The best advice for you is what feels right to you. #intp #mbti

Summary

Highlights

• Exploring the notion of detachment and its impact on various personality types like INTPs and ISTPs. 🔍
• The importance of knowing yourself to understand what advice resonates with you. 🧠
• Personal stories illustrating how different individuals perceive responsibility and happiness. ✨
• The creator highlights a personal journey of understanding and sharing theories as a way to find fulfillment. 🚀
• Encouragement to pursue what makes one come alive in life, as everyone's path is unique. 🌈

Key Takeaways

• The best advice for you is what feels right to you and aligns with your true self. 🌟
• Detachment is incredibly valuable for certain personality types, like INTPs and ISTPs. 🧘
• Everyone experiences reality differently; one person's best advice may not suit another. 🌍
• Prioritize self-awareness to discern what feels genuinely beneficial for your personal growth. 🤓
• Authenticity is key—embracing your unique preferences leads to true fulfillment. 🦄

Overview

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction and Novelty The chapter 'Introduction and Novelty' begins with a friendly welcome back to the series 'INTP to INTP'. The narrator reflects on past attempts at creating introductions and emphasizes a recurring theme: the pursuit of novelty. It highlights the central quest for uniqueness and originality, suggesting that this quest for novelty is a primary driving force, even beyond other pursuits. The introduction sets the tone for exploring the concept of novelty in depth.
• 00:30 - 01:30: Memorable Intros and Topics The chapter titled 'Memorable Intros and Topics' highlights the importance of creating unique and memorable introductions to capture attention. Unlike previous intros that seem to blend together, this one aims to stand out. The speaker emphasizes the need to break from routine and keep the audience engaged with distinct opening remarks. The chapter also hints at discussing how to choose topics effectively.
• 01:30 - 03:00: Exploring Detachment The chapter titled 'Exploring Detachment' involves a discussion with a focus on maintaining focus and how multiple branching topics can seem interconnected. The speaker acknowledges the importance of these topics and expresses an awareness of frequently emphasizing their significance, possibly signaling a pattern in their communication style.
• 03:00 - 05:00: Advice for Different Personality Types The chapter discusses how repeated exposure to certain content creators, like YouTubers, leads to noticing recurring themes or phrases they use. It draws parallels with authors who also have signature expressions or 'pet words' they often include in their work. The speaker shares a personal example, mentioning the word 'interesting' as their own frequently used term.
• 05:00 - 06:10: Understanding What Feels Right This chapter explores the concept of 'Detachment' and its perceived benefits. The initial idea is to understand what detachment truly means. While examining this idea, the thought process leads to the realization that detachment may not be universally beneficial. Instead, it might hold more value for specific personality types, specifically those with a dominant 'ti' (introverted thinking) function. The chapter reflects on this new understanding and what feels right regarding adopting detachment as a principle.
• 06:10 - 11:30: Stories About Personal Development This chapter discusses how different personality types might benefit from the concept of Detachment. It suggests that individuals with a dominant Ni (Introverted Intuition) type, such as INFJs and INTJs, might find Detachment to be more harmonious with their natural tendencies, aiding in their self-connection. However, this may not be the case for other personality types like ESFJ and ESTJ, who are more focused on responsibility and taking care of others and their surroundings. For these types, the idea of Detachment might be less intuitive and potentially challenging.
• 11:30 - 12:30: Conclusion and Coming Attractions The chapter delves into the feelings of discomfort and unease that can arise in certain situations, emphasizing that these feelings are often challenging to overcome. The speaker addresses how some individuals might receive advice that feels counterproductive to their natural inclinations, akin to telling an INTJ to stop overthinking and just take action, which can seem dismissive of their inherent traits. The chapter underscores the importance of recognizing and respecting different personality dynamics instead of pushing against them.

