It Took Me 45 Years To Understand THIS About Modern Relationships

Summary

In this thought-provoking video by Owen Cook, he delves into the complexities and challenges of modern relationships. He explores the dynamics of marriage, family, and societal expectations, arguing that current versions of marriage are flawed and have strayed from their true purpose. The discussion highlights the importance of authentic connections, the chaotic nature of modern dating, and the pursuit of genuine attraction and partnership. Through personal anecdotes and societal observations, Owen underscores the challenges individuals face in maintaining meaningful relationships amidst changing cultural norms and expectations.

Highlights

• Owen explains why modern marriage feels more like a mess and how it might need a remake! 🙃
• Possessions, like money and gifts, hold no lasting value in relationships. Keep it genuine! 💸
• Being single is glorified but the true beauty lies in long-term bonds and family 🏠.
• Relationship dynamics often slip, and Owen details the chaotic flips in attraction that happen! 🎢
• Achieving social success isn't just about money - it's about charm, presence, and authenticity 💪.
• The video reveals how easily someone's perception of you can shift from worship to disdain! ⚖️
• Owen insists many men miss the mark in relationships by not realizing the instability of perceived value ⚠️.
• Sympathy for men silently suffering post-marriage, often seen as the silent victims 📢.
• Challenging the cultural shift toward individualism and its impact on relationship longevity ⚠️.
• Encourages a new understanding of what makes men attractive beyond traditional roles 🎯.

Key Takeaways

• Marriage needs a revival! Owen believes marriage has lost its way and needs a glow-up 🌟.
• Owen loves family vibes - kids and all! He believes true rewards come from building a family 👶.
• Casual flings might seem fun, but deep connections are where it's at! 💞
• Being non-needy defines your value! A lack of neediness makes you a challenge and boosts attraction 🚀.
• Social proof and swagger are key ingredients to attraction and maintaining relationships 👍.
• Avoid over-investment in relationships! Keep it balanced to prevent feeling the big sting later on 😬.
• Friends and money have zero lasting equity in relationships without true connection 📉.
• Owen champions being attractive through genuine self-improvement rather than superficial means 📈.
• Beware of RS flips! Relationship dynamics can change rapidly, leaving you shocked 😲.
• A well-rounded social life is crucial! Don't let relationships cut you off from the world 🌍.

Overview

Owen Cook confronts the essence of modern relationships in a candid and deeply personal narrative. The video challenges societal norms surrounding marriage and relationships, diving into why Owen believes the traditional institution of marriage is in dire need of a reinvention. Through engaging anecdotes, he reflects on the common pitfalls of contemporary dating culture and the societal pressures that lead individuals astray from meaningful connections.

Focusing heavily on the concept of genuine attraction versus material superficialities, Owen points out how possessions and monetary gestures fail to sustain long-term relationships. He emphasizes the importance of self-reliance and maintaining a non-needy persona to enhance one's value in the dating scene. Through humorous yet poignant storytelling, Owen illustrates the rapid shifts in relationship dynamics and how being over-invested can often lead to disappointment.

The speech underscores the importance of a balanced social life, encouraging individuality within relationships to avoid resentment and stagnancy. Owen advocates for a perspective shift towards authenticity, personal growth, and genuine human connection as antidotes to the chaos of modern dating. He passionately argues that the quest for self-improvement and robust social bonds is key to thriving in relationships, offering a compelling case for redefining how we approach love and partnership in today's world.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 00:30: Introduction In the introduction, the speaker addresses the topic of marriage and long-term relationships, highlighting the modern-day challenges associated with them. The speaker expresses pro-marriage sentiments but criticizes the current state of marriage, suggesting that the institution has been compromised. They advocate for a revival of traditional marriage practices, emphasizing the need for a significant resurgence and return to its original values.
• 00:30 - 01:30: Discussion on Modern Relationships The chapter titled 'Discussion on Modern Relationships' critiques the current state of relationships, describing it as chaotic. The speaker advocates for traditional family values, emphasizing the importance of having children and stable family units over casual sexual relationships. They argue that true fulfillment in dating and sex is found through family and children, noting that many have lost sight of this. Additionally, the speaker intends to address how to achieve stability in modern relationships, sharing observations of friends who have suffered financially and emotionally due to unstable relationships.
• 01:30 - 03:00: Dangers of Marriage and Modern Dating The chapter delves into the emotional and personal devastation experienced by individuals going through marital and modern dating challenges. It highlights the intense suffering, often endured in silence, associated with broken families, financial ruin, and emotional despair. The chapter emphasizes the lack of empathy these individuals face but notes the author's personal empathy derived from years of coaching such affected individuals closely.
• 03:00 - 05:00: Personal Experiences and Coaching The chapter discusses personal experiences and the impact of coaching on finding a life partner. It emphasizes the importance of working on social skills and actively meeting people. By doing so, individuals can significantly increase the quality of partner they attract. It highlights success stories of individuals who followed these tactics, often marrying in their late 20s or 30s, and finding someone truly special as a result of their efforts in socializing.
• 05:00 - 10:00: Social Dynamics and Attraction This chapter explores the social dynamics of attraction, focusing on the internal conflicts and shifts in mindset that occur when transitioning from enjoying single life to considering a committed relationship. The narrative discusses the allure of having multiple options and the fear of losing them, leading to a defensive attitude towards commitment and relationships.
• 10:00 - 15:00: Seminar Promotion This chapter discusses the importance of being perceived as a 'challenge' and not needy in the context of dating. It stresses that by embodying the state of not being needy and being a challenge, one can subcommunicate to potential partners that they are high value and in demand, thus making a relationship with them appear as a privilege rather than a necessity. This mindset and behavior can attract healthier and more desirable relationship dynamics.
• 15:00 - 20:00: Importance of Social Proofs The chapter discusses the concept of social proofs and explains how personal actions, such as choosing to use protection or desiring a family, are interpreted within different cultural contexts. It highlights how these interpretations can vary significantly depending on whether one is part of a religious community or a secular environment. The text suggests that there is often a gap between personal intentions and how those intentions are perceived by others, emphasizing the role of socially installed frames in shaping these perceptions.
• 20:00 - 25:00: Attraction and Spiritual Experiences In this chapter, the discussion centers around attraction and spiritual experiences. The speaker highlights the challenges of forming genuine relationships in a society heavily influenced by pop culture, specifically mentioning figures like Cardi B. They note that unless you're in a protected or 'bubble' environment, expressing the desire for a relationship based on health, family, or meaningful connections is often misconstrued. It can be seen as a sign of desperation or being out of options, rather than a genuine effort towards forming meaningful bonds. The speaker illustrates the societal pressure and judgement faced by those who seek traditional relationship values in the modern world.
• 25:00 - 30:00: Cultural Perspectives and Gender Dynamics The chapter discusses the negative impact of desperation on relationships. It explains how being overly needy can destroy attraction and lead to losing a partner, even if things started well. It emphasizes the importance of maintaining a healthy dynamic in relationships to avoid driving someone away. The context is set around a free event in Orlando, highlighting the speaker's engagement with the audience and their enthusiasm.
• 30:00 - 35:00: The Role of Social Conditioning The chapter 'The Role of Social Conditioning' discusses the impact of seminars and public speaking as part of social conditioning. The speaker emphasizes the popularity of free events held in major cities like LA, New York, Chicago, and San Francisco, with plans to expand to cities like Portland over the summer. These events provide opportunities for individuals to engage in social learning and feedback through public speaking exercises.
• 35:00 - 40:00: The Impact of Winner Effect The chapter discusses the speaker's enthusiasm for conducting free events in various cities, including major ones like Seattle and Detroit, as well as smaller cities. The speaker emphasizes the fun and personal engagement aspects of these events, highlighting the opportunity for participants to build mastermind groups, make new friends, and receive personal feedback. The narrative encourages viewers to click a link to participate in these events, promising a significant and enjoyable experience. This section captures the excitement and value the speaker assigns to these in-person gatherings, while reinforcing the availability and accessibility of such experiences.
• 40:00 - 45:00: Strategies for Self-Improvement The chapter titled "Strategies for Self-Improvement" discusses the importance of taking proactive steps towards personal growth. It emphasizes the need to sign up for courses and events early to secure a spot due to limited availability. By joining, individuals can benefit from immediate access to free courses and mastermind groups, aiding in their self-improvement journey. This proactive approach not only ensures a place at events but also opens opportunities for networking and friendship. The message encourages readers to act quickly to maximize personal development and gain support from a community of like-minded individuals.
• 45:00 - 46:30: Conclusion and Final Thoughts In this concluding chapter, the speaker reflects on the common reservations people have about entering committed relationships. Drawing from his own experiences in interacting with individuals at events, he highlights a mindset among some who prefer the excitement of socializing and freedom over the perceived constraints and responsibilities of a monogamous relationship. The speaker presents a narrative often vocalized by such individuals, emphasizing their enjoyment of parties and multiple social connections, weighing the cost and dedication a single relationship demands against their current lifestyle. This perspective captures a reluctance to forego the present freedom and fun for the uncertainties and obligations of a committed partnership.

It Took Me 45 Years To Understand THIS About Modern Relationships Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 I want to talk to you guys about one of the most relevant issues right now in all society, which is marriage, long-term relationships, and having kids. And what I want to show you is the dangers of marriage currently. And by the way, I am pro- marriage, but just not pro this version of marriage because I believe that the institution has been captured. So, I believe we need to bring marriage back. I love marriage, but I think we need to I think I think we don't have marriage right now. I think we need to bring it back. I think it's got to come back in a big way. It's got to have a big resurgence, but the way
• 00:30 - 01:00 that it's laid out right now is a freaking mess. I'm going to talk to you about that. Also, I'm a big believer in having children and family. I don't think casual sex is that rewarding. I honestly think the big payout and equity in, you know, dating and sex and so on and so forth is family and children. I think that we've lost that. I'm going to talk to you though about how to do that in a stable way because I believe that this is a lot more unstable than people think. And I have watched countless friends get fleeced and absolutely destroyed. Uh destroyed financially, uh
• 01:00 - 01:30 gutted out emotionally, on the verge of suicide, um you know, families destroyed, life destroyed, finances destroyed, work they put in destroyed. And by the way, they suffer in absolute silence and nobody has any empathy for them whatsoever. But I do actually happen to have empathy cuz I've worked with a lot of these people very, very much up close. Okay. Now, what I'm referring to here is coaching that I've done over the years. And the kind of coaching that I'm talking about is where I meet someone and I coach them who
• 01:30 - 02:00 perhaps got married in their late 20s, their 30s. And what happened was when they met their partner, they met someone who's really, really special to them. And usually they met that partner by following my instructions, which was go out, work on your social skills like crazy, and just get really, really good at meeting people. Okay? And if you get amazing at meeting people, like if you just actively say, you know what, I'm going to work on my social skills. I'm going to go out. I'm going to meet a ton of people. The quality of partner that you can get is incredibly high. And usually it will happen here. Here's when
• 02:00 - 02:30 when you're going to find your life partner. Okay? It happens when you go out for a long time, you love being single, nothing in you wants a relationship at all because you're having so much fun being single that you can't even imagine getting rid of all your options to be with one person. You can't even imagine. You're like, why? Why would I have a plethora of options and then I would just throw that in the garbage for one person or I might have to spend more money. I might have to spend more time. So, you have a wall up towards getting a relationship. This causes you to become what you'd call a
• 02:30 - 03:00 challenge. Say the word a challenge. Challenge. You become a challenge, right? And say the word not needy at all. Not needy at all. Great. So, what happens is you're not needy at all. You're a total challenge. And that winds up coming through in your behavior. And what happens is that subcommunicates to the people that you're dating that you're someone very high value, very in demand, and someone who a relationship would be a privilege, not something that you desperately want. Typically, wanting a relationship will not be it won't it
• 03:00 - 03:30 will not be interpreted that you're afraid of STDs and want a family and are traditional. It will not usually be interpreted that way unless you're in some kind of a religious community. But unless you're in a religious community where there's a frame installed that is viewed like maybe this guy just doesn't want to rot his dick off and maybe this guy doesn't want to accidentally get someone pregnant and this guy actually wants children. God forbid he wants a family unless that has been culturally installed in the community that you're in. And even then it's you can't really
• 03:30 - 04:00 trust it if I'm being honest with you. Even then it's sketch because the this the uh the culture outside that little that little bubble is so strong. You know all the Cardi B and all this stuff. It's so strong. Um, but unless you're in a bubble like that, largely any desire that you have for a relationship will not be viewed as you're worried about your health, you're worried about pregnancy, and you want a family. It will more largely be viewed as you're out of options, that's the best person that you can get, you're not high value, and you're just desperate and you're too afraid to go and meet new people. This was a lucky break for you. You know,
• 04:00 - 04:30 your ship came in and you're kind of grabbing at it. You're desperate. You're needy. It will kill attraction. It will kill the dynamic and it will cause you to lose the person that you're with. Okay? someone who you, you know, had a wonderful night with and it went perfect will run away from you when you're desperate for a relationship in most cases. Okay, that's commonly what will happen. Okay, so we're just finishing up a free event that we did here in Orlando. Everybody's getting ready to go. Hey guys, did you guys have fun at the free event today? How much do you guys recommend people to come out to the free event? Are you guys excited to go out tonight?
• 04:30 - 05:00 Amazing. So, we're about to go out. Look, the free event is a seminar room, right? So, um, a lot of people already out. We had this room filled up. Everybody came out. I did a crazy crazy seminar. We're all about to go tonight and then tomorrow we're going to be doing public speaking up at the front doing feedback. Do you want to come out to a free event? You absolutely should. Okay, do it. Come out. Now, we do these in major cities all over the country. Look, um big cities like LA, New York, Chicago, San Francisco, of course, we hit those. But, you know, this summer I'll be doing cities like Portland,
• 05:00 - 05:30 Seattle, we're going to come to Detroit, Minnesota, cities like that. We come to all sorts of different cities. I do these for love and passion. It's a lot of fun and it's free. Click the link below. Come out to a free event. You're going to have the best time of your life. We're going to build a mastermind group. You're going to make friends. I'm going to give you personal feedback. It's going to be amazing. Okay? Major cities, small cities, we're everywhere. And I'm excited to see you in person at the free event. Now, back to the video. But even as we go back, click the link
• 05:30 - 06:00 and get signed up. As soon as you do, we send you a free course immediately. We get you a part of a free mastermind group immediately. We get in touch with you immediately. We start the process going and you guarantee yourself a seat because sometimes the venue books out, there's no more space and you don't get a seat. So, get in there right now. Okay? We'll see you at the free event again. Guys, you guys excited to go out tonight. You guys recommend they click the link right now. Okay? Click it. You're going to make friends. I'll see you at the free event. Back to the video. Here's what happens. I'll have a client or student in a
• 06:00 - 06:30 program and they'll come up to me and they'll say, "Oh, and I you talk about relationships. I couldn't even imagine getting a relationship. Like, I don't even know why you're talking about this. Why would I ever get into a relationship? Never. It would never happen. I'm having too much fun. I'm doing parties. I'm meeting people out. I've I've got all these people in my life. What am I going to do? Call up 20 different people, tell them I can't keep seeing them, make them all cry, and then I'm just going to be with one person who's who I'm going to have to pay money for? Like, I'm going to have to I'm going to have to like spend money on them, and then get treated like garbage. Why would I agree to that when I'm having so much fun doing this? Now, of
• 06:30 - 07:00 course, the reason why is children. That's actually why like every single one. Who in here actually has kids? Put your hands up. Okay. The couple. How many kids do you have? Don't talk like that. This is a seminar. Okay. How many do you have? One. One. Congrats. How many? One. One. How many else? One. And one. These are the winners. One. In my view, in my personal view of the world, and I'll explain why later. These are the winners. Okay. My three kids bring me more enjoyment, more happiness, more fulfillment than a mill. I I could I could be Gangghis con walk into a castle
• 07:00 - 07:30 of a giant orgy of perfect bombshells and I'd have more fun going hiking with my kids than anything that any woman could offer me. Okay, so kids is honestly having your own children and if you can't have children, you can adopt children. But I'm making the point like that is far far more beautiful and profound of an experience than just like oh yeah, like I went out to Warwick and like yeah, let's dance to GE. Oh, come back here. Okay, let me put a condom on. I can't even feel this cuz like eating a
• 07:30 - 08:00 eating a sandwich through a Ziploc bag, you you seem to be enjoying it, but I get nothing from this, but it might even break and I could have a problem and it doesn't even perfectly protect me. Um, and then basically uh and then you just send them home. Okay, but the real reason why being single is fun is because you don't get all that beta male shaming that often comes in relationships where you open up to somebody and you love them to death, but then because you don't have all these options, they they start to disrespect you. And so what happens is that the beauty of a relationship, like what a relationship could be, all the beauty of
• 08:00 - 08:30 it becomes a [ __ ] nightmare. And that's often what happens in relationships is they become a [ __ ] nightmare. So what happens is like like like let me give you an example, okay? The stereotype is that a guy like Dan Bolzerian or Hugh Hefner or anybody who's really, you know, a rock star, they have this amazing sex life because they have all the sexual variety, but spiritually they're actually deficient because they don't have that deep connection with their partner. Right? That's the stereotype. And then the person who has the wife, they have bad
• 08:30 - 09:00 sex because the sex is boring, but they have this really profound, deep spiritual relationship with their wife. Would you guys agree that's a stereotype? You guys follow that, right? It's like, you know, like sex with the same person boring. Sex with multiple people fun, but you know, you have a connection with the person who you're with and so on and so forth. Can I tell you guys my experience? I personally think the best sex I' ever had is in relationships. Not using a condom because if they're on birth control, um, you know, IUD or you've figured it out somehow someway. Okay.
• 09:00 - 09:30 Um, best sex I've ever had in my life. Like I view it like the only sex I ever had is in relationships. All the other casual sex I had I just view as lame. It It's not to me. If anything, that was a means to an end to get into a relationship. I've never had great sex as casual sex cuz condoms are involved. Um, I just think it's kind of boring. Like, I think sex gets I mean, if you've got someone that you're really into that is like a cut above anybody else who you could meet, okay? Like that's like the best person that you met over two years, the best of the best of the best. You become very close friends and you don't
• 09:30 - 10:00 have to use a condom and you're in love with each other and you get to know each other's body. I mean that would be a thousandx the enjoyment that I've ever had uh you know with casual sex. So the funny thing is the stereotype of you and your wife having bad sex is flawed in my view. And but also let me say this the best spiritual experiences that I had spiritually with women mostly came from casual relationships because the best treatment that I ever got was in casual relationships. Look, I'm sorry to tell
• 10:00 - 10:30 you, in casual relationships, you get the best treatment that you could ever think of. When you're unwilling to be in a relationship, my god, you get treated amazingly well. I I mean, you get treated because if someone is in here's the thing, right? In a c I'm not I'm not trying to be pro casual relationship here. I'm pro family, but I'm making a point. in a relationship that is based on mutual attraction and there's no money involved, there's no provisions involved, there's no control involved.
• 10:30 - 11:00 All that you do is you meet up and enjoy each other. Even again, you have to use a condom, but you actually enjoy each other. The fun that you have is amazing. The same girl who would do a threesome when you're in a casual relationship for her own husband, she's like, "No way. How dare you ask for that?" Okay. But in a in a most girls have done threesomes and stuff like that because they want the guy to have fun. How often would I get a text message from a girl like, "Hey, like you know, like maybe I met her in Boston or maybe I met her in Minnesota or wherever, like some city and she's like, "Oh, I'm going to come visit LA." And maybe I forget to answer.
• 11:00 - 11:30 And then sure enough, her friend's Instagram profile turns up in my text. She's like, "I've been telling Sarah about you. Like she really likes you." And then they start sending me double videos like, "We both like you. Like we'd really like to come see you." Because they want to sweeten the deal a little bit. You think you're going to get that out of your wife? Probably not. I'm not saying it couldn't happen, but it's unlikely, right? So that so you get I mean you get treated like a real king when you won't commit to a relationship. You get treated like a king. So the funny thing is is that the sex is actually better in a relationship, but the treatment and the spiritual
• 11:30 - 12:00 connection. Look, if the average guy who's married is at home getting hit with a [ __ ] broom, being told to take the trash out, getting told that he's garbage, you know, you're out in Miami, South Beach, maybe you're at a club like Nikki Beach, wind in your hair, in my case, wind in my beard, out with your boys, joking around, having fun, meeting people, everybody's loving you. you've taken over the entire club that you know, you go off to the beach, you know, you meet someone cool, you run off to the beach, the beach is right there, you're having a beautiful experience
• 12:00 - 12:30 with that person right there on the beach, you watch the sunrise together. That's a great night, maybe both, maybe two or three at a time. That's a lot more fun than getting beaten by your wife with a [ __ ] broom and being told you're garbage and then getting left in a divorce, being told you're [ __ ] So again, I think this I just personally think the stereotype around sex is the better sex is in whether you call it marriage, whether you call it a relationship. Um I think sometimes guys can fixate on what they don't have and
• 12:30 - 13:00 they start fixating on outside the relationship because they can't have it. But if they were actually not in this kind of low vibration state where they're fixating what they can't have, they'd recognize their partner, they're going to have their best uh their best intimacy. But at the same time, what I would say is that um being single, that's where you get your best treatment. So, what I'm going to try to show you here is how to get that same treatment of being single but in a relationship. That's what I'm going to try to emphasize. Does that make sense, guys? Does that sound like a good topic? What do you think? You want me to do it?
