I'm Graduating. Here's What I'm Doing After Uni.

Summary

In UnJaded Jade's latest video, she shares her journey from graduation to future plans. She discusses her experiences at Minerva University, where she studied cognitive science in seven countries. Despite initial doubts, Jade found her time at Minerva enriching and academically challenging. As she prepares to graduate, she reflects on the uncertainties of post-university life and considers her aspirations in education and climate change. Jade expresses a desire to pause and reflect on her experiences while embracing new opportunities with an open mindset. Throughout the video, Jade shares her personal growth and journey, emphasizing the importance of following one's passions and remaining adaptable to change.

Highlights

• Jade announces her graduation and reminisces about her journey through Minerva University. 🎓
• She shares how studying in multiple countries shaped her perspective and personal growth. 🌍
• Despite initial doubts, Minerva turned out to be an invaluable experience for Jade, both academically and socially. 🎓
• Jade plans to take time to pause and reflect on her experiences rather than diving straight into a job. ⏳
• She expresses her aspirations to work in education and climate change in the future. 📚🌍

Key Takeaways

• Graduating is both exciting and terrifying, with a blend of emotions as new chapters begin! 🎓
• Taking risks in education can lead to unexpected, rewarding experiences - sometimes you just have to trust your gut! 💪
• Embrace the power of pausing and reflecting on your life experiences – it's crucial for growth! 🌱
• Friendships shift and evolve; maintaining them requires effort, vulnerability, and mutual value! 🤝
• The importance of authentic living and aiming to contribute positively to society, especially in areas like education and climate change! 🌍

Overview

In her heartfelt video, UnJaded Jade takes her viewers on a reflective journey as she prepares to graduate from Minerva University. Studying cognitive science across seven countries offered her invaluable lessons and friendships, making her experience rich and diverse. Initially skeptical about her unconventional education path, Jade now cherishes the challenges and growth it brought her.

With graduation on the horizon, Jade shares her mixed emotions of excitement and fear as she navigates the uncertainty of what's next. Unlike many peers heading straight into careers, she plans to take time to process her experiences and stay grounded. Her ambition lies in working part-time in YouTube and exploring roles in education and climate change, areas she feels passionately about.

Throughout the video, Jade candidly discusses her personal growth, the importance of maintaining friendships, and her desire to live authentically. She underlines the significance of taking risks and following one's passions, underscoring that the journey through education and life is one of continual learning and self-discovery.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction and Life Update The chapter titled 'Introduction and Life Update' begins with the announcement of the narrator's upcoming graduation next month. The narrator intends to reconnect with the audience by addressing various aspects of their life including graduation, living in Taipei, and their relationships and friendships. This chapter is set up as a Q&A session where the narrator is ready to answer various intriguing questions, indicating a desire to update the audience on their current life situations and experiences.
• 00:30 - 02:00: Answering Viewer Questions In the chapter 'Answering Viewer Questions', the narrator expresses a desire to have casual chats with the audience, likening the interaction to friends having a conversation. They mention asking followers on Instagram for questions about their life, and a follower named Neela expressed curiosity about everything, as there's a lot going on. The narrator decides to start addressing questions from another follower, Vera.
• 02:00 - 05:00: Education Background and University Journey The chapter titled 'Education Background and University Journey' features an interaction where Fanny Vera asks Jade to summarize her educational journey. Jade introduces herself as being from the UK, specifically a small town near London with ample nature. She shares her background, mentioning that her mother is Dutch and her father is British. Jade gained familiarity through 'study tube' videos made during her GCSEs and A-levels.
• 05:00 - 07:00: Life Challenges and Personal Reflection This chapter reflects on the challenges faced by students who lack guidance from experienced individuals, such as older siblings or parents with university experience. The narrator expresses the stress encountered during the university application process, particularly the disappointment of being rejected from their top choice, Oxford. This experience led them to attend a new university called Minerva, illustrating a journey of overcoming educational obstacles and the importance of seeking support and advice.
