How To Talk To Girls If You're Awkward or Shy

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Summary

In this engaging video, Young Don Reacts dives into the intricacies of approaching women, especially if you're socially awkward or shy. The discussion emphasizes the importance of confidence, testosterone levels, and self-improvement, suggesting that these elements help eliminate anxiety and nervousness. Key advice includes focusing on self-betterment, improving testosterone levels through lifestyle choices like proper sleep and stress management, and simply being in a relaxed state of mind. Ultimately, it’s about being the right kind of guy whose natural aura attracts women without the need for corny pickup lines or trying too hard.

Highlights

Confidence comes from within and is not dependent on rehearsed pickup lines. ✨
Improve your testosterone levels by focusing on sleep and stress reduction. 🛌
Self-improvement naturally boosts confidence and attracts women. 💪
Be genuine and relaxed in conversations; women can sense authenticity. 🌟
Mindfulness and stress management are essential for a confident demeanor. 🧘‍♂️

Key Takeaways

Confidence is key! Becoming comfortable with who you are can make a world of difference. 😎
Focus on self-improvement and hobbies you love to naturally build confidence. 🏀
Enhance your testosterone levels to boost your mood and reduce anxiety. 🏋️‍♂️
Stay calm and relaxed; stress and negativity only bring you down. 🙏
Talking to women involves being genuine and simple—skip the pickup lines. ☕

Overview

Engaging in an informative deep dive, Young Don Reacts unpacks how to navigate social situations with women, focusing on those who identify as socially awkward or shy. He highlights that confidence is born from self-awareness and being comfortable in your skin rather than relying on clichéd pickup lines. Utilizing hobbies and finding happiness in self-improvement can make a huge difference in how you carry yourself.

The discussion also covers the biological aspects that influence confidence, specifically the role of testosterone. Young Don advises that better sleep and stress management can elevate testosterone levels, which in turn creates a more relaxed and assured demeanor. This scientific approach dispels the notion that confidence can simply be willed into existence.

Ultimately, the aim is to be yourself and embrace your own personality. When you are genuine in your interactions, and focus on living a peaceful, mindful life, it organically enhances your aura, making you attractive without artifice. The game plan here is clear: improve yourself for yourself, remain at ease, and relationships will naturally follow.

