The Journey from Fear to Freedom | The Michael Singer Podcast

Summary

In this episode of the Michael Singer Podcast, the journey between birth and death is explored, emphasizing the pervasive influence of fear in our lives. Singer challenges listeners to question how we choose to spend our limited time, highlighting the underlying fear that dictates our actions and decisions. The episode delves into the human tendency to build protective walls, driven by fear of rejection and emotional hurt. By understanding and addressing these fears, one can transcend them and lead a life filled with genuine love, joy, and inspiration. Rather than suppressing fear, embracing and working through it is proposed as the path to true spirituality and freedom.

Highlights

• Life is a limited journey; decide what you truly want to do with it. 🌍
• Fear is a constant in life, but it can be managed and transcended. 💪
• People often construct self-concepts based on fear of rejection. 🏗️
• Love and relationships often operate on a conditional trust driven by fear. 💔
• True freedom comes from handling reality without constant self-protection. 🚀

Key Takeaways

• Life is short, and it's important to question how you want to spend your time between birth and death. ⏳
• Fear, both physical and psychological, often dictates our actions and creates unnecessary barriers. 😨
• Building walls to protect yourself from fear hinders true personal growth and happiness. 🚧
• Embracing fear rather than avoiding it leads to a richer, more fulfilling life. 🙌
• True spirituality is about being free from oneself, not just free for oneself. 🌟

Overview

In this enlightening episode, Michael Singer takes listeners on a profound journey through the concept of fear and its omnipresence in our lives. He dismantles the idea of societal and personal constructs built upon the avoidance of fear, urging a more conscious approach to life. By understanding and facing these fears, we unlock a deeper connection to joy and love, transforming our brief time on this planet into a meaningful experience.

Singer presents the idea that fear doesn't just manifest in obvious ways; it's deeply embedded in the very fabric of our daily lives, influencing decisions from relationships to personal achievements. He challenges us to dismantle these self-imposed barriers, suggesting that embracing fear could lead to a life filled with joy and inspiration. Rather than suppressing or ignoring fears, he encourages a more introspective path towards true spiritual freedom.

The discussion delves into how societal pressures and personal expectations often lead people to build lives around fear of rejection and failure. This podcast episode is a call to arms to break free from these chains by embracing fear as a natural part of life. By doing so, we free ourselves to enjoy life more openly and passionately, leading to an authentic existence rich in love and inspiration.

The Journey from Fear to Freedom | The Michael Singer Podcast Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 welcome to the Michael Singer podcast presented by sounds true in partnership with Shanti Publications for more information about Michael singer's work access to all prior episodes and information about upcoming releases we invite you to join us at Michael Singer podcast.com
• 00:30 - 01:00 [Music] g g Masters you drop down into this planet you're going to live here for few years you're going to leave that is an absolute truth what you do between that time of
• 01:00 - 01:30 birth and death is what you call your life you have to step back very very often and ask what do I want to do in this time between my birth and my death you're going to die whether it's 70 80 90 100 years so what meaningless numbers you have a limited amount of time time between your birth and your
• 01:30 - 02:00 death to live your life to not continuously ask what do I want to do with that time is ridiculous it makes no sense it's your time it's not your parents' time not your preacher time not your children's time do you understand that you got to get that out of your head you just were given this time
• 02:00 - 02:30 between birth and death but we don't ask that why because we're afraid constantly constantly Afraid from birth to death now some people want to argue I'm not afraid I work out I got a gun why do you have a gun because I'm afraid why do you learn martial arts because I'm afraid but because I know martial arts I'm Not Afraid no that's not true
• 02:30 - 03:00 what you've done is put something out there to protect you from experiencing your fear but you are afraid period If You're Not Afraid physically you're afraid psychologically I'm not trying to curse you I'm trying to ask you to be honest you're afraid psychologically you're afraid of being rejected you're afraid of someone saying they love you and then leaving you're afraid of saying something stupid you're afraid of dropping some ketchup on your pants and having to go back to work you're afraid that it will rain tomorrow
• 03:00 - 03:30 or that a hurricane will come aren't you you're afraid a wise person catches on that that's what's in there not in the end but for now what's in there is fear and what you spend your life doing is attempting to create walls inside and outside and manipulate situations people plac and things so that you don't have to feel the fear okay I want to be accepted why cuz I'm
• 03:30 - 04:00 afraid and if I'm accepted I feel more secure if you say you like me I mention love me I can quote trust you trust you to do what do you really love me can I trust you what does that mean trust you to be the way I need you to be so that I don't feel afraid so that I can feel safe right have to feel safe because I'm scared all of it comes down to that Primal Fear every animal has it we love
• 04:00 - 04:30 the deer they run away we're not going to hurt them but it's just natural survival Instinct that survival Instinct in the human has evolved if you want to call it that I call it devolved into the psyche also you're not just afraid of getting hurt physically you're afraid of getting hurt emotionally and mentally do you understand that people do all kinds of things to protect their ego don't they do you ever defend yourself I don't
