Making Her Want You Again

Summary

Coach Corey Wayne shares insights on how men can rekindle desire in their romantic relationships. By avoiding behaviors depicted in movies, such as constant chasing, and instead maintaining a balanced approach of directness and mystery, men can create a space for their partner to miss them and feel their emotions. Wayne illustrates this through examples and anecdotes, emphasizing the importance of being a reliable, grounded presence in the relationship, akin to a mountain amidst changing weather.

Highlights

• Coach Corey Wayne emphasizes the importance of not constantly chasing women. 📞
• Men often learn dysfunctional behavior from movies and TV. 🎥
• The analogy of being a mountain amidst the changing weather is key. ⛰️
• Creating space allows women to feel their emotions for you. ❤️
• Corey advises against being too aloof to avoid becoming distant. 🔄

Key Takeaways

• Avoid constantly chasing after your partner; give her space to miss you. 📱
• Acting like a woman by over-communicating can lead to rejection. 🚫
• Men should balance being direct and creating mystery. 🕵️
• Being a stable, unmovable presence is more attractive. ⛰️
• Focus on your own life and goals; she'll naturally be drawn to you. 🎯

Overview

Coach Corey Wayne dives into the complexities of romantic relationships in his coaching video, where he addresses the common misconception that men need to constantly chase women to maintain their interests. He explains that this portrayal in media is unrealistic and often conditions men to behave dysfunctionally in real life.

By reflecting on personal anecdotes and client experiences, Coach Corey offers a fresh perspective that highlights the importance of maintaining one's own life and goals, thereby creating a natural allure. The analogy of men being like a mountain — stable and immovable despite changing circumstances — provides a powerful visual aid in understanding the dynamics of attraction.

The video underscores the importance of giving a partner space to miss and appreciate you, rather than overwhelming them with attention. It’s about finding that sweet spot between being mysteriously aloof and showing interest, thus fostering a deeper, more meaningful connection.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction to the Topic The chapter introduces the concept of making a woman want you again, emphasizing the importance of understanding a delicate balance in romantic relationships. Coach Cory Wayne discusses the significance of this topic and hints at its powerful impact once fully grasped.
• 00:30 - 01:40: The Influence of Media on Relationships The chapter explores the ways media representations influence romantic relationships. It highlights a common narrative depicted in TV shows and movies where men are portrayed as constantly pursuing and chasing women with grand gestures like writing love letters. The chapter underscores the unrealistic nature of these portrayals and their potential impact on real-life perceptions and behaviors regarding relationships. It suggests that such media examples can mislead viewers into believing that these approaches are effective in real life.
• 01:40 - 03:30: Creating Desire and Space The chapter 'Creating Desire and Space' explores how movies and TV shows influence our emotions and behaviors from childhood to adulthood. It explains that the way media is edited, with music and soundtracks, conditions us to feel and react in certain emotional ways. This conditioning emotionally anchors individuals, affecting their thinking, being, and behavior.
• 03:30 - 06:00: Success Story of a Viewer The chapter titled 'Success Story of a Viewer' discusses a perspective on relationships and dating. It mentions the misconception that one has to go to great lengths to impress someone. Instead, it emphasizes the importance of genuine interaction where understanding and communication are key. The narrative suggests that asking questions and allowing the other person to talk more creates a connection conducive to romance, without the need for extravagant efforts.
• 06:00 - 10:00: The Analogy of the Mountain and the Wind In this chapter, the metaphor of 'The Analogy of the Mountain and the Wind' is introduced to describe dynamics in relationships. The narrator discusses a personal experience where he is always the one to initiate the next meeting, while his partner often contacts him afterward expressing her enjoyment and desire to meet again. The story transitions to an email from another man who discovered the narrator's work and realized through his videos that he had been exhibiting behaviors traditionally associated with women in his romantic relationship, leading to friction with his girlfriend.
• 10:00 - 15:30: Viewer's Experience and Advice The chapter discusses typical male behaviors during courtship, particularly how men tend to overly pursue women by consistently calling and texting without giving them space to respond. This lack of space prevents women from developing feelings of missing the man or contemplating their feelings towards him. The advice given highlights the importance of allowing a woman the time and space to process her emotions and thoughts, warning against 'blowing up her phone' which disrupts the natural progression of a relationship.
• 15:30 - 17:00: Conclusion and Contact Information In this chapter, the speaker addresses potential behaviors that can negatively impact romantic relationships, such as constant communication or pressure, likening such behaviors to acting 'like a woman.' The speaker acknowledges a donation received via PayPal as a gesture of appreciation for the advice and information provided, which the donator finds highly valuable and accurate, despite the speaker admitting they may not always be right.

