How To Practice Non Resistance In Every Life Situation

Summary

Highlights

• Understanding non-resistance as total allowance of the present moment ✨.
• Allowing life's natural flow can turn negative into positive 🔄.
• Observe thoughts and emotions without identifying with them 🕶️.
• Non-resistance offers true power and peace, unlike reactive behavior 💪.
• Regular meditation is key to building a practice of non-resistance ❤️.

Key Takeaways

• Non-resistance is about accepting the present moment as it is, without judgments or desires blocking the natural flow of life 🌊.
• Practicing non-resistance can transform negative events into positive outcomes by changing our perception 🌟.
• Learning to observe thoughts and emotions without identifying with them helps reduce reactiveness and promotes peace of mind 🧘‍♂️.
• Regular meditation enhances self-awareness, aiding in the cultivation of non-resistance and spiritual growth 🙏.
• The journey of non-resistance requires patience and practice, but leads to a more aligned and less stressful life path 🚀.

Overview

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to Non-Resistance The chapter 'Introduction to Non-Resistance' discusses the concept of practicing non-resistance in daily life. The speaker shares personal insights and experiences on the effectiveness of this practice. The chapter promises to deliver practical techniques and examples from daily life to help readers understand how to implement non-resistance in simple everyday activities.
• 00:30 - 06:30: Understanding Non-Resistance The chapter begins by addressing the concept of non-resistance, breaking it down into three different aspects. The first aspect emphasized is the importance of learning to be in total allowance of the contents of the present moment. This practice encourages individuals to embrace what is currently happening without resistance. The chapter suggests that this approach can help in dealing with the hardest problems in life and advocates practicing total allowance in one's present circumstances.
• 06:30 - 22:30: Practice of Non-Resistance in Daily Life This chapter explores the concept of practicing non-resistance in everyday life by focusing on the present moment. It suggests that often, our immediate circumstances are neutral and we face no actual danger, yet we still resist them. The advice given is to be in total allowance of the present moment, without worrying about the past or future. By doing so, we can achieve a state of peace and acceptance.
• 22:30 - 31:00: Benefits of Non-Resistance The chapter 'Benefits of Non-Resistance' explores the concept of embracing the present moment through total acceptance. It discusses the value of temporarily setting aside desires, fears, preferences, and judgments to truly experience the here and now without wishing for anything to change. This practice allows individuals to see their experiences from a new perspective, free from resistance.
• 31:00 - 43:00: Tips for Cultivating Non-Resistance The chapter discusses the concept of non-resistance, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and allowing experiences to arise as they are without immediate judgment or resistance. It highlights the tendency of individuals to judge present experiences, despite the fact that life has already allowed them to manifest. Encouraging a mindset of acceptance, the chapter suggests that people often interfere with their natural life experiences by imposing their judgments and beliefs of knowing what's better for them. The focus is on cultivating a practice of observation and acceptance of the present moment without the need for filtration through personal biases or preconceptions.
• 43:00 - 50:00: Overcoming Challenges and Encouragement The chapter talks about non-resistance and encourages readers to approach challenges by observing them without judgments, interpretations, or resistance. It emphasizes living in the present moment and practicing non-resistance one moment at a time. This approach is suggested as a way to overcome difficulties.

