Ignoring Women: The Secret to Making Her Chase You

Summary

In this video from 'The Dark Needle,' the creator delves into the psychology of attraction, specifically addressing the concept of neediness and how it affects relationships with women. Initially skeptical of the saying 'ignore her and she will chase you,' the creator shares insights on how ignoring is more about reducing neediness than just being aloof. The video articulates that neediness manifests not in overt behaviors, but in sub-communication of inadequacy and over-investment, thereby repelling women. Instead, a mindset shift towards confidence and being less invested is advocated to naturally increase attraction from women.

Highlights

• Neediness makes you unattractive, no matter how good-looking you are. 🚫
• Women detect neediness through subcommunication and subtle behaviors. 👀
• Your actions should come from confidence, not from trying to win her approval. 💪
• Investing too much too soon lowers your attractiveness. Keep your independence. 🚀
• A shift in perspective—focusing on whether you like her—not the other way around, can enhance your appeal. 🔄

Key Takeaways

• Neediness is the ultimate turn-off for women. No matter how attractive you are, neediness can kill attraction instantly. 🙅‍♂️
• Subcommunication matters! It's not just about actions, but what those actions say about your confidence and self-worth. 💬
• Less is more! The less you invest emotionally in the beginning, the more attractive you become. This is what women are biologically wired to find irresistible. 😎
• Neediness is a sneaky trait. It can appear in small gestures, unnecessary favors, or over-texting. Watch out for these signs! 🤔
• Shift your mindset: don't focus on hoping she likes you, but rather on assessing if you like her. This change in perspective can turn the tables in your favor. 🔄

Overview

The video kicks off with a confession of how ignoring women initially seemed futile to the creator until the deeper psychological aspects were explored. It's highlighted that when applied correctly, understanding neediness can transform one's approach to building attraction effectively by not coming off as overly invested or desperate.

Moving forward, the creator explains how subtle and subconscious cues of neediness can be off-putting. Examples abound in everyday interactions—whether it's buying a drink for someone you barely know or sending excessive messages. The message is clear: actions rooted in self-doubt broadcast insecurity and diminish chances of romantic success.

Finally, a roadmap for shifting away from neediness is presented. The audience is encouraged to alter their mindset from wishing to be liked to evaluating if the partner fits their standards. This mental switch not only empowers but also aligns with what inherently attracts women—confidence and self-assuredness.