• 07:00 - 11:00: Experience in Taipei During my gap year, feeling lost and unsure about my future, I sought more from university than the traditional UK experience. Unsure about opportunities and financial feasibility, I found Minerva—a program promising studies in seven countries, aiming to redesign higher education through active learning. Despite concerns about its legitimacy, I decided to take a risk and attend.
• 11:00 - 16:30: Language Learning and Lingoda Sponsorship The speaker reflects on the decision to study abroad, initially receiving negative feedback but ultimately finding it the best decision of their life. They studied in six countries, were meant to study in India but couldn't due to COVID, and spent four years surrounded by a diverse international cohort. The speaker was the only UK student among 160 others from over 45 countries.
• 16:30 - 19:00: Memorable Moments in Taipei The chapter 'Memorable Moments in Taipei' discusses the author's diverse educational background, including a degree in Cognitive Science with a minor in Business and electives in Philosophy and Politics. The author reflects on the challenges faced both academically and personally while adapting to life in various cities, including the cultural adjustments necessary to settle into each new place before finding comfort.
• 19:00 - 24:00: Graduation Fears and Future Plans The chapter begins with the narrator's excitement and nervousness as they prepare to graduate. They express a sense of déjà vu as they feel they've been through this process before, seemingly ripped out of one phase of life and thrust into another.
• 24:00 - 28:00: Career Interests and Education Goals The speaker reflects on their emotional and physical state, noting that their menstrual cycle significantly impacts their energy, emotions, and cognitive processes. Despite feeling tired and emotional, there is a sense of gratitude and acceptance of these natural fluctuations.
• 28:00 - 35:30: Friendships and Personal Growth In the chapter titled 'Friendships and Personal Growth,' the narrator reflects on their fast-paced life during their last days in Taipei as they prepare to fly to San Francisco for graduation. Despite the whirlwind of events, the narrator cherishes the moments and desires to slow time down to savor their current experiences. A thought-provoking conversation leads them to choose a hypothetical remote control that could pause life, rather than one that could rewind it, underscoring a recent appreciation for the present and a desire to live in the moment.
• 35:30 - 41:30: Body Image and Self-Acceptance The chapter delves into the theme of nostalgia and the human desire to revisit or prolong moments where one felt content or fulfilled. The narrator expresses thoughts on how nostalgia works, acknowledging the feeling of longing for past moments without necessarily wanting to return to them. It transitions into a structured Q&A format where the narrator plans to discuss various aspects of their life, including topics about studying in Taipei, graduation, personal fears, love, life reflections, and self-discovery. Derived from personal experiences, it seems to be an introspective chapter focusing on understanding self-image, acceptance, and the emotional landscape of nostalgia.
• 41:30 - 43:00: Conclusion and Future Topics In this chapter, the speaker reflects on their initial reluctance to move to Taipei, not due to any issues with the city itself, but because they have gone through drastic life changes multiple times before. The speaker shares that they experienced a difficult period personally and with their family around Christmas, which added to the hesitation. The chapter delves into the emotional and mental struggles faced by the speaker as they navigated these significant changes.

