This made me cry but then women became 'easy'

Summary

The transcript from 'FarFromAverage' explores the historical and psychological perspectives on masculinity and attractiveness. The speaker argues against the idea that women desire safe and accommodating men, instead suggesting that historical figures and myths show women are drawn to men who are strong, decisive, and a bit dangerous. This perspective is supported by references to Spartan warriors, Norse mythology, and concepts in evolutionary psychology. The transcript emphasizes that societal programming teaches men to be passive, which does not align with women's deeper desires for excitement and unpredictability.

Highlights

• Ancient Spartan boys were raised to be dangerous, not safe. 🗡️
• Spartan wives demanded their husbands return from battle victorious or not at all. 🛡️
• Norse mythology's Odin embodied relentless pursuit of wisdom over safety. 🔮
• Aztec Jaguar Knights were feared warriors, not safe men, and yet attractive. 🐆
• Women have archetypes of men that awaken deep instincts, not the 'nice guy'. 🌊
• Evolutionary psychology links women's attraction to men's strength and risk-taking. 🧬
• Dopamine spikes in uncertain situations, making dangerous men exciting. 🌟
• Societal programming trains men to be nice but not desirable. 🧠
• Men should lean into their 'dangerous' side to be unforgettable. 🚀

Key Takeaways

• Spartan and Norse mythology highlight women were attracted to strong, dangerous men, not 'nice guys.' 💪
• Biology and psychology suggest women desire men who exhibit strength, risk-taking, and unpredictability. 🧠
• Men are traditionally programmed to be safe and agreeable, which does not attract women. 🚫
• Understanding women's attraction to danger can change how men approach relationships. 🔄

Overview

In 'This made me cry but then women became 'easy',' FarFromAverage delves into the allure of danger in masculinity as seen through historical, mythical, and psychological lenses. The video suggests that historical figures from Spartan warriors to Norse gods exemplified a thrilling mix of danger and strength that attracted women, contrary to the 'nice guy' narrative many men are taught.

The speaker references figures like Odin and the Aztec Jaguar Knights, asserting that these men, known for their unpredictability and strength, were highly desirable. Through comparisons in evolutionary psychology, the video argues women have a biological response to men who exhibit traits of risk-taking and dominance.

Through this discussion, FarFromAverage challenges traditional teachings about what makes a man attractive, encouraging men to break away from societal norms that advocate for a safe, agreeable demeanor. Instead, the video suggests embracing individuality and strength to be more appealing in romantic pursuits.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 01:00: Introduction to Ancient Sparta The chapter 'Introduction to Ancient Sparta' discusses the upbringing of Spartan boys, who were raised to be warriors. Starting at age seven, they were taken from their families to undergo rigorous military training in a system called the Agoge. The training emphasized the ability to endure and inflict pain, shaping boys into resilient and dangerous men as per the societal standards of that era.
• 01:00 - 02:30: Spartan Wives and Their Expectations The chapter discusses the perception of Spartan men in ancient society, noting that they were both feared and desired. It highlights the considerable differences between ancient Spartan men and modern men, suggesting that these differences would be disturbing to many contemporary individuals.
• 02:30 - 03:30: Norse Mythology and the Archetype of Danger The chapter explores the archetype of danger as depicted in Norse mythology, using the example of Spartan wives who would tell their husbands, "Come back with your shield or on it." This signifies their expectation for bravery and strength, highlighting the acceptance of potential loss and the valorization of courage and masculinity.
• 03:30 - 05:00: Aztec Warriors and Attraction to Fear The chapter discusses the concept of bravery and strength in ancient warrior cultures, particularly focusing on Aztec warriors. It emphasizes the disdain for cowardice in battle, as returning from battle as a coward was frowned upon. The narrative compares the expectations of ancient Spartan wives, who valued strength and tamed danger over mere safety, suggesting that these traits were more desirable than those traditionally associated with 'nice guys.'
• 05:00 - 06:30: Freud and Jung on Female Desire The chapter discusses parallels between Norse mythology and the views of Freud and Jung on female desire. Specifically, it highlights the character of Odin, known as the "Allfather," who is portrayed as relentless in his pursuit of wisdom, even sacrificing his own eye for knowledge. This character is not depicted as charming or gentle, but rather as a representation of power and relentless pursuit.
• 06:30 - 08:00: Biological and Psychological Perspectives on Male Traits The chapter explores the impact of both biological and psychological elements on male traits. It delves into historical and cultural perspectives, including references to mythologies and civilizations such as the Aztecs, known for their Jaguar Knights—warriors embodying strength, fearlessness, and seduction. The chapter suggests that transformative individuals are often those who act independently, without seeking permission, drawing parallels between historical figures and modern male archetypes.
• 08:00 - 10:00: The Myth of the 'Safe Guy' The chapter challenges the idea of the 'safe guy' by suggesting that women are often drawn to men who embody danger and chaos. The text uses historical examples to illustrate how men who are considered unsafe—warriors, feared individuals—tend to attract women. These 'unsafe' men stand at the edge of chaos, which is precisely the characteristic that attracts women to them.
• 10:00 - 12:00: Applying the Concept to Personal Life The chapter discusses the contrasting levels of attraction between men and women in the modern world, emphasizing that women experience desire in deeply symbolic and often irrational ways, as suggested by the psychologist Frude. It highlights that women’s attraction is not based on logical calculations such as safety, but rather on instinctive and emotional responses.