• 04:30 - 05:00 mean with martial arts or a gun do you ever defend yourself all the time all the time somebody says something you defend yourself somebody says that somebody said something that they thought somebody had a dream about you and it wasn't good you're defending yourself who why I never did anything I don't even know the person that's called defending yourself what are you defending physically no this fear thing is very very deep
• 05:00 - 05:30 the entire ego is made because not made out of fear is made because of fear I told you yesterday we talked about it you're in a relationship somebody threatens leaving you what do you say oh please no I can change how do you want me to be wow that's intense what does that mean I made up a me I've been developing it for years it's what I'm building some people built buildings build a me and I'm building it
• 05:30 - 06:00 and I build it based on acceptance and rejection and so if I'm not behaving and being away that you want to stay with me and love me and take care of me I'll just change okay that means your fear of that pain that fear of rejection that fear of being hurt that fear of something happening that screws up your psyche you are afraid of that aren't you is stronger than anything it's the entire core of the whole thing that's what the ego came from the ego came because you
• 06:00 - 06:30 dropped down into this body who did Consciousness awareness of being dropped down into the body and it's overwhelming there's all these senses and Impressions and words and feelings and oh my God it's very overwhelming and you need to get it together so you can handle it fear do you try to handle things because you're afraid of on planets middle of nowhere that's the difference a great being wakes up like this I'm back what's
• 06:30 - 07:00 going to happen today who cares it'll be fun you're comparing your experience today with other experience other people's experien why don't you compare it to being on Mars where there's nothing happening or Jupiter or Saturn or out in empty space Oh how you doing good it's a good day I had a really really good day right you have the right to do that but you're afraid you're afraid that things will happen that will bother you that you your job or that
• 07:00 - 07:30 somebody will leave you or that somebody will criticize you or that you'll look stupid now they teach you which is fine positive thinking which is a wonderful thing there are times to use it but to be afraid and build a wall to protect yourself and then be positive about it I'm not afraid I'm not afraid I own a bunch of guns I'm so rich nobody could touch me I got the best lawers in the world why because I'm scared to death and so you eventually catch on that deep
• 07:30 - 08:00 inside everything you're doing is to protect yourself from the inner fear that is in there and you know it is in there and you don't want to go there you don't want to feel it and so you do whatever you can you dress a certain way act a certain way look a certain way get cosmetic surgery just do all kinds of things to make it so that this thing you're putting out there feels safe and feels accepted and you take wedding vows I know the vows say for better or worse
• 08:00 - 08:30 till death through his part that's why there are no divorces because they really hold to that right the statistics are that 50% of all marriage in United stat of America end up a divorce so what is this as long as I feel safe in your presence as long as I feel acceptance and love and things that I need to feel I'll hang out here and if I don't uh bye and I told you important that trust thing is really big you don't
• 08:30 - 09:00 look at it that way you think it's a really great thing to trust somebody it's better than not trusting them I agree but that's not a very high bar but it means I trust you means I believe that you will behave the way I want you to what you trust it you know what what true trust is here I trust you will be who you are because you will but that's not what you mean by trust is it no I TR you're a going to be the way you are you'll be the way I want you to be you love me enough that you change it all and you just don't hurt me and just be good okay
• 09:00 - 09:30 and so you wake up and you realize there's fear in there and you got choices that is either go outside by the way to me outside means different than what it means to most people if you're in here seated in the self withness consciousness your mind is outside of you your emotions are outside of you there are things that you experience so one way to protect protect myself is to rationalize use the mind to
• 09:30 - 10:00 make things be okay and to protect the emotions then I go outside and try to get all you guys have not trouble getting me together trying to get you guys to behave where I want you to so that what I made up inside to protect myself works if I sit there and I I'm an instrumentalist right and I play really well and everybody claps when I go back out there next time you best clap okay I don't want no booze because it's going to destroy my self-concept is
• 10:00 - 10:30 destroy what I built to protect myself your entire self-concept was built to protect yourself mommy mommy what does that mean she better be there I don't want a different woman or man every single night to put me to bed when have a baby I need solidity don't I why cuz I'm scared because I don't know who I am because I'm clinging Bud call it clinging I'm grabbing for things that I can hold on to to and say okay this is
• 10:30 - 11:00 who I am that's my mommy that's my wife that's my husband that's my daughter that's my job that's my boss that's the success I had in fifth grade playing Dorothy and Wizard of Oz here I still kept the pamphlet you're defining yourself because you're not okay and so you define this self and you put it out there but that's very dangerous why because if it's not accepted you fall has anyone ever fallen apart that has it ever fallen apart literally Fallen apart
• 11:00 - 11:30 you don't know who you are you don't know what's real you can't even relate to what's happening yes or no what is that all about it's about the fact that I built this false concept of myself in order to protect myself the ultimate proof that is there to protect yourself is have it fall apart how do you feel good it's like the worst experience you've ever had in your entire life you're scared to death of that okay that's because you're scared inside