How To Practice Non Resistance In Every Life Situation Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 today let's talk about how to practice non-resistance in our daily lives I'm going to be sharing with you what I have found to work really well for me what I have observed in my own experience regarding this theme of non-resistance and I will also share with you some daily techniques that you can do and we'll share with you certain examples daily life examples that will make it very clear on how to implement this practice of non-resistance into the simplest aspect of your days and also
• 00:30 - 01:00 the hardest problems of your life so let's begin firstly let's talk about what is non-resistance now I'm going to break it down in three different ways the first aspect of non-resistance is quite simple it is learning to be in total allowance of the contents of this moment so let's practice that together here and now currently I'm sure the contents of your present moment are are fairly
• 01:00 - 01:30 neutral you are sitting and watching this video perhaps there is some life circumstance that is not to your liking um but immediately in your immediate circumstance no there's no danger to you most likely everything is fairly neutral so let's first start here Here and Now can you be in total allowance just for the moment forget about later forget about before forget about about what this will
• 01:30 - 02:00 turn into here and now you learn to see this experience Through The Eyes of total acceptance and what that means is just for now you don't need anything to be different it's like for a moment we place down our desires and fears our preferences and judgments
• 02:00 - 02:30 we are just looking at this experience and allowing it to be actually it has already Arisen so it is already allowed to be from life now I come in and I start to judge and resist even though life has already allowed this experience to arise in this moment I come in with my judgment I say I know what's better for me I constantly filter this present moment through
• 02:30 - 03:00 judgments descriptions interpretations resistances so in a very simple way non-resistance all that it is is learning to look at this moment without any of those filters simply allowing what is just for this moment when you allow yourself to practice this just one moment at a time not worrying about how to translate over this this over into the rest of your
• 03:00 - 03:30 life or how this what this will lead to you know because that's you constantly introducing a future into this moment when you just practice this just for a moment you start to Glimpse the state of non-resistance which is your default Natural State we start to taste the freedom in non-resistance we'll talk that talk talk about that in more detail later in the video let's get to the second component of non-resistance
• 03:30 - 04:00 another way we can look at it is going with the flow of Life how many times has something happened to you and you notice your mind instantly rejecting it because it is considered a loss or it is considered a negative event but how many times has that happened in our lives where the very negative event turns into something so positive later on so you can see that the way we behave is very limited the way that we are
• 04:00 - 04:30 conditioned to react to circumstances is very limited in this particular point in time and space learning to like take a step back from reaction and allowing the flow of life to take care of things on its own is the art that we are now learning with this practice of non-resistance we no longer react to every single thing that happens
• 04:30 - 05:00 now we are learning to observe that the good contains the bad the bad contains the good so often the negative turns into the our greatest blessing and the positive often becomes our greatest pro problems and and a great curse for me one of the hardest periods of my life was my spinal injury that devastated me for about 6 years physically mentally emotionally yet that ended up turning into my greatest
• 05:00 - 05:30 blessing also in time because that is what allowed me to be receptive to the teachings of the spiritual path so life is very much like that in in all areas sometimes circumstances have to break down sometimes things have to give you the appearance of loss personal loss in order to make way for something new so one aspect of non-resistance is learning to allow this flow of life and
• 05:30 - 06:00 not riding this emotional roller coaster where if life is good we are totally on a high and if life is bad then we are in the lowest of lows now we are learning to stay even through thick and thin even- minded through the highs and lows of life now the last aspect of non-resistance and this is something not everybody's ready for but I will mention it here in case you are it is a subtler
• 06:00 - 06:30 step on our spiritual journey where we surrender ourselves to God to life to the self and we are no longer the primary responsible party for me and my life instead we actually give over that control we give over that responsibility to God to life this doesn't mean that we no longer act or do anything we simp L
• 06:30 - 07:00 act and do everything with the understanding that it is life working through us God acting through us the self orchestrating our thinking our speech and our action so we stay surrendered in a state of non-resistance that's all surrender really means it is synonymous with non-resistance understanding that it is life working through us we do not judge its ways instead we surrender to it we learn to allow we learn to accept and we
• 07:00 - 07:30 go through all the phases the good and the bad without resistance now that we have established what non-resistance is let's talk about how to practice it in daily life situations the first thing that I would like to talk to you about is learn to see in whatever experience you are currently having notice how the mind is always reacting to it in the form of of thought
• 07:30 - 08:00 and emotion so let's say someone makes a remark that you don't like that you find insulting instantly the moment the remark is made some anger arises in the mind thoughts of Anger of how that person should not have said what they said or Thoughts wanting to actually hurt the other person or get revenge an uncom able feeling of anger
• 08:00 - 08:30 maybe an increased heart rate so thought and emotion is always in a state of reaction to the circumstance you know someone cuts you off on the road while you're driving there the Mind instantly reacts based on our conditioning based on the nature of our personality some people are more reactive than others everybody is reactive to certain degree but people have different degrees and uh flavors to their conditioning So based on the flavor of
