David DeAngelo Man Transformation DVD 2

Summary

"Man Transformation DVD 2" by David DeAngelo, features practical advice for men looking to evolve and improve their lives. The session emphasizes stepping out of comfort zones to catalyze personal growth. It highlights the importance of having supportive mentors and setting specific, measurable goals. The program also introduces the concept of willpower as a finite resource that should be allocated wisely, alongside neurogenesis through new behaviors. Visualization, future pacing, and anchoring are suggested techniques for maintaining motivation and tracking progress.

Highlights

• Supporting your transformation journey through accountability partners is key! 👥
• Willpower isn't endless—use it wisely to change habits effectively! 🧠
• Push past comfort zones to generate neurogenesis for lasting change! 🧬
• Visualizing and affirming goals clarify your path and boost commitment! 🕶️
• Safety and security create a foundation to explore new behaviors confidently! 🛏️

Key Takeaways

• Step out of your comfort zone regularly to embrace transformation! 🚀
• Harness the power of supportive mentors and accountability to sustain change! 💪
• Consistently practice and plan your new behaviors to form lasting habits! 📅
• Visualize your goals and use future pacing to stay motivated and on track! 🌈
• Concise, specific, and measurable goals are crucial for genuine development! 🎯

Overview

In 'Man Transformation DVD 2,' David DeAngelo presents an array of insightful strategies for men seeking personal growth. At the core of these teachings is the concept of bravely stepping out of comfort zones to facilitate transformation. The seminar underscores the power of mentorship and having accountability partners to ensure sustained commitment to new habits and routines.

The program explores the importance of planning and executing new behaviors through practical techniques like visualization, future pacing, and anchoring. Such processes help in solidifying the desired changes, reinforcing commitment, and tracking progress. By focusing on specific, measurable goals, participants are encouraged to create a structured path towards personal evolution.

Throughout the seminar, the finite nature of willpower is acknowledged, emphasizing the need for strategic usage to foster meaningful change. By fostering a conducive environment of safety and security, participants can better embrace new behaviors and neurogenesis, hence driving a genuine, lasting transformation.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 03:00: Introduction and Commitment The chapter begins with a call to action where participants are encouraged to commit to a challenge. An individual named Andrew from Wisconsin expresses his intent to get into shape and commit to following a 90-day program, as recommended by Dave. This section sets the foundation for accountability and the importance of dedication to achieve personal goals.
• 03:00 - 09:00: Accountability and Mentorship The chapter 'Accountability and Mentorship' discusses the speaker's plan to maintain discipline in their personal development by holding themselves accountable financially. They discuss the importance of exercising regularly and studying consistently to meet their goals. This is illustrated through the speaker's example of writing a check for a significant amount of money to a friend as an incentive to remain committed. The chapter also touches upon the speaker's acknowledgment of their lack of knowledge in certain areas, indicating a desire for mentorship and growth. Featuring Malcolm from Nova Scotia, Canada, the narrative emphasizes the role of accountability in achieving personal development goals.
• 09:00 - 15:00: Becoming a New You The chapter discusses the importance of seeking help and support in personal growth and transformation. It emphasizes the need to ask for assistance and encouragement from mentor-like figures to stay accountable and motivated. The key takeaway is the power of having someone regularly remind and motivate you during the journey of becoming a new version of yourself.
• 15:00 - 21:00: Neurogenesis and Behavior Change This chapter explores the relationship between neurogenesis and behavior change. It suggests that to achieve different results, one must engage in activities or adopt behaviors that are not typical of one's current self. The chapter implies that change requires going beyond familiar habits and comfort zones, and embracing new patterns of behavior, potentially linked to underlying neurological development.
• 21:00 - 27:00: Willpower and Habits The chapter titled 'Willpower and Habits' emphasizes the ongoing process of personal evolution. It discusses how transforming oneself is not a one-time event but a continuous journey. Using the example of a father, Ryan, who desires to dedicate time each evening to engage with his son about his learning experiences, the text illustrates the importance of consistent effort and interaction in fostering relationships and personal growth.
• 27:00 - 35:00: Visualization and Future Pacing The chapter discusses the concept of personal transformation through visualization and future pacing. It emphasizes the need for individuals, like Brian, to let go of their old selves and adopt new resources and strategies to create lasting change. This can involve overcoming distractions and focusing on becoming a new version of oneself.
• 35:00 - 40:00: Planning and New Habits This chapter explores the concept of clinging to one's old self and how it impedes personal change. It delves into the unconscious tendency to hold onto, get attached to, and identify with various aspects of ourselves, which can include our past identities. The discussion suggests that letting go of these attachments is crucial for forming new habits and embracing change.
• 40:00 - 45:00: Creating Safety and Security This chapter discusses the concept of stepping out of one's comfort zone. The narrative highlights how others may not always support or appreciate such moves, as it challenges the status quo. However, the author emphasizes the benefits of doing so, indicating that entering the change and breakthrough zones can lead to regular successes within the context of the room and program.