I'm Graduating. Here's What I'm Doing After Uni. Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 so I'm graduating next month and I think it's time we had a catch up I feel like I feel like coaches of my life today I'm answering all your juicy questions on everything from graduation to living in Taipei to relationships and friendship and life I've really missed you and I've
• 00:30 - 01:00 missed just casual chats like this where I feel like we're friends having a little natter so please grab a little tea get cozy and let's catch up so I asked you guys over on my Instagram what you want to know about my life and I think neela really summed it up when she said everything basically which is fair because there's a lot there's there's a lot I think I'm gonna start from these two questions from Vera
• 01:00 - 01:30 and Fanny Vera said I've lost track can you sum up what and where you studied over the last few years and Fanny said I'm new to your account so could you please introduce yourself a little bit yes I can so my name's Jade I am from the UK from just outside London in a little small town with loads in nature I grew up there my whole life with the same kind of circles of people my mom is from the Netherlands my dad is from the UK and maybe you know me from my study tube videos because I made a lot of videos during my gcses and a levels
• 01:30 - 02:00 about studying and trying to help other students who are really stressed about revision especially because I didn't have an older sibling my parents didn't go to UNI and so I just was a very stressed student and wished that I'd had advice from other people who had been through the system it could just help me out or maybe you know me from getting rejected from my top university Choice Oxford we don't talk about her but basically after that whole journey I ended up going to this relatively new university called Minerva I found it
• 02:00 - 02:30 during my Gap year in a time where I felt incredibly lost and unsure of what I wanted to do future life I felt like I wanted more out of University than the traditional UK experience but I didn't really know what that could look like or if that was even a possibility for me like financially opportunity wise and then I ended up finding Minerva where you study in seven countries across the degree they're ambitiously trying to redesign higher education around the sites of learning and active learning and effectively I took a risk in going to this scam-like University and I had
• 02:30 - 03:00 thousands of comments being like Jojo making the worst decision of your whole life but after four years I am proud to say I think it was the best decision of my life actually I studied in six predefined countries I was meant to also study in Hyderabad in India but because of covert I couldn't go and I studied with the same cohort about 160 students from over 45 countries I'm the only one from the UK in my cohort so I really have been surrounded by internationalism for the last four years I studied a
• 03:00 - 03:30 liberal arts degree which is more under the U.S system so I studied cognitive science which is effectively brain science and I did a minor in business and I also did some electives for fun in philosophy and politics it has been such a roller coaster I have been more academically challenged than I've ever been in my life I have been more socially and personally challenged than I've ever been in my life I've effectively been dropped in all these cities learned to make a home within this brand new very different culture and just as I feel comfortable in life
• 03:30 - 04:00 there I got ripped out and I'm made to do it again but yeah that's the overview I'm about to graduate so let's get into the juicy questions okay the question I want to start with is how are you doing did you eat honestly you were so inspiring thank you I love the question did you eat because this is such an East Asian thing like rather than saying oh hi or how are you especially old people would be like did you eat today like have you eaten yet or have you eaten rice today
• 04:00 - 04:30 and I think that's so cute and comforting it's like oh yeah I have eaten thank you for caring today I am good if I'm honest I feel a little bit tired and hectic I'm about to start my period we love her and I don't know about you but I can really tell where I am within my menstrual cycle like my entire energy sense of self ability to overthink changes across the month and so today I feel kind of emotional kind of low but it's all so good we're here but I also feel so deeply grateful for
• 04:30 - 05:00 my life at the moment the same with a friend in my last few days of Taipei and tomorrow tomorrow I am flying to San Francisco to graduate which is insane and life is so fast at the moment but also I'm trying so hard to slow it down because I'm just enjoying it all so much someone recently asked me if you could either have a remote control which would let you pause your life or a remote control which would let you rewind what would you choose and why and I said pause because I've recently been living a lot of
• 05:00 - 05:30 moments that I would really love to live within for longer I don't necessarily need to go back to them because I think that's the power of nostalgia it's like longing for moments that you've had but if I could prolong them right now would okay so I've kind of split this q a into sections I'm going to talk a bit about taupe I'm going to talk about graduation and my fears and all of that and a little bit more about love and life and Reflections and all that good stuff so Taipei how did your semester in