Ignoring Women: The Secret to Making Her Chase You Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 when I started my journey to understand women and how they think I always heard this phrase ignore her and she will chase you I tried to apply this technique but without any results and I began to think it was just empty talk and not true however after a long time I discovered that this phrase was just a surface expression of a deep Concept in the psychology of women I realized that the mistake wasn't in the phrase but in me because I didn't understand the concept well by the end of this video you will understand with me the psychology of women and you will learn how to ignore her to attract her and make her obsessed with you this is is
• 00:30 - 01:00 one of the most important episodes in the how to attract women Series so pay close attention there's one thing that repels all women and yet most guys are the embodiment of this trait what is it you ask well I'll just give it away here it is neediness and now you will tell me but I'm not needy yes my friend you almost certainly are you see neediness isn't just the obvious things such as being obsessive going through her text calling her 69 times a day and getting super jealous every second she's not with you being needy comes through even in the small things it comes through in the way you talk to her treat her act
• 01:00 - 01:30 around her and so on but the most clear sign of a needy man is the overall relationship Dynamics note although I'm using the word relationship this can apply to meeting a woman For the First Time dating being in a long-term relationship Etc now you ask what do you mean by relationship Dynamics good question my friend now a word of warning this is going to sound very Machiavellian but I want you to bear with me you see it comes down to this how much effort are you putting into the relationship fors woman in other words how invested are you in her and the relationship the less FS you give the
• 01:30 - 02:00 more FS you get a sure fire sign of a needy man is a man who invests a lot of time energy effort and even money into a woman while getting very little if anything in return the more you invest in a woman the less attracted to you she is it's really that simple for you analytical types the amount of time energy effort emotion money a man invests in a woman is negatively correlated to her attraction except of course for the fact that he needs to invest a little bit to get her number set up a date flirt a bit Etc anyhow here is approximate graph the more
• 02:00 - 02:30 invested in her you are the less attractive you are in her eyes I know this is completely contrary to all that feel-good emotional bull crup Society pumps into you about how you just need to show her what a nice guy you are I know you've been taught that the way to get a babe is to whine and dine her for months and buy her flowers and chocolates and take her for rides in your fancy car that if only you could be nicer to her than every other guy she's met then she'll want to sleep with you but it's all a lie it's not what women are biologically hardwired to find attractive at best this sort of needy Behavior will land you in the friend zones at worst she'll find you sexually
• 02:30 - 03:00 repulsive either way you lose the ironic truth is that the neediest get the least needy men get what others give them not what they want men who have zero neediness on the other hand get exactly and often more than what they want women find them irresistible but why why are women instinctively yes instinctively attracted to guys who have zero neediness why are they instinctively attracted to men who have options we will explore the evolutionary reasons for this in the upcoming episodes of this series but before we move on let's
• 03:00 - 03:30 examine neediness on a deeper level it's all about the subcommunication mindset is everything it's not so much about the needy Behavior itself but about where it is that the behavior comes from it's about what your behavior implies about you as a man the subcommunication for example buying a woman you barely know a drink at a bar or bragging to her about your job is obviously coming from a place of perceived inadequacy you feel you're not good enough for her on your own or you feel inferior to her or intimidated by her beauty and so you attempt to compensate meanwhile the guy who's playfully teasing a woman about something or another is through his
• 03:30 - 04:00 actions implying the exact opposite he has zero neediness in fact he might be testing her to see if she's good enough for him he's the catch and she's just another chick chasing after him at least this is his mindset needless to say the second guy is going to be seen as infinitely more attractive to women than the first guy because his behavior implies that he is higher status so let's take a look at the different levels of neediness or lack thereof level one needy this guy is a needy man he buys women he doesn't know drinks in order to buy time to talk to them when he does get the CH to talk to them he
• 04:00 - 04:30 brags about his job his car his apartment and so on if he's lucky enough to get a date with a girl he texts her every day and not just any text but big long essay like texts he also sends good morning and good night texts on the date he asks her where she wants to go he wants to make her happy he is too afraid to take charge and lead for fear that she might not like whatever it is he chooses the point is this it's not the guy's Behavior itself that is needy rather it is what the behavior is communicating about him his behavior is communicating that he's too emotionally invested Ed in her that he's not a man
• 04:30 - 05:00 with options that he probably even feels inadequate unconsciously or perhaps even consciously feeling that he's not good enough for her he feels he needs to compensate whether that be by buying her a drink despite not knowing her driving her around taking her on fancy dates showing off his high paay job and so on although all of these behaviors may not be traditionally classified as needy they nonetheless come from a place of neediness and perceived inadequacy and that's highly unattractive level two somewhat needy this guy isn't as needy as the level one guy but he's still still somewhat needy if a woman prods
• 05:00 - 05:30 and pokes in just the right places he can get defensive and insecure you seem like a player she says what no you know I'm not like that blah blah blah he feels the need to go on idiotically justifying himself which brings us right to the next kind of guy level three zero neediness the type of guy that women are really attracted to are the guys that have nothing to prove the guys that give zero if she says he looks like a player a wicked grin possesses his face and he tells her that it sounds like she's got an eye for talent he has nothing to prove he knows he's the and he just bathes in his own awesomeness if
• 05:30 - 06:00 anything this kind of guy tests women to see if they're good enough for him and he'll playfully tease her about this for example nothing beats a good massage guy trying to seduce me by offering free massages so what you need to understand now is that the word ignore is directly related to neediness when you ignore any girl it means you're not needy please focus with me I don't want to come to you and tell you to start ignoring women and give you those common internet tips that you will like but won't change anything in you once the video ends I want you to understand the concept I want you to develop yourself and your mind set because this is the right way
• 06:00 - 06:30 to attract any woman you want your actions should come from within and before we continue the video don't forget to hit the like button we want this video to reach 1500 likes I know you can do it so let's continue our topic get it don't be needy and no neediness isn't just the obvious crazy stuff it can come through in everything you do it's all about what your actions sub communicate the meaning behind your actions what your actions reveal about you being needy can be as simple as getting your feathers all ruffled up over something she says such as the afor mentioned you seem like a player example it can also be simply investing too much
• 06:30 - 07:00 time effort and emotion into her too early and or without getting anything in return for example don't start acting like her boyfriend and driving her around everywhere buying her stuff and being her shoulder to cry on if she hasn't even put out yet and even then I wouldn't recommend doing any of that sort of stuff although neediness can come in all different shapes colors and sizes it all smells the same and women can smell it from a mile away so hopefully you now have a better understanding of this Dreadful little creature known as neediness because if you're watching me you're almost certainly needy to at least a certain
• 07:00 - 07:30 extent no matter how small and it repulses women key ideas one neediness is the single most unattractive trait you can look like Brad Pit but if she gets so much as a whiff of neediness her attraction will die two it's all about what your behavior subc communicates neediness isn't always obvious OS guys typically associate neediness with crazy behaviors such as secretly checking her phone but in reality doing unnecessary favors getting too invested too early or feeling like you need to prove yourself are all just as indicative of neediness three the lesss you give the more F you get women are biologically hardwired to
• 07:30 - 08:00 be instinctively attracted to mentally strong confident masculine dominant men these kinds of guys aren't needy and have nothing to prove and so when your behavior subc commmunications turn the tables by shifting your mindset from I hope she likes me to let's find out if I like her try to impress her and she'll be less interested be less invested and she'll
• 08:00 - 08:30 try to impress you and we'll cover all of this in the upcoming videos of our series by the way thank you for 8,000 subscribers the family is growing and I appreciate all the lovely comments don't forget to tell me in the comments what problem you're facing so I can know exactly what to talk about in the next video see you in the next video