• 13:00 - 13:30 How much do you want me to do it? Yeah. Okay. All right. Okay. I'll show it to you. Okay. You have a quick question. Yeah. You just said you had the best I can't hear you, man. This is a seminar, bro. You just said stand up. Talk to the crowd, too. Okay. You just said that you had the best treatment in casual relationships. Yes. But you're going to show us how to get the best treatment from a Yes. Because I've grown. Okay. Yes. But a good question. So I'm 45. Okay. I'm 45 years old. So Okay. So at age 45, pushing 50
• 13:30 - 14:00 after 25 years of experiments, I will reveal to you the secrets of his question now. And and that's the truth, but it's a great question. So, okay, I'm going to show you guys a couple of different things. Okay, so the first thing that you have to understand is I call it dynamic slippage. That's kind of a weird word. Leave it to Owen to come up with a word like that, but it's a slippage in the dynamic. So, you have to let me explain to you a couple things. Okay, first of all, your friendship with
• 14:00 - 14:30 your partner has zero equity at all in the relationship. Okay, you guys being friends has no equity at all or minimal equity. Okay, it will not take you far at all. You've got to understand that the friendship that you're building with your partner will do nothing for attraction. A f my best friendships are often with ex-girlfriends who I got to know over many years. We broke up and then what wound up happening is we reestablished a friendship 5 years later and then we became real friends. But within a relationship itself and
• 14:30 - 15:00 attraction, do not assume that friendship has any equity. Look, I'm just giving you opinions here based on what I've seen over 25 years and what I've seen in clients over 25 years. If your experience is different, I commend you. I would disagree with you, but I commend you for having your own opinion. Now, likewise, I want to say another thing. Money that you put into a relationship also has no equity. Okay? So, in other words, if you buy your partner a cute teddy bear versus a Rolex watch or Cardier bracelet, and I've done both, you'll find that you get the
• 15:00 - 15:30 identical response from the $30,000 gift as the $30 gift. There's no difference. Okay? And the equity that you get is a state pump that lasts for about 72 hours. It's about it's about a three-day state pump. But in truth, even with a $30,000 gift, if something like puts her in a bad state, between that and the three days, you won't even get the three days. Okay? Like something puts them in a bad state, even the three days, you won't get it. You'll just get like the
• 15:30 - 16:00 initial gift and that's it. Okay? So, understand that. Now, let me ask you a question. If you spend a lot of money on somebody and then later they lose attraction for you in order to look at that loss of attraction, are they going to say, "Hey, he's a great person and he bought me all this stuff, so I should give him a little bit more leeway and buffer in my negative opinion or are they going to say that you bought those things to control them and to guilt trip them?"
• 16:00 - 16:30 What are they going to say? Okay, what if you but what if you didn't get it to control or guilt trip them? But if you love them and you thought you were building equity in your relationship, will they see it that way? No. No. They every And not only that, if you provide a good lifestyle, okay, human beings, we don't want to, we naturally want to be independent. We naturally don't want to be dependent on someone. So if you provide a good lifestyle, do you think there's any equity there? I'm going to suggest no. And I'll tell you why. Because when you have that really good lifestyle and they want out, all that they can think about is like that fucker's controlling me because he gives
• 16:30 - 17:00 me this good lifestyle and I'm scared but and and I kind of want to leave and I'm scared to leave so I've got to find a way to do this for myself. But then ironically, they rarely actually find a way to do it for themselves. They just find another guy, you know, that can provide it. Okay, but you'll see that as well. Okay. Every single thing that you provide in a relationship, typically if they feel kind of like stuck in that relationship because you provide a better lifestyle, often they will begin to scheme and connive on how to get that without you. And they typically will. I mean, it will shock you. Like if you had
• 17:00 - 17:30 access to like say certain parties, you'll find rapidly that they found their own ways to get to that party. And you'll see them after the breakup at that same party that you introduced them to and they just found another way in. You know, if you live in the Hollywood Hills, you'll find that they'll just date they'll just date a guy who also has a Hollywood Hills [ __ ] and they'll be setting that up while you're in the relationship. Like there, if a woman's attractive, she's resourceful, she doesn't need you for anything. Do you understand that she doesn't need you for money, she has a million different ways to get it, she doesn't need that. So, whatever money that you're putting in,
• 17:30 - 18:00 while in the moment may give a bit of a state pump, that's true. Later, what's going to happen is that will be perceived as manipulative or controlling because why do you need to put all this money in? Shouldn't you just be attracted mutually and have fun mutually? Why do you need to do this? It's weird. Okay, it's perceived as weird. Now, you'll hear otherwise. They'll say otherwise, but I promise you on the way out the door, it will have no equity at all. Now, here's a simple way to know this. Look at, for example, a divorce. Okay? Let's say that you went
• 18:00 - 18:30 and became a multi-millionaire and you never got a prenup. Now, by the way, is it possible to enter into a marriage without a prenup? Yes or no? No, it's actually not. You automatically by default enter into a marriage with a prenup. What is the prenup? This is important, guys. There's always a prenup. No, no, there's always a prenup. 50%. The prenup is you just give away all your [ __ ] Okay? You're in a default prenup. Okay? You're always in a prenup.
• 18:30 - 19:00 Okay, you're in a prenup that the guy, you know, someone from like the DMV set up. Okay, is basically what you did. So, so just understand that you're always in a prenup. Okay, so now how many times have you seen a marriage where the where the the partner that had lost the money was like, you know what, they earned that money. I didn't earn it and so I'm not going to go take my half of it. How often what percentage of time do you see that? Okay. No. So what you'll see is this kind of psychopathic sociopathic vibe where the person literally um the
• 19:00 - 19:30 mask slips and you see who this really was and basically what happens is that they will typically take the person who had more money they will take they will use that person's money to hire lawyers so you will be so I want look I want you to think about this how gutting is it to lose your significant other who you loved with all your heart and they leave you or cheat on you how gutting is that totally how Okay. How many how long does it take to recover psychologically, spiritually, emotionally from someone who you're that in love with and then they just like basically just abandon
• 19:30 - 20:00 you and say, you know, you have so little value in my life that I want you out of my life. Like your time and energy, like when someone breaks up with you, you got to understand, they're literally saying, your time and energy are [ __ ] worthless to me. Your time and energy are worthless to me. There might be a nicer argument saying like there's certain incompatibilities. There's some nicer ways to sugarcoat it that have maybe some partial truth. It's not entirely wrong, okay? It's not as simple as that, but to some degree, what they're saying is your time and energy is [ __ ] worthless to me. That's what
• 20:00 - 20:30 they're saying when they break up with you, okay? They want you gone. Now, if that's the case, okay, if someone's done that to you, if they've seen you that way, isn't that a little bit shocking when how much they liked you originally and they went from liking you that much originally to now, you know, to viewing your time to viewing your time as being worth such a high premium that they would be physically intimate with you, you know, like on hands and knees to pleasure you
• 20:30 - 21:00 literally like doing anything to make you happy. going from that to get away from me. You guys see what I'm saying? Like your time and energy is worth nothing to me. Think about the kind of flip that happens there. Right now, I want to explain why this happens and then to help you to understand what it means to build equity in a relationship and what it is that you're actually dealing with. Okay? So, have you ever been So, so we're kind of we're kind of unloading a lot of threads here. You just got to follow along here. Okay. Um you guys able to follow this? Yes. Okay. All right. So, imagine that you're at a
• 21:00 - 21:30 nightclub. Okay. and you walk up to somebody at a nightclub and you're chatting with them and then what happens when you look lower status for even one millisecond? What happens? Nice to meet you. Okay. No, but do they even say nice to meet you? No. What happens in I I remember when I was younger and I just started getting used to talking to people at bars and clubs and parties. One of the things that shocked me was that if I was in the zone and having fun and kind of loud and brash and enjoy myself, it was like everybody would want
• 21:30 - 22:00 to talk to me. But then as soon as I would get a little bit insecure or maybe a little bit self-qualifying, trying a little bit too hard, the same person who's like, "I love you, I like like touching you, I love you, try to kiss you," they'd go and they walk off. And then if you see them, you'd be like, "Hey, hey, um, what the fuck?" like, you know, and they're like, you know, like like like and it's like your value just flips, right? So, it goes from idealization to demonization instantly. Okay, it's [ __ ] crazy. Okay, it really really is
• 22:00 - 22:30 crazy. Also, and look, I'm going to try to say this in the most empathetic and fair way possible. Okay, I love women. I hope to have daughters someday. I don't want my daughter to have to talk to some chump. If I have a daughter, do I mind if my daughter doesn't want to talk to a chump? No, she doesn't have to. Does she have to like grit her teeth and go against her biology cuz some chump put her in state for a minute? No. Does your daughter have to stay in a relationship with a guy that turned her
• 22:30 - 23:00 off because he bought her a Cardier? No. No. Okay. So, I don't So, I'm saying this with a from a space of deep respect for women and deep empathy, but I have respect for men, too. And I just think that each party should understand each other and understand what they're getting involved in and just understanding what you're dealing with so you understand instead of being told a [ __ ] lie. Okay? So I don't think that women should have to talk to beta male men. No different that you shouldn't have to talk to a woman that you're not attracted to. You shouldn't be forced to. You don't owe them anything. But here's the difference that
• 23:00 - 23:30 you need to understand with women and men. Men's value fluctuates rapidly in real time and dramatically. So repeat this after me. Men's value Men's value fluctuates fluctuates dramatically dramatically and rapidly and rapidly moment to moment moment to moment and in real time and in real time. Okay. And that happens at with no buffer. Say say initial meeting initial meeting no
• 23:30 - 24:00 buffer no buffer relationship relationship small amount of buffer small amount. You get a little bit of buffer in relationship guys but that's about it. You get a tiny buffer in a relationship, but that's about it. So, have you ever had a relationship where um the dynamic just gradually slipped to where initially you were single, you didn't want a relationship, they pushed for a relationship, you were idealized, you were pedestalized. Then later what happens that you start to get invested into it. Why does that happen? Here's how the dynamic slips. Let me give a couple let me give
• 24:00 - 24:30 examples of how it occurs. Okay? So, an example would be this. Um, you know, you lived in, like, take my case. I live in the Hollywood Hills, right? So, how much more rent do I pay to live in the Hollywood Hills instead of maybe a suburb in Utah? I like Utah, by the way. I love Utah. I love Utah. The skiing there is Okay. Brighton, Snowbird, Alta. It's unbelievable. I' I'd actually prefer to live in in uh in Utah if I had if I had uh wasn't single. Now, that being said, how much more like how much
• 24:30 - 25:00 bigger of a property could I get in a suburb in Utah for the same money as what I pay in the Hollywood Hills, an exclusive neighborhood that has access to all these bars and clubs and parties? 10x 50x, right? So, let's say that you get into a relationship. You're probably going to live somewhere that has a bit of a commute to the downtown and where the social areas are because you're trying to raise a family. Why would you just keep, you know, why would you pay 10x the rent or 5x the rent, even 2x the rent? Look, even 20% more rent. Just stop there, right? Why would you pay
• 25:00 - 25:30 that if you're not actively going out and socializing? So maybe you move. Likewise, we all know about the dad bod. I'm definitely a victim of the dad bod. Okay. And the thing is I'm a victim of the dad. But anyway, okay. I'm a victim of all these like gorgeous girls that I did. Like, I love your Buddha belly, baby. Don't trade. I'm like, okay. And I [ __ ] up. But, you know, and that's what I get. But the point is like we all we all know that like, you know, if you're single, you're probably more likely to rip it up and tear it up and trade in the gym. At my level of social skills, the physical fitness that I'm in has no
• 25:30 - 26:00 effect at all. But, you know, if you're not like a 20-year veteran and working on your social skills and social skills are kind of more middle of the road, well then, yeah, being in shape is going to give you a little more buffer. And so, because of that, what I would say is maybe you stop training as much. Now, here's the other one that's huge, and I've talked about this in other videos. The really, really big one that people also underestimate is the extent to which having swagger monopolizes mental bandwidth and time and energy. Okay? You ever heard the expression It ain't easy, y'all. You ever heard that expression? Well, the whole idea of that is that having swag is a full-time job. Like
• 26:00 - 26:30 someone like a rapper, they have to sit like rather than programming code or, you know, learning salsa dancing or getting access to parties or getting access to the best clubs and the most exclusive venues or, you know, hosting parties, having funny jokes, tip of the tongue. I bet you a lot of you in this room, one of your biggest Look at me. Look at me. One of the biggest challenges that a lot of you have because I'm looking right at you because I bet you have this is like if I tell you be funny right now or like have a bit of swag right now like what do you
• 26:30 - 27:00 do for work? Um I have my own uh little business. Okay. So do you see the way that you even talk? Okay. Here stand up for me. Okay. So I'm going to I'm going to say to you, okay, stand up for me. Okay. So standing up. Okay. So what do you do? What do you do for work? Um, I have my uh little own business. Okay. So, do you guys see what would you rate his swag? And I'm I'm trying to give you feedback here to help you. What do you rate his swagger out of 10? It's about a two, right? But let me ask you a
• 27:00 - 27:30 question. I bet you first of all that you're a man of high integrity. Am I right? I cannot talk about myself. Yeah. Okay. He's so high integrity that he won't even rate his own integrity because I I know someone with integrity when I look at it. I see a beautiful soft look of of of an open heart in his eyes. Right. He's a good man. Now, likewise, um, are you someone who thinks a lot about your business to do better for your customers and clients? Oh, yes, I do. Okay. Do you guys see his honesty there? How far is that going to help him in his dating life? Zero. How much
• 27:30 - 28:00 equity does that get him? Negative. Probably negative. Okay. Give him a hand for negative. Okay. We're here to help you. Okay. So, yeah, there's there's no swag there. There's no swag there, right? So, while he's sitting there working on his integrity, like integrity is a full-time job. thinking about how you're showing up, doing what you say that you're going to do, that's a full-time job. You know, it comes from God, I believe, but is something that we have to always be thinking about. It's our integrity. Likewise, serving clients is a full-time job. Innovating is a full-time job. Building business is a full-time job. So if you are single and
• 28:00 - 28:30 your and your time is being put and the and the opportunity cost of that time is being directed towards getting access to exclusive parties, putting on your own gettogethers and parties and building your own community, cracking jokes, having great vocal projection, crazy style, crazy swag, maybe dance skills, little silly jokes. Um, a big thing in this, to be honest, I I hate to be weird, is just straight up sound effects. Like sound like let's be honest, like 90% of this is just sound effects. Do you guys understand that?
• 28:30 - 29:00 Like, am I right or am I right? It's just all sound effects, right? Like, it just any random thing that you can do that's a sound effect is more attractive. Okay? Like, if I were to say to you like, "Give me your best sound effect. Give me your best sound effect." Go, "Hey, like anything like Just say that. Do it." No, let's keep that fun. Yeah. Do you see how he has no sound effects, right? Like be like, do that. [Music] Hi. Hey. Come on, bro. That's even harder. Yo. Yo. Hey. What
• 29:00 - 29:30 up? Uhhuh. Okay. Like you know that 90% of attractiveness are media sound effects. Okay. So maybe 100. Okay. It's basic. Okay. Basically it's called it being uninhibited. Just say the word uninhibited. Uninhibited and sound effects. Okay. It's more about dancing swagger. Uninhibited sound effects. Loose. Not self-judging at all. Being the [ __ ] prize. That's the stuff that actually works when you go out, you know it's true. So, okay. And
• 29:30 - 30:00 and social proof being so big. So big. How much like if I to be like, "Sir, how much social proof do you have?" Like, if I were to say to you right now, like, you know, show me the Instagram of like the 10 most attractive women that you can call down as friends to come and join you here at the table. What would you show me? Okay. Silence. So, it's zero, right? And you know how I know that? Cuz he's not a piece of [ __ ] He's not a sack of
• 30:00 - 30:30 [ __ ] You understand? He swallowed the social contract hook, line, and sinker. He's a good man. He did what he's supposed to do. Look, why is it that like every girl you know has dated like I've dated like 10 narcissists? Because the psychopath is the primary person who discards the social contract. And because he discards the social contract, he's attractive because he does what actually works as opposed to what he's
• 30:30 - 31:00 told works now. Okay? Because psychopaths are often known to be able to see through the [ __ ] Like they're able because they're such [ __ ] liars that it kind of takes them to no one. So they see the lie of modern society. They cut through the lie of it. That creates this impression that women like psychopaths and narcissists because narcissist channels are all the rage. Part of that's because also anyone that just got legitimately dumped wants to believe the partner is a narcissist and feel better about it. So cope. But part of it's also that narcissists do better. Okay. Does that mean that women are biologically wired to like narcissists?
• 31:00 - 31:30 No. It's a function. This is a key piece. So pay close attention. I'm dropping a bomb on here. It's a function of the modern social contract. In an environment where the social contract is designed to dumb you down, any nice person will get dumbed down because they listen. But in reality, you could also be a nice guy and a high integrity guy, but just see through the lie of the social contract. Okay, this is what try to follow me here. You could be an openhearted, high integrity, nice guy
• 31:30 - 32:00 where literally you do spend time. Look at me in the eye. Look at me. This is for you. Where you do spend time building your business, being a nice person, having integrity, being humble in your heart. Even though externally you're brash and boisterous, you can be a man of God. You can be Christian. You can be whatever you need to be, but still be attractive. You don't have to be a psychopathic narcissist to be attractive. You don't. Okay. Now, keep in mind, you'll get no points for
• 32:00 - 32:30 being a nice person. That's not going to help you with attraction at all. It's it's a non-factor. Same. You have there's no equity for being nice. There's no equity for being friends. There's no equity for putting money in. None. You get no equ you get no lasting attachment with this person from that. Okay. But what is the purpose of having integrity? What is the purpose of building a business? What is the purpose of being a nice guy? There is a function. What is the function? Are women the center of your [ __ ] life? What? I'm not going to be a nice guy just because women don't value it. I'm
• 32:30 - 33:00 not going to have integrity just because women don't value it. I'm not going to focus on delivering value to my client just because women don't value it. I don't care enough. Make it quick. Uh, doesn't integrity help improve your reputation though with men? With with men. not with women at all. Uh with female friends, with female clients, but it doesn't make them it doesn't make them aroused. Okay? They're not aroused like, "Oh, look how nice." Okay? Look, don't take it from me. Look, don't take anything that I just because I went out not and
• 33:00 - 33:30 by the way, not just in LA, not just in New York, not just in Miami, not just in London, not just in Sydney. I have been to more podunk towns and spent more time in podunk towns than this entire room combined. Nobody in this room combined has spent more time in podunk towns. None of you hang out in Bandon, Oregon. None of you hang out in Canon Beach, Oregon. None of you guys hang out in um Olympic in Olympia in Olympic National Park area in Washington State. None of
• 33:30 - 34:00 you guys hang out in Bosezeman, Montana. None of you guys spend lots of time in Jackson, Wyoming. None of you spend a huge amount of time in Mobile, Alabama. Okay? I do. I actually do because I retired by age 40. So, I do. And I promise you, the things that work in Miami and LA are like a nuclear bomb of effectiveness in a small town. You're like, "No, they wouldn't go for your
• 34:00 - 34:30 Hollywood thing in Mobile, Alabama." Okay. I hang out in Alaska. Okay. in Alaska. I was with Sid in Alaska. We were in an RV. We pulled up outside of Valdis, Alaska. A place that you guys have never heard about, but you might have heard of the Exxon Vald disaster. That's a place in Alaska. Valdes, I walked out there. There was two beautiful women who probably didn't know about LA and New York that happened to just be working there as construction workers. When me and Sid went went and pulled our cameras out to shoot a video
• 34:30 - 35:00 there as two LA guys, what do you think happened in Valdis, Alaska in the RV? What do you think happened? Okay. What do you think happened? They're like, "Oh, we don't go for this Hollywood thing. We're going back to our Valdis boys." Do you know the expression that women use in Alaska? They This is what they say. They say the odds are good because because the ratio for women is so good. There's more men than women. They say the odds are good, but the goods are odd. The odds are good, but the goods
• 35:00 - 35:30 are odd. They're not like, "Let me find a small town man." No, they're like, "This is a bunch of [ __ ] weirdos." Okay, small-minded, autopilot, spaced out people is largely what happens. People from LA walk in there. It's like it's it's almost like one of those invasive plants from Africa that you put into like a nice environment like Hawaii and then that plant just takes over the whole This actually happens in Hawaii by the way because the plants in Africa just like how the animals Africa are more aggressive. The plants are more aggressive. So the roots of the plant
• 35:30 - 36:00 have like spikes in them and poison that kills the other plants just takes over. It's an invasive species. That's what happens when a guy from a major city who has who has access to big-time parties, crazy swagger, crazy big bulls, crazy boisterous [ __ ] confidence. You put him into a small town. You're like, "That wouldn't work there." Shut the [ __ ] up. That's a [ __ ] cope. You [ __ ] liar. Now, if you want to just [ __ ] cope, you cope on your [ __ ] own while you get [ __ ] destroyed. Okay? You can get [ __ ] destroyed and
• 36:00 - 36:30 you're [ __ ] cope all day long if you want to make yourself feel better, not to acknowledge reality. But it's a [ __ ] cope. There's no way out actually learning the truth. The truth will set you free. I'm not saying that I have sole access to the truth, but test what it is that I say. Any given night that we go out, we can test anything you want. We can go anytime you want and test anything. I've done split tests for 4 hours a day, 7 days a [ __ ] week for almost 22 years except when I'm in the forest. Okay? And then my friends are doing it, reporting back to me. But we
• 36:30 - 37:00 can pretend that that didn't happen and you're going to move to [ __ ] Boseman, Montana, and you're going to be fine. Okay? Now, okay. So, from there, cuz they that's what they always they always want to wipe this away, the Hollywood thing. I'm like, "Bro, just shut the [ __ ] up." Now, from there, understand a dynamic in a relationship slips away from you the same way that meeting somebody randomly at a club slips away from you, but you just have a little bit more buffer. That's it. Now, let me explain to you how this occurs.