• 08:30 - 09:00 conditioning the response comes very instantly without our doing it it just happens you know like you notice like let's say you get into an argument with your partner or family member or friend reactions just happen responses just happen triggers just happen now we are learning to observe those reactions rather than identifying with them what does it mean to identify with them it means to take those reactions to be what you are and and that is what we do on a normal basis we
• 09:00 - 09:30 take those mental and emotional impulses and that's what they are because they're happening randomly they're happening without our control they're happening compulsively unconsciously on a regular day we just identify with them we take those mental narratives and points of view to be true to be me and mine and we take those emotions those feelings to be me to be mine now we are learning to observe we
• 09:30 - 10:00 are learning to objectify them so let's say you get into an argument and you noticed your mind getting riled up your emotions getting turbulent there's a greater degree of awareness presence where you're no longer just identified with those thoughts and you just spew out whatever they say or allow them to influence your action instead you are the presence behind the thinking from where you see the
• 10:00 - 10:30 thinking you are the presence behind the emotion subtler than the emotion prior to the emotion from where you see the emotion you can observe the emotion without identifying you can observe the emotion without buying into it you can observe the emotion even though it's unpleasant you can observe the thought without believing in what it says from here a greater
• 10:30 - 11:00 Clarity dominates your action a greater Harmony acts through you this is us going from a state of compulsive identification with reactiveness with resistance into our true nature of contentment non-judgmental awareness
• 11:00 - 11:30 undisturbed being we start to discover our essential nature prior to the reactive mind so we start to do this in small things and big it's difficult to do it right away in big things because we sort of lose awareness you know we just s totally are in a state of identification with the reactions that arise the resistance that arises so we start with small things start to practice this in small little
• 11:30 - 12:00 inconveniences and annoying things that maybe the people around you do or certain little problems that arise throughout the course of a day and that equips us to be able to maintain that firm presence even when big things happen which give you the appearance of a greater personal loss where resistance is so strong now the second component of this is
• 12:00 - 12:30 learning to observe how you know your mind is not only reacting to circumstances it is also just reacting to itself so what happens is just a big pile of resistance the mind not only resists what is happening it literally starts to resist its own reactions to what is happening for example let's say someone said something that you don't like the resistance to that is it arises in the form of anger
• 12:30 - 13:00 but because anger doesn't feel good another layer of resistance arises it's like a guilt or a suffering of the anger itself so it's like it's layers of resistance but this is what we are now learning to observe there's nothing fancy to do here nothing for you to get rid of or change but simply observe observe the layers of resistance and discover yourself as the awareness which is prior to them subtler than them
• 13:00 - 13:30 it is from that place that you see those layers of resistance that self which is aware of resistance that self that you are that is aware of the resistance is totally non-resistant it is in a state of utter acceptance your nature is acceptance awareness allows all things which it is aware of whatever has already Arisen in
• 13:30 - 14:00 this moment there is already total allowance of that is the nature of awareness now we are learning to discover that that is my true nature my true State why should you practice non-resistance what are the benefits when we talk about things personally you can see that like your resistance is always rooted in the desire to manipulate and control circumstances we feel that if I resist if I react if I
• 14:00 - 14:30 spring into some sort of affirmative action like U try to grab the situation by the neck that I'm doing something good for myself but how often have you seen that it only leads to further dysfunction and disharmony well that is the role of non-resistance non-resistance to the mind seems like passiveness but when you begin to practice it you will find that in the position of non-resistance there is true power there is real control
• 14:30 - 15:00 which isn't a mental type of control instead it is falling into harmony with the workings of all of life it is a falling into alignment relaxing away from resistance into alignment with the one intelligence which moves all things which orchestrates all events which is working through all beings from here you
• 15:00 - 15:30 see that things have a way of working themselves out in the position of non-resistance a power acts through you and does what needs to be done there is always an appropriate response that arises to the de to meet the demands of every situation now you start to even become more and more free from mind identification because you start to realize that I don't need to constantly
• 15:30 - 16:00 think and React to what is happening in order to take care of Life think my life doesn't fall apart if I stop resisting my life doesn't fall apart if I stop if I let go of constantly thinking about what to do or how to control in the absence of the desire to control in total non-resistance in total allowance we fall into alignment with
• 16:00 - 16:30 that power that one life which rules all things and it acts through us so yes in some situations you may not get what you want but Life Will Go On the way that it needs to you don't always know what's best for you you know the things sometimes you think are good for you they end up becoming your greatest enemy things you think are bad for you end up becoming your greatest blessing
• 16:30 - 17:00 understanding this wisdom yes situationally you may not always get what you want but you start to find that even when I don't get what I want I am infinitely more peaceful content and happy I need less and less so that's what the beauty of non-resistance is you start to just need less and less conditions to satisfy you you don't need constant conditions to be the way you want them to be in order for you to