This made me cry but then women became 'easy' Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 So in ancient Sparta, boys weren't raised to be safe. They were actually raised to be dangerous. And from about the age of seven, these ancient Spartan boys were taken from their mothers and they were thrown into what is called the Aogi, which is where they were trained to fight. They were trained to unal alive people and they were trained to survive. And during this time, pain wasn't avoided. It was actually required because a man who couldn't handle danger, a man who couldn't handle pain in these times was not considered a man
• 00:30 - 01:00 at all by pretty much all of society. Now think about this. Spartan men during this time, they weren't just feared. They were also desired. Okay? If you look at the ancient Spartan men compared to the type of men that we have in the modern world, you would be absolutely blown away. would shock you beyond belief because the differences would be honestly disturbing and in a bad way for most modern men. Now, if you look at the most legendary women of that time, if
• 01:00 - 01:30 you look at like Spartan wives during that time, the Spartan wives were known to say, "Come back with your shield or on it." They would literally tell the men before they went off to battle where they very well could have lost their life. There's a really good chance that they would lose their life. the the the wives of these men of these warriors would actually tell the men, "Come back with your shield or come back on it." And essentially what this means is you better be a man and be strong or don't come back at all. Okay? In other words,
• 01:30 - 02:00 if you're going to be a coward and you're going to go to battle and be a coward, you know, and hide from the enemy or whatever, don't even bother coming back. Now, this is not exactly a love letter, you know, to the quote unquote nice guy. This isn't exactly something that you know reinforces the idea of the nice guy. And so if you look at these ancient, you know, Spartan wives, what they wanted from their men was not safety, it was actually strength. It was danger under control. Essentially, it was tamed danger. Okay?
• 02:00 - 02:30 And you see this again in Norse mythology where if you look at Odin, who was basically known as the Allather, Odin wasn't actually safe. Odin was relentless and he traded his own eye for wisdom. He actually, you know, uh, basically took a rope and he ended up, you know, doing something from a tree in order to learn the runes. Okay, he wasn't charming. He wasn't soft. And Odin was essentially power wrapped in
• 02:30 - 03:00 mystery. And even the gods knew that it's not the man who asks for permission that changes the world. It is the one who doesn't need it, who actually changes the world. Okay. Now, if we jump to the Aztecs, you look at the Aztecs, their greatest warriors were actually the Jaguar Knights. And these were essentially men who were clad in animal skins, trained in psychological warfare, and feared by everyone. And these men were also very, very seductive. But if
• 03:00 - 03:30 you were to ask yourself the question, are these men safe? Guess what? there would be not a chance. Okay, these men stood at the edge of chaos and women were drawn to that. Okay, so it's another example of men who were not safe in the slightest bit. In fact, they were actually feared by people. They were dangerous. They were, you know, just straight up warriors in many cases. Okay? And women were drawn to that. women were attracted to these men on a
• 03:30 - 04:00 level that's hard to really even comprehend compared to the modern man for example compared to how much attraction the modern woman has for the modern man. Okay. Now if you fast forward to you know somebody like Frude one of the greatest psychologists of all time he actually said that women experience desire in deeply symbolic often irrational ways. And what this means is that women are not calculating safety when they're looking at you to, you know, feel if they're attracted to you or not. They're just responding to