Chapters

00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to the Topic The introductory chapter discusses the perception of social interactions, particularly regarding how the same action can be perceived differently depending on the individual performing it. Using the example of a corny pickup line, it illustrates that the reception of an action or statement is less about the content itself and more about the person behind it. The chapter introduces a video by Cold Heart Cam on how socially awkward or shy individuals can improve their interactions with girls.
00:30 - 01:00: Importance of Confidence The chapter titled 'Importance of Confidence' discusses strategies for communicating with females, particularly tailored for individuals who are shy or socially awkward. The speaker emphasizes the prevalent use of text messaging in today’s world as a medium for conversation, which provides an avenue for people to express themselves more comfortably.
01:00 - 02:00: Texting vs. Talking in Person The chapter contrasts texting with in-person communication. It discusses how people, especially men, may be confident and smooth when texting a romantic interest but become nervous and socially awkward in face-to-face interactions. This discrepancy often leads to difficulties in personal encounters, indicating a lack of real-world social skills and confidence. It also mentions that women might exhibit similar behavior, where their boldness in text does not necessarily translate to real life.
02:00 - 03:00: Avoiding Corny Pickup Lines The chapter discusses the decline of face-to-face communication skills, particularly in the context of dating. With the rise of texting and online communication, people, both male and female, have become less adept at interacting in person. The speaker advises against using cheesy pickup lines, as they are generally ineffective and unlikely to impress someone intelligent or discerning. Instead, the emphasis is on genuine and sincere communication.
03:00 - 04:00: Focus on Self-Improvement The chapter 'Focus on Self-Improvement' emphasizes the importance of becoming comfortable with oneself before interacting with others, particularly females. It advises readers to stop worrying about speaking to females if they feel shy or awkward and to instead focus on self-improvement and personal passions. The key message is that prioritizing one's own purpose and interests, like playing basketball if that's a passion, leads to personal growth and self-confidence.
04:00 - 05:00: The Role of Testosterone The discussion emphasizes the importance of confidence, particularly in social interactions such as playing football or talking to girls. The speaker criticizes the common advice of 'just be confident' as insufficient and suggests that it doesn't address the root issues of shyness or awkwardness. Instead, the chapter aims to explore more practical and actionable strategies to overcome social awkwardness.
05:00 - 06:00: Managing Stress and Sleep The chapter discusses the importance of managing testosterone levels to improve confidence and mood. It suggests that low testosterone may lead to being shy, reserved, and demoralized. The author humorously mentions administering testosterone injections as a potential solution.
06:00 - 07:00: Benefits of Exercise The chapter discusses the benefits of exercise and its effects on the body's performance and hormonal balance. Engaging in regular exercise can give you the feeling of being able to overcome significant challenges, symbolized by 'running a one-on-one fade with Thanos' or 'pushing through a wall.' Exercise plays a crucial role in enhancing testosterone levels, which is highlighted as a critical factor for men’s success. One key takeaway is the emphasis on the importance of getting adequate sleep, as it contributes significantly to improving testosterone levels and, by extension, overall health and performance.
07:00 - 08:00: Developing Social Skills In this chapter, the focus is on the development of social skills and how they relate to one's overall personality. The author emphasizes the importance of consistency in personality traits across different aspects of life. They argue that one cannot expect to be socially confident and suave in specific situations, like approaching a romantic interest, if they are generally anxious and nervous in other areas of their life. The suggestion is that to improve social interactions, one should work on their general disposition and reduce anxiety and nervousness in various aspects of daily life.
08:00 - 09:00: Mindset and Peace The chapter titled "Mindset and Peace" discusses the physiological benefits of being at peace. Being relaxed and chill leads to lower cortisol levels and higher testosterone levels. The two major factors that influence testosterone levels are the quality of sleep and the resting stress level. The body utilizes cholesterol to produce either testosterone or cortisol, and both hormones are necessary for the body. The chapter emphasizes the importance of maintaining peace for hormonal balance.
09:00 - 10:00: Real-Life Examples and Building Confidence The chapter discusses the impact of cortisol and its relationship with testosterone levels. It explains that while cortisol is an important hormone, having chronically high levels due to constant stress can be detrimental. High cortisol levels result in lower testosterone production because the body cannot simultaneously produce both hormones effectively. The comparison is made to kryptonite, suggesting that stress creates conditions opposite to those needed for testosterone production. Additionally, it touches on common perceptions of testosterone being related to anger.
10:00 - 11:00: Managing Negativity The chapter titled 'Managing Negativity' discusses the effects of testosterone in men, highlighting how it aids in regulating emotions. Higher levels of testosterone contribute to greater emotional calmness and resilience. It enables men to handle stress more effectively, reducing anxiety and making them less prone to intimidation or losing emotional balance. This indicates a significant role of testosterone in emotional stability and managing negativity.
11:00 - 12:00: Conclusion and Final Advice In the conclusion, the focus is on maintaining a biological environment that promotes the production of testosterone. Key advice includes prioritizing ample rest and sleep to lower cortisol levels and reduce stress, as well as aiding recovery. Recommendations are made to ensure sufficient and quality sleep by going to bed before 9:00 p.m. and aiming for 8 hours of sleep each night. Furthermore, the advice strongly suggests eliminating naps altogether to support these efforts.