• 37:00 - 37:30 Okay? So, when you're talking to someone at a club, if you're high status, if you're fun, basically, it's like this. It's these four things. Okay? Just boil it down to these four things. Number one, status. Status hierarchy. Repeat that after me. Status hierarchy. Status hierarchy. Okay, you're like, "No, that can't be it." Right? Status hierarchy. Number two, good emotions. Okay. Number three, chasing your validation. Chasing your valation. Number four, a better place to go. A
• 37:30 - 38:00 better place. Yeah. I mean, that's what they're out there looking for. They're looking for they go out to meet someone a higher status. gets the emotions they want, which is typically a roller coaster of emotions. Not just good emotions, but a roller coaster. Chasing the validation so the guy doesn't give away validation easily, they have to chase it and he's going to a cool place and invites them to it. Okay? Better after party, cool things he's doing in his crib, whatever. Okay? Social media profile that looks like he's does cool stuff, invites them out. If you can just boil it down to those four things, you're going to be killing the game.
• 38:00 - 38:30 Now, you go out and if you have that, people are crawling all over you. the guys and the girls are calling all over you. Like typically a a a normal result when you go out is you're the most popular person in the venue. Everybody wants to get to know you. The guys want to get to know you. The girls want to get to know you. They're smiling. They're chasing rapport with you. They want rapport with you. If you tease them and push them away, they self-qualify and try to get your rapport. And pretty much it's just like
• 38:30 - 39:00 you're just killing it. Now, by the way, when I say that that's normal, here's what I mean. I know that what you're thinking is, Owen, maybe that's normal if you've done this for two decades, but I haven't done it for two decades. Here's what you need to understand. If you punch at the wall, you're going to break your hand. You're going to break your hand every single time. Now, this is, of course, in theory that you could punch through the wall, but if you punch right through the wall, in theory, if you know what you're doing, and the wall is soft enough, your hand is unscathed. A lot of this, repeat this
• 39:00 - 39:30 after me. Say, "A lot of this is binary." Say that. A lot of binary. Okay. So, what you're going to find when you go out is it's either you just crush or you get destroyed. There's not really a middle. You're going to see that. It It's really It's kind of like if you're jerking off, you either bust or you don't bust. You don't you don't kind of bust, right? You basically simulate until something pops. Okay? So, you've either crossed a tipping point to where you just crush it and everybody's almost
• 39:30 - 40:00 everybody's loving you. you know, the odd person's in a bad mood. They don't want to talk to you. Don't assume that they love you in that case. Say, "Nice to meet you." Usually, someone is very negative or, you know, maybe they have like a really serious relationship and they're like the first month of it while they still care or whatever. But for the most part, what you're going to or a relationship with like a true a [ __ ] stud. But what you're generally going to see is everybody's talking to you, including the people, and to be honest, especially the people in long-term relationships. Especially the people in long-term relationships who are bored and who you don't need to beat some
• 40:00 - 40:30 hypothetical other person that they could meet that night. You only need to beat that one person. So, it's actually you're going to see even better reactions from them. Including if if the guy's right there. Including if the guy's right there. Okay. Every time pretty much. So, from there, okay, that's what I'm saying. There's no equity. This guy's like, "I have equity. I spent money. We built a life together. You know, I did favors." Like, none of that has any equity at all. Now then what you so here's how to think about it. So it's easier just to focus on flow
• 40:30 - 41:00 states being uninhibited being fun being the source of your own validation being able to talk and talk and talk with jokes amusement controlled frame etc etc. working a whole venue, putting your folks in having a great afterparty, a great party, um, you know, uh, club connections, access to things that they want, better, you know, fun lifestyle. By the way, oh, you're rich, Owen. I can't do that cuz I'm not rich. Shut the
• 41:00 - 41:30 [ __ ] up. Repeat this word after me. It's called value arbitrage. Say that. Value arbitrage. Say it again. Say it again. Okay, so here's what I mean by that. In reality, typically if I bring people back to my house, you know what I usually say? I'm just crashing on the couch. Why do I not want to say that I've got the baller mansion? Why is that? And by the way, I've been doing after parties in Baller Mansion since I'm 22. So, why was I doing I've been doing
• 41:30 - 42:00 parties in yachts, baller mansions, and just regular places or the beach since I'm 22. How did I do that back then? How'd I do it back then? What's the word? Value arbitrage. What's the [ __ ] word? Value arbitrage. Okay, so look, if you're so [ __ ] stupid that you can't figure out how to find one rich [ __ ] who has a fat crib and say, "Hey, you know how you thought that when you got rich, you'd find a significant other and you'd have all these wild
• 42:00 - 42:30 parties?" And you know how it didn't [ __ ] work and you're lonely and you're angry via me via my presence. You will comply. This you're saying this to a man by the way. You sir will comply and be nice to me and I will set up the party. You'll set up a party. That rich guy will never get a date out of it. He'll never find anybody out of it. He'll just be the creepy rich guy
• 42:30 - 43:00 who doesn't belong there in the corner because he because he refuses to actually learn sound effects and swagger. He refused to learn to be cool. So then what happens? I'm here to help you. And then what happens is, okay, then what's going to happen? He's going to be weird, but he's going to feel like he's getting closer. Now, if you're like me, you have kindness in your heart. You're going to say, "Sir, let me help you with your swag." And he's going to [ __ ] refuse. And frankly, if you push him, he's going to not let you do parties anymore. He's going to do that because he has an energetic satanic
• 43:00 - 43:30 parasite on his [ __ ] brain and he can't become uninhibited and he's trying to exert control using his money. And women spiritually sense that Satanism from him that he's trying to control them with his money. They're creeped out by it and they'd rather be with the broke fun guy who's actually fun uninhibited and in a state of release like what Echarolei would teach. Present of the moment, release. Having fun, dancing, vibing, making funny sound effects, enjoying the flow, letting that energy move through him, that divide
• 43:30 - 44:00 energy move through him, not needing anything, not seeking anything outside himself, especially not seeking anything outside himself to the point that he feels the need to get all this money to try to control things to be a taker. So that rich guy will get annihilated. It will be pointless. You will try to help him. He will refuse your help. If you try to help him too much, he will ditch you. So, you will simply pander him. Tell him what he wants to hear. Yeah, bro. You're getting close. Uh, it's gonna work out eventually. Okay. Typically, an escort or prostitute will wipe him up while cheating on him. Okay?
• 44:00 - 44:30 Look, I'll tell you guys something funny. Okay? You want to hear the worst thing? I remember this one girl. I met her and she burned through like all my friends. Okay? There's a rich famous health guru who I'm not going to name. Um, but he wrote a famous brain book that I recommend. Okay? It's red. And that guy wifed her up. And that guy had money. He's a high integrity guy. He wiped her up. And as soon as he wiped her up, I was like, "Oh man, she's going to chew him up and spit him out and take
• 44:30 - 45:00 half of this shit." I'm a fan of his. What do you say when you've recommended this man's book to your audience hundreds of times and you're like and you're like, "Bro, I want to contact you and tell you that you're in trouble, but you ain't gonna listen because you believe the narrative with a spoon that if you became a doctor and you wrote a book and you and you got a little bit famous and you got some money that you're going to get a good a good partner and you got someone who I promise you is going to chew you up and spit you out." By the way, the the reason that I knew that is because this was one of the hardest [ __ ] testing
• 45:00 - 45:30 human beings I've ever met. like she'd walk up to my friends be like, "You're an [ __ ] You're an asshole." And then if my friends would just be like totally unfased, then she'd get super aroused and it was like on like donkey. Like it was crazy. And I watched this happen because my friends kind of roll like that. Like they're they're indifferent. But I'm like, man, like this dude, he has no idea what he's getting involved in. Okay, so he wound up divorced, wound up losing probably half his money. I should have saved him half his money, but I can't even tell him the truth. even as a fan of his who sent him
• 45:30 - 46:00 probably millions of dollars in [ __ ] business from all the times I promoted him when I was at the peak of my fame but doesn't [ __ ] matter. I can't tell him nothing. Okay, you can't tell me nothing. So, but he thought that his money would get it for him. Okay, look ever the best movie that shows this ever in all human history is Napoleon by Ridley Scott. This powerful man, emperor of the entire world, rich a trillionaire, richest by today's standards, richest man in the world,
• 46:00 - 46:30 runs an empire, but his girlfriend Josephine is disgusted by him. And so he's in his control muscle. I'm Napoleon. I will take over the world. I'm the most powerful man in the world. But that what that does, here's the key. It's just like what you had going on here where you're in a state of controlling outcomes and disconnected from your release muscle. And so it shows him having sex with her and he goes and he goes and she's just like like that and
• 46:30 - 47:00 then it shows these scenes of these like swaggy guys that are flowy like making love to she's like you know right like getting what she wants and she's disgusted by Napoleon. She just views all that stuff as control. So understand some of the lies that you've been fed even in the modern day community about how you're going to get all this money and you're going to be this big baller. All that happens when you make money is you go into a state of what's called self-denial. Say that. Self-denial. Self-denial. In other words, when you make yourself sit down, cuz most of the
• 47:00 - 47:30 business that I built was me sitting down. Like look, all the money that I got was just from me sitting down and going against what I want to do. That's where all the money came from. The money came from me sitting there in Hawaii all day for half a decade learning sales ads looking then this headline sub headline establish the story headline present the widgets show the features and benefits and just writing sales ads again and again and again and
• 47:30 - 48:00 again and again for eight hours a day creating content sitting there wanting to rip my skin off because I'm so [ __ ] bored and not doing what I want to do. Now, I go do that and I go do a product launch for a million bucks, two million bucks. I have that in my bank. And then I go out to a bar club at night. Oh, look, 26 years old, 2 million in the bank. I'm going to kill it. What would happen when I go do that? What would happen if all I've done all [ __ ] day is sit there writing [ __ ]
• 48:00 - 48:30 sales things and I want to get up and I want to dance and I want to have fun. I want to go to the [ __ ] beach and I go, "No, no, deny the present moment. Deny the beauty of the present moment. Write the sales copy. Okay. Then what happens is again, make a sound effect. Owen, bro, I'm doing it to you cuz I've been you. I am you. Okay. I am you. I That's why I speak to you. I speak to you like I speak to myself. So, I get out there. I'm rich
• 48:30 - 49:00 now. Everyone says about the money. Uh, hi. Oh, they don't care. Uh, hi. Uh, they don't care. Maybe you get a [ __ ] test, you fail it. The money not only kills your swag, but it also comes across as manipulative and controlling like Napoleon. So, it doesn't even [ __ ] do anything. And these dumb [ __ ] who don't know [ __ ] never went out for 20 [ __ ] years will say about me when I say this [ __ ] Owen says that money doesn't
• 49:00 - 49:30 matter because he teaches a social skills course. So he's lying to you and says that money doesn't matter because he teaches social skills, not how to make money. So his secret trick on you is to lie to you and to say just take my social skills course and not my money and and not a money-making course because the money really would help you. But I just want to sell you a social skills course except I've done $100 million in sales. I typically wear a quarter
• 49:30 - 50:00 million dollars in jewelry and I live in a mansion. But then if I say that and I go, but I have money. Then they go, but it's proof. That's why you have the result cuz you have money. I go, cool. I don't wear jewelry a lot of time when I go out and money comes up. And they go, yeah, right. And then I go, I'll post a video of this. And then they ignore it. So you can't tell them nothing. It's like the guy It's like the the uh the brain book guy. You can't tell me
• 50:00 - 50:30 nothing. These people don't go out. And I'll tell you the other secret trick. The reason why they'll focus on fitness and money whenever they're teaching anything regarding attraction and chemistry is because they themselves don't have swag and they can't actually teach it. They don't leave in front of their camera. They're not like, do you understand the commitment that it took to spend four, five, six, seven hours a day for decades going out? Do you understand the level of commitment that it is? Do you even know what time I wake up? What time? I wake up often at 5:00 p.m.
• 50:30 - 51:00 I have a pitch black room because I am awake at afterparties until 7 in the morning. Go to bed at 8 or 9. I've been waking up from anywhere from the ear would be 11:00 a.m. and but I have a pitch black room. It's all pitch black. All pitch black to as late as going to getting up at 5:00 p.m. since I'm 22 years old. Who are you? Because if I have a obligation that if I'm going to teach this to you guys that I teach you the right stuff. People keep saying to me, "How do you keep going?" Like, "What drove me to keep going?" I'm collecting
• 51:00 - 51:30 a gazillion dollars to teach the correct information. I have an open mind that every day that what I'm teaching could be wrong. I attempt to falsify everything that I teach in case I'm wrong. I'm scared and terrified that something may seem to work, but maybe doesn't. I could be mistaken. I I was on the phone with my friend Michael Sartine before coming here preparing this speech and I have a countless rolodex of other experts that I'm calling and cross referencing notes. Okay, I call all my friends. I talk about this all day. I'm
• 51:30 - 52:00 obsessed with it. I test it. It's my life. It's my passion. I did this so that you guys could actually see the [ __ ] truth because nobody else is going to do it. Thank you, brother. Thank you. Nobody else is going to do it. Come on, baby. And here's why they don't do it. Because inevitably if you coach, you have to learn internet marketing. You're not going to get it. You're not going to be a coach without learning internet marketing. You go to those internet marketing conferences and they laugh at any coach with passion. They laugh at it. They say the clients are dumb. The clients don't even watch the products. The clients never follow up. Don't worry
• 52:00 - 52:30 about it. Just focus on your [ __ ] marketing. Because in the same, you know what they say? You know how I tell you guys that you're not going to get any equity for integrity. You're not going to get any equity for money that you invest. you're not going to get any equity for your friendship. What marketing experts have found is there's very little equity in product quality. And then they and then the same talk that I'm having with y'all, they're talking like that about you and you all proved it in 2020 when you all knew the truth and you said
• 52:30 - 53:00 nothing. So that you prove those internet marketers correct. That's the truth. It's the same reasons when they make Coca-Cola and they're like, "There's no equity in making really good, nutritious juice, so we should just make a fake juice and sell it." It's the same conversation that they're having. They're like, "We can make a Big Mac and make it cheaper and make it processed and focus on making it taste better." And these dumb automatons, these [ __ ] automatons will just eat the McDonald's by focusing on making it on every street corner, keeping it
• 53:00 - 53:30 really, really cheap, loading it with good taste, and making it available everywhere. and we'll make billions. And it's the same thing when it comes to uh your marriage and and then you go no but the quality person will recognize quality. I would really really expose that as being very dangerous mentality. That is a very dangerous mentality. It is dangerous if you start thinking like that. It's very dangerous. Look, everyone, look, I've actually never done a drug in my life, but I'm kind of a weird outlier. Every single one of you in here has probably done drugs. Who in
• 53:30 - 54:00 here has never like smoked a joint, never like done Molly, never tried anything ever in your whole life? Put your hand up. In your whole life, put your hand up. Less than Okay. Okay. You Okay, so a total of four people. I'm the fifth. Okay. All of you guys have tried drugs, right? Okay. And yet, are you all [ __ ] people? No. You're good people. You just [ __ ] up. Okay. You [ __ ] up. You're curious. You [ __ ] up. Okay. Likewise, how many of you guys would rather go to the Playboy Mansion party? at his peak versus how how many of you
• 54:00 - 54:30 guys want to go like the hoown in [ __ ] Memphis. Okay. And not as a joke. I know you'll joke that you want the ho down, but in reality, what would you choose? People still make choices based on biology, on DNA, on selfishness, on curiosity. Don't demonize people. What does it say in the Bible? Whoever is without sin cast the first stone. Now, from there, okay, from there, here's what I'd say to you. Just like how there's no equity for most people in McDonald's versus not McDonald's. Um or at least you've tried
• 54:30 - 55:00 at some point in your life. At some point you tried the McDonald's. At some point you tried the drugs. Likewise someone who you're dating at some point the [ __ ] boy was an option. Okay? So you remember that I said to you, I want to show you how to have the same kind of treatment as a [ __ ] boy, but in a relationship. That's what I'm saying is you got to make the health food taste good. If you're going to be the health food, you've got to make it taste good. That's kind of the message that I'm giving you here. Okay? So, if you're gonna Okay, if you're gonna be the health food, you damn well better make
• 55:00 - 55:30 it taste good because if all that you're doing is serving your significant other every day this bland health food, at some point that nice looking food is going to tempt them. Okay? And I'm going to get into how this happens. So, now let's keep going down the rabbit hole. It's important question. Let me know and loud. Yeah, sure. So this is a question about dynamic uh spirits and if you're in a relationship or a marriage like you're going to have your weak moments like we are all human beings right so how do you like you cannot uh live your
• 55:30 - 56:00 whole life in fear right how do I work I think you should have fear right look I've had many different uh I think fear is healthy if I'm on the side of a cliff I have a healthy fear of falling off that cliff look if I if let's say that we have a big huge month in my company all my staff is really happy. Let's say that I have a bad month in my company and I spread that around my company. They'll give me empathy in the moment. I look, I've experienced this many times. They'll give empathy in the moment, but very quickly they will leave. They will
• 56:00 - 56:30 quit because the same person who gives you empathy in the moment who goes, "Oh, I'm so sorry. Oh, I feel bad for you." They have their survival to look out for, too. And they will rapidly begin looking for the exit door. Brother, buy a dog. Get a male friend. Get a group of your boys. It's not appropriate for your wife to shave her [ __ ] and show you the hairs. Okay? It's not appropriate for her to pull out her [ __ ] her [ __ ] tampon and make you look at the blood. Okay? It's not
• 56:30 - 57:00 appropriate. Okay? It's not appropriate for you to show weak characteristics to the person who's meant to look up to you. Look, I would even take it a step deeper. If I have a significant other and I have friends around and they try to be like, "Oh, you know Owen? He's just like that. Yuck, yuck, yuck. That guy's gone. You know why? Because in the moment they bond, they're like, "Haha, Owen, we love him. He's like so he's such a funny character." Okay, they'll do that in the moment. That's all funny in the moment until you've invested
• 57:00 - 57:30 thousands of dollars in travel for that woman. Until you've you bought her jewelry, you've you've put her up in in your crib, you've moved her in, and later when she flips on you because she's no longer attracted, is that buddy who went yuck yuck yuck yuck yuck like that, is he going to pay you back on the jewelry? No. So, it's not actually funny. It doesn't mean that you need to be tense. You want to be loose. You want to be relaxed. You can you can joke about each other in a way where you look cool because you're so free spirited and having fun and joking you don't care.
• 57:30 - 58:00 Like in the same way that if you say I'm hung like a little baby carrot, that's actually a they call that a DLV, but it's actually a DHV. Do you guys know DLV? DHV. Demonstration lower value, demonstration higher value. DLVs are very powerful because it shows non-selfqualification. So you can jokingly uh you know clown yourself jokingly um in a way that's funny, but if it's in a way that legitimately lowers you, yeah, your buddy who's bonding with your partner um is like, "Oh, we're just joking about him like that." Yeah, but she's the one that has to have sex with
• 58:00 - 58:30 you, right? So it's not really a joke to her. Okay, she'll laugh in the moment. It's not actually a joke to her. So you want to be around people that are on your team. Look, if I'm here and I have like, say I had staff of mine coming up here being like, "Yeah, you know, Owen, like he's such a goofball." D, and you're a buyer, you don't need to hear that from someone that you're spending money with. You want to trust me that I'm going to get you to where you want. So, you'll laugh with me, but you're not going to be a client of mine if you don't trust me. So, you should not be eroding your [ __ ] trust. Be aware of that. Remember, men's value is what?