• 04:00 - 04:30 energy. Okay? They're responding to the unknown, the unpredictable, the guy that they can't quite figure out. If you look at Carl Young, Carl Young took it even further when he said that, you know, he actually believes that inside every woman is actually an image or an archetype as you would call it. And this archetype is of the kind of man who awakens her deepest instincts. Okay? And that image, it's not the guy who blends in. It's the one who disrupts. It's the guy who forces her to feel something
• 04:30 - 05:00 real. Okay? In other words, inside of every woman is this image, this ideal image of the most attractive man that they can imagine. Just like we would have in our mind an image of the most attractive woman we can think of. And for women, this image or this archetype, this certain type of man that absolutely would make her go insane, become obsessed with him, is the type of man who awakens her deepest instincts. And the way that you do that is obviously not by being nice. In fact, it's the
• 05:00 - 05:30 total opposite of being a nice guy. Now, if you look at biology, okay, biology shows the same exact pattern. Evolutionary psychology shows us that women are wired to select men based on strength, confidence, and risk-taking. Okay, these are three of the biggest most important traits that a man can have. And evolutionary psychology teaches us that the traits that signal that a man can survive, dominate, and protect are basically these traits.
• 05:30 - 06:00 Okay? the the same traits that that a man gives off that that signal to women that he can survive, dominate, and protect and also walk away from a woman if he wants to. Those are what actually get women excited. Okay? It's not the man who waits politely on the sidelines hoping that he doesn't offend her. It's not the guy who's super agreeable, who's super nice, you know? And it's not to say that women essentially it's not to say that women want cruelty. It's not to say that women, you know, inherently want evil men. is just to say that women
• 06:00 - 06:30 don't want comfort disguised as masculinity either. Okay? They don't want niceness disguised as masculinity. And neuroscience actually shows that dopamine, the chemical of desire, spikes, especially in the brain of females when it is faced with uncertainty. Okay? So when when women are dealing with a man who is producing uncertainty, dopamine, which is the chemical of not just pleasure but
• 06:30 - 07:00 desire, it spikes when they're faced with uncertainty. Okay? And it's not routine that excites the brain. It's not the typical, you know, life of the average man that excites women. It's not the typical pattern that the bottom 90% of men uh present to women that excites them. It is risk. It is the potential reward with just enough danger to make it feel real. Okay, so here's the thing. So when you hear things like just be nice, okay? How many times you have you have you been, you know, programmed
• 07:00 - 07:30 growing up to where, you know, your your parents, whatever females you had in your life growing up, how many times did the females tell you just be nice, just be safe, just be a good little boy, don't rock the boat, you know, don't cause any any confrontation, don't cause any problems, you know, just fall in line basically. How many times were you told that? And how well did that work out for you when it comes to women? The answer is probably terribly, right? And what you have to understand is that this advice that the majority of men are
• 07:30 - 08:00 programmed with growing up, unless they have better, you know, role models in their life, the majority of men are programmed with this device that is that is uh this device that's designed to make you acceptable, not desirable. Okay? So pretty much everything that you're programmed with growing up is literally designed to make you a man who is acceptable, who will essentially fit in to the tribe or fit in with society, but it is not designed to make you desirable to women. Okay? In other