The best advice for you is what feels right to you. #intp #mbti Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 hello hi welcome back to INTP to INTP maybe I'll post some of the outakes I've been playing with some different intros because I have the feeling I once wrote something a long time ago about how novelty novelty is what you're seeking nothing nothing else really
• 00:30 - 01:00 bloop you like automatically this intro is more memorable than any of my other intros the other intros are starting to run together you're starting to wonder like oh what does he usually do in his Beginnings but not this one this one hey I'm here what's my topic today what's uh my topic today how to
• 01:00 - 01:30 keep your headphones on your head number one number two I have a number of branching topics they I feel like they they're all actually the same thing but I'll try walking down one uh and see what you think because I think it's very important oh hold on oh yes I think it's very important and see like I say that I feel like I can feel myself saying that every time and I can feel you probably filing that away as like oh he's he's
• 01:30 - 02:00 those are that that's that's uh they're a little they're a little saying like if you watch a YouTuber enough times you start to see like oh they're going to say the same thing again and again I've noticed that in some of these books uh for example [ __ ] likes uh Thomas [ __ ] likes to say he has like three or four like pet words um and one of my pet words is interesting uh but what is okay so I'll throw out
• 02:00 - 02:30 the words and see where the topic Falls the first idea is Detachment what is Detachment what the benefit of it is however as I was exploring Detachment I realized I I went through a thought process to think oh hold on maybe Detachment is only valuable for certain types so I'm starting to think that now namely ti ti ti dominance
• 02:30 - 03:00 dominant types probably benefit the most from Detachment and maybe ni dominant types because Detachment is very much like it's in tune with who we are the more I detach the more I I connect with myself but that's not so true for other types for example an ESFJ bring up ESFJ a lot or ESTJ let's talk about that an ESTJ is all about like responsibility and like like making sure they're taking care of everyone around everything around them them you ask them to detach it'll feel
• 03:00 - 03:30 uh extremely unnatural uncomfortable and pointless and you might say oh loosen up ESTJ but that's just like say if you're an itj listening that's just like saying to you oh stop thinking so much or or uh stop stop exploring and brainstorming and just just do it
• 03:30 - 04:00 so that's the really the core of what I want to talk about today actually which is uh almost like like what advice is right for which type what advice is right for which type and let me adjust my focus as we talk here um
• 04:00 - 04:30 but the thesis I have here for this is that the advice that is right for you the advice that is right for you is what feels right for you and mechanically what I feel what I think is happening when you do something that feels right for you is you are going into alignment with who you are
• 04:30 - 05:00 now that being said if you have um that statement might be a bit Advanced when it comes to self-awareness and personal development because it assumes you know what feels right for you and if for example uh what feels right for you is just gorging on a whole lot of junk food and and sleeping 16 hours a day that feels right and working out feels
• 05:00 - 05:30 bad uh I'm not talking to someone like that I'm talking to someone who has explored and understood quite a bit about the world and now you've you do one thing and it feels really good to do you do another thing and it does it it just feels bad then that thing that feels good to do is the right advice for you to go back to that idea of detachment
• 05:30 - 06:00 uh yeah so that's I can see the overarching idea coming into today's talk which is the best advice for you is what feels right for you I have a few stories attach to this first I'll talk about my theory around Detachment let's start there and then just so I I can remember I'll tell you a story about someone who thought I was wrong and O were two people that thought I was was wrong and
• 06:00 - 06:30 uh it was pretty painful so you know when you look at an in intj and if you know the types quite well you might also realize that the istj also has this as their uh as their fourth function extroverted feeling like uh making sure other people are taken care of not not like stepping on their toes and stuff um and
• 06:30 - 07:00 just because this is a source spot a sensitive spot an inj and INTP and istp might really feel like oh I can't go all the I can't be completely myself I can't be authent completely authentic because then what would everyone else think you know like an INTP or an istp you probably have an experience early in your life of saying some harsh truth and then the other person like responding negatively I mean people have cried from what some of the stuff
• 07:00 - 07:30 I've said right and so you say oh never never again I I I don't know I like I wish I was not I didn't have inter thinking as my first function and then you'd be holding on to this and a lot of the world is like this you know school is this so you might be thinking like oh if I leave school then then how will be how will I join the system and all that right and what they call Detachment for an is istp or an in inp is another way of just saying be
• 07:30 - 08:00 authentic and trust yourself stop listening to this stop listening to this I mean stop listening to this and just listen to this it's almost like a reset and saying hey you can trust this and then of course it'll lead into this but um I I really feel a lot of people are just off balance I I I have the theory and