• 58:30 - 59:00 What did I say earlier? You should tell me the answer. Men's value is what is it? this rapidly. It is fluctuating rapidly and dramatically in real time. So like joke around with your boys, tease each other in a way that makes you look [ __ ] super like cool, but don't be like actively lowering yourself. Be aware of that. Okay? And by the way, you can do that in a casual relationship when you don't care if they leave. But if you've got all that money invested in this person
• 59:00 - 59:30 and they just bounce and take it and they flip you, you're [ __ ] you're left [ __ ] So, not only that, I take it a step deeper. Um, make sure that if you have a relationship, be best friends with their parents, best of friends with their [ __ ] parents, best of friends with their [ __ ] friends, best of friends with her brother, best of friends with everybody around her, and give them money. Okay? Give them your money. Do you understand? Pay them. It's cheaper than a divorce. Okay? Actively
• 59:30 - 60:00 be calling them. Okay? Now your girlfriend because most people statistically are losers. Her brother statistically is probably on weed and probably a [ __ ] loser. So you call and you talk about the weed addicted brother like you care about this [ __ ] schmuck. Okay? Like he didn't do it to himself. Okay? And you say, "Oh, how's your son doing? Oh, he just doesn't seem motivated. And why can't he be like
• 60:00 - 60:30 you?" And you say, "You know what? I love your son. Your son has tremendous potential. I would love to befriend your son. I care about your son. He's family to me. You're family to me. Okay? Show that you care about their [ __ ] son. Again, cheaper than a divorce. Okay? Because if you don't do that, here's what's going to happen. The flip is going to happen at some point. It has to happen. Statistically, the the timeline is too long. You can't be perfect. And what's going to happen is she's going to go to her brother and go, "What's your name?" Pratik. Prateik is an [ __ ]
• 60:30 - 61:00 [ __ ] Pratit. Okay. And then because you're not bribing him, the brother and here's human beings. How do human beings bond on average? With gratitude. How do people bond? Talking [ __ ] Gossip. Most people have a lot of low vibration energy and as a result they gossip. They talk [ __ ] and they remove people. People do this thing called triangulation where they where they bond by triangulating somebody. So, you got to be aware that you are going
• 61:00 - 61:30 to be triangulated. So, what you do is you befriend every single u relationship. And here's the thing, you want them to have her back. It's not about saying that you come first before her. She should still come first. All that you're asking for, you say, "Look, brother, let me help you. I need to tell you something." You go like this, okay? You go, you go, "Brother, I need to tell you something, okay? I love your sister." Or, "I love your daughter." Okay? When I made that commitment to your daughter, that is that was and is for life. I will never abandon her. You
• 61:30 - 62:00 guys are my family. Someday, like all couples have, we're going to have a squabble because I love her so much. Maybe I'll get a little emotional cuz I love her so much. I love her so much that maybe I get a little bit, you know, I get a little little feel of myself. Okay? And if that ever happens, obviously I want you to hear her out and support her, but just mention how much I love your I love her and how much I will be there for her and how committed I am to you guys as a family. I love you guys. You guys are my family. You mean the world to me. So please, if that ever
• 62:00 - 62:30 happens, hear her out and empathize. But please just remind her how much I love her. And please send her back in my direction. Cuz bro, I love you, man. I love our [ __ ] relationship. Or to the mom, I love you. You know, of course, in the same way that I love your daughter is why I love you. I love you because you made your daughter and you and and I view you as my family as well. And I don't want to lose you as my family. I want you to be my family. Look, I'm going to be friends with you even not with your daughter. I want you to be my my family. But it would be a little weird. So, I'm not saying it's contingent on that. Be a little weird,
• 62:30 - 63:00 right? So, let's just keep it going good. I I I care about this. You have my number. Okay? You have my special number. I will answer your call anytime, any day of the week. I love your son. I see your son's potential. I want to help your son. Go to the Now, the friends are still going to [ __ ] talk you no matter what you do nice for the friends. They're still going to try to destroy that relationship, okay? Because they're miserable that they hate that they don't have a guy like you. They hate it and they want her back out of the club with them. So, you're So, she's still gonna
• 63:00 - 63:30 talk [ __ ] but you can at least mitigate it to some small extent. How? You know what? You're a great girl. I want to help you to meet a great guy. I'm gonna introduce you to my guy friends. I'm gonna help you to get a great man. So now you become a conduit to a better man. Now I'm telling you, look, here's the best way I put it to you. What some of you guys might be thinking is this, and if you think this, it's fair. But I just want to point something out to you. What you may be thinking is, why would I do all this for a girl? Any you guys think of that? Now, here's what I'd say
• 63:30 - 64:00 to you. You'll say that till she dumps her ass, and when you come to me crying, you wish she did it. You're going to say that till she dumps your ass and you come to me crying. You're going to wish that you didn't because here's what's also going to happen on Instagram. Instagram has AI surveillance system. Okay, we're already in a social credit score system. It has AI. If all that you talk about all day is how much you value your relationship, Instagram's going to feed you reals about how you should value your relationship and you should you should fix things when there's a problem. But if all that you do all day is talk [ __ ]
• 64:00 - 64:30 it's going to be feeding you real saying, "Would your soulmate do this? Would your soulmate act like that? You know what? You've got to have boundaries. You've got to have respect for yourself. You can't not respect yourself. What? You You don't have a boundary. You don't respect yourself. Would your soulmate do this? It doesn't matter that she's got a 100 grand on the wrist. It doesn't matter that she just traveled the world via you. It doesn't matter that you've given her your [ __ ] heart and your soul. None of that matters. Would your soulmate do
• 64:30 - 65:00 this? No. Do you have a boundary? Yes. Do you respect yourself? Yes. And remember, repeat this after me. This is super cute. I'm I'm dropping bombs on you. Memory. Say this. Memory is is state state access dependent. So that means say memory state access dependent. Memory access dependent. In other words, when you're in a bad mood, all that you can remember is other times that you're in a bad mood. When you're in a good mood, all you can remember is other times that you're in a good mood. When
• 65:00 - 65:30 you have a 5-year significant other, they start remembering [ __ ] from five years ago. When they love you, they remember [ __ ] from five years ago. So that's why there's no equity in it when you buy them things, by the way, cuz once they're in that bad mood, they can't even remember it. And then it's just viewed as a manipulation to control that you bought her something nice. So what I'm saying is rather than um using things like money that have min they have about 72 hours of equity if you're lucky friendship by the way which has no
• 65:30 - 66:00 equity I'll explain in a second use the things that actually generate connectedness which is frame and having value that is actually likely to keep your relationship intact. Now, by the way, I explained why money has no equity, right? Money has no equity because once the slip occurs, it's just viewed as I could do this on my own. I don't need him for this. It becomes a challenge to show that they don't need you for it. And in addition, now, by the way, I'm assuming that you guys are not
• 66:00 - 66:30 leading with money. Any relationship I've ever been in, we were having sex with not a penny exchange for a long time. But at some point, if you're living well or even living okay, you're going to be a gentleman. But the point is that when you become a gentleman, no good devil will go unpunished when the RS occurs because it's just going to make it even weirder when the RSI happens. See, so I'm going to explain in a second why friendship also has no equity. But follow this principle, okay? When you're talking to somebody, when you have the value at the club, the bar, party, daytime, whatever,
• 66:30 - 67:00 wherever you're meeting, social club, wherever, online date, wherever you're talking, right? If you have the value, they are pedestalizing you. So what's happening is they're ignoring all your bad qualities and they're overemphasizing all your good qualities. Okay? What happens if you start to do what's called self-qualifying, which is like bragging or trying to get their approval? What happens if your subcommunication has no swagger? What happens if you start to become needy for them? What happens if
• 67:00 - 67:30 you start to doubt yourself and lose your confidence? What happens to that pedestalization, that halo effect when that happens in real time? What happens immediately? How does their behavior change? If you first met them louder, you die. You're dead to them. They walk off. They erase you from their brain. That is something called an RA flip. Okay? By the way, it happens with men in business, too. It's anything
• 67:30 - 68:00 where there's value, anything where there's survival value um surrounding it. It could be it could be an instructor that I invested millions to build their brand and then they realize that now they have all the same fans that I have and no longer need me and RS flip me. It could be a man or it could be a girl where you lost value. But whenever the value dynamic shifts, you have what's called an RA flip. Here's how it works. Okay, let's say that you did all these nice things and some bad things. Maybe
• 68:00 - 68:30 you did one quote unquote bad thing like I don't know, you got needy or you know like you needed a little bit of attention or you know things they don't like and then you know maybe maybe one day you got mad and you said [ __ ] off or something like that cuz you got super upset or whatever, right? One time then that is the bad things that you did. Then there is 10,000 good things that you did. You listened to her [ __ ] You gave her attention. You gave her sexual exclusivity. You uh brought her
• 68:30 - 69:00 everywhere. You took her to dinners. You took her for shopping. You took her on vacations. You you connected to her. And by the way, I'm just saying objective things. But let's just talk emotionally, which is actually the biggest one in many ways. You were in love with her. You gave her your heart. You gave her your soul. But those are more subjective. That's why I don't say those much. But in reality, they're actually very objective. That's what hurts the most. You gave her that, right? You gave her your [ __ ] soul. But if you lose value, it's not this man who gave me his
• 69:00 - 69:30 soul, who gave me his love, who gave me his heart, who gave me his time, his attention, his energy, who didn't build his business as much because some of that time went to me. Even if you're still building your business, he bought me things. He He took care of me. He loved me. He made me his priority. All that goes out the window. And you're now the guy that was needy, said [ __ ] off this one time. And would your soulmate tell you to [ __ ] off? Now you just now literally for for half a year, you
• 69:30 - 70:00 basically gave like 80% of your [ __ ] mental bandwidth, emotional bandwidth, time, energy. But one time you got upset. But when your soulmate do that, don't you have a boundary? Don't you have self-respect? Now the dad comes in. He said, "What to you, baby?" The mom comes in. What the friends come in? What now? Memory state access dependence. So she can't remember all those other things that you did. And if you lost status and you lost hierarchy, the way that it works is this. Okay. So
• 70:00 - 70:30 attraction for women is very much based on frame. So they are existing within your frame, which means that they are adopting a lot of your personality. They're adopting a lot of your values. They're adopting a lot of your beliefs. This is by the way, please pay attention. Please, I beg you to pay attention. So because attraction is so much centered for women surrounding being in frame, they're not able to think logically about leaving while they're within your frame. So in so they they are forced to exit your frame at
• 70:30 - 71:00 least momentarily in order to decide what they want. The way that they exit your frame, the mechanism that's used to exit your frame is called an RS slip. So they slip you in order to exit your frame so that they can think straight. But the problem is they don't think straight. They just think bad. Then they go to the friends who you didn't befriend who want them back out on the club uh you know caught carousel. They want them back out. They're miserable like them on drugs like them. And so what happens is that they [ __ ] talk you. The dad [ __ ] talks you because you didn't befriend him. You didn't respect
• 71:00 - 71:30 him. The mom [ __ ] talks you because you didn't respect her. You didn't allow your interest. The the you know the friend who you could have said, "Look, let's get you a man. Let's like here's your choice." Yeah. I you know your little [ __ ] uh your little friend, your little compadre who you go out to the club and do all this [ __ ] uh scandalous [ __ ] with to make yourself uh you you know as a cope because of how miserable you are cuz you don't have a man. I'm taking her. [ __ ] you. [ __ ] you.
• 71:30 - 72:00 That's what you're saying to her when you take her. That's what you're saying. [ __ ] you. That's what you're saying. Rot alone. She's mine. That's what you're saying. No, don't say that to her. You say, "Listen, you're such a quality woman. I can't believe you don't have a man right now. How the [ __ ] do you not have a man?" Okay, now this Jaba the hut looking creature. Okay, I'm I'm kidding. I'm kidding. But I'm just confused. I'm
• 72:00 - 72:30 joking. If it's relevant, go ahead. Uh, the gay best friend should be your best friend. Correct. Yes. Yeah. So, you got to say, "Look, I'm here freak." Okay. So, okay. Kind of feels like it sometimes. Yeah. Look, you also don't have a man. Okay. Now, take him. So, yeah. But it's like, no, you'd say to him, "Listen, okay, I've got so much love for the gay community. I respect you. I can't imagine the stress that you went through telling your family about this. I can't
• 72:30 - 73:00 imagine the pressure that you went you went through. I'm going to WeHo tonight. There's a bunch of girls there. We're going to dance. We're going to meet somebody." Okay? So, in other words, you don't just you don't just go to this girl who's rotting in hell without her little buddy and say, "Fuck you, rott in hell alone." You say, "I'm going to introduce you to my friends. Let's get you a rich guy. Let's get you a cool guy. What kind of guy do you like?" You have to show common interest. Again, look, these people should still prioritize your girl, right? I'm not saying that they're going to You don't want to make some weird like uh what was
• 73:00 - 73:30 that movie with Jim Carrey? Um where it's like a fake world. What was that? Uh The Truman Show. You don't want to turn her life into the Truman Show where everyone's just like, "John is the best. John is the best." She's like, "Get me out of here." Okay, that's too much. That's too much. It's not about that. That's way too much. Don't do that. It's just about showing that you care. Just show them that you give a [ __ ] about someone other than your [ __ ] self. Now, if you don't care enough about that girl and you're honest about it and you truly don't care that she'll walk, then
• 73:30 - 74:00 leave it alone. There's many women that I didn't really care. But here's what happens to most guys. You think you don't care until she walks and then you come crying to me. Try to get her back. And you can't cuz she's already slipped you. Okay? So, don't come crying to me if you didn't do that. And remember, the internet's against you. Cardi B is against you. The rap music is against you. The club scene is against you. Um, oh, by the way, all the male friends are against you saying
• 74:00 - 74:30 what a [ __ ] you are. Can they be flipped? Uh there's a lot going against you after you [ __ ] up usually. No. Oh, no. No. Sorry. It It not only can be flipped. If you listen to me, it will be flipped in about 3 years when she's been with 10 or 20 other guys and she'll come back because she's aging. And if you're building, she'll come back. But the thing is, you're not going to get it back the way you want it. You'll never get it back the way you want it usually. So
• 74:30 - 75:00 100% will come back but um it's not going to be the way that you want it with kids too or with kids. It's happened to me actually. Yeah. So okay now okay so let's keep going down the rabbit hole. So the reason why the friendship so we talked about why money has no equity right? Money has no equity because it is when the RA slip occurs. She has to get away from you. It's biology. If you're in a club, you've seen it. You get the the RS
• 75:00 - 75:30 slip happens because you lose value. They can't even remember the conversation. If later you wave, do they wave back? They're just like, you know, they don't want to talk to you. You've lost value, right? You have more buffer in a relationship, but it's not as much buffer as you think. It's much you have much less equity than you think. And ironically, the things that you thought were building equity are not necessarily building the equity that you think. They're actually going to be um they're going to be used against you more likely in their perception only. They're great questions. Go ahead. What if you already have a kids? Then listen closely like
• 75:30 - 76:00 what I'm saying like those kids lives depend on it. Now you said when this happens that's assuming an inevitability to the RS bro listen I skied for many years without an accident eventually had an accident in a long enough time horizon anything that can happen will happen. So like look, you got to think about it this way, okay? When you when you are building a
• 76:00 - 76:30 business, you need a buffer that's there for when at some point the economy crashes or the industry changes. You can't just assume things are going to be the same. You can try your like you can say to yourself, I'll never forget to perfectly tie my shoelaces again for the rest of my life. But at some point, you're going to have a slip of the mind and you're going to [ __ ] up. Okay? I could go five years without ever saying something rude to a girl, but at some point on a day of bad sleep, under stress from work, under, you know, under a pressure cooker, something slips out.
• 76:30 - 77:00 That's not who I am at all. Not in the slightest. Everybody's going to do that at some point. Now, back in the day, you had a marriage structure and community structure that would push you back together for the sake of the kids. That is now gone. Not only is there no structure that keeps a marriage together, no, no. In the same way that I said a marriage has a prenup, the prenup is called you just lose all your money. Okay, the prenup's there. It's just called the default prenup. You lose all your money and you get destroyed. That's
• 77:00 - 77:30 a prenup. You're in a prenup when you get married either way. It's just the government prenup or you get destroyed or the prenup you made. And even that might not even work. But in the same way, um you're in a struct there there is a family structure that you're in. Okay, there is a there is a cultural structure surrounding marriage and family. That cultural structure is people like my friend Melody, who I love and will see this, who's a club promoter in Vegas who has divorce parties, and the girl gets divorced, she takes the guy's money, they put on a
• 77:30 - 78:00 party, they put happy divorce on this big poster, everybody cheers, says she's awesome, says she's going to slay queen, she's going to slay, okay? And her life just gets a thousand times better. So there is a structure. The structure is called pulling apart the marriage, pulling apart the family. That is the structure. That is the default. You can create an e look, the structure of nutrition in America is fast food. It's going to kill you. You can earn so much
• 78:00 - 78:30 [ __ ] money that you can buy organic food and you can save your life, but you're going the society itself is so corrupted and [ __ ] that without you expending massive amounts of energy and being highly highly proactive, the default is failure. The default is failure because in general the masses allow themselves to be [ __ ] in the ass brutally until the situation is so [ __ ] they have a brief uprising, things get better temporarily and the
• 78:30 - 79:00 elites go back to just creating the system. That is all of human history. Okay? Because the masses come out of their trance for like 10 [ __ ] minutes, things get better, and then they go back to the way that they were. and things like the Mgrim experiment, which you can look up, explain why that happens. Okay. When you guys came in here and I said, "Give a cheer for Ibrahim." You didn't initially do it. It's the same thing why that happens a little bit. Good for you. Nice self-qualification. Now, okay. Now,
• 79:00 - 79:30 okay. So, the default is to split you guys up. Okay. Everywhere you go, there's the guys that want to that want to [ __ ] her. There's the female friends that want to go back out with her. There's the parents that you fail to respect. The mom you fail to respect. the dad that you failed to respect, the brother that you failed to respect, uh the the uh Instagram that's designed to destroy society. Okay? All that stuff is in her brain. Now, because of that, friendship has I've kept pointing this. I'm going to give the big reveal. Why does
• 79:30 - 80:00 friendship have no equity whatsoever? Here's why. When you have value, the person who you're with will modify their personality to fit into your frame. They will adopt your frame and they will modify their personality. Let me give you an example. Back in the day, I used to hire a lot of coaches. I'm pretty famous at that point. A lot more famous even than now. Pretty famous at that point. People come to me, they say, "I want to be a coach." I go, "Okay, I'll get to know you." I get to
• 80:00 - 80:30 know them over maybe six months to a year. I vet them heavily, heavily, heavily, heavily vet them. But ultimately, these are people who want to get paid a million dollars plus a year to run around getting their opinions heard. So, they have an agenda. But because I vet them for a year, they appear to be my friend. I get to know them. Their character looks [ __ ] and span. I help them. I put 80% of my time into building out different coaches. I set all my traffic to them. I spent all my money on them. I'm bringing in huge amounts of money a year via my brand and giving 80 90% of it to help build their
• 80:30 - 81:00 brands. I give them money, time, energy, fame, get them to making over seven figures a year in personal income. Right around the time that that happens, they have my entire list. What happens? Hey man, you sent out an email late. [ __ ] man. Sorry. That's how it starts. Hey, that was that email was sent late. Oh [ __ ] Hey, I'm sorry. Hey, person who I helped make $3 million who's a high school dropout. Sorry that I sent the email out late. Could Could we get back to changing the world? Like, I'll fix that because I'm a very reasonable
• 81:00 - 81:30 person. I [ __ ] up. You also [ __ ] up a bunch of times. I didn't give you a hard time about it. But because I have extreme ownership, I'll just take your feedback and not make you feel bad. That starts like that. Then it's I'm mad about this. I'm mad about that. I'm mad about this. I'm mad about that. You take extreme ownership. You take feedback. You're a reasonable person. You try to fix it. By the end of it, I want to renegotiate the deal. Uh, why? We the the the company's only improved. We're only giving you better service since you started. I don't care. I want to renegotiate the deal. That's kind of
• 81:30 - 82:00 [ __ ] up. We built this in together. Doesn't matter because they're famous. You can't unfamous somebody. Okay? You can't make someone unfamous. They've got all your clients now. You've taught them everything that you know. Deal gets negotiated to 5% more towards them, 10% more towards them, 15, 20, 30, 40, 50. I had one guy who you guys all know and love who came to me and said, "You're going to pay me just not to [ __ ] talk you." That guy was my biggest fan when we first met. He became a multi-millionaire. He literally said, "I'm not going to pay you anything, but
• 82:00 - 82:30 I feel like you," he, you know, he said, "This is how he rationalized." He said, "I feel like at this point, you get more fame just being associated to me. So, I think you should just send me money." Otherwise, I'm telling everyone I'm you're not with me anymore. I'm like, "Just go." Like, I just just go, okay, I helped that guy build a whole business. By the time that that guy was done, he'd fully RSI me, would call me every day on the phone and yell. Why did he call me on the phone every day and yell biologically? Why did that have to happen? That whole structure was a failed structure. Why did that have to happen? Why was he yelling at me every day by the end of it? Why story? I had
• 82:30 - 83:00 no leverage. He didn't want to pay me anything because he had what I could give and there was no equity there cuz he had it now. He already had it now. So even though we built it together, it's not like we built a refrigerator company together. It's like, well, there's the pipes, there's the the charcoal factory, you know, there's the car factory where there's equity on it. In a social media brand built business, there's no equity. You can't build equity because if you make someone famous and you show them
• 83:00 - 83:30 everything, they now have all the equity. You see what's what's going on here? They have the equity. Now, once they have the equity, their biology, and when I say they, I mean you you'd all do the same thing to me. You'd all do it. You'd say you, bro. The guys that did it were more awake and alert than you are. So, the fact that you think that you wouldn't be prone to do that means that I believe you do it. Okay. I'm No, that's the [ __ ] Thank you for saying it. Thank you. Okay, here's his thing
• 83:30 - 84:00 that everybody always says. No, no, Owen, you just by fluke met a lot of people with low morals or may maybe you trauma bonded them or something. Okay, but how much money do you make a year? Uh, not as much as you. How much? Maybe 50,000. So, you don't know. And what's the most attractive women that you've dated? Show me their in. Show show me their Instagram. Right now, you can if you want. Are they attract to be an [ __ ] but what I'm saying is it's always the guys that didn't date the models. Always
• 84:00 - 84:30 the guys that didn't make the millions that want to talk about how it's people with bad morals. No, here's what it is. As a man, your value shifts. What? Dramatically. Say it dramatically. And what else? In real time. Rapidly. And what else? Dramatically. In real time. Say dramatic. As a man, your value shifts. Say dramatically. Dramatically. Rapidly. Rapidly. In real time. In real time. So, in other words, anytime that you don't have sustained leverage,
• 84:30 - 85:00 um, when you have super high value and you're getting things that are above and beyond what you normally get and what other people get, you're going to see these dramatic shifts. the look, the broke guy is not going to get stabbed in his back by all his friends, right? Because they're going to sit there drinking beers complaining. So that's not going to happen. Okay? Um it's the guy who has more that's going to deal with these issues. Now, okay, because here's the thing. In the same way, the structure of a marriage is this. If you're married, you gave up the
• 85:00 - 85:30 leverage. The leverage is now gone. They have a choice. put up with your old stupid ass or take the house, take the kids, take the money, and have sex with the guy with tattoos that they actually want to [ __ ] in your house. So, as soon as that leverage is gone, in many cases, again, now we can say, "No, that's bad morals." Statistically, that's what you're dealing with. Let's say that before you're single, okay, you were single, you're dating many people or just having
• 85:30 - 86:00 fun. If you're not dating anybody, you just didn't care. You're happy with your life. You weren't willing to be exclusive. Then they want you to be exclusive. So then you eventually eventually they work their way into exclusivity. Then they want to get married. Eventually they work their way into marriage. Now they've got your money. They've got your equity. They've got your stuff. The mom doesn't like you. The dad doesn't like you. The friends don't like you. The internet definitely [ __ ] hates you. And all the guys that want to have sex don't [ __ ] hate you. So everyone is putting them in frame. So you become friends, right? You have all this friendship. You've got all this friendship with this
• 86:00 - 86:30 person. But what you don't realize is that friendship has no equity. How do you know that? Well, think about all those divorce cases that you saw where that guy was best friends with his wife, right? Or by the way, there's cases where the where the dude rips off the rips off the wife. Look at Britney Spears with Kevin [ __ ] Federaline. So, you're going to By the way, this divorce thing is going to get sorted out because women are now often making more money than men. So, I'm kind of going off an old stereotype. Women are actually making more money than men. So, women are women are going to be subjected to this as well. So what happens is
• 86:30 - 87:00 um there's a friendship there, right? But you see like we put someone in jail for robbing a bank or for robbing even a 7-Eleven. Like you go take a knife in a 7-Eleven, you rob the 7-Eleven, you go to jail. But some person works their entire life to build something. They get married for like a day and they could lose half it and that's fine. Slay, queen, slay. So okay, you take it. Okay. So there so and you'll see they do in most ca in most cases they do. That's what happens. It's it's like you're
• 87:00 - 87:30 dealing with a psychopath. This person who is your best friend becomes unrecognizable and just takes your [ __ ] Now here's why it happens. It's the same thing that you see at a club when you look like a beta and they walk off. It's that but then as they're walking off they realize that they have all your money and your house. Okay. And then you go, "But I gave you, imagine as they're walking off to go back and dance to their friends, you're like, "But I gave you my house." Oh, no, no, no. Listen.