Making Her Want You Again Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 [Music] hi I'm coach Cory Wayne and this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be making her want you again well I love this topic because this is such a [ __ ] powerful thing for a guy to get when it finally clicks with him because there's a delicate balance between being
• 00:30 - 01:00 direct and making a move on your girl and also hanging back being mysterious so she can sit around and basically wonder where she stands with you and when you look at what you see in TV what you see in the movies they always show that the guy is always chasing and running after the [ __ ] girl and writing love letters and all this [ __ ] [ __ ] and that it works and then most guys are I mean think about it when you watch thousands of television programs and movies from the time you're
• 01:00 - 01:30 a child till the time you grow up I mean you can't help but be emotionally anchored and conditioned just because of the way the movies and the TV shows are edited with the music and the soundtrack and they just like you know they hit you like with like you know a shocking emotional thing and then there's an emotional soundtrack that goes along with it that causes you to feel and elicit a certain type of emotion internally and you literally become anchored emotionally to thinking and being and showing up in ways that are
• 01:30 - 02:00 completely [ __ ] up and dysfunctional and they may work in the world of make believe but they don't even come close to working in real life and what's so beautiful about this is like once a guy gets this he realizes [ __ ] I really don't have to do jack [ __ ] to make this girl want me I take her out I show her a great time make sure she's doing most of the talking by asking questions creating an opportunity for sex to happen and then in between our next date before I get to the point
• 02:00 - 02:30 where I'm ready to call her for another date usually she's calling me and blowing up my phone or saying things like oh I had a great time the other night I've been thinking about you and and so when you see those things you just sit and make the next date and I get an email here from a guy who found out about my work recently he's only watched a few videos apparently and he was basically having problems with his girlfriend and he came to realize after watching a few videos that he basically been acting like the woman in the relationship and so she was
• 02:30 - 03:00 kind of ignoring his text she was you know when he'd call It Go she'd let it go to voicemail sometimes she would just not even respond to his text because what what what he did is what what most guys do is they call they leave a message they don't hear from her they can't wait so they call again and what happens is you never give the girl a chance to miss you or to think about you or a wonder where she stands because you're always [ __ ] blowing up her phone and telling her so she never gets the time and the space to feel her
• 03:00 - 03:30 emotions for you and feel what she feels for you because you're always in her face or blowing up her phone with messages and stuff and basically acting like a woman and so he says hey Corey I made a PayPal donation to you on your site and I will definitely make more because number one I'm taking up your valuable time and number two the info is awesome you are dead on right I'd like to say well I might not always be right
• 03:30 - 04:00 but I'm never wrong this is so badass that I have to let you know just how three or four videos got me started along the right path of being the one that is chased instead of chasing in a relationship and if you read article I can't remember what the name of it is it's just basically when it comes to women and how they interact with men you can look at how little girls are with their fathers and you think of it this way you think of masculine energy or man as being like the mountain
• 04:00 - 04:30 and you think of a woman kind of like mother nature She's Like the Wind basically and what happen what is Mother Nature do to the mountain you know some days it's beaten down and sunny and it's beautiful out and it's calm there might be a nice breeze and then other days it might be tornadoes or hail or wind or snow or sleep or just really crappy crummy weather but at the end of the day the Mountain's just [ __ ] there it's always there doesn't [ __ ] move you
• 04:30 - 05:00 don't see the mountain running after the wind and women are completely like that and so you I mean the wind disappears and then sometimes it comes back later just like a cat and that's the beauty of it it's about being the Rock and if you watch little girls and how they they interact with their fathers when they need love and reassurance they go sit in Daddy's lap and they tell him all about their problems and he just sits there and he listens to her uh-huh mhm really wow what else honey and she just keeps talking and when she feels out B she's like okay thanks Daddy I feel all better