• 11:30 - 12:00 I told you how's it great being live their life they wake up in the morning I'm back hi what's going to happen today it'll be fun things will happen I'll get hired I'll get fired it'll rain it'll be sunny people will like me people will hate me be real kind to me people yelling at me why can't we all right because there's no need to protect yourself you're able to handle whatever happens it's so deep that people understand understand what true
• 12:00 - 12:30 spirituality is about true spirituality is not about you have a strong ego that you're capable of attracting to yourself what you want you're capable of doing whatever you want I'm a free being no it's not about being free for yourself it's about being free from yourself what does it mean to be free from yourself I can handle reality what does that mean I'm Not Afraid well what if there's fear I'm not afraid of fear fear is a perfectly normal human emotion isn't it animals haveit your body came up that way there can be fear
• 12:30 - 13:00 can you handle it sure it's fear can there be pain not talking about excruciating but can there be pain can you hurt yourself can something happen you're playing volleyball go to blocking you get a black and blue mark on your wrist you're going to quit no you go back and play you can handle things not because you're so strong I told somebody the other day it's not that you have a thick skin
• 13:00 - 13:30 that you have no skin way greater everything's able to pass through a thick skin means I'm able to handle it I can protect myself even though it's very strong what's hitting me that's not a great state you have to spend the rest of your life protecting yourself your rest of your life behaving a way that nothing will bother you if you're open enough and you're not in the resisting and fighting and filled with fear it comes in and it passes through
• 13:30 - 14:00 it's like the white lines on the road they're there you see them but you don't have nightmares about them you don't think about them all the time you don't like them or not like them they're just things in the universe can you be that way about everything can you love somebody with all your heart with no protection and realize at any moment they could leave you or they could change or whatever it is and that does not change the love you have for them or ability to stay open and feel love I'm
• 14:00 - 14:30 challenging you that means you have dealt with fear you've dealt with an understanding that if you love somebody and they leave you it's going to hurt fine it's an experience it's an experience in life if you really build yourself upon the platform of you know expecting this job and the people this and the other thing and it starts to fall apart it's a learning experience it proves that it wasn't real if it can fall apart it wasn't real it was built on top of sand as Christ
• 14:30 - 15:00 put it you built your house on sand that's what he means by the way didn't he say that don't build your house on Sand he not talking about construction he's talking about in air the house you built to live in you built on Sand you built a made up stuff I just made it up this is who I am oh you don't like it okay I'll change and that's it so a great being has learned how to Let It Go not protect it that's what we're talking about this protecting thing do you
• 15:00 - 15:30 protect yourself about everything and somebody says they're going to call you in an hour and they don't you worry where were you why didn't you call what's happening I I trusted that you said you'd call and you wake up and you realize I'm sitting in here filled with fear and I've either successfully or unsuccessfully built a model inside myself of thoughts and emotions that are strong enough or not strong enough to handle what's under folding plus I
• 15:30 - 16:00 manipulate and control the outside people places and things so I can handle them understand that I ensure myself and I get this and I get like unbelievable what we do because we're scared and it ends up running our entire lives spirituality is learning how to deal with that not protect yourself from it there is a way that you can live in this world between your birth and your death that is nothing but exciting and
• 16:00 - 16:30 educational and evolutionary and oh my God filled with love filled with joy filled with inspiration all the time some people teach you in order to feel love you have to know what it's like to not feel love in order to be happy you have to know it's like to be said it's not true it's called Duality it's not true there is a state inside of you that you are completely filled with love joy inspiration energy all the time well what if something
• 16:30 - 17:00 happens that ego doesn't like you like that you like going through I mean in the Olympics what do they do they take the most CH my God what these people try so hard they take the most challenging thing that anybody could ever do they try to do it why to dig down inside yourself and be inspired to handle and try and do the best that you can there that's a good way to live your life when your birth and your death in other words every single day you're a greater person you were the day before are you willing
• 17:00 - 17:30 to do that of course not why because you're not willing to deal with that stuff deep inside of you what you want to is protect yourself so you don't have to deal with that spirituality is a totally different attitude is basically saying I'm not there yet I have trouble with myself therefore I have trouble with you you don't have any trouble with anybody you have trouble what happens inside of you when you face them I I'm afraid of what you're going to say to me I don't want to see you walk around the block and avoid you why somebody doesn't
• 17:30 - 18:00 know you they're not afraid of you okay but yesterday you said some I didn't like okay you do it all the time so spirituality is saying I don't want to be strong enough or Rich enough or powerful enough to control you and everybody else so that I don't have to deal with myself spirituality is about I don't want to have to control you we'll talk about later about how you interact with the world when you get to that state you're still going to interact but you won't interact to protect yourself
