on yourself yourself first as much as you can like that's all it's all we can do again it's just it's such an unfortunate world we live in where that is the reality
• 50:30 - 51:00 for a lot of people right now and in the same vein remembering the privilege that you do have if that is not your situation and acknowledging that and realizing how much you are throwing away by not making use of the time that you do have to put yourself first in the time you do have to rest just think about it in relation to rest that other people can't afford literally can't afford that's all I know that got very heavy and very serious but I do think it's extremely important to talk about and
• 51:00 - 51:30 I think it's very important for us to all constantly be reflecting on because I think the society that we live in benefits from us just not thinking about it and it's kind of sticking our heads in the sand and not giving ourselves that time to kind of question the reality we live in and question the love and care that we are able to give ourselves and in turn give other people do what you can for others as well separately when you are when you are fully healed from your from your own burnout not when you
• 51:30 - 52:00 are in burnout mode just just focus on yourself when you can but when you are fully in a healthy space look around you and at the people you love and see if you can lend a helping hand at all because just because because because again I I know that got that got very heavy at the end of the day reflect give yourself rest focus on the things that bring you joy so much joy dig deep within and learn what makes you happy learn what brings you the utmost euphoria and peace and focus on that
• 52:00 - 52:30 bring that into your day to day life as much as you possibly can meaningful rest and rejecting the notion that we have to contribute something to the workforce to be productive members of society you are productive member of society just for existing and just for prioritizing yourself and those around you and being creative and being your true self okay please get some rest I love you stay cozy bye don't forget to check out Brooklinen and use code COZYK20