• 87:30 - 88:00 How about this? As they're walking off, you go, "But hey, I just entertain you for two hours. I've been entertaining you for two hours." It's not easy to make your stupid ass laugh for two [ __ ] hours. I was hilarious. I had the perfect balance between non- neediness and humor. It's not easy to watch that tight rope, you know? Hey, come on. You can't. It's two hours of my time. You can't just leave, you know? Or like how about like they came to your afterparty like but you ate my pizza but you drank my drinks. I I've got to clear I've got to get a mate tomorrow. You
• 88:00 - 88:30 can't just leave. What the [ __ ] That's not okay. Is that going to work? But but we promised that we'd stay together forever in front of a in front of the church. But we have kids. But I have a house. But I love you. But I gave you my soul. I took you to that stupid crystal shop in Sedona. I waited. I waited. This is a true story. I waited till you left to
• 88:30 - 89:00 buy you a $400 purple crystal the size of a tiny [ __ ] carrot that some scamming scam artist sold that you dumbly believe has superpowers. I romantically told you to go to the car, buy you the crystal, unveiled it later as a surprise to give you my heart. [Laughter]
• 89:00 - 89:30 Okay, it's me, baby. It's me. Remember me? Sedona, the Crystal, the 50K on the wrist, the love, Catalina Island, listening to how you think you're a psychic and telling you you're psychic. What a weirdo. Creepy.
• 89:30 - 90:00 Ew. Okay, cuz the RS flipped. How do you avoid that? And then it's like, "Yeah, but this one time five months ago, you said something very inconsiderate." And you know what Instagram says? Your soulmate wouldn't do that. Okay. Gone. Do you understand? Gone. Okay. Gone. There is no equity in money. There is no equity in friendship
• 90:00 - 90:30 because the friendship Look, get them a teddy. Look, become a master of the 72-hour gift. You want to pump your partner state only buy them truly what you're buying with no agenda at all. In other words, any gift that you buy, here's the here's the calculus on it. The calculus is this. Would I want this person to have this if I never saw them again and if they RS me? like I just
• 90:30 - 91:00 care about this person so much that even when I'll never see them again and they slip me but I still just want them to have it magnanimously. If that is a gift that you'd want to give for that purpose then do it. Okay. So when you give really give without condition anything that you give without condition will be perceived as a manipulation and control anything. Do you understand? Anything. So only give it only. So only give it if
• 91:00 - 91:30 you're truly giving it just to give. Okay? And knowing you know what I know that this this other human life functions off res flips as a part of their way of leaving relationships. At some point our relationship may dissolve. But even if they r me I love them so much. I want them to have it. But if you believe that you are building equity in a relationship and cementing it for children and commitment with those things, you are wrong. Those are not things that cement a relationship to
• 91:30 - 92:00 build a better family. They won't work. In fact, they'll tend to work against you. You had a quick You look like you got a question. Loud one. A quick one. Um, just remember the world's watching. Make it quick. Make it fast. Is it actually a gift if you expect anything? You want to know something, bro? You're right. But I still think it's human to love your girl and to want to have a family with your girl and want to have children with your girl and to think that maybe by doing something extra special, it could be contributing to the health of that family and those children. Okay? And I don't think it's a bad thing that I did that. I don't think
• 92:00 - 92:30 it's a bad thing that all of us have done that. But just realize that you're wrong and that and that actually you are right. You are right. It's not unless you're truly giving just to give. It's not a gift. But I think it's very human to say I want children with this person. So I want I want them to have some I want to show that I have skin in the game. I want to show that I'm not leaving. I want them to feel safe. You know, I think I'm building something. You're not. Okay? You're not. But likewise the friendship, you're also not. And that's what you need to understand. Again, here's why. You don't have anything in common
• 92:30 - 93:00 with anyone. That's what you don't understand. You have nothing in common with anyone. Here is why. Because Drake before the Kendrick disc and Leo DiCaprio have everything in common with everyone. And a loser homeless guy on the street has nothing in common with anyone except maybe other homeless people. Right? If Leo DiCaprio comes in here and he's like, "Bro, I love [ __ ] horseback riding, would you be
• 93:00 - 93:30 interested?" And you know, you get access to his circles or Megan Fox in her prime. I love bunnies. Guess what? Now you love bunnies, too. Okay? So, I'm exaggerating for effect when I say that no one has anything in common with anyone. I'm exaggerating for effect. But what I'm trying to show you is that if your value fluctuates rapidly and dramatically, then their friendship with you and their rapport with you also
• 93:30 - 94:00 fluctuates rapidly and dramatically. And this is why for so many men it is haunting with this person who you shared your life with, who you're best friends with, who who's your who you now, by the way, here's where it gets [ __ ] up. Look, I can't speak for you guys, but I can speak for myself, and I think I'm speaking for you guys. How many of you guys in here, you would have died for your girl? I would have been a second. How many of you guys in here, if God came to you and said, "Your girl's going to die in an hour, you can spend one more hour with her and die together, or you could
• 94:00 - 94:30 say, "No, [ __ ] that hour. She'll die alone." Would you have chosen to die if assuming you don't have kids and responsibility of your kids? You would have taken that hour. You would have died with your girl. How many of you guys would have done that? I would have. I would have. So you would you would have thrown your body in front of a car for her. You would you would have given up your life for an hour with her. I would have I probably would say I'd go as low as one two minutes. I'm not letting my girl die alone. No way. I love her. I'm not letting her die alone.
• 94:30 - 95:00 That same girl will slip you. So okay, you look beta for two seconds. So took the So what does it matter what you thought? What does it matter that you spent money? What does it matter that you're friends? What does it matter that you would have died for? None of that matters because that rapport that you have is based on the value that you have. Now she's within your frame and now she sees the value and she has something in common with you. As soon as
• 95:00 - 95:30 you lose value, what happens is that rapport breaks. Here's what happens. As soon as you lose value, here's what happens. The rapport that you had is now gone. because of the fact that um that rapport was built on you having value. So now you're going to see how much you really had in common. One of the things that you'll notice too when you have a girl is like say that you're not into drugs and now she's not into drugs. Right? As soon as you break up, she goes right back on drugs. Now that girl in the
• 95:30 - 96:00 relationship will say to you, like I've had it with girls cuz I'm I'm a big no drug guy. Okay? Now I've been in relationships where the girl will say, "You know what, Owen? I always want to go off drugs and I I do appreciate that you kind of like motivated me to a bit, but I was going to do it anyway. And I'm like, really? Like, you're not going to go back to that if we ever broke up? And I've literally had girls say, "The fact that you think that I'd go back to drugs if we broke up makes me sad." I'm like, "Damn, baby. All right. You know what? You too would say no to drugs. The
• 96:00 - 96:30 millisecond that you guys break up, that girl is going to catch up for lost time on drug use. She's going to make sure that every drug she didn't take for those three years, she's going to get that like a month. Okay? She's going to go back. She's going to make up for lost time. Whatever was the thing that she shifted to be with you, she's going to say, "I had to find myself. I, you know, I betrayed who I really was. I feel that weed connects you with the divine. The weed connects you with spirit." Now, all these new studies are coming out to say that weed permanently damages your
• 96:30 - 97:00 brain. By the way, just and I know you all smoking it, so I had to make you feel bad. You [ __ ] up. You believe the wrong people. Oopsie. Poopsie. Okay. All the studies came out just this week. A bunch of new studies came out. Remember that old 80s commercial. They have a little egg and they show they show this is your brain. This is your brain on drugs. Turns out it was true. Okay? And it's all coming out. Guys, look up Dr. Amen. Change your brain. Change your life. It's all coming out. Don't take drugs. So, okay. And I can I can make a whole five hour se I could talk as
• 97:00 - 97:30 passionately about drugs as I do about this. I grew up around it. Big mistake. Second, first best time to never do drugs was when you started. Second best time is never do a drug again starting now. So, okay. And by the way, I know all the arguments about psychedelics. Okay, I know them all. I've read Terrence McKenna. Okay, I know them all. It's not a drug. I know. Okay. Right. Okay.
• 97:30 - 98:00 Meanwhile, like, you know, Owen, you could learn to be creative if you took magic mushrooms, psilocybin, a hallucinagen. You could learn to be creative. I'm like, I've been paid nine figures to be creative. You're You literally can like barely think of like how to [ __ ] put together a Rubik's cube, but you're going to tell me that I'm going to become creative when I take shrooms. Like, what [ __ ] planet? Like, how much lacking of self-awareness did you did you not fix with the shrooms that you took? Okay. Like, I'm going to go I'm going to go I'm going to go to Michael. I'm gonna go to Michael Jordan
• 98:00 - 98:30 and be like, you know, if you took some protein powder, Michael, you could learn to be good at basketball. Like, that's what this [ __ ] sounds like to me. Like people who I'm like light years ahead of spiritually creat I don't mean to brag, but I'm being honest. Like, and it's like you're going to get it from the psilocybin. The the fact that we even have to use a word like hallucinogen to somehow give dignity to drugs is so [ __ ] offensive. Like, it's a psychedelic. Okay, if I have to hear the word psychedelic once more time, I'm going to kill myself. I swear to God, I'm just going to go live with the [ __ ] machine elves, okay? Me and the machine elves so I don't have to hear
• 98:30 - 99:00 the word [ __ ] DMT and psychedelic ever again. Okay? Like psychedelic. It's psychedelic. Just shut the [ __ ] up. It's not a psychedelic. You're broke. Okay? You're flat broke. You got no game. You don't travel. You don't You're not creative. You're not doing anything. Okay? Do that [ __ ] later. Okay? Once you've actually accomplished something, then you can go [ __ ] cook your brain like my old client Tony Shay that runs zappo.com and die from drugs like him as a billionaire. Okay, you can be like Tony. Okay, RIP. I love the guy, but I
• 99:00 - 99:30 hated when he did drugs. So anyway, okay, [ __ ] world, man. It's called latestage capitalism. Okay, in late stage capitalism, all the [ __ ] happens, including massive drug use. Welcome to latestage capitalism. You've been [ __ ] lied to. Okay, now let's keep going. And I know that'll that will not make you any friends in the self-help community. That will make you no friends self-help community, but I'll make another seminar about that now. Okay, cuz you got you had 20 years of therapy from ayaska. Okay, cool. Then
• 99:30 - 100:00 where's your money? Okay, could you f could you could you write some sales copy now that you had your 20 years of therapy or do you want to just go back down to Peru? Okay, so anyway, and it's not all about the money, but I'm just saying that as something objective. It's also about your awareness. Guys, you get that from studying. You get that from mastery. You get that from nature. You get that from meditation. You have the power to get all those things that they would purportedly offer you without miswiring your [ __ ] brain. You have access to God. Read the [ __ ] Bible. Oh, except you didn't do that either.
• 100:00 - 100:30 Okay. You haven't even read the sermon on the mount, but you talk to machine else. Maybe your priorities are a little bit out of order. But anyway, let's keep going. So, the rapport, the money has no equity. the friendship and I know the room's just sucks the energy out of the room because San Francisco I get it. Just trying to help you guys. Okay, you know I care about you when I tell you the truth now from Okay, half of you guys are on the [ __ ] right now. It's like a machine like so now you now you have Okay, so now you basically have um uh there's no friendship. Why?
• 100:30 - 101:00 Because when you lose value, the friendship also unravels. The rapport was built on having value. So, what happens is they were matching and mirroring you and they're in your frame. Look, you ever see the movie uh Borat or Bruno with Sasha Baron Cohen? You remember that he would get people to say all this really [ __ ] up [ __ ] Do you remember that? He'd be like he'd be uh he'd be like at some rodeo or something. He's like he's like, "George Bush will destroy every Iraqi down so there's no not even a lizard." And everyone's like,
• 101:00 - 101:30 "Yeah." You guys remember that? There's this other one called uh This Is America where he'll get like he'll get like people to say that like a 2-year-old should have a gun or he'll get people to he has this one guy who he gets to uh say that he's eating a human like human sausage of a Chinese dissident. Have you guys seen this where Sasha Barone, you know, Borat, Bruno, Ali G. Okay, so he pretends he's like a waiter and he's like, "Oh, we're in a fine dining establishment. Oh, this is a human sausage of a Chinese dissident."
• 101:30 - 102:00 And the guy's like, "Oh, it's so good." Right? Sasha Baron Cohen shouldn't be doing that. Okay. So, he So, the frame that Sasha Baron Cohen has is, "Hey, man. I'm just the reporter, bro. I'm just exposing how the world is. They chose to throw themselves under the bus." That's a [ __ ] lie. He shouldn't be doing that cuz Sasha Baron Cohen knows [ __ ] well that the 99.9% of people are in frame and don't think for themselves the same way as when I came in here and people didn't clap for Ibraim. People are in frame. Okay? He
• 102:00 - 102:30 knows that and he knows that he could get 99% of people to destroy their lives on the camera. So, he's actually victimizing those people. He's actually a victimizer 100%. He's framing them as bad. He's [ __ ] bad because I also, by the way, know a thing or two about that. And I could run around going up to people, getting them to say [ __ ] they couldn't say by getting them in frame and then putting them on blast and ruining their [ __ ] lives so that for the rest of their [ __ ] lives, they're now the person who said some like thing that you should never, you know, some unsayable heretical thing that you
• 102:30 - 103:00 shouldn't have said or shouldn't have done. 99% of people would have fallen for that same gag of the Chinese dissident. We could do an experiment on it. Actually, it already happened. What's the name of the experiment that already proved that? 99. What is it? Say it louder. Louder. Come on, [ __ ] say it louder. Okay. It's called the Mgrim experiment. people would literally electrocute each other. So all he's doing is the Mgrim experiment on people and then he's going, "Oh, they just said it, man. It's not my fault." Look, at the end of the day, he's technically correct that it's technically, you know, they are responsible, but in the same
• 103:00 - 103:30 way that you guys didn't clap for Ibrahim doesn't mean that you guys should have your lives ruined because of that. But he professionally [ __ ] does that. And he doesn't give a [ __ ] Okay? He ruins lives. Doesn't give a [ __ ] And none of us give a [ __ ] You know why? Cuz it's hilarious. Just like how every Drake fan who loved Drake, Kendrick makes a better diss, they hate Drake. People are on the [ __ ] bandwagon. Drake makes a better disc against Kendrick, they would hate Kendrick because people are on the [ __ ] bandwagon. Okay, so when when I say things like be aware of the of like the
• 103:30 - 104:00 mom, the dad, the friends, Instagram, all that stuff, you're like, well, that's a lowquality person. 99.9% of people are in frame. That's 99.9% of people are not thinking for themselves. You would have had to find someone, one person out of 5,000 to not have to worry about that. It's about one in 5,000. Go to [ __ ] Walmart. What are you seeing? What? A bunch of [ __ ] people thinking for themselves. Okay, that's not the society as a whole. So
• 104:00 - 104:30 that's 99% of people are in frame not thinking for themselves. It doesn't matter if you met them in Bosezeman, Montana or Jackson, Wyoming or [ __ ] Salt Lake, Utah. That's just people. We need a human awakening project. We need to teach people to think for themselves. They're not teaching in school because we have the Rockerfeller system designed to make people good factory workers. We're not teaching it. I teach it and I'm one lone crazy [ __ ] that no one's even [ __ ] listening to except a small select group of people. So keep that in mind. And and I couldn't even help you guys, okay, when I came in here. Thank you. So yeah.
• 104:30 - 105:00 Now, so you're like, I'm going to find this like super leader who's not in anyone's frame, and I don't need to befriend the mom. Okay, bro. But yet, you yourself didn't clap at the start, but you're demonizing the girl. Stop demonizing the girl. The girl's a human. You're a human. You didn't clap when I came in for Ibraim cuz you looked around the room. No one initially clapped and you just fell in frame. Your girl's also going to fall in frame. Your friends are
• 105:00 - 105:30 going to fall in frame. You RS flip my friends and instructors RS flip. Humans RS flip. We all RS flip. Okay, let me explain to you how bad and predominant the RS flip thing is. Okay, this is the example I've taught a lot. I'll repeat it here. It's worth it. The first time I saw this, I had a girlfriend uh in my final year of high school. She moved with me to college. I was not that into her, but I was kind of into her, but I always thought we'd have to eventually break up. The whole time that I thought we would eventually break up, she was chasing me like a lost puppy. Eventually, after she chased me like a lost puppy for long enough, I felt
• 105:30 - 106:00 guilty about it. I you know what? I'm going to marry this girl. As soon as I had that thought, I started making a series of small mistakes and she later started dating the guy from the pita pit. And that's how all this started. Okay, that's her gift to the world. She's now fat, ugly, chewed up, and spit out. But she gave this one gift. Okay, thank God I didn't stay with her, but she gave us this one gift. Now from there, okay, so she now I remember she was talking to me and I'm
• 106:00 - 106:30 like, "Babe, like and she starts cheating on me, by the way." Now, by the way, she was living in Kingston, but we were from Ottawa. Okay, there's these place in Canada you've never heard of. And in order to date this guy, the manager from the Petit, she had to stay living at my house a little bit longer. So, do you think that she viewed me paying her rent for the past year and a half as having any equity? Or did she view it as a control even though I'm just letting someone live in my house for free? It's a gift. But it's like,
• 106:30 - 107:00 no, no, I'm going to lie and keep living here while I lock in with this dude who, by the way, she later had a kid with and divorced. Haha, sucker. Okay. Oopsie poopsie for you, bro. But the thing is, that's what happened to me, too, by the way. But I kicked her out. Sorry, brother. Yeah. Beat a piece of [ __ ] So, okay. So, so, so watch what happened here. Okay. So, did the fact that I let her live in my house for free for a year and a half have any equity? No, they don't. No, it's not like, oh, you gave me free rent. It's more like I came here
• 107:00 - 107:30 to support you. I should be allowed to live here longer while I get with this new guy. You see where I'm going with this? I remember another girl who I'd spent, this is when I was younger, this would have been worth more money to me, but I think I spent I don't know, maybe like a quarter mill on. And I remember like um she'd had like like and again this was someone who I had did not lead with money. I didn't spend a penny on for probably half a year. But later she's in my lifestyle. I'd buy nice things for her. She's loyal. So anyway,
• 107:30 - 108:00 um I remember when she broke up with me, it was during uh Julian Gate. Okay. And the Julian Gate thing hit. You know what's funny? The guy who recorded that god-awful video, the same guy who recorded it quit the company. He was the one antagonizing it to happen. You can hear his voice going, "Do it. Yeah, yeah, do it." All this [ __ ] He quits the company and says, "I just want to say that I don't stand behind the values of this company and so I'm leaving and I'm quitting." He was the one that
• 108:00 - 108:30 antagonized and filmed the whole thing. He caused the problem. But and then and then he's like, "I just agree with the values like all this shit." That guy that [ __ ] dude literally, man, that guy was out of control. He I'd rent hotels for him and [ __ ] and he would go he just randomly smashed up the hotels for no reason. Like just Yeah. He would just like take just cuz he's bored because he could. He would just smash up the hotel. He did so much [ __ ] up [ __ ] Then he antagonizes the problem. Makes my life hell. Quits. Says Owen's a
• 108:30 - 109:00 [ __ ] I don't say anything. And I'll look at these like 300,000 viewed videos where he's talking [ __ ] and it's like, man, Owen must be an [ __ ] I just don't feed it. Isn't that crazy? It's [ __ ] Yeah. And and then even if I said that, like, you know, this [ __ ] like like I probably paid 100 grand to destroyed hotels from this crazy [ __ ] but all that's true, but none of it [ __ ] matters. Okay? And you know why? Even though I was
• 109:00 - 109:30 making a ton of money and feeding that into the company so that he could build a brand, it's viewed as I worked for him. I help him build his business. There was no equity with what I gave into that. I had no there's no props. And by the way, nobody identifies with the business owner. People identify with the little employee. You mean the little employee who just made hundreds of thousands of dollars while destroying hotels and ruining my company? But nobody actually cares. When you're a man, okay, and you have a wife, do you
• 109:30 - 110:00 think anyone's going to empathize? No. Is there any groups like men whose lives were destroyed in divorce? Is there a group of that? Well, there are. They're probably viewed as complete [ __ ] clowns. If there is like the movie Fight Club where guys cried each other's tiss. It'd be represented like that. Okay. Like [ __ ] Losers. Losers. Okay. So, now by the way, how gutted are you? I talked about I didn't finish the example. How
• 110:00 - 110:30 gutted are you if you lose the love of your life? How gut how long does it take you to recover from that psychologically? lose love of your life. Years, could be years. What about when they took you for money, kids, house? You don't even live in your own house. You don't drive your own car. You make payments on the car that you don't drive. Then the guy who they actually want to [ __ ] who didn't include money, gets to come in and drive that car. Yeah, guys. How many times have I driven that car? How many times have I been in that house? I don't know, man.