How To Talk To Girls If You're Awkward or Shy Transcription

00:00 - 00:30 the right kind of guy can do a corny pickup line and she'll think it's cute the wrong guy does the same pickup line and she'll think he's a creep so it's not really about what you say or do it's about who you are how to talk to girls if you are socially awkward or shy video by cold hard cam okay let's go ahead and see what Cold Hart Cam has to say
00:30 - 01:00 what's up y'all man it's Cam bro i'm bringing you another video man straight like that before we get into today's topic bro comment down below what y'all want to see next time bro like and subscribe if you new and let's run it up bro today's topic how to talk to females if you're shy or socially awkward bro now okay understand this bro in today's world not just males but females too bro y'all like to talk over text you feel me text allows you to say what you want
01:00 - 01:30 while hiding behind the screen bro see the problem with a lot of guys is that they'll talk when they're talking to a female right they'll talk this big game you feel me they'll be all smooth you feel me they'll even sometimes be talking freaky but when it comes to in person they're scared to execute they don't know what to do they're fumbling around for words because you nervous and you socially awkward bro this is females too that's why when you texting a female and she on that and she giving you that demon timing right back that mean when you link in person bro she probably not
01:30 - 02:00 going to be on that same type of timing bro because both sides male and female have been so accustomed to just texting each other right and saying whatever and be able being able to hide behind the screen that no one knows how to do [ __ ] in person anymore dog nobody knows how to talk to a female in person bro it's a lost art now understand this i always always always say you never want to do anything corny you never want to hit her with no pickup line because any female with some sense is not going to fall off for some [ __ ] pickup line and that continues on when you're talking to a
02:00 - 02:30 female in person however it is important to be smooth now what do I mean by smooth bro being smooth means that you're comfortable in your own skin dog you have to learn how to get comfortable talking to females and this is how dog look if you're shy awkward and nervous the first thing that you need to do is stop worrying about talking to females if you're shy and awkward around them bro you never f to get better until you start realizing that the most important thing in life is yourself and your own purpose so with that being said get on your [ __ ] grind if you like playing basketball play basketball if you like
02:30 - 03:00 playing football go [ __ ] play okay all right let me give you some real advice here um 100% you need to be confident but the advice of just be confident isn't very helpful how to stop being shy or how to talk to girls if you're socially awkward hey stop [ __ ] being awkward guy that doesn't really help you
03:00 - 03:30 okay so one big thing that you need to address is your testosterone levels here's the thing you could be a shy reserved person who lacks confidence someone who feels demoralized and depressed and then I can take a vial of testosterone and shoot that into your ass pause that's where you That's where you stick the needle really and you're going
03:30 - 04:00 to want to run a one-on-one fade with Thanos you're going to feel like you can push through a wall um the male sex hormone of testosterone is one of the most important determining factor for your success as a man now there are many ways to increase testosterone the most important thing is to get a lot of sleep you see you only get more of what
04:00 - 04:30 you already are you can't be an anxious nervous person in every other aspect of your life you can't be someone who is constantly worried uh in every other aspect of your life and then expect when you approach a girl you're going to be Mr smooth Mr suave if you are the majority of time cuz nobody's perfect if the majority of
04:30 - 05:00 time you are at peace you are relaxed you are chill your cortisol levels are very low your testosterone levels are high the two biggest things that determine your testosterone levels the quality of your sleep and your resting stress level you want to be at peace your body can only make your body takes cholesterol and it makes testosterone or it makes cortisol cortisol is a stress hormone and your body needs both
05:00 - 05:30 cortisol is important but having chronically high levels of cortisol because you're constantly stressed well if your body's making cortisol you know what it's not making testosterone so whenever you're stressed think about that you It's like the kryptonite it's the the opposite state you need to be in in order to make testosterone testosterone oftent times is associated with like being angry and
05:30 - 06:00 but actually in men with testosterone it helps you to ere it helps you to regulate your emotions it helps you to keep calm you become less emotional the more testosterone you have in your body you respond to stress better you become less anxious you're less easily intimidated or set off balance uh but on top of creating a
06:00 - 06:30 biological environment that is conducive to creating testosterone getting ample rest and sleep also helps you to lower cortisol and dissipate stress it helps you to recover and so those two things so of course taking care of your sleep going to bed before 900 p.m trying to get 8 hours of sleep you know or allowing yourself to sleep as much as you need i would say eliminate naps completely bro