• 18:00 - 18:30 you won't interact to make sure that things are going to be the way you need them to be so you can handle them okay so you sit there and say I want to be able to handle reality then people say I want to meditate I want to do Mantra I want to go to Tibet I want to be a guru no I want to be able to handle reality you can do those other things too they're fun all right but I'm telling you it's about I want to handle reality I want to be able to wake up in the morning and know that whatever happens today I will be fine now I'm ready to deal with it after just sit there and look at it that way you can't love if
• 18:30 - 19:00 you're afraid of getting hurt you can feel relative love you know as long as everything's the way you want it to be and people behave the way expect them to you can feel some openness but if you're afraid of being hurt you'll never know what Real Love is Real Love is something inside of you has nothing to do with anybody else it has to do with the fact that I am open and I'm not going to close and there fear inside of me it's not about manipulating you so I don't feel the fear it's about letting go of the fear it's about me learning to
• 19:00 - 19:30 handle the fear so that I can feel love I'm trading fear for love it's a negotiation transaction okay and a really good one you understand that okay to trade fear for love who would want to do that you don't do it you let the fear take your love away so you have to decide do you want love or do you want fear it's a decision we're talking about again what do you want to do with your
• 19:30 - 20:00 life do you want to live your life protecting yourself from the fear that you refuse to deal with or do you want to live your life filled with love do you want to live your life filled with inspiration no matter what happens that nothing can take it away from you you've reached that state because you're all capable of that state the problem is and people won't say this to you and teach you this you're not even trying to do that you're spending all of your energy all of your mind all of your emotion every money everything to try to protect yourself from the fear you have inside
• 20:00 - 20:30 you don't even admit you have a fear because you're so far away from it right here's your fear I got to get a job that's secure enough with an employment contract that guarantees me a golden parachute etc etc why I'm not afraid you are so why do you need to eat all that what's going on you're devoting your life based on your fear but you're not looking at that you're looking at how Su here's success I managed to avoid my fear I managed to have a Rel relationship where we all got along I
• 20:30 - 21:00 don't to be afraid and I trust completely every single thing I succeeded in it therefore I'm success no you're not a success you have to struggle constantly to protect it to keep it together you know that what do you think stress is what do you think worry is here take the richest people in the world politicians different stuff they sleep all night right it's hilarious nowadays it's just a constant battle to try to protect yourself isn't it to try to win try to succeed you just you're afraid you're afraid and so you
• 21:00 - 21:30 wake up and you say what am I going to do between my birth and my death I'm not going to do that I am not going to sit there and harbor deep inside fear that I then have to run through my entire life trying to protect myself from told you you're not protecting yourself from somebody else you're protecting yourself from what they can make you feel inside with a great Saint who brought us the dur statue May shaki very great Saints hardly talked a whole lot very very
• 21:30 - 22:00 quiet very very holy lady filled with shuy she once leaned over to me we were very close and she said Mickey I said yes mother she said don't you just love when they yell at you there's so much energy it's hilarious you just see just the Shakti was coming in energy yelling his Energy Right comes in and it just Center into ecstasy it just Cas transmuted it up to the highest possible thing you are capable of that I know you can't do it now I know it seems
• 22:00 - 22:30 impossible because you devoted your entire life to the drug of protecting yourself there is a way to work with that fear inside of you so it doesn't run your life so instead you wake up in the morning and you're excited because you woke up you're excited to brush your teeth you giggle at the electric toothbrush you're excited to have breakfast you're excited to have lunch you can't wait to go to work can't wait to come home you're excited to see the kids you're excited to not see the kids you're excited whatever it is you're just constantly enthused you've reached
• 22:30 - 23:00 the state you understand I'm seeing a little planet in middle of nowhere for a few years I'm going to have a good time I'm not going to spend my life protecting myself and manipulating everybody else and being afraid they going to do things that I don't like can you relate to that do you understand that well that means you have to be willing to face the fear and learn how to get rid of it learn how to work with it and by the way I said get rid of it I I don't teach that anymore you don't have to get rid of it you just have to be comfortable with it to understand
• 23:00 - 23:30 that like for example sickness is not fun but you can be comfortable people get sick and they're fine they live their life beautifully you can learn to be comfortable with things so it isn't that you make them not happen I can only be comfortable I never get sick if nobody ever leaves me if everybody I move out to the woods I did that move out to the woods and protect myself and blah blah blah and have complete control how about the control there's a key word I just said anybody have control issues everybody has control issues it says a question of to what degree all right but
• 23:30 - 24:00 otherwise you have control issues of course you have control issues you want to feel that things are going to be the way you want them to be aren't you and they're never the way you don't want them to be and you try to control things so they be like that how would you like to never have to do that again for the rest of your life how would you like to never have to do that again for the rest of your life why because you know you're totally okay no matter what happens you will be fine so it doesn't mean you don't interact you interact but you interact because is fun you interact cuz