• 08:00 - 08:30 there there are some like spirituality Bashar these people talking I really feel they're they're telling us this too they are I think I think unconsciously the whole world understands that we are more different than we can ever realize we are more different than we can even see in in each other and so to assume that I know what is best for you is to be just
• 08:30 - 09:00 grossly underestimating the the diversity and complexity of the world so this is why I think Detachment is is like it's a beautiful idea for uh intps and istps and I would I would assume perhaps intjs uh I and fjs like you know time
• 09:00 - 09:30 with yourself um the the introverted sensors I I wonder I feel like they're already detached almost um but then what's the other introverted feelers I think they would also benefit greatly from Detachment um uh so isfps and inps so but that being said right what does
• 09:30 - 10:00 that also mean that also means that the extroverts um I think they would benefit a lot just from like a uh like a little like a like like Detachment 101 but they probably would become very unhealthy if they pursued Detachment as like their main focus in life you know an extra int intor extra intuitive they try and detach all the time um that's that's
• 10:00 - 10:30 just gonna become something like extra feeling especially like if they if they try to detach or extra thinking like they would just uh I I feel um this is why when entjs retire they become like they just lose themselves and they get depressed because the extra thinking is who they are so what like like why like um let me think about who would who would Thrive the most in retirement I would assume uh
• 10:30 - 11:00 introverted sensors would Thrive a lot because they would be able to like really be themselves a lot of in a lot of introverts um probably extrovert like but see these people actually if they retired and then they just kept on being themselves they would be quite healthy but if they retire and they try and I don't know act like an extra act like an EXT sensor and they travel the world and like and they don't act like themselves then I think they become very unhealthy but you you
• 11:00 - 11:30 can hear in in this analysis I'm doing that there is no one path no one advice for any one person what is healthy for one is very unhealthy for another so yeah let's let's continue let's talk along that that topic of what the best advice for you is what feels right for you and I would caveat that by by saying the
• 11:30 - 12:00 first step is to really know yourself um and I guess we can talk in another video about how to know yourself uh but I guess I first I will just put forth the quote that I really like talula Bankhead um if I were to do live my life all over again I would make the same mistakes only faster that's Tula bad's
• 12:00 - 12:30 quote and that's my uh my pithy way of giving you advice about how to know yourself now I'll tell you two stories about how I've come to come to really settle on um what I'm telling you today first of all I'm going to I'm going to prove to you that Tula bank had actually said that
• 12:30 - 13:00 wow she's just full of quotes uh so here we go if I had to live my life again I make the same mistakes only sooner and actually if you look at all all of her quotes I I just saw glanced at a few of them they're quite wise they make me wonder what what kind of type she was probably probably
• 13:00 - 13:30 intuitive um just a fellow philosopher but here are two stories about um that that kind of illustrate my point they actually both come from my time at a uh physical uh uh personal development seminar um in San Francisco in one of them I was sharing my thoughts in one in
• 13:30 - 14:00 one situation I was sharing my thoughts and I there was just a re really strong just like uh yearning inside of me to say this I was sharing and I was talking and I said I really feel that for me responsibility doesn't mean anything responsibility doesn't mean anything and one person that was listening to me just absolutely could not handle that and you can tell in her demeanor I mean now
• 14:00 - 14:30 I know that she was likely an ESTJ and so to an ESTJ who lives all about responsibility she hears that and she says no no no you just don't know what responsibility is here let me show you what responsibility is and then we proceeded to uh she proceeded to uh you know drill sergeant Style walk me through how responsibility can really uh maximize my life
• 14:30 - 15:00 for you know I I I quietly as the inp IM nef I quietly allowed her to share that with me and then it just you know ultimately all just went over my head uh but it was quite uncomfortable and it was quite interesting to see just she's speaking from her reality and she like try as she might I'm not ESTJ
• 15:00 - 15:30 uh and well yeah so um to speak concretely concretely about what happened we had we had like a onetoone conversation about how I can be more responsible uh and I filled out like a little schedule or something and I said okay thank you and then we we ended the conversation someone else said I was I was tasked with being the greeter at the at the front door and she was she just kept on egging me on and
• 15:30 - 16:00 saying more friendliness more happiness more like hi welcome to you know the the place uh and sure I did that but I mean it was great to explore that see like like all all of my experiences in life really resemble this quote which is you know I make the same mistakes only sooner it was it was this be it was was these beautiful situations where I
• 16:00 - 16:30 can see um people's perspectives very clearly I can see what te is I can see what eff is and I can also understand uh that's that's great and uh it's not where I would like to stand in life uh so I did that and I was completely exhausted from just being the the the door greeter for for the for the for the the