• 110:30 - 111:00 How many times have I gone to a table that some sucker bought? I'm just having fun with swag. Now, I don't drink alcohol, but they'll the girls will think that I do. I go up, I'm dancing, I'm having fun, got swag, and they're like, "Here, take this drink. Take this drink. Take this drink from that sucker's table." When you use money, anything surrounding money is just viewed as as manipulation and control. It you have no equity with money. There's no equity. There is no equity. And the one who's telling you, "No, there is equity." There is. No, I'm different. I've literally been given
• 111:00 - 111:30 speeches because I've been dumb enough. Look, in weak moments that I'm not proud of. By the way, you know what's weird? I admit my weak moments in seminars all the time. I'm very, very transparent with my results. I always Do you guys remember I used post rejection compilations? Do you know that the average video to produce cost me a lot of money, right? Like that's thousands of dollars to produce. Who what teacher would spend thousands of dollars of his own money to produce a video that makes him look dumb? But I would do that. I make rejection compilations. The other day I posted a video of how this girl dumped me twice online. It did 1.2
• 111:30 - 112:00 million views in like a week. I was just admitting a flaw. I was admitting that I was a loser and I [ __ ] up. And all through the comments, "Fuck this guy. What a creep. What a weirdo. What a loser." I'm like, "No wonder none of you guys none no wonder no one in society gets any accurate feedback when the second that someone admits wrong and says, "Look, I'm an expert. I know more than anyone in the world on this topic. here are some of my here's some autopsies on some fuckups that I made. And then rather than people being like, "Wow, like f like like y'all wonder why
• 112:00 - 112:30 politicians don't tell you the truth." Like, why can't these politicians tell the truth? They tell the truth one time, they'll be thrown to thrown into thrown over the coals. All I did was post a video saying, "Here's where I [ __ ] up." None of the videos where I say educational things do 1.2 million views in like a couple days, right? But if a bunch of [ __ ] can pile onto it and be like, "Fuck this guy. What? He says he's an expert, but he did this." Yeah, it's me telling you what not to do. I I posted rejection compilations and other teachers will cut them and
• 112:30 - 113:00 they'll go, "This is what Owen teaches." I'm like, "Post your rejection compilation." Oh, that never happens to me. You [ __ ] liar. You're a liar. I am 100% transparent on everything. I'll tell you when I change opinions on things. I'll tell you when I was wrong. I'll tell you when I [ __ ] up. I'll tell you what I'm embarrassed about. I'll tell you the truth. So over time, look, this RS flip thing, here's a failed experiment that I learned. So when I was younger, oh yeah, so that girl, let's let me tell the story of how
• 113:00 - 113:30 I learned about RS flips. So that girl, she breaks up me for the Peter Pig guy. And I remember she's she's talking to me. She's so cold. And she's like, all she could say was bad stuff that I did. I remember she told me, "When I was in the bathtub last year, I asked you if you look beautiful and you said I did, but the way that you said it was like not convincing." I'm like, "How do you remember this?" Cuz the re slip just kicked in. Later, I remember um when I was
• 113:30 - 114:00 first building out instructors, I remember there was this there's these two guys I met like in New York. I love these guys. Like they we had a great time hanging out. So, I said, "Hey, you know, you guys are good at this [ __ ] Come down. you can help me run some programs. I bring him to Hollywood, put him up in a [ __ ] sick ass mansion, paid him good money. I didn't even have the money. I just shared the little bit I had. I just shared the little bit I had. Anyway, I had this um I remember at the time I was saying how and this was with me having very very little knowledge. I was like maybe we could get out of dating and run like an image
• 114:00 - 114:30 consulting company. I'm like I think that could be a good idea. These two guys who were my best friends at the time heard this [ __ ] left the company, and they created this thing called uh like this image consulting company because they thought that they'd found the secret to like the next level or something. They thought they're going to get rich off and they failed. They completely failed. But I remember when they left, like the weird [ __ ] they said to me, it was so weird. Like I remember like he was like glaring at me and stuff. I'm like, "Bro, it's me. It's it's Owen." Like what the [ __ ] bro? But
• 114:30 - 115:00 what happens is once the DNA kicks in and the DNA decides that you can selfishly benefit from doing something, it distorts reality. Why weren't they appreciative? Why did they get greedy? What you don't understand is you do the same thing. These guys were cooler than you, bro. I'm being honest with you. They were more cuz I know how I know how prone someone is to lips by looking their eyes cuz I can see their level of conscious. You're actually like in you're about a three out of 10 level consciousness. Okay. I'm look look I'm not I'm like a six. Okay.
• 115:00 - 115:30 If you say so. If I say so. Okay, don't worry. I say this [ __ ] for 22 years. Okay, but you can tell it by even by where your income level's at by a lot of things. Okay, but the point that I'm making and income's not everything, but here's my point. Okay, but you're not some monk meditating. So, what I'm saying is this, you'd be prone to RS flips. As long as we get stuck on the what causes, give me a sec. As long, and I'm going to get into that. As long as we're stuck at the lowquality people do this, Hollywood people do this, this girl is different, I would be different, all that. Look, what does it say in the Bible? Don't judge the chip in your
• 115:30 - 116:00 brother's eye when you have a plank in your own eye, you hypocrite. It's saying that because we all have that tendency in us. The more that you deny that tendency and make these faces. Look, if you can't recognize Stop, stop. Stop. As long as you recogn don't recognize that you have that possibility in you, you're going to do it. I've done it before. Okay. Well, then good. But I've learn but I've learned not to do that. You know what? I've been that person. So, you're saying that you'd be the one person out of a thousand that passed the Mgrim experiment, right? Yes. And you know
• 116:00 - 116:30 what? You might be, but what do you think every single other thousand people at the Mgrim experiment would have thought? Some people are right, some people are wrong, but they all failed. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, they're all wrong. So, the question is, would you be right or wrong? And until we as a society can admit that we have this tendency, we're always going to beat each other's throats and we're always going to be [ __ ] up. Look, even right-wing and leftwing politics, right-wing people are good. Leftwing people are good, but they're seeing things through their own RA and then they fight each other. So, let me explain. Can't understand that either. Okay, we're done. But I got you. No, no, but I want to come to your seminar someday and I will be there. I
• 116:30 - 117:00 appreciate and that's not a joke. I will be there. Yeah. I'm not even I'm not even being condescending. Yeah. Any of you guys run a seminar? I'd love to see you. I'd love to be there. Okay. Now, so let me keep going. So, the uh let me keep on that story. So, I saw that first with a girl. So, I thought it was a girl thing, but then I saw it around money with a guy. So, what I realized is this is not a guy girl thing. You know, a lot of the people who talk about like how girls do like female nature and all that. While they may be right about that nature, they're ignoring that men have it too. Men have the same nature. Men, it's called human nature surrounding
• 117:00 - 117:30 anything that has utility for survival and reproduction. It's just how it works. So, here's when I finally realized what this was caused by. Okay, here's what it was. So, I I was running boot camps. I'm young. And I've given this example before, but it's worth repeating here just to thread it in. So, I would do dinners. I was flat [ __ ] broke. Flat broke. And I remember I would do dinners and there might be like say six guys there. All great guys. I love them all. Same I love you guys. All great guys. And dinner back then in like
• 117:30 - 118:00 the early 2000s. It might have been like 30 bucks ahead. So then what would happen was the bill, let's say that it's 30 bucks times six students and two instructors. So it's about eight people. 30 bucks. So what is that on average? If it was about 240, I'd get about 180. Now I'm broke. I'm [ __ ] broke. I got no money. I'm I'm barely skating by on cheap cheap cheap cheap tradings I'm doing. I'm on the road. I am broke. I can't eat. So what would
• 118:00 - 118:30 happen is I'd be like, "Why did I get short changed?" And I'd ask everyone. I'd be like, "Hey, who who didn't pay? What the [ __ ] guys? I'm I'm I'm killing myself to teach you guys. You guys know how much I care about this [ __ ] How much energy I bring?" So I'm like, "I'm killing myself for you guys. Like what? How come you guys did this to me? I can't eat this week. What the [ __ ] But nobody would pay. Two, three weeks in a row. Man, I was a lot slimmer back then. Man, I was slim back then because I couldn't I couldn't eat food. I was sleeping on floors and I couldn't [ __ ] eat. So, anytime you see me with a bit of money, remember that. I
• 118:30 - 119:00 couldn't even [ __ ] eat because my students stole the [ __ ] money. So, um, finally after a couple weeks in a row, cuz I I I think I did like a month straight and I'm like, why do all my students like do this? Like, this is crazy. I thought back to the instructor thing and I thought back to the girl thing and I said, you know, here's I'm going to do because I was beginning to suspect what an RS flip was without anyone ever telling me. By the way, R for those of you who don't know is reticular activation system. Make sure that you look that up if you don't know what it is. It's our selective focus. It's what we focus in on first of all we screen out your you should always be
• 119:00 - 119:30 aware of what RA is. You should always be aware of what your RA is doing, seeing and filtering out and what other people's RA is doing. By the way, part of spiritual growth is that you lose your victim complex. And what you do is you can see opportunity. And the reason why we have gratitude, why is gratitude one of the highest forms of spiritual growth, if not the highest? Because gratitude lets our RA see the opportunity. When you're in victim, you
• 119:30 - 120:00 can't your RA. You could have a million dollars sitting right here, but if you're in victim, you can't see the pile of cash. That's why politicians in victim politics will convince entire populations that they can't be successful. It's a way to enslave them because now we can't do slavery so that you know how you do it instead. You convince them that they have no potential. If you Okay, people through all human history have done [ __ ] up [ __ ] to each other. But if you can't do it directly, you do it
• 120:00 - 120:30 indirectly by telling them you're a permanent victim. So the same evil people that would have done evil slavery back in the day can do the same [ __ ] now. But it's mental slavery. You put the jail in the mind. Say the word jail in the mind. Jail in the mind. So how do you imprison someone's mind? You make them believe that there's no opportunity. So they can't physically see it and now they need you. Okay? It's like big Bubba in jail, you know. I'm gonna put my I'm gonna
• 120:30 - 121:00 plug up your ass with my dick so no one else can put it in to help you. And then they go, "Yes, please put it in. Protect me. Okay. I'm just trying to help you. I love you." Yeah. The politician loves you, bro. The politician is not a [ __ ] demon. They love you. They're not demonically possessed. Yeah. Look at their pupils. was not demonp possessed. They love you. All right. If only the founding fathers saw it coming. But the founding
• 121:00 - 121:30 fathers gave you the ability to vote him out now. Anyway, so I'm at dinner. So finally I say and go study. You need to know what your RA is seeing at all times and you need to know what other people's RS see at all times. Okay? For example, you go out to a girl, you have more value than her boyfriend. If you start talking, her brain filters out the voice of her boyfriend and can only hear your voice. Like the movie March of the Penguins, when the penguin can hear its own kid from like miles away or whatever
• 121:30 - 122:00 the [ __ ] it was, if you have more value than the guy, the guy's voice gets tuned out. She can only hear yours. True. It's true. Okay. RA is built to is built to filter out for what has value or what is a threat. If someone with a gun came in here, you couldn't hear me anymore. You'd be like, "What? What did no one say that one point when the guy when the gun came in? I don't know. I couldn't hear it. It would filter it out. But if someone who's annoying is talking in the corner and you like what I'm saying, you're going to hear me and you're going
• 122:00 - 122:30 to filter out them. That's it filters for value and threat and it warps perception. And that's to answer your question. It warps perception. Perception is being warped. So what I did with this dinner thing was I um said, "Everyone write your name and what you paid on the back of the bill." And what happened was when I did this was the bill started coming back instead of 60 70 bucks short because they miss they probably filtered out the tip the tax and the drink. That's probably how they rationalize it, right? They it's it's 24
• 122:30 - 123:00 not 30 not 31, right? Because that's about what I paid. Filter it out. As soon as I said write your name beside it, I would get about 60 70 bucks plus in a program that size. Depends on the size of the program. And I'd say hey guys, y'all paid too much. You know what the same people would say? Keep it. You're doing a great job. So the whole thing of like the lowquality people, same people, different process, right? So the
• 123:00 - 123:30 the lowquality people is when there's no accountability and the high quality people is when there's accountability. The low quality people is when there's no leverage. The high quality people is when there's leverage. But let me give you the punch line on this. I did that exact same process for like a decade or whatever it was and I never had a problem with the bill ever again. And by the way, I love that little tip I'd always get. Finally, after like a decade, I said, "You know what? I'm going to not do the
• 123:30 - 124:00 process. I was doing well financially by that point. So, I said, I'm going to do this. I'll even pay the difference if I have to. I'll just I'll I'll pay for the loss. I just want to see what'll happen." I'm like, "Next couple of dinners, I'm going to do it. Just see what happen." I do the thing at the dinner and it comes back short again. Of course, I just wanted to know how each person rationalized putting it short. So, I sat there for like 45 minutes going through the small table just seeing like who how each person rationalized. We finally and the bill was way short, by the way, because it's
• 124:00 - 124:30 a more expensive restaurant. So, the bill's short. Finally, what happens is I get it to within like $30, $40 or something because it's more expensive restaurant, but I can't figure out who the person was who shorted it. So, I sit there for like another 20 minutes trying to figure out who shorted it. Knock. I I know what you're thinking. You're thinking I'm all petty. I need the money. I don't need the money. I just want to know how it happened. Finally, I figured out who shorted it. Who was it? I shorted. It was me.
• 124:30 - 125:00 You ever think you can't find something in the fridge? There's no juice in the fridge. You ever do that? You sit there for half an hour. Where's the [ __ ] juice? Where's the [ __ ] juice? It's your brain. Um, repeat this after me. You don't believe what you see. You don't believe what you see. You see what you believe. You see what you believe. In other words, if a politician comes and says, "You have no opportunity. You need me." And you believe that. You could have a million dollars cashed in sitting in right there. You're not going to see it. You could be in the most
• 125:00 - 125:30 prosperous country, opportunity, opportunity filled country in all human history. You're not going to see it. You could be in the softest environment to make money in human history ever. And you're not going to see it because you're in it now, by the way. Okay? How many of you all have started your online business yet? You can literally make money from home. Okay? You're happy for the guys that did it now. But you won't think to do it. Oh, it's hard. Economy is bad right now. What marketing book have you read today, sir? It's tough right now. Where's your Where's your
• 125:30 - 126:00 social media that you built? Well, it's tough right now. Okay. So, it's crazy, man. Okay. Now, if you believe that there's no juice in that fridge, you'll sit there for half an hour looking for it. And then what is going to happen is your friend's going to come. They're going to see it. You're going to go, "What the [ __ ] This was here the whole time. What the fuck?" Because your RA believed it wasn't there. Couldn't see it. that some people have said that Native Americans when the Europeans came couldn't see the boat off the shore and it it almost took
• 126:00 - 126:30 like a spiritually advanced kind of spiritual man or woman whoever it was San Fran and literally and had to sit there staring at it and eventually plummet came into view they couldn't see it your is always tricking you look if if you don't believe me here's the last thing I'd say who here knows uh how magic works when say you have a pen and you go like that and the pen just disappears you ever seen that the way that magic works works. All they do is they just move the pen, but they do this leadin where you believe that the pen's going to disappear and just by
• 126:30 - 127:00 moving it you're like like it looks like it disappeared. That's all the magic is. Magic is 97% presentation. Okay? Like if you know magic, you can just be like you could be like oh and then this is going to happen and that's going to happen and then you just like put the thing in your pocket and then people be like it's that's how [ __ ] crazy is. you know when we do the 360s and all that stuff. Okay, so we do 360 feedback, okay, in all of our trainings and where we get everyone in the room to give each other feedback because you're and what
• 127:00 - 127:30 you'll see is every single person's RA is going to like like I'll do a training with like 20 guys and on the final day you'll get feedback from all 20 guys of or or women who is ever there um of basically like uh what each person saw and it's really amazing because you're like, "Oh [ __ ] that's good feedback. Oh [ __ ] that's good feedback. Oh [ __ ] that's good feedback. Like you hear feedback from so many different sources because everyone's ra is a little bit different what they're seeing, what they're deriving out of
• 127:30 - 128:00 something. That's why you have to have a great council of like books that you read, mentors, peers who you trust. You've got to be getting other people's ra. People that are politically polarized are always getting all their info from the right, all their info from the left. Right? Your girlfriend who's about to leave you is getting all her info from he's an [ __ ] and now she's building a case on you. Once she believes that you're the bad guy, she's building a case on you. Oh, well, he didn't get me flowers that one time. He didn't take me for dinner that one time. You know, this girl like looked at him that was suspicious. Like, like it's just she believes something that's in
• 128:00 - 128:30 her head. Brother thinks it, brother feeds it, friend feeds it, father feeds it, mother feeds it. Yeah, but why should you need so why should you need somebody who's needs to be in the frame of their mother and brother? And yet you can't clap without other people's permission. And you're smart. By that same logic of you need a quality partner who wouldn't need that, you're trash. By the same by the same logic that you shouldn't be aware of of what your partner's experiencing within her group, all of you are trash. Every one of you in here is trash and lowquality because
• 128:30 - 129:00 none of you clapped for Ibraim because you all looked at each other. No one did it. You're all trash too then. So why are we judging women for being trash if all of you are quote trash by that same logic? Why are all the people in the Mgrim experiment trash? countries that were taken over by genocidal dictators. Even though what they did is pure evil, why did they go and do that kind of [ __ ] Because that the whole point of the Mgrim experiment was to show how group think and make people do evil things. People just look in their you're going to wrap up later in the day. Okay, but okay, I have a 13
• 129:00 - 129:30 question maximum, but the point is this. You're at 80. So So the point is this. Okay, it's like they did that experiment to understand how these horrible things could happen. Human beings are in group think. The way that we get out of this is we have to teach humans to get out of group think. It's not even that hard. You could teach a don't be in group think class in grade school. It's not even that hard to teach it to make people just aware of their tendencies. But it is what it is. Remember in grade
• 129:30 - 130:00 school everyone's worried who's cool, who's not cool. It's crazy how this [ __ ] works, right? This is also, by the way, why social proof is so effective. You know how you know people like, "Oh, a guy who's ugly could never get a girlfriend. If all he did was get some social proof, if he had the social proof, he could get a girlfriend." For the same logic, just go work. Go be friendly to a bunch of people in a bar club. Become popular in that bar club. You could do the same thing. Build a following. Get a bunch of people following you. You'll have influence. It's not that hard to get social proof.
• 130:00 - 130:30 Use your brain. Be resourceful. You'll benefit from the same result, same outcome. Look, if a magician can go, "Oh, this [ __ ] thing's going to disappear." Puts it in their [ __ ] pocket, and you go, "Ah!" Because you believed it, that should show you how malleable human perception is. If I can't even see the bill that I'm doing, because my DNA is so psycho that it's making me see things the wrong way, where there's no accountability. Perception is malleable. If the country can become politically polarized, perception's malleable. If the Mgrim
• 130:30 - 131:00 experiment exists, perception is malleable. If you can go up to a girl in front of her boyfriend, have more value than him, and she tunes him out, perception is malleable. Perception is just malleable. I'm sorry, guys. And not every in my most Canadian accent I can give you. I'm sorry. And and let me tell you something. People are not trash. Okay? People are not trash. Our social conditioning is trash. Okay? We talk about how modern women are [ __ ] That's cuz men are [ __ ] Now, people say, "Oh, you're shaming men." Now listen, no legitimate man in the world ever gets to
• 131:00 - 131:30 blame a woman for anything because you're the [ __ ] leader. Even though I complained about experience that I have with staff or they stab me in the back, at the end of the day, was that their fault or mine? Say it with truth, guys. Those guys who I fed money to, built their brands, etc., etc., and they did what they did, including the the video guy with the Julian thing, whose fault was it? Yours. Guys, if I'm a grown ass man, then whose
• 131:30 - 132:00 fault is it? Yours. I'm a grown What is it? What does it say about me if you don't say it's my fault? What are you really saying to me if you're saying it's not my fault? You're saying you're a [ __ ] [ __ ] Okay. I could have learned I could have manned up. I was in control of that situation. It's on me. You're a man. It's on you. Okay, your girl goes in cheats. You could have befriended her mom. You could have befriended her dad.