• 24:00 - 24:30 it's it's expressing the beauty of yourself not you interact because you can't handle things so I have to control them you're capable of that life every single one of you are it's not just some great Saint some great Master there not years and years of toas and intense yoga instead you say why am I afraid and you look at it you can look at it rationally I'm afraid first because I have built an ego that extremely sensitive what does
• 24:30 - 25:00 that mean everything has to be exactly the way I want it to be for me to be okay if I sit there and turn to you and say God I love you so much I've never loved anybody so much my entire life you never say back to me are you sure can you say it again I didn't hear you or if the person says back to you yeah I love you too let's go oh we ain't going anywhere that's that it's that sensitive why because it's built on top of the fear it's it's so thin it has to
• 25:00 - 25:30 be exactly what you want it to be otherwise you get upset otherwise you close down to feel love and inspiration have to be open but you will only be open if the conditions are exactly what you need them to be go to lunch and have them serve food is a little cold a little too small a little too big a little this a little that or a roach run across the floor that's it man you didn't have a nice lunch did you or if it looks a little pale the color or the waiter didn't serve it on the right side they put it on the left side you just ruined your dinner okay it is so
• 25:30 - 26:00 sensitive why because you're scared and so you build these Concepts and Views and opinions and preferences and hopes and dreams that things will be the way you need them to be so you don't have to be scared see you feel okay and they're never that once in a while they'll be that way sure but they don't stay that way not a chance in the world people sometimes say why did it have to happen what did I do you didn't do anything it just happened do you know how many fact have to happen for something to happen
• 26:00 - 26:30 your hair is blonde okay how'd you get that well your grandparents and jeans netic this that the order the die whatever the heck it is right there's eight billion reasons why everything is the way it is isn't it each moment is a CO lessance of all the events that ever happen coming together into this moment and that's why it's raining that's why there a hurricane and that's why the person said what he said and that's why every single thing happens and what your attitude is I don't like that why' you do that to me it's not Wise It's ignoring all of
• 26:30 - 27:00 science ignoring psychology psychology says man is the sum of learned experiences that's your psyche so if you say something to me you just express the sum of your learned experiences to me since you were born Frey will tell you mommy daddy this that everything bad experience every single thing just expressed themselves in front of me and I said how can you say that to me how dare you it's obvious how you can say it to me it's the sum of your learned experiences not the sum of my learned experiences therefore I can't relate to what you said is that wise you're in
• 27:00 - 27:30 trouble if everybody's psyche is the sum of the Lear experiences and you have your experiences and you think I love the fact that you think you're right you think that the way you think is Meaningful and rational no it's the some you learn experiences if you had different experiences you'd be thinking differently die to get married dream your entire life going to get married that have the marriage from Hell War the Roses no you don't nothing do thing some of your learned experiences that's what
• 27:30 - 28:00 everybody is who has had the same experiences of you from the time they were born to where they are right now nobody ever in the history of the universe and nobody ever will because the moments never happen again so there's no way in the world that things are going to be the way you want and if you're little and you say why because they're not supposed to be your stuff is some of your learned experiences every single person all over the world is some of their learned experiences and nobody had the same experiences and then the one I'd like to explain to you I don't
• 28:00 - 28:30 know if you get it the physics and chemistry and just total reality of the moment in front of you is not the sum of your learned experiences it didn't grow up in Massachusetts and go here and take that here it's just a moment it's the sum of its learned experiences the moment of folding in front of you is physics chemistry science there are events that happen throughout time and space that cause that moment to be what it is just like your thoughts of some of
• 28:30 - 29:00 your Lear experiences the world each moment is the some of its learn experiences is it not right aren't all the forces that c why is the hurricane coming well okay there was a warming in the ocean there was this and it was that and L blah blah blah blah blah go ask some meteorologist they'll tell you exactly every single reason and you said say why do I have to have a hurricane that's just completely ignoring reality so the moment in front of you is a some of its learned experiences your head some of your own experiences and they
• 29:00 - 29:30 don't get along do they and that's why you're scared because you know you don't have control of that thing you think you do you do not go on do a relationship you all had relationships right you meet somebody date for a few weeks a month two months something like that start thinking oh this a perfect relation do you think you know that person that person is 32 years old they've had every minute of their life for 32 years that had experiences you know nothing about
• 29:30 - 30:00 you didn't have those experiences and now you're meeting what seems to be expressing itself right now probably because of you you're a learned experience they like you so that's what's coming out have you ever found out that people aren't who you thought they were is that their fault or yours you don't know anybody you can't possibly and so you start getting wise and you start catching on that this fear thing is running everything and this ignorance of manipulating and controlling everything so you don't have