David DeAngelo Man Transformation DVD 2 Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 all right who just threw their hat over the fence good I need a couple enough you two guys stay right there you come over here and you two guys we guys one of you walk over to the set I'm Andrew from Wisconsin um what I want to do is get into shape and to make sure that I actually study this program for the 90 days that Dave always suggests which I usually don't do
• 00:30 - 01:00 um I have a friend that has supported me in coming here so my plan was to give him a check for 150 bucks which for me is a lot of money and if I don't exercise five days a week and study this stuff start now and don't deviate good my name is Malcolm from Nova Scotia Canada my biggest thing is that I didn't know
• 01:00 - 01:30 which Nova Scotia you met so thanks for clarifying say to them I don't want you to like because I want you to keep the money so you can have it I want you to do it for me so you're gonna have to insist because they're going to say I don't want to really do this and whatever so you have to insist but number two ask for their help and say will you remind me throughout the day get encouragement from them okay because having someone that's more of a mentor that's reminding you on a regular basis and keeping you accountable is in this kind of situation very powerful
• 01:30 - 02:00 good that's a good one one last one one more what's happening man yes I'm Excel from Atlanta and that's the paradox in order to get different results you have to do different things and in order to do different things you must become not me you must do things that aren't you
• 02:00 - 02:30 Aid and it's actually not enough to become not me once you have to continue becoming not me if you're going to continue to evolve so the gentleman who wants to spend a half hour in evening what was your name again Ryan right so Brian who wants to spend a half hour every night with his son dialoguing about what the sun is learning and he wants to do that in the
• 02:30 - 03:00 long term and he has trouble because his mind is always going and he goes off and gets distracted doing things he is going to have to become not him the old version of Brian is going to have to go away and he's going to have to Marshal new resources he's going to have to become a new Brian but it doesn't just stop is the only way to change long term so you're you're clinging you're holding
• 03:00 - 03:30 on to the old you is what's preventing you from changing and I deal with this all the time when I another fascinating uh little nugget that I've learned over the last few years is that we unconsciously hold on to things grasp get attached to identify with we even do it with us really who you are for anyone
• 03:30 - 04:00 one of the obstacles to doing this is another thing my friend wyattami is other people don't like it when you are outside of your comfort zone but what happens when you do get outside your comfort zone what happens right breakthrough change Zone regularly we win in this room and in this program
• 04:00 - 04:30 and in this whole man transformation body of knowledge when we get outside of our comfort zones and we win in life when we get outside we look back you really can't tell whether it was a positive change or a negative one sometimes I cannot tell to be honest with you yeah because you don't know if that feedback was qualified or not so you're wondering is it me or with just them not liking that I'm okay because I think
• 04:30 - 05:00 that if you really ask yourself was my intention right and I think that if you really get to the point where you feel secure in yourself I don't think you need to ask that question I think you know whether you were coming from the right place or not and just go along like that and just keep you know evolving you got to keep evolving I mean uh you know as like this and I I could see that I had a little bit of disrespect in me and things that like now I think oh I just wouldn't want
• 05:00 - 05:30 anyone to really see that you know but that's where I was at then and I have to go back and say unto it if you put me in a situation with a woman I would not intentionally like lie or deceive her do something that I thought would hurt her just to get something back from her but I did have some anger and I did have some issues and I did I was kind of seeking little ways to you know manipulate the situation and what have you but overall fundamentally I was coming from a good place I was trying to develop myself I was trying to figure out how to relate to women I was trying
• 05:30 - 06:00 to unlock this code Okay so I think when you look at it you you can discern a little bit right you know don't don't be too uh too attached to doing everything perfectly but as long as you're coming from the right place I think you're going to be okay cool great thanks that's a good question you're welcome okay good thanks for asking the question I could tell that there was a little bit of weirdness going on in the room and that lead to new behavior is critical and here's one of the reasons why new Behavior leads to what's called