• 05:30 - 06:00 Taipei end up being I know initially you didn't want to go such a good question so if you followed me at the start this year you would know I didn't want to come to Taipei it was nothing about Taipei it was just the fact that I have done this five or six times now you know like the whole uprooting life the brand new culture like massive shift of absolutely everything in my world and at Christmas I went through some really tough stuff mentally personally family wise yeah and
• 06:00 - 06:30 I was just in a really dark place I had no desire to like set New Year's resolutions or do any of these things I had no desire to like start a brand new life somewhere else again and I almost didn't go and so I came into Taipei with almost no expectations and this city Hound me in the best way this has been by far one of my favorite semesters if not like top two guys Taiwan is so underrated this city is so peaceful it is such a
• 06:30 - 07:00 wonderful mix of being like you know a very vibrant very diverse City but with so much Tropical Greenery woven into the city in a way that truly feels natural in every single Park you have old people doing Tai Chi doing sword fighting doing meditation and yoga like spirituality and balance is built into the way of life here I don't feel hustle culture in the way that I felt in Seoul in London it's just amazing like this country's just amazing people are so kind so warm
• 07:00 - 07:30 I don't know how much you know about Taiwan but it's also a very Democratic country they were the first country in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage it's generally very liberal with a lot of subcultures and hip music underground scenes I loved it I absolutely loved it I could I would even imagine living here honestly I also worked on my thesis so much in Buenos Aires that I didn't have too much work this semester I really tried to be methodical and just split up the work a little bit every week so I didn't have this awful final push that a
• 07:30 - 08:00 lot of people had in that last summer so yeah it's been great oh good question did you learn Chinese Mandarin during your time in Taipei apart from the odd few words like Shish yeah which is no meat please um no I did not unfortunately but I did learn the language of every other city that I lived in during Minerva I learned Korean for a year before going to Seoul I learned Spanish and German for Buenos Aires Germany the way that I learned Spanish and German was a way that I wish
• 08:00 - 08:30 I could have learned Chinese like I just absolutely do this method I don't know if you've ever heard of lingoda but that kindly the sponsor of today's video they are life-changing if you want to learn a language lingoda runs two-month learning Sprint challenges where you pick a language from German French Spanish English or business English and then you have a class every day or every other day for two months they're small online group classes with a native speaking teacher they're super flexible you can book them any time of day which were
• 08:30 - 09:00 busy University students like me is so essential you just go on the platform you book a Time book a class and it's also really flexible depending on your learning level like I could easily drop back into learning German at the level that now suits me and guys you just learned so quickly when you have to speak you're having to interact with in the language you're not just you know like on an app trying to learn vocabulary and then never using it and it enriched my experiences so much I remember even when I was in Berlin my roommate wanted to pick up a package she went to the pickup location they only spoke German they refused to speak
• 09:00 - 09:30 English and she was having such a hard time getting her packet and so she's like Jay can you come with me and like try and translate and try and communicate and I was so scared obviously but I went and I did it and I was shocked how much I understood and was able to communicate and like sort out this problem it makes me feel like you belong in a place when you can communicate if you're looking to reach New Heights in whatever language you're learning I cannot recommend lagoda enough it helps to stay motivated and reach your goal and you can even get a discount if you click the link below and use the code Sprint Jade you can get 20 euros or 25
• 09:30 - 10:00 off and if you complete all the classes you get all your cash back which is insane so many of my friends did it and didn't miss a single class and got fully refunded and basically learned a language for free so I highly recommend it as always big thank you to lingona for sponsoring today's video they're just the best and so supportive of this channel we love them someone asked what is the most memorable moment you had in Taipei I actually have a really clear moment already because I did some Reflections yesterday so this is one of them so me and my roommate Fong who I
• 10:00 - 10:30 literature adore she's one of my best friends we went on a trip just the two of us to Sun Moon Lake this Lake firstly it has the most gorgeous name Sun Moon Lake come on it's beautiful it's in nature the Sun was shining for our entire trip you could cycle you could get food and just Ponder your life by the water and me and Fong had this one night where just as the sun was setting we went down and we sat by the lake and we brought our journals for my birthday she made me an album of photos of us and so we sat