• 30:00 - 30:30 to feel the fear you hear me okay like people sit there and say you know about body language why are you looking why are you trying to interpret what somebody is doing with their body language because you're scared you're trying to figure out what they really mean when they're telling the truth when they're lying what do you care CU I'm scared and I need to protect myself would you like to know the future a great being has no interest in the
• 30:30 - 31:00 future in any way shape or form if there's going to be a car accident I don't want to three years earlier be afraid every single moment that maybe the day the car accident will take place you understand that I want to handle the car accident it takes place I want to live my life I'm not saying I don't do things to rationally drive the car properly that was purpos ignoring stuff but I don't want to sit there and think okay you're getting married I'm psychic I'm not all right the marriage will ask two and a half years and three months
• 31:00 - 31:30 and then there will be very very ugly divorce all right and the children will get really really screwed up all right want to get married no why would I want to get married you see what I'm telling you it's because you want to control things that you want to know the future you will get to a point in your life if you work with your spiritually that all of this is meaningless and everybody else is doing is meaningless you're just fine I'm okay I can handle reality it will rain when it rains it will be sunny
• 31:30 - 32:00 when it's sunny people will be nice when they're nice people in a bad mood when they have a stomach ache people will go through what they need to go through and I can help and I'm there but I don't take it personal you don't have to be a certain way for me to love you how that I'd like to be around that person you be how you are it's beautiful okay we can work together work at it if you want some help I'm glad to help if you just want me to be I'll be there right you have nothing it's called nothing going why because you're not afraid now how do you get to a state like that if I've
• 32:00 - 32:30 convinced you that it's capable and I showed you how absurd it is that you have this time between your birth and your death and you run around being afraid so you wake up and I'm begging you at some point you wake up in your life do I want to waste my life living that way gu you are you're wasting your life you're not enjoying your life you're trying to enjoy your life you're trying to have moments that you feel safe moments that feel good moments there's love instead of I got some work to do I got some serious work to do and
• 32:30 - 33:00 I got to deal with this fear I got to deal with this fear okay how do you do it well people teach you different ways I just like the fact that you're willing to look at it and realize you can transcend this fear you can learn to get higher behind the fear so the fear is not running your life okay now just to make sure we're on the record right that does not mean you don't go to work doesn't mean you don't get married married doesn't mean I have children doesn't mean I have money it
• 33:00 - 33:30 doesn't mean anything like that it means the motive for your life is to express yourself to feel inspiration to be creative right that's what you're doing all the time you're not trying to find something that turns you on you are turned on you're trying to find something that makes you passionate you are passionate about everything okay now how do I live my life Express that come out and give come out and just be okay what a rarity right come out and just
• 33:30 - 34:00 help everybody and do whatever it is but you're not doing it for you because you don't have to do it for you because you don't have any fear and you're fine with whatever happens I want you there I'll be great that's called Liberation jivan MTA a liberated soul is able to live like that I always quote you from the ga favorite parts of the Gita and it it talks about exactly this Krishna is godhead he's talking about Jun his spiritual son and he told him
• 34:00 - 34:30 about the fact that there are great beings out there beings who reach very very very high States and AR said how will I know such a person how could I recognize when I meet someone like that sits he walks he talks like another man how do I know I want to know how to recognize him and what Krishna answered back is just so beautiful he said no you will not know him like that if you would know him cuz he sits he talks the end of the man if you would know know him in Joys he's not
• 34:30 - 35:00 Overjoyed in Sorrows he not over sorrowed he lets goodness come when it will and when it will depart let's Darkness come what it will and it will depart he walks as a Sojourner a stranger in the midst of all the qualities of nature as life changes just as all the rivers and streams of the world pour into the ocean and leave the ocean as it found him it doesn't overflow so the world of sense pours into the yogi and leaves him as it found him at peace
• 35:00 - 35:30 Serene content that's what we're talking about there is a state like that doesn't mean you don't work with the world it just doesn't screw you up you just understand I'm fine not because I'm strong I'm fine because it all passes through how do you get there we can spend 50 minutes with the hour for five minutes talk about why you would want to I hope we've talked about that it's nice to know you can live like that as nice know can be like that inside every
• 35:30 - 36:00 single one of you does not have to be a scared little puppy running around begging to be okay all right so how does one get like that well we said it means not that you don't experience things but that you're able to handle what you're experiencing that is the essence of spirituality if I can handle what I'm experiencing I don't have to be afraid of it if I know that I can handle it fine I can go by my business do the best I can and not worry about about anything ever again for the rest of my life well