• 06:00 - 06:30 neurogenesis neurogenesis that's the generation of new neurons and new neuronal Connections in the mind new Behavior neurogenesis same behaviors over and over you just lay a path over but that's good because then when you do new things all the time
• 06:30 - 07:00 they'll say oh they're just crazy don't pay any attention to them it's cool they'll accept you that way it'll be all right when you change you get outside your comfort zone it puts them outside their comfort zones and what's great is that when you push past your comfort zone when you get out of it oh awesome and that will continue to help you
• 07:00 - 07:30 transform it'll go in a transformation cycle is this important super important okay grab this mic right over here I'm Jordan from New York how's it going speak nice to meet you when you're when you're doing the when you're get over to the mic over there John yeah or I was I was something to do that but I was like I don't want to do it I don't know should I do it should I not but no I did so nice work okay so in your good give him a round of
• 07:30 - 08:00 applause good [Music] all right who went through that experience of feeling the the fear and the anxiety coming pushing through and now realizing it's okay and that you could do that again if you needed to all right nice nice so I want to reaffirm we win here in this program by getting outside of our comfort zones that's what we're doing we are continually getting outside of our
• 08:00 - 08:30 comfort zones as it turns out Behavior change is tough it's not as easy as we think sure uh you know if I say hey stand on your chair yoga this is kind of weird but you'll stand up on your chair but standing up on your chair every day for your own good consistently persistently that's the trick and through a lot of research and trying
• 08:30 - 09:00 to figure out for this out for myself I've discovered some of the reasons why especially this last maybe six months or so I've been trying to study this idea a lot the idea of Will and will power and I now describe willpower as being the most precious it turns out that we pretty much do the same things every day we think the same thoughts every day we feel the same
• 09:00 - 09:30 emotions we do the same behaviors day after day after day and we think that well willpower is that magical energy that allows us to say you know what no I feel pulled in this direction where I would normally go but I'm going to go do this other thing right now that's where the will power just waking up for a second and saying all right I'm alive and I you know I'm going to be alive for only
• 09:30 - 10:00 a short period of time so when we have awareness we need to focus that willpower on doing things that create routines in our life we'll talk more about that the trick rapport with the other person before they make their sales presentation and they do a sales presentation and they don't get into rapport with the person first and it doesn't go well and you say how did you do the person says uh you know what I forgot to get
• 10:00 - 10:30 into Rapport first and I didn't do very well it doesn't work to remember to do it next time what works is practicing is doing it ritualistically proactively and when I say practice I don't mean rehearse fog that we live in most of the time realize that we're essentially machines that are out of control and see oh okay if I do this new thing
• 10:30 - 11:00 if I talk to my son every night for 30 minutes in 20 years if you can get this do you understand how powerful and important this is if you got nothing if you walked out the door right now if you stopped this program stopped watching it stop going through it right now and you just did this one thing every day in power to you know be present or she was giving me some compliment it's like to be present and uh I said yeah
• 11:00 - 11:30 it's that or this and I kind of joked about it and she looked at me and didn't flin she just said no that's the little game you're playing right now to deflect whatever little world where we don't want to offend each other we don't want to point out where we're screwing up when awareness comes Revere it be very grateful for it take that moment to let it in welcome in whatever it's showing to you
• 11:30 - 12:00 Ted James something if you just relax and let it show up or do that it's important so stop avoiding awareness when it comes be really grateful for it stop burning your willpower if you've got conflict in your change one of the things you need for Behavior change is you need the outcome that you want you need to know what the outcome is
• 12:00 - 12:30 and a mistake that a lot of us make when we're thinking of the outcome is we're not clear on what we actually wanted to outcome to have it be specific and measurable and result oriented so as an example let's say you had a financial goal I said okay what's the financial outcome you want most people would say well I want to be rich or I want to be finding in fact about a third of all humans