• 132:00 - 132:30 You could have not been a [ __ ] You could have not vented to her. You could have not let the dynamic slip. You could have not been a beta male. You could have built social proof. You could have been doing parties. There's things you could have done. If society is going off the rails, it's on you. You know who I put blame for 2020? Me. Do you understand? Me. I don't personally think I caused it, but at the end of the day, we are responsible for the society that we live in. You're a you're a [ __ ] man, okay? Oh, they're doing this, they're doing that. [ __ ]
• 132:30 - 133:00 what they are doing. What are you doing? Look, that doesn't mean to go like, you know, kill yourself or something like, oh, you know, all the ills of the world are my fault. That would be a little narcissistic. I'm not I'm not taking my, you know, narcissistic tendencies to that level. But look, even though in reality, obviously I didn't cause 2020, y'all didn't cause 2020, we kind of have to lie to ourselves and think that to be a man. Okay? So, as soon as you're going, "Oh, like modern girls are doing this or that." Y'all are the ones setting the [ __ ]
• 133:00 - 133:30 frame. It's on you to set the [ __ ] frame. So, okay, this [ __ ] room couldn't even clap Ibraim. Like, how come they don't want to accept my leadership? Cuz you don't accept your own leadership. You don't even lead yourself. So why would they lead you? Or why would No. Why? That was a Freudian slip. Why? Why would they let you lead them? Why do they lead you? My homie here can't even get me a
• 133:30 - 134:00 pear drink. I'm joking. We're We're boys. We're joking. But I'm making the point like, "Yeah, she should submit to what?" to the nonclap guy. She should submit to the guy that can't clap. She should submit to a man where someone was up here busting his ass for an entire afternoon and couldn't you couldn't even clap for him unless everyone else did first. And then you're wondering why you let the dynamics slip in your
• 134:00 - 134:30 relationships. Because you're looking outside yourself. You're looking outside yourself. So, am I right or am I right? That's why I got mad when I saw you did it because I'm like, "You guys are fucked." So, it's a part of your brain that is just always looking outside of external frames, but everybody's [ __ ] doing it. That's why 2020 happens. That's why the wrong politicians get elected. That's why they feel like they
• 134:30 - 135:00 have to censor. The argument for internet censorship is based on the idea basically the same reason y'all couldn't clap because they're worried that someone with bad ideas could spread them and that you're too dumb to say no. Okay, fine. Personally, I still against that. But the point is is that if that's the argument they're going to make, they're basically saying like when someone says we've got to censor you as a grown adult, what are they really saying? We don't trust you. They're saying we don't trust you. You're [ __ ] stupid. But the truth is, y'all are making them right when you don't
• 135:00 - 135:30 clap for Ibraim, right? Because if you're like, "Oh, what's everyone else doing?" Well, that's why they're worried that if some [ __ ] comes on with bad beliefs that people are going to listen if they get popular. So that's why they're they're trying to contain it like whack-a-ole. That's why social media scares people because they're like, "Oh [ __ ] it's like whack-a-ole." But the problem is then what these [ __ ] do is they come in and they say, "We'll do the job of whack-a-ole, but we're just going to alter the election. we're going to do the job whackable, but we're just going to capitulate to the big pharma, big
• 135:30 - 136:00 this, big that, whoever has money. So they they claim they're protecting you, but they themselves are not qualified to be protectors. So that's the [ __ ] crazy thing that you see happening. Okay, so how do we get around this? Build a next generation of people. Create a human awakening project. Build a next generation of people that are not, "Huh? What? Am I cool? Am I not cool? Oh, how come the girls are getting all [ __ ] crazy lately? I'm going to get mad. Now, let me show you a bit more on
• 136:00 - 136:30 this dynamic, how this dynamic occurs. And I'm going to show you even more about why what's happening is happening. I'm going to teach you, if you can pay attention, it's going to change your life. Okay. Okay. So, human beings, we have this thing I've talked about before. There's a book about it. They call it the winner effect. The winner effect is basically when you get a bunch of social validation, your brain feels like you're
• 136:30 - 137:00 enlightened. Now, I know that sounds like [ __ ] but it's the [ __ ] truth. And let's just admit it. Let's just let's just admit it. Okay, but does it really? It's outside yourself. Well, it's pretty [ __ ] potent. Okay, if I take you and there's like seven, eight girls that just keep lap dancing you, telling you you're handsome, telling you you're hot, telling saying they want your dick and all this kind of stuff, and this is just what your life is like all the time. Bro, you're going to become the opposite of what you did. You see how for you I say make a sound
• 137:00 - 137:30 effect and you can't. That's because your winner effect is shut down because you've been deprived of validation. If your winner, if if I took you out tonight, okay, and I pump you up properly and I tell you the [ __ ] man and you believe me, you'll just start dancing, bro. You'll start joking. You'll start laughing. You'll start having fun. You'll start going crazy. Like, you will change. You'll basically become Sway Lee the rapper. Like, you'll just be having fun. You'll be loving. you'll be making love to the moment
• 137:30 - 138:00 because this whole idea of build build is a denial of the present moment because I don't like the present moment cuz I'm not getting validated but maybe if I keep building things eventually I'll get to a better present moment. This is again like I'm just like dropping stuff on you casual here. Like this is like layers deep 50 trillion leagues below the sea like wisdom here. So everything I'm saying pay close attention. It's taking me years to figure this [ __ ] out. We as men have a low winner effect. We
• 138:00 - 138:30 believe the way out of that is to build a business. Then people will like me. That gets us even more in the habit of hating the present moment. And we don't make love to the present moment. We deny the present moment. But paradoxically, if you had a bunch of validation, you would suddenly stop needing to get away from the present moment because your brain would be telling you everything's fine the way it is
• 138:30 - 139:00 now. You start dancing, you start having fun, you start making funny jokes. Basically, you become attract you become actually attractive. Now, what would happen is as you did that, you'd get more and more validation from guys and girls. This would then reinforce your validation and then you get more in the present, more in the present, more in the present, more in the present. And that's why for men in their dating life, when it rains it pours and when it's
• 139:00 - 139:30 dry, it's like the [ __ ] Sahara. Because when no one's liking you, again, it's very streaky. Remember how I said your value can shoot up dramatically or down dramatically and rapidly. If you're on a dry spell and you hate that you're on a dry spell, you [ __ ] hate it and you hate the present moment, you when you talk to people, you'll be like you'll feel neediness. You'll be kind of stuck in your head. You won't be that funny. You'll be forcing it. You'll try to reenact how you used to act when you were feeling good, but you don't actually feel that way and they feel the
• 139:30 - 140:00 inongruence. And so what happens is you'll get rejected. Rejected. You'll go home with 50 rejections in a row. It's bad. This is why after a breakup, guys get real despondent. Girls go and they get When a girl's feeling like down, what happens with guys? How do guys act when the girls just been broken up with? Guys, come on. What happens to a beautiful woman right after her boyfriend dumped her? How do men act? Having an attractive girlfriend is like you had a famous rap star or rock star
• 140:00 - 140:30 or actor in a vat and when she dumps you, you opened the vat. She went in front of a crowd of 80,000 people started singing while 80,000 people went. Is her name Sarah? Sarah. Sarah. And she's like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah." Like Sarah. Sarah. She's like h like that's her life cuz she's a beautiful woman. Every [ __ ] dumbass
• 140:30 - 141:00 will come. Now, by the way, back in the day you had [ __ ] shaming. So, if the girl went and [ __ ] some random fun guy, she might be embarrassed about it. Now, she doesn't have to [ __ ] you anymore. She gets to [ __ ] the guy she wanted to the whole time, not the guy she settled for. So, now she's getting [ __ ] by the guy she actually wanted. There's no more. I'm not saying that we should bring back [ __ ] shaving, but we should acknowledge that it it did do certain things, but that's gone. Okay, we have to I'm not saying to bring it back, but I'm just saying we have acknowledge what it did that's gone. So, there's no downside for doing her friends are high-fiving her. Okay, so
• 141:00 - 141:30 now she's she leaves your stupid ass. She gets to [ __ ] the guy she wants to [ __ ] She's a [ __ ] rock star. She's at badass baller party. She's on airplanes. She's on yachts. What are you doing? Okay, she's on Oh, by the way, drugs are now viewed as cool. So, she's on coke. She's she's [ __ ] the guy she wants to [ __ ] She's allowed to take the drugs. Everyone's telling me what a loser and how controlling you were that you wouldn't let her do coke. How controlling and jealous you
• 141:30 - 142:00 were, okay? That you wouldn't let her do coke or let her connect to God with the psychedelic. Okay? Because you're not a man of God. Doesn't matter if you read the Bible two hours a day. You didn't take Sila. Yes. [Music] [Applause]
• 142:00 - 142:30 I'm the rockar. Oh, hi guys. Oh, who is that angry man? Who is that hungry man on 4 hours sleep with a food fast? Hi angry guys. Relationships are great. They're stable. Your girl's not going to leave you. Believe in love. What was I talking about? Just have love. Okay.
• 142:30 - 143:00 What are we talking about? Do the shrooms. Okay. So, drunk. I drank the Kool-Aid. What? What? What? What' you put in this, Chris? Okay, so Okay, so guys, um, God, I'm so happy. This is the This is the best drink ever. This is like water in the desert, guys. Okay. Okay. All right. I'm back. I'm I can feel like the glycogen entering my brain now. So, God, I just
• 143:00 - 143:30 keep smiling. This I'm like the girl who's single. I'm like the single girl, okay? on Coke, on a yacht, [ __ ] the guys I want to [ __ ] getting high fives for your friends. The world cheers. The world cries a little tear of joy and happiness when she breaks up with you. Think about that. You know it's not wrong. This is what you're dealing with, [ __ ] So, yo, the last girl that I broke up with, she's from Florida. And literally, my boys call me. So, like my boys call
• 143:30 - 144:00 me like, "Yo, she was at an afterparty that you were supposed to be at last night. She came back to LA with her friend. She's at the afterparty." Now, think about it this way, right? When she moved here from Florida, she's probably like, "Oh, oh, it'll like introduce me to all these cool party stuff. It'd be kind of cool." Not that that's her highest priority, but it's like, you know, added benefit. But in reality, did she need me to go to that after party? Hell no, cuz she's a dime piece. She was at that she was at my boy's [ __ ] party. He calls me up. He goes, "Your girl's at the [ __ ] party." I'm like, "What's she doing in LA?"
• 144:00 - 144:30 She had a Okay, my boys call me. I'm I don't watch her story. They're like, "She's at the [ __ ] Four Seasons. She's at a thousand night hotel." She didn't need me for that cuz she's got a vagina. And And this ain't the only dick in town. Y'all would be saving up your [ __ ] money to put her up at the Four Seasons to get to [ __ ] her. Anyone you in this room, if you don't even have money, you do it. You just come up with it. You borrow it. So, she doesn't need you for anything. She doesn't need you
• 144:30 - 145:00 for [ __ ] Do you understand? Because as long as they're down to [ __ ] some guy or at least to make to dangle it, someone's going to pay it. So there's as soon as they break up, they will be swarmed with you go girl, he's a dick, you're a queen, sleigh. Um, all the all the guys that they actually want to have sex with, they're going to [ __ ] they get to go back on drugs, they
• 145:00 - 145:30 get to connect to God. I don't know if you guys knew this, okay? And you guys might have not known this, but if you zel a guy with a face tattoo in a van, $200, he can go to a lab. Now, who knows what that was cut in that drug, but the the face tattoo guy that you zelled the 200 bucks can connect you to God himself. You can go to EDC.
• 145:30 - 146:00 Okay. Now, it's funny because when I walk through EDC sober, I never been to EDC, but I've been things like it. What I see is a bunch of people whose brains are cooking, looking at it, looking at a bunch of flashing lights going like this while their brain literally overheats while they clench their jaw. They're going like that while their brain cooks, while lights flash, and they go
• 146:00 - 146:30 uh like that because the drug took all the serotonin for a month that's supposed to be in reserve, released it all, depleted their serotonin receptors, down permanently and irreversibly downregulated their serotonin expression, which means now that if you're their boyfriend and they get in a bad mood. They can't regulate themselves, but at least they got to t
• 146:30 - 147:00 have tingly skin and for only a couple dollars zelled to a man with a face tattoo, he was able to drive his van to a lab, God knows what was mixed in it, and she talked to Jehovah. Jehovah. Jehovah came down. Cindy, hello, Cindy. You're in heaven now on earth. This has nothing to do with overclocking things
• 147:00 - 147:30 in your brain that should not be overclocked. You're talking to Jehovah. You know the word hallucinogen means hallucinate, but this is not a hallucination. You're curing trauma. This is 20 years of therapy in a night. [ __ ] like going to seminars for years, reading books, self-growth, learning the healing arts, which is a very deep and profound, beautiful art form that could take decades to master. Just drink this
• 147:30 - 148:00 [ __ ] Send me the zel to to Mac Pimp Z. Okay, Mac Pimp Z is going to connect you to Jehovah. Just pick up the phone and then you're going to manifest. Now, isn't it amazing that the hot girls tend to be more talented at the art of manifestation than the ugly girls? She got to manifest it. And by the way, here's the best part. All the [ __ ] that you bought her,
• 148:00 - 148:30 she's going to say, "I manifested it by being in a high vibe." The drugs put her in a high vibe by by raising her vibration with pimp Zatty Zickd's lab drug with zel that some other person paved the zel. Um what happened was she raised her vibe. You who toiled in entrepreneurship miserably for decades
• 148:30 - 149:00 bought her the stuff. She manifested it with her high vibe. But then she realized that her vibe ultimately as her vibe is raising from the lab that she can't be around anything negative. So then you have one little slip up. She'll keep raising her vibe. Go do more drugs and keep manifesting. This is real what I'm saying. They believe this many of them. Yeah. This is not a joke. This is not a joke. This is not It's a joke. Like this
• 149:00 - 149:30 is some great A comedy [ __ ] but it's kind it's kind of like a [ __ ] up dark comedy. It's like funny but true. This is what you're dealing with. This is the social this is the the friends, the social conditioning what you're dealing doesn't matter if you gave this person your heart and your soul because they're told drugs are healthy. They're told that you're bad. They're told that they should be free. Um again, I'm not saying that we should bring back [ __ ] shaming, but there there is nothing bad. They just like [ __ ] random dudes that put them in
• 149:30 - 150:00 harums and don't take them serious. They're being invited to parties. And the other thing is you can have a baby forever and maybe you don't even want to have a baby. But the crazy thing is this. Let me tell you guys something, okay? The mother of my kids, uh, she's my age, right? When a woman hits around my age, they don't get invited to parties anymore. They're not invited on the Dan Bulerian vote anymore. They're not invited to the Playboy Mansion anymore. So that attention dries up. It's a
• 150:00 - 150:30 bubble. It's like being an NBA athlete. It's a short career being a hot girl. But the thing is this, okay, the mother of my kids all see her with my three sons. They don't like game her in like, you know, gaming. But you know how like you can talk to a woman like kind of pump her state, make her laugh. You
• 150:30 - 151:00 know, maybe you're by the pool, you throw her in, but like in a funny way where she's laughing, it's like playful, consensual, playful, right? There's not a lot of guys that are going to do that, you know, with a girl once she's old, right? But you want to know who will be that person who splashes the water and makes her laugh and views her as a [ __ ] as the ultimate Ted in the world? You know who that's going to be? her son and daughter too. So that's why having children is important. All that attention that
• 151:00 - 151:30 they're getting where they're a rock star and they're told webs of lies that will all be dissolved. By having children, they will get to continue that life of being a 10 with their own child or children. And it's so [ __ ] beautiful. You could adopt. It's so beautiful. But as part of depopulation, they're told it's lame. It's not fun. You could be free. But they're assuming that the lifestyle that they have while young as rock stars in a vat being set
• 151:30 - 152:00 free, they're assuming that that continues forever. But it doesn't. And so what happen and and what happens is they wind up going childless. Do you guys understand how many cats are going to be needed in the next generation? Anything that you can invest in now that would help a person who's stuck being single and childless, [ __ ] throw your money that [ __ ] I mean, I'm saying this is a joke, but maybe that's true. So, that's what you're going to see. We're also not going to hit
• 152:00 - 152:30 population replacement rate. You're seeing entire countries right now that are going to implode. Their culture will be gone. Those countries will implode because they're not even hitting population. We're not hitting the 2.1 replacement rate. I don't have exact figures or knowledge on that, but you know the general gist of it. Okay. What's happening in Germany? It's crazy. What's the population replacement in Germany? It's it's probably like 1.6 or something. Yeah. So, but also the people will be miserable when they're older in most cases. Not every case. Everyone's a little different. It's not a one size all one sizefits-all solution, but a lot
• 152:30 - 153:00 of people will be unhappy. There's no greater joy than having kids. Again, you guys as men will be the same thing. So, have your kids. And that's really what the speech is about. I'm scaring you, but it's good to be a little bit scared so you know what you're getting into. I'm going to try to show you how you can do this, okay? Even though it's hard, it's harder than you think. Now, um there's a expression here. One second. I'm going to tell you this. This is worthwhile to tell it to you. My friend told me this. The word is called Chesterton's fence after GK
• 153:00 - 153:30 Chesterton. So, my buddy Sam explained this to me. I'm not sure if this is exactly what he meant or not. I haven't read it, but he said to look it up. Chester's fence. So what he said was if we go into the forest or a farm or something and we find some fence that was put there 200 years ago, we don't know why that fence was put there. So we say, "Oh [ __ ] there's some stupid fence here. Some weird old crabby old loser conservative put this fence here. Let's knock it down." You knock down the fence. Next thing you know, your you know your farm is, I don't know, like
• 153:30 - 154:00 taken over by coyotes or gets flooded or, you know, like someone put that fence there for a reason and you didn't understand why that fence was there. Okay. So, things like marriage that now we're saying, "Okay, we're done with that." Now, remember I said that marriage is institutionally captured and corrupted. But I said that we've got to bring marriage back. Now, what I here's the thing. Why did marriage in some ways work in the past and why doesn't it work
• 154:00 - 154:30 now? So, let's review this. Why didn't it work in the past? Why does it work now? What? Okay. So what did it do in the past that it would actually help a relationship to to bring the kids up? What percentage of people were Christian 100 years ago? A lot more than now, right? Did they actually believe in God or they're just like I'm spiritual and believe in Christ consciousness maybe and never read the
• 154:30 - 155:00 Bible but they did shrooms. Okay. So they believed in God. So if they made a promise before God and they [ __ ] that up, where do they go? Hell. Now look, I'm not saying that we need to make people believe that. I don't even believe that. But help to not have your girl out on a yacht doing shrooms. So it was a Chester fence. Now you also maybe had a small community without [ __ ] Instagram. Okay. By the
• 155:00 - 155:30 way, can I make an interesting point to you guys? There's something called the Overton window. Say the word Overton window. Overton window. Notice that small individuals will be demonized for for wrong think. Even this video could be demonized for wrong think by the way. Agreed. Yeah. I mean when you post this okay so you get an individual gets demonized for wrong think. And yet a company like Tinder or Instagram that could be responsible for the downfall of
• 155:30 - 156:00 society be responsible for a nonreplacement birthright that makes a country implode will not be held responsible. And I'm not saying that they should be, but it's I'm not saying they should because people are free to do what they want. But I'll say this um like I don't believe that we need to get rid of fast food. I think we need to educate people so they don't want to eat fast food. Okay? Hey, I don't believe in putting people in jail for drugs. I think we educate people so they don't want to take drugs. Okay, we have to get it at the root, not forcing people into
• 156:00 - 156:30 things. Um, I don't believe in censorship, but I believe that we educate people not to be hateful, right? It's if if people are hateful, then educate them better. So, anyway, look, and that actually can be done, by the way. Nobody who's who's connected to God or spiritual is going to hate another [ __ ] person. So anyway, so look, the marriage back in the day, you had a you you had um you didn't have
• 156:30 - 157:00 Instagram. You didn't have all this [ __ ] up [ __ ] right? That was there was flashing different lifestyles in front of people. Um by the way, with Instagram, this another thing, too. If back in the day your significant other was texting someone, would that be acceptable? No. No. If everyone's doing social media, they're engaging with their followers. I have never been told with someone that I DM'd, I have a boyfriend. It doesn't happen because they're engaging with their followers. They're networking. Every single girl I've dated had a boyfriend. Almost every
• 157:00 - 157:30 single one had a boyfriend when we're DMing. Later, there's a fissure in their relationship. And then they leave. They weren't cheating. They were I was just a follower that they're engaging with. They're engaging with a fan base. Now, they probably weren't engaging with their fan base of guys they don't like, but they're engaged with their fan base now. So, and and you can't say anything about it cuz what are you going to do? Be the guy who like won't let your girlfriend uh do her job on social media. You can't be that guy. So, that's
• 157:30 - 158:00 So, you're kind of between a rock and a place. You can't really win. I think you just leave it. But focus on being attractive. Now, back in the day, you had a community. The girl had a choice between Peter, Stan, and Steve. and the other stand and that was it. So you had a whole community. It would be embarrass embarrassing to get divorced. You promised in front of God. The families now became blended. The families were
• 158:00 - 158:30 invested in the success of the relationship. Again, I'm not trying to bl bring back [ __ ] shaming, but [ __ ] shaming was a uh was a thing. So they're not they're not they're not going to be running around on a boat on drugs [ __ ] the guy with the tattoos. Okay. Now, when I when I say things like [ __ ] the guy with the tattoos, what do I mean by that? I mean someone who is optimized for fun, not building a business. Now, this functioned because right now as a man, you are being told to optimize for being fun and not and not being a provider. As I've told you,
• 158:30 - 159:00 you'll have no equity by being a provider. You'll have no equity with money. You'll have no equity with friendship. So, you're basically being taught be as fun as humanly possible. So, what does the next generation of kids want to do? They want to be doctors, lawyers, firemen, plumbers, electricians, soldiers. What's the next generation of kids want to be? Social media influencer, Tik Tocker, now back in the
• 159:00 - 159:30 day, most guys about 25 had a wife and kids. So [ __ ] Hitler came and [ __ ] with you. You said, "You're not [ __ ] with my wife and kids. [ __ ] you. And you went and stormed the beach of Normandy cuz you had what's called a stake in the survival of the country. Say a stake in the survival of the country. In the survival of the country. Guy's got no wife and kids. Does he have a stake? Are you going to How many of you guys in here would storm the beaches of Normandy? Now got one guy. Careful the
• 159:30 - 160:00 angle. You're putting your hand up. [Laughter] So I've had a had a client [ __ ] that nuts. the uh so what you have is this um you guys wouldn't even defend your own country that literally means and this is some of the more elevated men in the country so okay this is not the average Walmart walker right in this room so in other words that means that right now country like China could just
• 160:00 - 160:30 walk in none of you are going to do anything because you know your sacrifice is worthless so that so the country has not defended so maybe you can put it just in the Here's another thing too. What did men provide for women back in the day? Some degree of protection, right? But that's outsourced now to the cause to the government. So what do you really have to offer to a woman at this point? All that you have. Here's the thing.