• 36:00 - 36:30 how do you learn to handle things you practice that's what I teach you you practice being able to handle things what the really big things my wife leaves me or my kid dies or no no please don't touch those right they may happen and you'll have to handle them but you'll be ready if you sit there and want to play tennis you never played tennis before don't ask me how can I play the William systems in doubles you can't can you practice playing tennis and then maybe become good enough to be a good tennis player yes but you have to
• 36:30 - 37:00 learn it's the same thing with this you have to learn how to handle reality how's that that's the deepest teaching you will ever hear that is the meaning of your life otherwise you're wasting your life protecting yourself from it you sit there and say I want to learn how to handle reality then practice how stop complaining about the weather what difference it make complain about the weather right that's like saying you're not playing your SK taes in a piano you're not practicing tennis
• 37:00 - 37:30 practice being able to handle things I do it with the driver in front of me nice blinker buddy have you read the speed limits 55 you're going 40 come on right is that doing any good have you ever talked to the driver in front of you have you ever talked to the driver in front of you did they hear you then why are you doing it because you can't handle it just take those things call the cost benefit analysis
• 37:30 - 38:00 the cost is 100% the benefit is zero getting upset and up tight cuz get a red light three in a row practice there practice every moment of every day whether there are moments where you're bothering yourself about things that don't do any good to bother yourself about do you or do you not bother yourself about things that you can't change practice letting go of that and as you practice that you get better at something a little bit bigger start with
• 38:00 - 38:30 the weather start with the driver in front of you and next thing you'll know your spouse will come home and walk right through the house and you slam the bedroom door without even saying hello and you look at it it's kind of like the driver in front of you it's kind of like it's hot out it's kind of like a Hurricane's coming must have had a bad day and it don't bother you it made it through that situation made it through but it's disrespectful no it's not they just had a bad day right and so that
• 38:30 - 39:00 part of you will start vomiting into your mind and your heart and you work with yourself if you will work with yourself with those things all day you will change your entire life it's so simple if you're going to bother yourself you're going to be bothered Oprah when I did the interview for living un tethered she said one of the favorite lines I wrote In the book The moment in front of you is not bothering you you're bothering yourself about the
• 39:00 - 39:30 moment in front of you right or wrong how can the person next year is not being bothered by the moment but you are moments don't bother you you bother yourself about the moments even big things what if your spouse leaves you there's a note you come home there's a note hting there dear John and your Catholic and you just can't stand the guy but you can't get divorced you're parents will't let you your preacher W let you and for 15 years
• 39:30 - 40:00 you put up with this junk and all of a sudden there's this letter sitting there you are ecstatic right the moment in front of is not bothering you you're bothering yourself about the moment in front of you it's s your inner State decides how you're going to be about what happened all right so you start learning to work with yourself then it to be that big but you start working with yourself and sitting there saying I would like to reach the point of being okay with everything just literally I'm just okay with
• 40:00 - 40:30 everything and they're beautiful all right now I don't have to worry about me I can help everybody else all right how do you do that practice practice practice you constantly catch yourself bothering yourself about things you can't do anything about they're not meaningful they're nothing and yet you're bothering yourself about them and so what you do is you work with it how do you work with yourself ultimately you attain a seat of witness Consciousness what does that mean it's not that that hard to see you're bothering yourself about the weather
• 40:30 - 41:00 it's h so you're in there watching you see it the moment you see it be conscious enough to say do I want to be like this what is the purpose of me getting upset because it's hot out or because it's raining or because the driver in front of me or because I gu caught in traffic there is a good one get caught in traffic you're not going to go anywhere I don't care how you complain I don't care what you do you're caught in traffic do you have to bother yourself about that can you learn to not can you learn
• 41:00 - 41:30 to work with yourself so that that moment you just do things to raise yourself you do things to let go I use the example I don't care how many times I've done it I'll do it again I learned this back in the 70s I stayed straight through out of any problem right it's hot out it's Florida is hot I had no air conditioning the car the house anything right and the summer it's hot out and he would complain out here trying to meditate he to complain right took him outside and said Micky why is it hot
• 41:30 - 42:00 let's have a discussion I talk to my mind why is it hot he said because the Sun is hot right I said what is the son I asked him and he of course likes astronomy a lot I said what's the son he said a star I said you're close enough to a star to feel it heat you know the little twinkly things out there night you big different all stuff you're close enough to a star to feel its heat that's pretty unbelievable isn't it wow and how much heat is it it's 93 million miles
• 42:00 - 42:30 away and you're feeling it's heat how far away is Miami 360 and you start working with yourself and at some point I now if I get out of my car and I feel the sun I stop I think wow look where I am a little planet spinning around a star that's hot as hell okay if it's that hot 93 million miles away what's it like in there
• 42:30 - 43:00 whoa okay and you just and you start appreciating and being I told you you do not get sunburned you get starb bured who doesn't like stars you got a star out there giving you heat and you use your mind to raise yourself you can do that with everything if you get caught in traffic you can go make yourself an eroic mess you God I didn't meditate this morning time to meditate time to do