• 12:30 - 13:00 are a learning style that can basically be called the why learning style unless they know the reason why they're doing something they can't do it they can't understand it they can't even let it in all they're doing is asking why am I learning this why are we even doing this why why why why I am not one of those learning styles so I have to condition myself to constantly remind myself to explain why we're doing this in the first place why are we learning this thing what's the outcome the a good reason but typically an
• 13:00 - 13:30 outcome that we want is only a means it's a means to get to something else the million dollars isn't so you can just have a million dollars that's not going to do anything it's a means to get some other result or to buy something and ultimately it's usually a Feeling typically there's one seeing it in your mind why do we visualize why do we imagine the outcome specifically that we want why do we get our reason why the motivation for doing it and then why do we visualize
• 13:30 - 14:00 it's these huge server farms and all these algorithms and all this complex stuff to get you that result in like .00013 of a second incredible well you're organize everything that you have and moving toward that goal you start to notice the connections that will lead there you become conscious of it your reticular activating system fires up .00013 to find a little web page
• 14:00 - 14:30 it takes a little bit of time putting that in to really have it register really have the unconscious mind go this is really something we're going to do huh okay and through repeated visualization and affirmation of that clear specific outcome with the motivation and the reason why that's when it snaps into action and it just starts pulling you toward it
• 14:30 - 15:00 so future pacing and anching anchoring a future pace is essentially preparing you so that when you arrive at that time in the future you're ready to take action on the thing that you want to do have you ever made a decision okay I'm going to do this thing the next time I'm in that situation I'm
• 15:00 - 15:30 just going to do it and then you got there and you forgot or and then start practicing getting into Rapport and then I'll put the binder back down I'll take the binder back out does this make sense I'm future pacing myself I'm programming my mind to trigger to remember the thing I want to remember so it happens automatically what's the motivation to get you from here to there visualize reaffirm future pace and anchor if you can
• 15:30 - 16:00 it's just basic tools to get yourself to go to the next level and ultimately what you want to do when you start from the past a memory you're actually changing it in the process of remembering it so let's say that you're in a pessimistic mood and you remember something from the past that was a neutral experience well you'll pull it up it'll be in a positive cast and you'll recode it and it will go back in more positively
• 16:00 - 16:30 fascinating so we are actually in the process of changing our memory all the time if you want to change something that you perceive as negative having half the two bookends to come up with a motivation what's the reason why what is this going to do for you in your life visualize this actually change this Behavior how's this
• 16:30 - 17:00 going to affect your life in a positive way now let's do a little visualization let's just finish uh writing down your reason why close your eyes behaving in the new way that you will be behaving to create that outcome
• 17:00 - 17:30 imagine how your body will look imagine how you'll feel different what little trigger can we use to Future pace so that when you're in the situation next and it's time to do the new Behavior it'll remind you it'll be a reminder like the binder on the table to get into Rapport what can close your eyes what I'd like you to do is Imagine
• 17:30 - 18:00 That cue coming up and triggering the visualization of the new Behavior and what we might do is we might make two pictures in our mind one is the picture of the queue happening running is a movie and one is the picture of the new Behavior happening running as a movie what we'll do is we'll run the picture in our mind of the queue of the thing that we want
• 18:00 - 18:30 to trigger our new Behavior play guitar something I learned at an early age but that I gave up for a number of years but in the back of my mind I always thought that when I kind of get other areas of my life handled I would get back into music so um so that's something I'd really like to do and I used to play a band on the hill playing Rock Fusion music with your bass player in the cherry sunburst Les Paul