• 16:30 - 17:00 group and that was an experience in understanding that's that that there are Fe types out there that like like that's their that's their dream job there are te te types out there where responsibility and making sure things get done Taskmaster is their dream job and I'm not either of those um
• 17:00 - 17:30 and that's completely fine they're not wrong they're right for their own lives and that's not me like putting them in their place and or my me it's me realizing that we're severely we're we're we're grossly underestimating the diversity of people now what does feel right what does feel right for me uh o um
• 17:30 - 18:00 I'll write I'll tell you a little list here number one theorizing theorizing deeply and exploring the theory as deep as I can and speaking it out loud like this what I've discovered is this is my reality creation process this my reality creation technique whatever I say here changes what I see in my head and with my eyes and after a day of processing this this
• 18:00 - 18:30 new theory that I realize which comes from my unconscious it changes my entire reality for an Fe type serving people shapes the reality for a te type uh taking care of needs shapes the reality but for me doing those things feels fake it feels like it doesn't matter but this the sharing of theories and using them
• 18:30 - 19:00 to guide my own life is my reality and for other types that might hear this they might hear what I say and they say why do you talk so much why why can't you just do it see why can't you just do it that person is saying I don't see the reality you see I see my reality and my reality thinks what you're what you're doing is fake once we can see the higher picture that each of us are living in a separate reality that is drastically different we can let people
• 19:00 - 19:30 live in their realities number one that's that's what feels good what feels good is something like this and it feels worthwhile to do because in a way I feel as an NP my life is like constant transformation with each Theory my life changes uh as soon as I share something as I'm sharing this right now I will see different things uh uh closely related to
• 19:30 - 20:00 this is input maybe for many types input doesn't matter that much but for an ITP the the intake of a certain kind of input which is uh theories other people's theories is the fuel for what can shape my life I just finished reading this
• 20:00 - 20:30 yesterday it's beautiful and it's very applicable I'm going to I'm going to apply it um in a very in a very generalized sense it talks about how uh if you try and if you if you point towards something other than what you want or or no there are things that you want there are things that you want but what we end up doing is we say oh I can't have that thing I want I can have what I'm going to do instead
• 20:30 - 21:00 is I'm going to I'm going to make sure I get the things that I need for what I want and I'll focus on getting those and but those aren't the things that you want and and and it it causes a distraction and so uh this the book is all about like saying forget all that forget all those things that you think will get you what you want and just go for what you want and just focus on what you want which is somewhat relate to what I'm
• 21:00 - 21:30 saying here today but yes the first the first piece of advice that feels good to me is to theorize freely and create my my share my theories freely as they are the they are what shape my reality number two is input massively because input is the fuel that can uh it's like any fuel to lead me to create the next
• 21:30 - 22:00 Theory to shape my world with and the third thing that points to me is something that I said before and I'll bring it up again that simply by being myself and being alive I am being of service to the world um there's a har Thurman quote that I that
• 22:00 - 22:30 I that I love and I say it again and I think it's very true especially in this uh in a post scarcity world I I really um I think if you live your life the right way we are in a post scarcity world I mean YouTube to me is an excellent example of that
• 22:30 - 23:00 idea I'm connected to millions of people right now I just need to understand how to connect with them most authentically instead of them I'm going to say you but here's the quote don't ask what the world needs ask what makes you come alive and go do it because what the world needs is people who have come alive
• 23:00 - 23:30 and right now the beauty of this quote is really uh reaching me right now you know tearing up a little bit because I'm realizing it's true and it ties in with everything else I'm saying here one person is compelled to write a book good that's what they should do another person is compelled to uh make skateboarding videos good that's what
• 23:30 - 24:00 they should do another person wants to uh climb the ranks of a organization that's what they should do do what feels good to you um so hence all of the experiment experiments behind me hence the YouTube videos uh hence a lot of blogging that I've done uh
• 24:00 - 24:30 and I'm just very inspired I feel like I'm going down the right path and so I'd love to uh I'd love to continue to share that with you yeah and I just know that after I post this video I will see the world a completely
• 24:30 - 25:00 different way based on the theory I just shared with you today the best advice for you is what feels good to you as on a side uh a few books came in today and I'm looking forward to reading them I read The Magician's way the the next book I'm going to read is psycho cybernetics after that reality
• 25:00 - 25:30 trans surfing right there and I will share my insights with you the the things that I learned with you afterwards and I thank you very much for listening and I hope you have a great day talk to you next time