• 43:00 - 43:30 a mantra time to sing do some music time to have some fun I can't get there anywhere is raise yourself that's what we're talking about yes it's great that you meditate it's wonderful but you don't meditate all day some people tell me you don't seem to teach meditation no I don't teach meditation why everybody else does that's fine I'm going to teach you what to do when you're not meditating doesn't mean you shouldn't meditate but I want you every moment of your life to do this to raise yourself whenever you can I I
• 43:30 - 44:00 told you you're walking down you see a friend hey Sally how are you doing she doesn't even turn her head didn't even say hello you get hurt don't you what did I do why is she treating me like that she has earbuds on you she didn't hear a word you said and you went through all the perturbations of why she didn't say hello and who told her what and oh my God who should tell somebody else what the other person told her like wow why don't you just make yourself a mess and you start catching yourself as s saying can I handle that Sally didn't
• 44:00 - 44:30 say hello there are 8.3 billion people on the planet Earth they didn't say hello either you can do this are you willing to work with yourself to raise yourself that is true spirituality if you will do that I'm telling you if you practice you get better you may not be a great pianist but if you practice your skills you will be better than if you didn't if you practice you're going to be better than you were same here it's exactly the same
• 44:30 - 45:00 working with yourself if you practice being okay you will get better at it if you practice handling reality you will get better at it and getting better at it means you can handle bigger things than bigger things and eventually you'll get to the point that I'm talking about which is you know what I'm fine I'm fine and guess what I'm always going to be fine why because I said so if I don't let it bother me it doesn't bother me if I have fun when it bothers
• 45:00 - 45:30 me letting it go it's like a video game can I go to level seven and you just have fun with yourself have fun letting go have fun being positive have fun figuring out what you need to do so you're not an erotic mess instead of saying you guys have to behave differently so I'm not an eroic mess my children has to be different my husband has to be different my job has to be different my boss has to be different everything my health has to be different every single thing has to be different
• 45:30 - 46:00 otherwise I worry I get upset and I'm neurotic no I need to work on myself and now you understand what that means you understand why you do it and you can reach this beautiful state if you do it enough just work with things work with things where at some point you realize I'm fine because you know what happens I have to tell you a secret all that noise in the psyche that creates all that disturbance and anxiety and fear and all that when you learn to handle it and let it go you'll realize that was energy
• 46:00 - 46:30 being wasted how many times have you worried about something that never happened how many times throughout your life have you worried about something that never happened that didn't happen the vast majority every single world you have doesn't happen what a waste of energy what a waste of psychological mental and emotional energy when you stop wasting that you will start feeling shocky so people say to me what is shocky that which you feel when you're not wasting
• 46:30 - 47:00 your energy doing that that energy becomes liberated where does it go up you've been holding it down using it to worry and figure things out and protect yourself you use a lot of energy when you stop doing that not because you suppressed it not because you pushed it away you just said I'm fine I'm fine I can handle things then the Energy starts being released to do other things and what it does is it goes up I mean literally you ever feel tremendous love that's so high you can keep your eyes open like
• 47:00 - 47:30 that that shocky it's just no reason unconditionally it just starts flowing up there's a reason it's not being wasted going down and every one of you capable of that and now it gets high now you're feeling all this energy going up it's more beautiful r one said that you reach a point where you realize that what's going on inside of you is higher than anything that can come in from outside you're only feeling more love than you could ever have for anybody but then you share it with people it just
• 47:30 - 48:00 it's beautiful inside you are a beautiful being you're filled with shocky filled with spirit filled with energy but you're wasting it doing this stupid ego stuff right keeping yourself you're wasting your energy holding together that would you think if it gets What It Wants you'll be okay instead of letting a stupid thing go and being okay period from the bottom of your being totally okay and eventually it will get so strong and people talk to me about this it starts flowing up so so strong that you get scared a different type of fear now it's the fear that Christ
• 48:00 - 48:30 talked about you must die to be reborn that's a tot now it's beautiful you're a beautiful human being but you're not human you're Divine to let go of your entire conscious relationship with this the body mind and emotions to where the spirit the shaki the Consciousness is liberated completely you will learn then to let go of that and that's where the great ones went they merged with the universe right how do you yogis know it's all made of Consciousness because you're
• 48:30 - 49:00 conscious and they went to the root of your being and they all went to the same place it was I am the universe my father and I are one okay we talked about a lot of things but most of what we talked about is do you understand how much fear you got in there do you understand how much energy you waste protecting yourself trying to manipulate and control everything and worrying and thinking and doing all this kind of stuff you don't have to do that but you have to be willing to practice being
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