• 05:00 - 05:30 now I love you and then she hops up off his lap and goes running around the house or chasing her friends outside or doing whatever she's doing and a little while later she'll come back in sit in his lap and say daddy this boy said this to me and I don't know what it means and she'll ask for his advice and so what's so cool about that is when you understand that is that this is in a way basically how they act when they become adults is they they wonder they it's like they want the mountain it's like
• 05:30 - 06:00 you be her Rock be her Mountain you don't see the [ __ ] Mountain chasing after the wind do you you don't see the mountain chasing mother nature of course not the Mountain's just [ __ ] there it's always there it never goes anywhere it's just there and that's the way you that's the analogy that you should approach it with it's just so cool to see that you understand that Dynamic and it just really makes things effortless and easy you can go about your life focus on your purpose and when your girl hasn't heard about you she's been you know shopping all day or thinking about about you and and just how awesome last
• 06:00 - 06:30 night was or what you you know what you did that morning and then so she's thinking about it she's feeling her emotions she hasn't heard from you and you know you're busy at work you're just taking care of your purpose you're out slaying the dragon so to speak and then she text you oh I was at the mall and I was telling my girlfriend so and so how awesome you are and what a great boyfriend or what a great husband you are what a great lover you are and blah blah blah and then you just say oh thanks for sharing that baby it's like what time you coming over here me so you can get round two tonight and just set
• 06:30 - 07:00 the next date set the next appointment because it's just like the little girl going to her daddy but obviously when she becomes an adult she goes to her man much the same way it's like when she wants to see him she calls him she initiates texts and calls and things of that nature and so he says I sent you a message earlier today about how I fell into the insecure [ __ ] role in my relationship and how I pretty much drove her away with constant texts and calls and just like I said chasing women will
• 07:00 - 07:30 guarantee rejection always every single [ __ ] time why because you're basically acting like a woman when you blow a woman's phone up I waso also supposed to have a talk over the phone today and I was sure I had totally [ __ ] this relationship up and we were going to break up so this is what happened I watched some of your videos and decided not to be the chick anymore good for you I deleted my girls info for my phone and did not text or call she actually texted me later at 6ish and said you must be mad at me because I did
• 07:30 - 08:00 not hear from you today and I replied not at all mad Good Very being aloof kind of just oh you're being silly honey and I would say one thing I would say is this guy you're a little in danger of becoming a cold dick or cold fish and obviously your girl let's read a little further he says I replied after he said he was not at all mad he says I got another text around 10:30 p.m. saying night night I love you a lot and I was thinking about us
• 08:00 - 08:30 today that's awesome it's like cuz she's wondering where she stands and you gave her some space so she could actually think about you and feel her emotions for a change instead of just seeing all the you know the text and [ __ ] blowing up her phone and when she says that she says I haven't heard from you all day and I've been thinking about you and I really like the fact that I'm wondering where where I stand with you and it's causing my interest level to go up my emotions to bubble and I just had to share that with you and when I get a a text like
• 08:30 - 09:00 that from a girl I said oh baby that's sweet you need to get your little ass over here and spoon with me tonight and we'll see what pops up so he says he says well I did not text her back or call usually I would text her all day and try to say good night that's a bad way to go so good for you for changing your approach lately I was getting almost no response to her texts and usually voicemails when I called her
• 09:00 - 09:30 but today she texted me without having to nag her what a novel concept focus on being a man and taking care of your [ __ ] in your own life and your girl will miss you and she'll contact you when she misses you which she did I'm fully ready to walk away and mean it and I would say this is not necessary the Strate the the article I wrote the best strategy to get an X back that is the only you the only time you walk away is when a girl breaks up with you or she changes the ter your relationship and says I just want to be
• 09:30 - 10:00 friends and when she does that it's like hey I'm not interested in that but I'd love to see I'd love to hang out give me a call me change your mind and that's when you do it but in this case this is your girlfriend here and she's texting you how she loves you and she's you know how she was thinking about us so that's means that she's thinking about becoming closer pulling you in a little bit he said I would like to continue the relationship if possible but I know I need to reverse roles first and make her wonder where she stands what do you think I would say you don't want to