06:30 - 07:00 eliminate taking naps why because when you eliminate taking naps you allow your body to build up a sleep deficit you you essentially are building up adenosine in your brain which is a neurochemical transmitter that signals to your body that you're tired uh this is why caffeine keeps you awake because it imitates adenosine it binds to those receptors in
07:00 - 07:30 your brain and thus your brain doesn't get the signal that you're tired and so you want to have that build up as much as possible towards the nighttime so that it's easier for you to fall asleep and you go to bed early and then you sleep as long as you need to sleep so anyway so there's that but during the day you need to practice mindfulness you need to stay in a zone of peace and relaxation become very sensitive to
07:30 - 08:00 feelings of stress and anxiety and anytime you notice that you are feeling these things you need to do engage in some kind of activity to dissipate that one of the best things you can do is of course meditation you can take a a second do some deep breathing bring yourself ground yourself
08:00 - 08:30 in the present moment remind yourself that worrying doesn't accomplish anything remember that what you focus on you attract and so if you focus on the thing that you're afraid of or that you're worried about you're actually putting energy into bringing that thing into existence and so what you need to do is focus on what you actually want to happen think about that happening think about how you'll feel if what you actually want to happen actually happens but there are other things you can do as
08:30 - 09:00 well such as exercise go take a shower there are various things go drink some you know I'm saying some chamomile tea uh some relaxing tea and and just take a breather go for a walk whatever you need to do you need to get that stress out of your life man these low levels of stress stress is helpful in fight orflight situations right when something very urgent something very important a a real
09:00 - 09:30 threat comes at you it gets your adrenaline going it puts you in a zone where you can make decisions very quickly so stress is important cortisol is important but what you don't want is this this constant low level of stress that's just going on all day for some people it's more than a low level of stress and I know this is about talking to girls if you're shy but this is what it all comes
09:30 - 10:00 down to because if that's who you are 99% of the time well then when it comes to approaching a girl guess what that's who you'll still be it's kind of reminds me of basketball right or sports in general they tell you that when you are practicing you should practice the way you want to play right use proper form go at game speed make these things a
10:00 - 10:30 habit why because when you're in a high stress environment i.e when you're actually in the game you won't be in a a place where you can think about every single move you want to make you're going to fall into what you are habitually and so if when you're practicing you habitually practice the way you want to play well then when you get into that high stress environment that do or die environment
10:30 - 11:00 you're going to do all the right things it's the same thing here if you're typically a person who is calm and relaxed well that's how you'll be even in a situation like that so those are the the major factors that are going to make you more confident and uh more calm and more smooth in just every area of your life whether that be trying to speak to your boss about something important whether that be trying to have a difficult
11:00 - 11:30 conversation with a friend or whether that be you trying to talk to a girl that you're attracted to football my [ __ ] and get good at that and that's going to build confidence i promise you bro let me give y'all a personal experience dog in my junior year of high school dog I remember bro I was I was I was not popular i had no homies and I definitely did not have no [ __ ] at all at all bro i'm talking about zero no y'all think you have oh I only got one or two females but that's
11:30 - 12:00 it i need more no [ __ ] i had zero [ __ ] at all so with that being said I was down bad so what happened bro i ran track at the time bro and so with uh uh uh I kept doing track you feel me and I got better at it got better at it and eventually I became not just the fastest on my team but my [ __ ] I was one of the fastest in my entire league one of the fastest in the whole southern section and that naturally built confidence within me bro because I thought in my mind like damn I could do this a whole lot of people can't do this [ __ ] but I
12:00 - 12:30 can because I'm that [ __ ] bro and that helped me develop into the alpha mentality that I have today because even today I still have that mentality that I am that [ __ ] and that's exactly what you have to have once you start working on your craft and [ __ ] like that you will develop that mentality and even if you don't have something like that like a sport or some kind of hobby that you can fall back on bro do something like working out lifting bro i promise you lifting and [ __ ] like that is going to naturally build confidence because lifting what it builds muscle it builds testosterone right and it it makes your
12:30 - 13:00 body look better and you going to get more confident in your own body the more confident you are in your own body your own vessel that you walk around with the more confident you going to be in general dog so yeah I completely agree with that your mindset is incredibly important and going back to curating a mind of peace and relaxation and calm that is like preparing the ground to allow the
13:00 - 13:30 kinds of of seeds that you want to flourish in your life to to take root and prosper right if you are a calm relaxed kind of person then naturally you are going to gravitate to things that just make you better you always get more of what you already are see you can't be a person that is focused on feeling good on being