• 10:30 - 11:00 and we looked through them and kind of reminisced our memories and then we put on my late night road trip Vibe Spotify playlist and sat and journaled for an hour and just really reflected on how we were feeling and the state of ourselves within the semester and what this semester has meant for us and there was something so intimate about The companionable Silence of being with her and just both of us you know very deep within ourselves reflecting and then sharing our thoughts and for me in that
• 11:00 - 11:30 moment I just felt such peace in my life and I was writing how this is the kind of friendship I won I want this exact feeling I have right here that was a very memorable moment now we're on to to the tea that you want graduation I'm not even kidding when I say 60 of the questions were about what are you doing after you after you dream about uni are you scared are you uncertain does graduating scare you or are you excited I would be lying if I told you I'm not scared I am
• 11:30 - 12:00 terrified I know a lot of people by the time that they need to leave University or High School genuinely feel excited and ready to leave I am not one of those people I absolutely adore the bubble of University I love learning I love being a student I adore my friends and even though this one other thing has been so crazy I have loved living in so many places and exploring with friends I really feel like I've lived my dream life in many ways and yeah I just feel terrified because I don't have a clear
• 12:00 - 12:30 plan unlike a lot of other friends I don't have my bougie Bank job in New York I'm unfortunately not going to sell my soul to Investment Banking in Canary Wharf it just feels like the end of an era I know I'm not gonna live in the same place maybe even the same country as most of my friends with my degree because it's a US institution we get a one or three year visa for the US and so technical could go work in SF or New York and most of my friends will be living in the US especially those from
• 12:30 - 13:00 countries where the currency is less valuable it makes so much sense to help pay off loans to be earning in dollars but I thankfully don't have the same Financial pressure to go earning dollars like earning in Euros or Pounds would be equally as valuable and right now I really am craving a bit of home I'm craving a bit of stability I really miss my parents I think the older you get the more aware you become of your loved ones mortality and time feels ever more precious and I've really not been that present in my loved ones lives for the
• 13:00 - 13:30 last four years so yeah right now I'm planning straight after graduation to go home for at least a few months and while almost all my friends have gotten jobs or graduate plans master's degrees phds I've almost intentionally not I don't want to move to New York right now this degree has been so much so so much and I feel I have not had the chance to process all these lives that I've lived and I really feel like I need almost a
• 13:30 - 14:00 morning period of who I was during my degree I don't feel like I can build a new life right now I feel like I need to process these lives I've lived in order to then build so I just want to be in my hometown to stay at home which I know is a luxury to be able to just like go home and live with your family but that's my plan at least for the near future and at least in my circles I think there is a big stigma around not knowing what you want to do and choosing not to jump straight into work but I also understand that it's a sign of privilege right
• 14:00 - 14:30 because a lot of people would also love to go home and can't for various reasons or have extreme pressure to start working straight away and I do have a source of income through YouTube but yeah in terms of plans for career which I've had so many questions on my dream life situation right now is to do YouTube part-time and then to do something else also part-time which I don't have to choose just for financial gain but if something truly impactful right now I'm most interested in the spaces of education and climate I did a
• 14:30 - 15:00 huge Deep dive into edtech during Buenos Aires calling so many Founders and took the startups trying to understand more about the edtech scene in the UK and the US I was speaking to a lot of product managers trying to son of that role was for me I'm also really passionate about changing the education system I just think it needs to change and my degree is focused a lot according to science of learning and Bridging the Gap between what we know about learning and the way that school systems are run so that's an area of interest but increasingly I feel like I should be contributing to the
• 15:00 - 15:30 space of climate awareness climate Crisis Prevention because we have such a short window like guys it's actually scary thinking about how much climate change is going to affect us all within the next 10 years and how much it's already affecting people especially in the global South black and brown communities like this is an issue that needs to be solved and I know some wonderful Founders storytellers policy advocates in the climate space and yeah I'm thinking about maybe doing something that basically I'm open and I'm trying
• 15:30 - 16:00 to see my life as full of opportunity and exciting possibility rather than being scared about the fact that I have nothing right now because the more that I adopt this scarcity mindset the less incredible things come into my life the more I say there is no opportunity for me the more that I internalize that then the less things I will find because I'm not looking through this lens of wow the world is abundant so I'm trying to adopt that lens as long as I live authentically by what I want to achieve