• 18:30 - 19:00 um practicing every day would be uh very important and taking guitar lessons again okay and singing lessons as well because I have I'm definitely Rusty in those but doing it on a daily basis would is important daily music rehearsal and and lessons How often I like once a week so weekly lessons daily rehearsal would that be the highest leverage thing that you could possibly do to get there uh probably that or and also um networking with more musicians and
• 19:00 - 19:30 getting out in the music scene I think okay but but the practice is probably the most important thing okay so the the mentoring yeah from the teacher and the daily practice so this I mean can you see how we took this from a little more nebulous down to something a little bit more specific here okay hopefully you're applying this and maybe making some notes yourself as you're listening to this about clarifying what you want the next piece that is another lesson that I learned from Tony Schwartz from
• 19:30 - 20:00 who wrote the powerful engagement plan that out specifically what would you do to rehearse and practice your vocals uh for that I'd probably have to get lessons because I don't know a lot about saying I know more about guitar and um so you'd allow your teacher to create an outline for you yeah by the way that's much better let a master create your practice routine for you someone who it gets done I'm taking it from a wish and a hope and a fantasy to
• 20:00 - 20:30 here are the action steps that I'm going to take so when could you call your dad and when could you talk to Wade and get these referrals right away I could do that right away I could do that tonight okay after the program when could you talk to and interview some of these music teachers probably next week next week reasonably okay and you could have one Chosen and in place in a month yeah definitely okay and then how many days per week would you like to rehearse
• 20:30 - 21:00 um I guess six days a week would be good five six days a week five to six yeah okay practically could you set the time aside to do this yeah is this something you'd wanna can you use what you're learning right now can you plan the new Behavior out good all right thank you for coming up and uh being an example thank you I'm gonna do this every day for five
• 21:00 - 21:30 years and I'm going to take my the deed to my house and I'm going to give it to someone and I'm going to say this is yours if I don't do this every day for five years then you wake up a month later and you go you know I've changed I don't really actually enjoy playing guitar anymore and in your life if you want to change your behavior you need to plan your new routine you need to plan it in detail specifically don't say I'll figure it out later get into a ritual of planning out your
• 21:30 - 22:00 new behaviors so in order to get to the the edge of your comfort zone and to go over I believe that as a man as men we need a base of Safety and Security we need to have a strong Foundation of Safety and Security is take the time take the energy to create Safety and Security for ourselves set aside time to actually create a
• 22:00 - 22:30 foundation of Safety and Security where we feel safe and secure whatever that means so I ask you what creates a foundation of Safety and Security for you what gives you an inner feeling of Safety and Security I can't do questions and answer right now okay what brings you that that inner I'm okay
• 22:30 - 23:00 my mentor Jerry taught me he said Einstein said the most important question to answer is is the universe a friendly place with complete intention you spend about a third of your life in it or you should is your bed the ultimate space of Safety
• 23:00 - 23:30 and Security right now is it have you designed the bed that makes you feel safe and secure if not how could you what could you do just take a little moment real quick and add something that would make your bed feel safe and secure that physical part of us the reptile brain visions that kind of stuff
• 23:30 - 24:00 can you create a bed a nest for yourself a complete Safety and Security so when you go there you unplug from the world and you say this is my place where I am going to might be a woman that has more nurturing energy might be a guy friend that you really trust who can you go to and say I just need to know that whatever I do if I fall on my face or I succeed that I can talk to you about it I can share my feelings I can just right and wrong for you
• 24:00 - 24:30 one that I recommend is make a space inside of yourself where you say I'm not going to sneak around anymore I'm not going to do anything that I feel is sneaky that can be very free I have a particular type of disrespect for that now you know I don't want to get into uh too deeply into this but it strikes me
• 24:30 - 25:00 from watching human behavior that upset this guy and then is he crazy and is he going to be coming after me in five years when I don't even know it and waiting behind something and you know for me that kind of stuff freeing to just say yeah no ass banditing for me I don't need it