13:30 - 14:00 relaxed being at peace being chill right having low stress but then entertaining things and people in your life that do the opposite why because those two things are going to be at conflict one with one another if you're somebody who prioritizes keeping a low stress state and there's someone in your life that always causes stress when you interact with them naturally you're going to distance yourself from them
14:00 - 14:30 so similarly um when it comes to working out that is one of the primary ways that you're also going to encourage more testosterone like I said earlier testosterone is the alpha male hormone you can take any beta male any shy timid dude if you start pumping him up with testosterone he will become more assertive more confident more aggressive um he's he's not going to allow people
14:30 - 15:00 to walk over him as much this is just a fact and of course you can naturally boost your testosterone by sleep and cutting out junk food you can still have a little bit of junk food um you know you can have the occasional alcohol beverage but you want to primarily again you get whatever you are most of the time life isn't about perfection and you don't need perfection you just need to be doing the right
15:00 - 15:30 thing most of the time now of course the more you do the right thing the faster the results you get and so yeah if you cut out junk food completely if you cut out alcohol completely if you cut out all the various bad things completely um you're going to see results faster but that is very unrealistic for most people and so you don't need to worry about attaining perfection i say if you can get it do the right thing 80% of the
15:30 - 16:00 time that's you're doing fantastic in my opinion and so um and so that so that's what you want to focus on with working out building muscle your body needs to produce more testosterone to build muscle and so that's why working out creates more testosterone in your body because you lift heavy weights signals to your brain hey these weights are heavy as [ __ ] i need more muscle so that I can move this
16:00 - 16:30 because for whatever reason this [ __ ] keeps trying to move this heavy [ __ ] all the time so let's make some more muscle boom sends a signal to your balls make more testosterone at night make more testosterone you get bigger muscles but it also makes you more masculine more confident more dominant all of that boom with that being said you work on your craft you work on yourself okay so how does that translate into talking to females now when you work on yourself and you work on your body and everything like that that's naturally going to
16:30 - 17:00 build up your options i've said this in the past bro by focusing on yourself that is when females start coming towards you bro the more attention you pay to a female the less she going to pay to you dog the more options you have bro options are start oh my she might DM you right she might Snapchat you she might come up to you in person you have to learn how to talk to these females and the way that you learn is just through experience simply dog so when you talk to these
17:00 - 17:30 females that you build up with options uh or by by working on yourself and building up options you talk to them females bro you feel me uh and you when you talking to him you building up experience now it's important that and I've gone over this before that in conversation you keep sexual tension now what does that mean that basically means that you not over here being a horn dog and asking for news and all this other [ __ ] bro you over here being in your masculine frame you feel me you not being too damn goofy you not being too friendly here's the thing you got to
17:30 - 18:00 already be what you want to be to get it let me slow that down for you you have to assume the state of the person who already has the thing that you desire for it to come to you effortlessly and so talking to women that's it's it's easy it's simple you just talk to them you talk to them like they're your wife you talk to them like they're your girl what are the kinds of conversations you would have with your girl well I'll tell
18:00 - 18:30 you the kind of conversations I have with my girl they're very normal they're very regular look communication is is is best when it's simple and clear uh the problem you have when it comes to talking to girls why it intimidates you is because you're scared of them you're scared to ask for what you want and the reason you're scared is well all of the various things that we we've spoken about and maybe you put the
18:30 - 19:00 girl on a pedestal to make it simple basically what I'm saying is there's nothing to it bro i mean your first interaction with a girl that you want to go on a date with is it's simple you introduce yourself and then you ask her to go on a date it's not [ __ ] rocket science dude there is nothing to do there is no convincing that needs to occur a woman is going to observe what you are and based off of that she will determine whether or not
19:00 - 19:30 she wants to entertain you as a potential romantic interest she's going to feel your aura she's going to feel your energy she's going to see your physique she's going to observe the way you carry yourself she's going to do the biological math in her head unconsciously subconsciously and say "Yeah this is a kind of guy that I would you know what I'm saying have reproduce with right they may not have that thought consciously but that's what's going on in their mind." And so there is