• 16:00 - 16:30 in this world doing this world the fact that I want to take time for myself to rest and really move from a place of intentionality in my career I believe good things will come I believe I'll end up in the right space so yeah that is kind of a wishy-washy way of saying that I have absolutely no idea and I'm terrified if you have graduated please give me advice I'm so scared to lose one of my friends and to lose my sense of purpose in life and like post graduation depression I've heard as a thing and I
• 16:30 - 17:00 don't want her do you have a graduation ceremony I do so I'm actually flying to San Francisco tomorrow for a one month intense graduation month which is overkill right a month the first two weeks we have thesis defenses we meet experts from our industry and have to defend our thesis we have to teach classes based on our thesis we still get graded so it's like oh stressful but in the final two weeks it's like the ceremony actions my parents are gonna fight to sa
• 17:00 - 17:30 I can't wait oh asking them real questions do you think a Minerva degree has the same employability as other uni degrees I think every single student in my university has had the crippling fear that no it probably has a worse employability than more legitimate degrees even though we're accredited you know we don't have the reputation that say Oxbridge has but I am so glad I can prove that hypothesis wrong I am in awe of alumni and my friends and their
• 17:30 - 18:00 future prospects I have friends doing post-grad degrees in Oxford Cambridge Harvard Colombia so our degree is recognized yay I have friends going to work at McKinsey JP Morgan doing lpc's in law going on to do medicine I have so many friends who are going on to be software engineers in various startups in meta and Google we're very Tech focused University so a lot of people go on to do Tech stuff we have friends in policy a friend working at IBM I have friends who are filmmakers one is an assistant director at National Geographic they basically I'm not scared
• 18:00 - 18:30 this degree equips people with life skills and a way to think differently so I think we have a bit more of a challenge to sell our degree to make people understand it but I'm not scared in terms of employability I believe we're valuable what do you think you'll miss most when you leave Taiwan and other countries that you've stayed in friends and this phase of life student phase of life where I am just
• 18:30 - 19:00 learning all the time and my my job my full-time role is to learn to have intellectual discussions to be really curious to sit with friends and reflect on our learnings about ourselves and even though I believe you can do that in future life and adult life I just know that the structure of our days will change a lot and give people less Freedom so yeah that's what I'll miss oh what do you do to process change I write a lot I think writing is my biggest coping mechanism I am such a journaler after
• 19:00 - 19:30 every chapter of life every semester I ask myself a lot of reflection questions in what area of Life did I grow the most do I have any regrets favorite memories and that helps me process it for sure this video is so long oh my God wow there's so many sections matched such a good question what would you tell little Jade who got rejected from Oxford now that you're done with your degree Jade you don't know this yet but this is the best thing that's ever happened to
• 19:30 - 20:00 you more on the loss of it feel the loss of it but also understand that this universe has incredible things ready for you that you just can't see yet and in four or five years you're gonna look back and realize just how much you've grown and also just how much you've unlearned that maybe Oxford wouldn't have allowed you to unlearn in terms of attaching your sense of self-worth to academic Excellence you're happy you're content and you're thriving
• 20:00 - 20:30 that's all you need to know what do you want to say to all those people that thought Minerva was a bad idea to attend I get it I really get it like fully fully agree to be honest at that time reading the website looked fake but I would also say if you ever feel gut feeling that it's worth taking a risk for something dare yourself to try the worst thing that could have happened to me is I wasted a year of my life trying a university that okay it doesn't end up that good maybe I lose some money that's all right you have to do that sometimes in life but yeah I would also say about
• 20:30 - 21:00 Minerva so Minerva is expensive it is expensive if you come from the UK Minerva is like uh like unfathomable amount of money if you come from the US it's considered very cheap but with accommodation City experiences all of this stuff it adds up to like 25k a year but what I would note is that 90 of students are on very high financial aid scholarships and work study so I know almost no one who pays that full amount like financial aid is so generous at our uni so please
• 21:00 - 21:30 consider if you think that whatever could be for you in terms of how I financed it so I have a part scholarship and a loan but also I paid for everything myself through YouTube which is insane I feel very fortunate that this financial burden didn't have before my family I basically got to invest in my own education through the help of you guys and this platform so thank you so much for supporting me genuinely so many more good questions so little time how is your definition of friendship changed through the years I believe friendships work in concentric circles and friends