• 17:00 - 17:30 be happy the way of resistance is constant control constant need for conditions to be the way I want them to be but even when they are the way I want them to be I'm still not satisfied my look my gaze just turns to something else the way of non-resistance is helping us to discover our innate contentment peacefulness fullness and lastly if that's not enough it also paves the way for spiritual
• 17:30 - 18:00 growth you cannot really grow spiritually if you are constantly resisting life because in your resistance to life you keep missing the lesson life is trying to teach you in your resistance to life your gaze continues to stay glued just to circumstances and you miss the bigger picture non-resistance helps you you turn within helps you discover your
• 18:00 - 18:30 formless identity helps you become one with your Source it paves the way for Spiritual self- knowledge without it there's no spiritual growth you can observe this for yourself in your day-to-day life see for yourself resistance only creates misery for yourself and others non-resistance brings Harmony and happiness for yourself and others so not only is
• 18:30 - 19:00 this the greatest work you can do for yourself it is also the greatest gift you can offer to the world so now I just want to give you some practical tips for how to cultivate non-resistance in your day-to-day life the first thing I will ask you to do is learn to observe your mind your thought and emotion like the reactions that are coming up when your mind is fairly Pleasant the more you start to do this when your mind is Pleasant the more you'll be able to do
• 19:00 - 19:30 it when the mind is unpleasant because when it's unpleasant it's very compelling you instantly identify so the way that I practice is even when the mind is pleasant and you're just going about your day notice how the mind is always constantly commentating on things reacting to things not necessarily negatively but it's always offering some sort of judgment description preference resistance so now learn to see these
• 19:30 - 20:00 things and don't identify meaning don't take them to be true you know you right now you may be sitting here and a car May uh go by on the street outside of your house and it makes a loud sound and instantly a thought arises and it says oh my God I hate I hate the neighborhood I live in you didn't even do anything to think that thought you didn't choose that thought that thought is not you or yours it just literally arises in your experience just like the sound that comes and
• 20:00 - 20:30 goes why do we identify with it notice the moment you identify with it you become so bothered you become irritated but like now you are learning Your Capacity to just observe these impulsive ideas that are arising without you're choosing because they're just your conditioning they arise and now you're learning to not believe in them not identify with them not to see them as what you are you're learning to discover yourself as the wordless presence which is prior to the arising of these
• 20:30 - 21:00 reactions how beautiful so start to observe this when the mind is pleasant and then you become more and more capable to observe this when you are in the midst of a very difficult circumstance strive to practice this practice is key no matter how many videos you watch on non-resistance no matter how many books you read on non-resistance they will not be of great help until you implement them and so also I will say practicing
• 21:00 - 21:30 in real time is very greatly facilitated if you also have a daily meditation practice so my recommendation to everybody and this is something I do myself is sit for meditation two times per day for 20 minutes each session 20 to 30 minutes you sit and you withdraw from the senses you bring your attention inward to this sense of existence I
• 21:30 - 22:00 am I have other videos on that so I will link them in the description that that will help you um because that's a whole different topic and and of itself but meditation daily meditation it is what helps you cultivate this greater awareness so that you're able to live in non-resistance throughout the day without it it can be very difficult because you become very stuck we become like you know daily life is so sticky it's so compelling we get entangled in the web of mental reactions
• 22:00 - 22:30 of our conditioning so daily meditation is of vital importance if you resonate with that opinion check out the video in the description box after this video and begin your practice today now let's talk about overcoming challenges with this practice uh you don't need to strive for Perfection because you will forget this you will react you will identify so don't strive for perfection and don't feel guilty for reacting now
• 22:30 - 23:00 that you have this information don't feel guilty for being in resistance now that you have this information put it to use apply it when you find yourself in resistance when you find yourself reacting because feeling guilty for reacting is just another form of resistance to what is so the you know this practice starts where you find yourself whether that is before during or after in the very
• 23:00 - 23:30 moment come into total acceptance of what has happened what currently is and what may happen be free free from resistance free from judgment observe observe the reactions of the mind and don't identify totally surrender surrender yourself to life follow the flow of course doing this is subtle and tricky and difficult which is why it is very helpful to be connected with other
• 23:30 - 24:00 people who are also doing the same practice so if you're interested in connecting with others who are doing this and myself join our free community I will link it down below now one last thing I will share with you is that there will be times where you will feel powerless to do this or you may try it for a long time and you still feel like you're barely able to practice it it's okay be kind to yourself be easy with yourself and know that you are not powerless it is difficult in the
• 24:00 - 24:30 beginning especially the first few months that you practice this it is difficult but when you become willing when you start to really see that resistance only creates suffering in your life and you start to become willing no matter how hard it is then that power will come to you life God self will make sure of that so stay open stay willing regardless of how much you succeed or fail at this you will learn
• 24:30 - 25:00 the lessons you need to learn always remain open to that so that's all I have for you today I hope that you enjoyed this video join our community I will just say it again in case this resonated with you and you want to get some resources for your practice and connect with other people ask questions share insights all that good stuff thanks again for watching I will see you next time