19:30 - 20:00 no convincing that needs to occur they are attracted to what you are and to who you are there's nothing you need to do there's nothing you need to say you just need to be the kind of guy that she would want to reproduce with you just got to be the kind of guy that you'd want to go on a date with and then all you got to do is ask her out on a date it's that simple look at the Chads in any movie they don't do there's not a lot to do there's nothing to do hey I'm so and so would you like to go on a date
20:00 - 20:30 with me that's it would you like to go get coffee sometime it's that's it bro you just got to be that kind of guy there is no convincing that needs to occur cuz you're selling yourself right and when you are the kind of product that a customer desires you there isn't really any selling to do you know they're looking to buy and so if this is a girl in a a state where she's open to
20:30 - 21:00 a relationship well then you just got to be the right kind of product and she will buy the product without any convincing it's very simple and so that's why you don't need to worry about all this extra [ __ ] you just got to be the right kind of guy and again that comes down to you doing all the other [ __ ] that we've already spoken about because that's all there is to it bro you ask her out on a date and guess what when you go on the
21:00 - 21:30 date it's the same [ __ ] you're just being calm chill there's nothing you need to What do I say oh how do I pull out my chair do I open her door do I not open her door uh bro just [ __ ] relax you know what I'm saying just relax just chill and you're going to be relaxed and chill if you have high testosterone if you're calm if you're getting plenty of rest if you're getting plenty of sleep you know what I'm saying you're you're just going to be that guy and u that's
21:30 - 22:00 all there is to it i mean think about the the woman that cheats on her husband with the pool boy the pool boy isn't doing nothing bro he's not trying to res up the the woman he's just existing do you feel me so you just got to exist in that state and then everything else is effortless everything else is is simple it's easy you know what I'm saying and um yeah bro you value your time and when
22:00 - 22:30 you value your time you only talk about things that are valuable to you things that are going to progress into y'all linking later on down the road right things that are going to progress into you getting inside them guts right so that's exactly what you talk about when you talking to these females that come up as options as you continue to work on yourself and as you continue to work on yourself and talk to these options bro understand that even more options is going to come because females attract more females boom you going to have females on females on females and you
22:30 - 23:00 going to uh uh build your experience and you going to end up getting to the point where it's like second nature bro it's like second nature you going to be like "Oh yeah I could talk to this girl because you know I've been talking to I've been talking to girls for however long in my life." You feel me you going to have options on options bro and continuing forward you feel me you going to keep building more confidence by working on yourself and all that [ __ ] dog it's just going to be one big ass chain effect on God now understand this too for a lot of y'all that are nervous around girls bro nervous talking to females bro they are more nervous around
23:00 - 23:30 you than you are of them they are more scared of you than you are of them dog realize that females don't even have self-confidence there's a reason that they won't DM you first there's a reason that they're so insecure bro it's a reason why a female can never be alone in this world it's her reason why she be I don't know if I agree with any of that [ __ ] right there you know what I'm saying um it really just comes down to you would be a fool to think that you can be some kind of like loser beta dude
23:30 - 24:00 testosterone in the [ __ ] gutter no confidence constantly focusing on negative negativity and so that's what you are because you are what you think about and you always get more of what you are and then you can approach a girl like Kim Kardashian or Ariana Grande or Rihanna or you know what I'm saying some a very attractive accomplished woman and think "Oh yeah she's scared of me." Like no [ __ ] I promise you she's not scared
24:00 - 24:30 of you in fact she can smell how anxious and nervous you are around her um and so that's the last thing I'm going to close off with because we pretty much talked about everything that we've needed to talk about you know what I'm saying bro the alpha lion he doesn't try to persuade the lionesses to mate with him they just want to mate with him because he's the alpha so you need to
24:30 - 25:00 ask yourself what do I need to do to become more alpha what do I need to do to become more of the guy the man and it's you know I'm saying doing the things that align with producing more testosterone that align with you being at peace good vibes good energy and so the last piece of advice I'll give you is you need to stop entertaining all forms
25:00 - 25:30 of negativity bro you need to stop entertaining all forms of negativity and I don't just mean um you know I don't just mean negative self-t talk that's first and foremost saying bad [ __ ] about yourself telling yourself I'm a loser telling yourself you're awkward or telling anything negative [ __ ] that you stop that immediately but that's just level one
25:30 - 26:00 it's the most important it's the foundational level of weeding out negativity uh you also want to weed out negative people in your life people that are telling you bad [ __ ] about you you know what I'm saying you don't want to entertain that for a second uh because that's essentially people trying to cast spells on you and it only has power if you give it validity so someone says something bad about you and you start telling yourself that's true