• 08:00 - 08:30 words, it trains you to be inoffensive. It trains you to be predictable. It trains you to be easy to ignore. It trains you essentially to be a background character. Okay? If you look at school, you look at all these different things. What does school essentially program you to be? It programs you to be a worker. Okay. How many classes in school teach you how to build a business, for example? How many classes in school teach you how to think outside the box of ways to make money that aren't the typical, you know, employee path. Okay? It's all designed to make you essentially a background
• 08:30 - 09:00 character. It's designed to sort of program you and train you to be an NPC basically. Okay? If you look at the stories, if you look at the data, if you look at your own life, who are the men that women actually remember? Do you think it's the men who were the most agreeable? Do you think it's, you know, the men who were super nice? Do you think it's the men who were super safe and predictable and boring? Or do you think it was the guys who were who left the mark? Do you think it's the guys who were a little bit dangerous? The guys who did things
• 09:00 - 09:30 differently? Because here's the truth that honestly cuts to a thousand years of of confusion. Okay? One of the greatest myths, one of the greatest lies, if not the greatest lie that we have been sold as men for pretty much our entire life, that we've been programmed for relentlessly for pretty much our entire life has been pounded into our head again and again and again and again is that women want the safe guy. Okay? And so in simple terms, women
• 09:30 - 10:00 never have and they never will crave the guy who makes them comfortable. They will always crave the guy who makes them feel something. Okay? Not the guy who's necessarily reckless, not the guy who's abusive, but the guy who's strong, clear, decisive, and unapologetically masculine. The guy who could walk away, but who chooses not to. Okay. So, the greatest lie we've ever been sold as men that has had an enormously negative
• 10:00 - 10:30 impact on the bottom 90% of men who can't get women to save their lives is that women want the safe guy. Okay? And once you understand that this is all just programming, that's just wrong. It's just the wrong programming. Once you understand that this is not actually what women want, then you can present to women what they actually want. You can essentially alter your behavior so that you can give women what they actually want, what actually makes them excited, what actually makes them attracted to you. Okay? But the majority of men,
• 10:30 - 11:00 unfortunately, go through their life not understanding that women don't want the safe guy. They don't want the predictable guy. They don't want the boring guy. They don't want the comfort that we try to give them. Okay? As men, what are we always trying to do? We're trying to go and make a bunch of money and we're trying to, you know, give women all this comfort. We want to pay all their bills. We want to, you know, feed them, do all this stuff, right? We want to give them comfort. We want to make their lives comfortable. That's what most guys try to do. But the reality is that they don't actually want
• 11:00 - 11:30 that. They don't want the guy who's safe. Okay? They don't want all this comfort. What women typically thrive best in is around a guy who is dangerous, a guy who is exciting. Okay? They thrive in chaos. Okay? Never forget that. Okay? Women will never crave the guy who makes them comfortable. So, how do you apply this to your own life? It's very simple. Stop shrinking. Stop softening your edges just to be liked by other people. Lean into your power. Lean into your conviction. Lean into your
• 11:30 - 12:00 dangerous side. Okay? Unlock your inner villain. Not to necessarily harm people, but to lead, okay? To be more attractive. Because when you stop trying to be safe, in fact, the moment that you stop trying to be the safe guy, the moment that you understand that women don't actually want the safe, predictable, boring guy, the moment you understand that, that's when you'll become unforgettable. That's when you'll be able to change in a way to where you can naturally attract women better than the bottom 90% of men out there who
• 12:00 - 12:30 never even understand that women don't actually want safe. They're still under the illusion of pretty much the greatest lie that's ever been sold to men. So, with that said, I hope you guys enjoyed this one.