• 21:30 - 22:00 are always moving between these circles sometimes you have people who are this close some people you have you know more of the periphery and based on context based on similar Lifestyles life bringing you together people will shift in and out like starting a long distance friendship with someone might push them slightly to the periphery that's okay it doesn't mean that they're any less close because the next time you meet they'll collapse back into this Inner Circle I also believe friends can serve different purposes and that's amazing you can have friends who you go clubbing with friends
• 22:00 - 22:30 who you reflect on life with friends who talk about business career plans more topical discussion but for me my absolute core friends I think I've noticed three main qualities that I look for firstly is mutual effort we are led to believe that friendships should be effortless and I do not think that that is true especially an adulthood friendship takes time energy planning it's choosing to call it's choosing to put a recurring meeting in your calendar and sticking to it and within this it's
• 22:30 - 23:00 a commitment to keeping this person up to date on big things that happen in your life so for example if I have a life update you it's up to me to put in the effort to inform all the people I view in this closest Circle of that life update and I expect that they'll do the same with me that is the perception of closeness second is that they're a safe space and I don't ever feel judged and I just feel like I can be vulnerable with them they can be vulnerable with me that is friendship and thirdly is that we both receive Mutual value in whatever way that looks like so as I said friends
• 23:00 - 23:30 can have different purposes but I think both people should be feeling like they grow within this relationship for whatever reason so yeah that's friendship someone also asked how do you intend to keep in contact with all your friends firstly is talk about expectations I'm about to enter a long distance friendship with most of my friends and I think it's really important to understand what long-distance friendship means to me and what it means to them does that mean calling once a month does it mean never calling and agreeing to meet up in
• 23:30 - 24:00 person once a year does it mean texting every few days what do you expect what do I expect and compromise because I think if you don't have that conversation really tangibly someone will always feel sad and forgotten and that's how the Friendship dies so talking about it then I absolutely love recurring calls so putting in your Google calendar once every two weeks to have an hour catch up or doing things like book clubs and reading the same books so that we can discuss them one of my friends is creating a newsletter
• 24:00 - 24:30 where she's going to update us on her life every month so there's different strategies but it really depends on the person and you and being as realistic as possible so the expectations are properly set such a lovely question what is your relationship with your body like right now I don't think about my body in the best way I love my body like I just feel so truly comfortable with my skin more than I ever have in my whole life I'll wear what I like in Berlin I went to a naked sauna guys I'm British that's
• 24:30 - 25:00 not something we British people do but it was the first time that I felt like I desexualized bodies and my mind and just realized that we all we all have bodies they all look different they don't look like the bodies we see in adverts that's cool that's fine we all have stretch marks we all have like funny little things about our body that we're insecure about and we should just embrace it and we're all so gorgeous and the way we take up space so differently is something that should be celebrated and the more you feel that your body is your home your place within this world the easier the better your
• 25:00 - 25:30 life becomes I really know what it's like to feel insecure about your body I've really been there um but yeah if you're struggling just keep committing to healing and one day someone will ask you a question about it and you'll realize that you don't really think about it anymore I have at least 20 questions I wanted to answer in this video still one other absolutely massive theme of my life has been love relationships and sexuality but it's not something I want to squeeze into a 5-10 minute video so I'm gonna be really annoying and Save to talk about
• 25:30 - 26:00 that in a future video I'm sorry don't come for me it's a big big theme of my growth and life but yeah I just wanted to say thank you so much for being here my casual magic today was going to buy a soy milk from my favorite soy milk breakfast place and I've been there so frequently that the woman just recognizes me and has memorized my order and so she got me my soy milk tea with no sugar and just her smile and energy made me feel so good if you watch to this point please share with me some
• 26:00 - 26:30 kind of mundane moment of your day that felt magic to you for whatever reason it can be the taste of your tea and can be the way that a light comes into the room just share with me a moment from your day and if you share it with some kind of plant Emoji I would do my best to reply to you thank you so much for watching [Music] thanks