26:00 - 26:30 but the best thing of course is to not entertain those people stay away from those people minimize your interactions with those people as much as possible but the third thing and this is key and it's very easy to overlook you need to avoid negative negativity externally that isn't about you that's that's the next big step we're talking about negative political
26:30 - 27:00 discourse even that video I did recently talking about the um Carmelo Anthony Austin Metaf situation i didn't want to talk about that for a number of reasons but a part of it is because it was negative and because it was so highly demanded that I speak on it i spoke on it but and I'm glad I said what I said i still stand by everything I said in that video but upon reflecting I was like you
27:00 - 27:30 know what could the world have gone on without Young Dawn's perspective on that situation again it has nothing to do with what other people think about my opinion or anything like that it's completely about you want to weed out all negativity in your life and so I'm like dang that was a little bit of negativity out loud in my in my in my energy field in my mind you want to weed
27:30 - 28:00 all that [ __ ] out right nothing to do with you know what I'm saying anything negative bro anything negative anything that creates emotional negativity within you that's the key right i'm not saying that if you can have a conversation about something that is perceived as negative or contentious without becoming emotionally invested
28:00 - 28:30 okay that's fine right so I can have a conversation let's say a terrorist attack happened that's a negative thing that's a bad thing that happened but let's say it happened in a country that I am not emotionally attached to in any way i I'm detached from it completely i can then talk about that thing because it's not generating any negative emotions in me but you know what I'm saying no learning what I've learned about black history
28:30 - 29:00 and you know what I'm saying the negative repercussions of the past what that has had on black people presently i can't help but feel some sort of emotion when I see people saying ignorant stuff pertaining to the black community it gets me irritated it gets me slightly agitated you know what I mean it's the same thing with religion if that [ __ ] gets you emotionally worked up in a
29:00 - 29:30 negative way it is causing you to have negative outcomes in your life it is a source of stress one so it's decreasing your testosterone but two it is it's just you get more of what you focus on you become what you focus on and you always get more of what you are and so that's another big thing you need to do do not entertain anything negative you
29:30 - 30:00 see can you just imagine this a guy who just always feels good a dude who just always feels good he's always in a positive place mentally he doesn't dwell on anything negative and his life is just going terribly that just doesn't compute right those two things cannot coexist but what a lot of people make the mistake of thinking is that the guy who's in that positive state of mind
30:00 - 30:30 it's because he's very lucky and good [ __ ] just keeps happening to him and nothing bad ever happens to him and so that's why he's in this like real you know positive chilled place all the time no it's the opposite he first makes the decision to encourage or curate this state of mind this state of being and then that's the reality that he experiences and so and of course it kind
30:30 - 31:00 of feeds into each other so you entertain a little bit of negativity here in your mind some bad [ __ ] happens there you focus on that you become more negative more bad [ __ ] happens to you and so on and so forth the same is true when you do the same thing with good things practicing gratitude meditating mindfulness feeding your body good nutrition exercising getting sunlight going for walks um working out going to
31:00 - 31:30 sleep early getting plenty of rest these things you focus on these things more good [ __ ] will happen to you and of course when the day arrives where you need to go walk up to a girl and say "Hey my name is so and so i just noticed you from across the way you know I thought you look good and I'd like to take you to go get some coffee sometime
31:30 - 32:00 what do you say?" You know what I'm saying it the approach really doesn't matter when you're the right kind of guy the right kind of guy could [ __ ] spill [ __ ] be walking across the room you've seen it in movies right they portray this in movies and it seems believable you could be the right kind of dude and then you're walking and you turn around and then you spill some [ __ ] [ __ ] on your shirt like "Oh [ __ ] damn god damn." Oh
32:00 - 32:30 hi hey oh what's your name i ain't never seen you before oh d Oh okay well dang how you going to make this up to me now I I got to go home change my shirt least you could do is let me take you out to you know get some coffee sometime you know what I'm saying it don't really matter what the [ __ ] you do when you're the right kind of guy don't really matter what you say the right
32:30 - 33:00 kind of guy can do a corny pickup line and she'll think it's cute the wrong guy does the same pickup line and she'll think he's a creep so it's not really about what you say or do it's about who you are and that's that's what you need to focus on so all right guys that's the video that is how to talk to girls if you're socially awkward or shy you got to stop being socially awkward and shy and you change all of that by addressing the various
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