• 10:00 - 10:30 start ignoring her and being a [ __ ] [ __ ] because I struggle with that if you read my book which obviously you haven't yet but once you read it you'll understand that it took me about a year and a half with this one particular girlfriend I was dating to figure out the fine line and the balance between being mysterious and distant and also making a move and pulling her in closer and sometimes I was too cold and distant and it made things go sideways and sometimes I chase too much which also Al made it go sideways and it was just back
• 10:30 - 11:00 and forth back and forth until I learned that balance but it really made me strong as [ __ ] inside internally emotionally just because I was totally completely head over heels in love with this girl and she loved me too eventually I got her to fall completely head over heels in love with me she wanted to get married she says I was H to get engaged soon and blah blah blah the whole onars but it was a [ __ ] and let me tell you it's like cuz there wasn't anybody out there that could help me and who understood what I was going through internally can
• 11:00 - 11:30 telling me exactly what to do and what move to make but I eventually figured it out and so that's why I can read stuff like this and I can tell exactly where you're going wrong and I would say you're going a little bit you know if you keep going the way you're going you're going to turn into an [ __ ] on a cold fish and she's not going to like that and that's not a good way to go either and so you got to read my book you can't just watch a few videos or a few articles and just like cherry-pick information because these articles and these videos are me answering questions that guys are having or that are you know ch es that running in that they're
• 11:30 - 12:00 running into when they're applying what I teach and so you got to learn the Baseline knowledge and material so download my book from amazon.com it's only 99 you can download to any electronic device self cell phone PC Mac whatever you got tablet you can download it and read it there so you learn the Baseline material but this is the thing you got to understand is that when a woman contacts you like she's being all sweet and so basically what happens is
• 12:00 - 12:30 once she starts to miss you she'll start calling you and she'll start talking about her feelings and stuff like that and when you see that as an opportunity it's it's kind of like she's coming to the mountain so to speak and she's unsure of herself and so when she does that you just say well get your ass over here or I want to take you to dinner let's let's go to dinner Friday night or it's like when are you free this week I want to take you out to dinner let her respond or you you know in this particular case because you feel like you've been a weak [ __ ] with her basically just invite her over say when
• 12:30 - 13:00 are you free this week let her tell you the day and just say dinner my place 8:00 p.m. Thursday wear something looking really hot and bring a bottle of wine or whatever it is you guys like to drink and then you take care of the food and figure out something to cook that you can or something that you can cook together because you you know when you're interacting in the kitchen it gives her a reason to touch you and be close to you and then you know I know from my own experience usually what happens when I start cooking dinner with my girlfriends we usually have sex before we even get the cooking dinner
• 13:00 - 13:30 and then so we'll have sex after dinner and then after we get cleaned up and we're laying in bed at night and we start cuddling and spooning you know usually something pops up and then you know we start having sex again and maybe at 3:00 or 4 in the morning it's just it all depends on how much you love each other and how much time you spend around each other but the key to remember is that when she contacts you it's just like the little girl reaching out to her Daddy wanting to know do you still love me daddy do you still care about me and and so she's insecure and it's like and
• 13:30 - 14:00 so your response is kind of like just like what you said here when you when she says oh you must be mad at me you're like oh not at all it's like oh you're kind of being silly honey it's like oh don't be so silly of course I love you of course I adore you get your little [ __ ] ass over here and we'll play hi to slami or you know what I got something for you and it's big and it's round and it's got a head on it and it's not a quarter so if you find this message of value you could show your appreciation by going down to the bottom of your screen if you're watching this video on my website and click the PayPal donate
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