• 160:30 - 161:00 I've said what's bad about the current situation. I will share something that's good about it. I actually do believe that back in the day, women felt pressured to marry guys they weren't attracted to. And I think it sucked for them. And I can appreciate because because just because I'm a guy, I can think outside my own guy brain and think what it's like to be a girl and I can imagine what it would like to have to be wiped up some guy I'm not attracted to and have to [ __ ] him and
• 161:00 - 161:30 have his kids. It probably sucked. So, I can appreciate that. Here's the thing, though, between men and women. Let's say that us three guys had sex with someone and you came in there. You came in there. I came in there. Do you want to go down on her? Why not? Well, I got to be honest with you. Good. I don't either. And it's because it's
• 161:30 - 162:00 repulsive. Okay. But it's also because your DNA is telling you you won't know who the dad is and you're going to spend 18 years of your life raising a kid who you don't know who the parentage is. So your body, look, I remember one of my ex-girlfriends, right? I I love her to death. We broke up and I really wish I could get back with her and I saw her at a Tony Robbins seminar like a week later with her new guy on his arm. Man, I was over. I was like, I'm over her. Wow. I was upset all week. The mere knowledge
• 162:00 - 162:30 that that guy's nut was in my ex's [ __ ] I was done. All the longing, all the want to go back, all the desires that I had to plead back that I wish that I was kind of fighting down, which I didn't ple plead back, went away. You ever see the hodge twins where they have the how to get over a breakup thing and they say they they talk about like like like uh nuts hanging out, your girl busting all kinds of nuts in her, right? That's their breakup therapy for men. They just get you to picture your girlfriend getting comed and you're over it. You're like, "Okay, I I'm good. I'm no longer in pain. I'm good. I'm no
• 162:30 - 163:00 longer mad about this. I wish her the best." Right? As soon as you believe that another guy came in her, you're over it. Speak. You have that biology because you won't know who the parent is. A woman always knows who the parent is, but you don't. I don't necessarily know how many kids I have. None of you guys necessarily know how many kids you have. I know I have at least three. Although that I don't even technically know. Could be zero. They h they happen to look a lot like me. Yo, that's [ __ ]
• 163:00 - 163:30 up. But some of the [ __ ] I've seen, bro, I mean, it's [ __ ] up to say it. I'm too scared to do paternity tests after the [ __ ] I've seen. And they look just like me. They all look the same. They all look like me. But I'm scared, bro. I've seen too much, bro. I'm scared. I've seen too much. The things I've seen, I can't even I don't even want to tell you. This is like a one out of a hundred for how [ __ ] up the [ __ ] I've seen. So the thing is is that your partner doesn't care because if you go in nature and you look at say an elk, if
• 163:30 - 164:00 you find an elk in the woods, is that elk say you find like a group of like eight elks, are you going to find four male elks and four female elks? What do you find? One male 15. Seven female, one male. That's how it is in nature, right? If I go to if I want to meet the most attractive women in the world, I might go to say back in the day say one Oak. Leo DiCaprio is at one Oak all the time.
• 164:00 - 164:30 The most beautiful women you will ever see. So beautiful they look like space aliens will be surrounding his table. Leo will be sitting there on his phone with his with his hat down dressed like a homeless person and and the most highle women in the world are surrounding him or they're surrounding a rapper or a DJ. When that guy does the afterparty, they're not making him wait six months. In most cases, most rappers or entertainers or
• 164:30 - 165:00 actors are having group sex. Just the truth. Rappers talk about it. Jay-Z says it. He goes, "You wanna you want to come with me again? You got to bring a friend. I can't [ __ ] you twice." He says [ __ ] like that. So that's Jay-Z's reality. Hilariously though, when Jay-Z got married, you see the video of Solange Nolles beating him with a [ __ ] like a broom or something, breeding him with his purse. Even Jay guys, even Tom Brady. So even Dr. Dre, man, those guys
• 165:00 - 165:30 lost a lot of cash. So, okay. So, the dynamic gets [ __ ] up. Now, it's good. I like the fact that women are not feeling pressured to hook up with guys they don't want to actually have sex with. But the problem is is that it doesn't wind up panning out for you because you're not that guy. Okay? You're not that guy. So the thing is is um and she doesn't need you because back
• 165:30 - 166:00 in the day the six would go with the six, the seven go with the seven, the eight would go with the eight, the nine will go with the nine. Wasn't an exact science, but it was more generally like that. Right? Now it's the six goes with the 10, the seven goes to 10, the eight goes the 10, the nine goes to 10, the 10 goes to 10, the four goes to 10, the three goes to 10, the two goes to 10, the one goes to 10. Right, guys? Look, my kid's aunt looks like a [ __ ] war pig and has [ __ ] some of the hottest guys you've ever seen cuz she just walks
• 166:00 - 166:30 up and grabs her dick. So, they can still have sex with them. Okay. So, okay, you see I'm getting out here, right? So, what's going to wind up happening is you're going to see a whole generation of men without wives. And here's why. Because you're optimizing for value that is no longer actually value. Remember that women are getting about 65% of the jobs and women
• 166:30 - 167:00 are getting like 65% of college uh entry. And so what you're doing is you're optimizing for something that they don't care about anymore, something that they don't need. So, what you're going to realize is the next generation of men are actually going to have to be attractive. Now, all that stuff that you used to hear like, "I want a guy who can protect and provide." Here's another
• 167:00 - 167:30 really potent point I'm going to make to you. Have any of you guys ever seen like videos where they talk about how it's desirable if a man protects and provides? And then in your mind, you're like, "But I I would protect and provide and be a gentleman and when I go to the club, no one talks to me." You ever had that thought? Come on, say it. Tell the truth. Like if if we go out right now, the camera's on. Camera's hot right now. And I'm like, "Walk up and talk about how you could protect and provide." Like, what's going to happen? Like, he doesn't even have sound effects. And he he's like the best guy
• 167:30 - 168:00 I've ever met. High integrity. He could probably barely start a conversation. I already know that about you because I've just done this too long. What's that? No, you're done. Okay. If I take you out tonight, you're going to crush it. Yeah. I feel pretty good. All right. Pretty good. Let's put it this way. I could be wrong, but could can you I I'm going to say I'm going to I'm going to say something brutal because if you're going to talk, you got to back it up. Okay. Can you show us the last five girls you dated as Instagrams?
• 168:00 - 168:30 [Applause] Hold on. I cannot even show a picture of my kids. I don't have my phone. I lost it like three weeks ago. But you could look it up on my phone. So I I can't I mean I have to show you a picture. We'll leave it alone. Do you have a wife? We'll leave it alone. Okay. But talk to me later. And I love being proven wrong. Okay. And by the way, he's got a little swag going here I didn't see before. I don't know where that swag came from. So I'm liking it now. Okay. I like it now. By the way, I'm saying it to help.
• 168:30 - 169:00 Like it sounds like I'm being a dick. Like people people see me do bits like this in videos. Like why is he bullying the guy in the audience? I'm like I'm not bullying him. I'm trying to help him. Like I believe that you could get the same results of anybody. I'm just telling it to you straight cuz I happen to believe that if I tell it to you straight, you get the same results of anyone. It's people who say that you're being a dick when you're tell when you're talking straight to someone and giving them straight up instructions and giving honest feedback. They're the [ __ ] [ __ ] cuz they believe that, oh, that little guy could never get it. I'm like, "No, he can get it if you just told the truth." So, I do my best. Now,
• 169:00 - 169:30 what's here's here's what you got to understand, okay? And and let me let's go a bit deeper in this dynamic. So, then what's happening is this. So guys are optimizing for things that no one cares about. And what happens is they don't look this protect and provide thing and gentlemen thing was pounded into women's heads by a a beta male collective. Okay? It was pounded into women's heads by a beta male collective. So beta males came
• 169:30 - 170:00 along and told the girls, "You should get a guy who protects. You should get a guy that provides. You should get a guy who's a gentleman." Because what it did was it created for women something that a beta male could actually do because it's easy to protect and provide. Anybody who's a Okay, let me be more clear. Even with a This is one of the big lynch pins this whole speech. Anyone with a low winner effect can
• 170:00 - 170:30 still protect and provide. Anyone with low swagger can still protect and provide. So it provided a narrative for women of something that a beta male could actually achieve. Now, funny enough, this in my view was a Chesterton fence because what it did was it made it where the girls would actually get to experience child birth that actually get to have kids, which was good. And also, it made it to where all
• 170:30 - 171:00 the men in society had a stake in it so it wouldn't [ __ ] implode. So, it was a it was a Was that the right word? Chester's fence. Did I say that properly? GK Chesterton. If you're watching from home, I'd recommend you look it up. Thank you, Sam. GK Chester. Chester fence. If Sam explained it properly, basically again, some fence you there's a you you own a 300-y old farm. You find some fence there that someone painstakingly put there, but you don't
• 171:00 - 171:30 really know why they put it there. You go, "Fuck that fence. These old fogies put it there. We're getting rid of the random fence." You get rid of it, and then like, you know, predators come or a flood comes or whatever. You don't know what it's doing. We're like, "Oh, [ __ ] all this marriage [ __ ] and [ __ ] all these like conservative values. [ __ ] everything." But what now what you're in is what I would call an individualist freeforall or an individualist cluster [ __ ] or an individualist cluster [ __ ] freefor-all. Repeat this after me. Say individualist individualist cluster [ __ ] freefor-all. Okay, so let me give
• 171:30 - 172:00 an example. Trump was attacked, shot, uh, judicial system weaponized against him. If Trump would have lost the election, what would have happened to him? Jail. He would have died in jail, been probably killed in jail. Okay, now he won the election. Because he won, Mark Zuckerberg will now pretend that he's into MMA, hunting, thickle chains, long hair, muscles, and masculinity.
• 172:00 - 172:30 And in one of the most truly bizarre public spankings I've ever seen, went on to Joe Rogan and was like, "I think I think muscles are cool. I think Trump is a badass. I think like, oh, I didn't mean to ban him. I was just kidding. I think masculinity is cool now." Okay. What happens is whoever wins, everybody else just gets a public spanking. That's
• 172:30 - 173:00 not how it's democracy is not supposed to be where if you lose an election, you go to jail. Okay? That Trump literally would have been put in [ __ ] prison and died and he would have lost all his money. They would have taken every penny he had and they would have killed him and they even tried to kill him. So that's not what a presidential race is supposed to look like. human beings now. It's like when the girl gets a divorce, fleeces the guy, and does a divorce party and everyone says, "Yeah." People just go
• 173:00 - 173:30 with the winner. No morality at all. No. Like, hey, that's not cool. No. Like, hey, why'd you fleece that guy? Just slay queen. We should have. That's it. No one goes, "Zuck, why'd you ban Donald?" Right? He just comes, bends the knee. It's just hyperindividualistic. No one care. People cheat, people lie, people steal, people [ __ ] each other. All people care about right now is the winner because society operates off of a
• 173:30 - 174:00 trance. And if we Okay, so societies like Japan are hyper collectivists. Okay, there's Look, in Japan, you know what? Most of you guys don't even know who is doing worse [ __ ] Germany or Japan in World War II? Why? Why did you Why was there Look, I'm not even sure who did worse, but the point is Japan was very bad. Why um why were they doing kamicazi? Like
• 174:00 - 174:30 [ __ ] teenagers doing kamicazi. What did they believe they were doing a kamicazi for? They believe they were doing it for the emperor who is a god on earth. This random chedd emperor, probably a nice guy, and the military was running the country. And they go, "The emperor is a god on earth. You should go do a kamicazi mission for the emperor." There's a movie called Godzilla Minus One. It's a black and white Oscar worthy movie about Godzilla happens to be, but it's like an Oscar film, like an art film. And the whole concept of it is there is is Godzilla comes back after
• 174:30 - 175:00 World War II and there and the Japanese people are like, "We'll all die to save the country and stop Godzilla. We'll die and sacrifice ourselves for the country." And then someone stands up and says, "You know what? No, we're going to put a parachute in the [ __ ] planes. We're not going to kamicazi. We're going to beat Godzilla, but we're not going to die. We're not going to sacrifice ourselves. Our lives also have value." And it was a movie about the culture in Japan that was so collectivist that they would do kamicazi missions and they would believe that some emperor was a god on earth. So that's when the um the the the
• 175:00 - 175:30 the hypnosis the cultural say the word cultural hypnosis. Cultural hypnosis. Okay. So the cultural hypnosis can go too collectivist right but so that happened in Japan. It got too collectivist. In America, it's got so hyperindividualist. Literally, what you see is very little respect for God in most cases. Massive amounts of drugs, massive amounts of narcissistic behavior, massive amounts of individualism. People are walking around a [ __ ] trance. I remember I was in uh Denali in in Alaska with an older uh an older generation of people like 607s and
• 175:30 - 176:00 they saw the bus and I jump up and try to run out before everybody else. I did that because when I'm on a normal airplane, everyone's a [ __ ] and shoves their way to the front and I'm used to that. You know what that older generation said to me? The whole bus went, "Hey, have a seat there, bud. Just sit down. You're chill." And everyone just went out beautifully. The older generation did that. They weren't a bunch of [ __ ] [ __ ] Okay, there's a degree. So, the the shaming had a function. I'm not even saying it's good to shame, but there there's a lot
• 176:00 - 176:30 of bad sides of shaming, too, guys. A lot of really bad self- shaming. Real bad. real real real bad religious shaming bad stuff. But some of it was a Chester's fence. Okay. So what happened was it wasn't this hyperindividualistic society. So then what happened was in in the hyper look when I go out all I do and I focus on and I'm really good at this. I am so good at this it's scary. Like I'm you know like those kids that like can can just clean out a pool table like they just walk up to a pool. Boom boom boom boom they hit every shot. It's done. That's me when I go out. That's me
• 176:30 - 177:00 when I'm out. I'm incredible. I might be the best that ever did it. I'm not sure. But I'm incredible. All that I do is focus on value. That's it. Hyper high value. And it's like bing bing bing bing bing bing. It's like unstoppable. Why? I focus on value, fun, validation. Better place to go. I just focus on those four things. Clean up. I clean up because I'm optimized for what actually works. It's ridiculous what I could do. Okay. I probably shouldn't brag and say that I'm
• 177:00 - 177:30 the best that ever did it because every guy thinks they're the best. So, I'm delusional. But honestly, I walk around in my mind, I'm the [ __ ] man. And I had the results and I show it every [ __ ] weekend. And all that I do is just focus on status because I know that the person I'm talking to is very narcissistic, very self-absorbed, has no ethics, no morality whatsoever, hyper selfish, hyper [ __ ] liar, hyper delusional, and basically just show that I have value. That's it. That's all I focus on. That's it. That's all. It's like learning to write sales copy. If
• 177:30 - 178:00 it's a good question, go for it. Loud. You're doing what works, but you're also contributing to the shitty society of what you don't like. Here's the thing. I will show you how to write a sales ad. If you don't learn how to write a sales ad, you will be broke. While I am doing a sales ad, I will then while I'll teach you how to write a sales ad, I will [ __ ] my sales by talking about depressing topics here
• 178:00 - 178:30 that don't motivate you. Because if all I want to do is make sales, I'd do a more upbeat speech. I wouldn't do a truthful speech and I would do what all my marketing knowledge would tell me. So, in other words, if society is on a downfall and you want to have children in a family, you better learn how to engage with people. And if you do this [ __ ] of saying, "No, the quality person doesn't need that." When all of you have done drugs, when all of you didn't clap for Ibrahim, when all of you can't even clap without looking around you, but you're
• 178:30 - 179:00 going to find the quality person when you yourself are not quality by your own definition of quality, if not actually think you are quality, by the way. I just think that humans have the wrong education. So, you can say to yourself, I'm not going to learn how to have value and I'm just going to meet a quality person. You're going to be cheated on, [ __ ] over. You're not going to meet anyone. You're gonna be childless. No, I won't. It's all going to work out. It's not going to work out, bro, in most cases. And even if you do, it's an outlier. So, I can't teach how to be an outlier. So, and by the way, it's all
• 179:00 - 179:30 good until the RS flips. You'll be in a relationship, be like, "That could never happen to me." And then it happens. You go, "Holy [ __ ] I thought he was like tripping. Like, I thought he was on one. Holy [ __ ] I can't fuck." You know? Right. So, you have to be aware. Okay. Now, okay, old school internet marketers understand that humanity is just at a certain point in evolution and they adapt. And here's the thing. Let me say this. Let's look at this even more
• 179:30 - 180:00 carefully. Break it down. Let's say that you don't learn sales copy. You don't learn internet marketing. Who gets the money? Walmart. Who gets the money? Amazon. So, what does sales copy teach people to do? Does Amazon and Walmart need to learn proper sales and marketing? No. How good is Amazon and Walmart sales and marketing? By the way, it's about a 1 out of 10. They win on money and volume. Sales copy and marketing allows a regular guy to have results. If you as a
• 180:00 - 180:30 regular guy don't learn how to get results, who gets the girl? Sway Lee, rappers, club promoters. So we're we're going to we're going to fight the power by saying they all go to club promoter motor. But what you can do is you can try to contribute to the change in society, but also be aware society's at. Now here's the other thing. If you yourself have ever done a drug in your life, you also have gone for value and done things to hurt yourself. So why are
• 180:30 - 181:00 we judging the girl for the fact that she likes value? You also like hot women. So why are we judging the girl that she goes for value? But what you guys think is value is not value. Because by the way, this whole like thing is now they're saying that value is about money and stuff when I've already disproven that. It's not even about looks. It's about the things that I teach. Being uninhibited, being fun, emotions, swagger, better place to go, all that kind of stuff. Validation, all that. That's value, not this other [ __ ]
• 181:00 - 181:30 Now, okay, something could be learned in a day. So, but I like your question because I think it adds to the conversation people would have. So, okay. So, you have it now where the average guy is basically [ __ ] worthless. You're not needed for protection because the government does that. You're not needed for college. You're not getting in college for a lot of you. You're not getting a better pay job a lot of you, etc., etc. Fine. Fair enough. It is what it is. Here's where this is going to go. So, I'm going to
• 181:30 - 182:00 show you how tough the dynamic is and I'm gonna show you how to break it. Okay, here's why the dynamic is tough. Okay, this is another key piece. You need to hear this if you want to get it. Okay, here's what why the dynamic is tough. Okay, so we talked about the winner effect, right? So, we talked about how when the girl goes single again, she's going to be a rockstar. She'll be unleashed with a flurry of lies, false feedback, yesmen, panderers, rich guys trying to bang her that'll give her this crazy lifestyle, [ __ ] boys
• 182:00 - 182:30 that she actually [ __ ] etc., etc. Okay, she's going to be celebrated for her singleness and uh resented for being in a relationship. Her winner effect is going to be high because her winner effect is high. She's not going to feel like she needs any one man, especially if she's [ __ ] the guy that she actually wants to. And especially if she's got a good job. If you want to see um a girl who I actually think is amazing and and a world-class talent, world class talent, incredible marketer, brilliant gen,
• 182:30 - 183:00 super genius, rich now, going to be running the earth within 10 years. Look up Shelby Sab. Shelby Sab. She teaches women how to do high ticket closing. The basic way that she markets, which is genius, is she'll have these like little videos where she'll be like, "Girl," she's like, "You know how it is with guys. I would only date a man who's smarter than me, better looking than me, fighter than me, more social skills than me, more confident than me. But the truth is, guys like that are [ __ ] [ __ ] because they'll never actually
• 183:00 - 183:30 be your boyfriend. So you don't want to date one of those losers. That being the case, I'll teach you how to make money doing high ticket sales. In other words, so you can still [ __ ] that guy, but make your own cash. She teaches an army of women to fend for themselves. Look, I think that's a good thing. I don't think women should have to rely on some loser guy. I'm not. Look, I'm in the middle on this. Okay, just because I'm a guy doesn't mean that I can't put myself in the mindset of a girl who doesn't want to [ __ ] a loser. Okay, I get it. But I also understand it's a Chester's defense and that if men
• 183:30 - 184:00 don't have a stake in society, it's going to get [ __ ] So, you know, where do we find the middle ground here? Okay, but that's the kind of marketing that's coming out. Look this [ __ ] up. It's crazy. She's real good at it, too. She's incredible, actually. Brilliant. Incredible marketer. She'll do stuff like uh she'll have this pink Porsche. You know, you know what Shel Shel's good at? She'll go, "Look at me in the pink Porsche. Look at me in the pink Porsche." Why? Because the girls want the pink Porsche. Look at me. I'm in South Africa. Look at me. I'm in South Africa. Why does she do that? She does
• 184:00 - 184:30 that specifically because she's showing the benefits. She's doing benefits marketing. Then what she'll do is she'll have her mom go in the pink porch, be like, "I'm Shelby's mom. All her success is because of me and Shelby lets me drive the Porsche." Why does she do that? Because a lot of those girls will get the money from their mom. So she goes, "All her success is because of me and Shelby lets me drive the Porsche." So those girls can show that video to the mom. You remember what I said earlier about the mom? You remember that? Go befriend the mom. You remember that part? Yeah. Okay.
• 184:30 - 185:00 Shel's doing that [ __ ] too. I'm not the only marketer who has a marketing brain. Okay. Who understands that the mom has influence? Okay. So then what happens is um so that whole culture is there. So then you've got to say to yourself if you're not needed for provisioning and all that, what is happening to the average guy's winner effect? Okay, the average man to a girl, what is the what does the average girl think of the average guy?
• 185:00 - 185:30 Let me show you the story of some girls I met last night. Nice girls really nice to me. Really really nice to me. They published this. Okay, watch this. real nice to me. Super nice. You guys are the funniest story from last night. So, me and my home girl, we get done with the first party and we go home, we freshen up, smoke, and then we head out to like In and Out in her house to grab some weed. And then next up, we're going to go to Harriet's. By the time we get to Harriet's, the doors like literally closed cuz everything in LA
• 185:30 - 186:00 closes by like 1:30. So, we're driving on sunset right after that about to go to it after and this person pulls up next to us at the light and it's like, "Hey." And me and my home girl are like, "Selma, like Thelma and Louise, like we are just going to [ __ ] with you. Like, if you give us the opportunity and we're bored, we're going to [ __ ] with you." So, we get his number and I'm going to show you guys the funniest [ __ ] videos because we really took this man
• 186:00 - 186:30 on just like circles of nonsense. And we were just thinking it was the funniest [ __ ] in the world. Like we were telling him we're on the way, but we don't have his address. We're like, "Yo, send us an Uber." We're making him send Ubers to the middle of nowhere. Not getting in the middle. We're like, "Oh, oh, like shave your balls, you know, get ready for us. Oil yourself up." And then he's like,
• 186:30 - 187:00 "Are you guys shaving?" were like, "No, we're French. We're super bushy." At one point, I told him to order an anchovi, garlic, extra garlic, and black olives pizza, and he did it. I'm about to share these freaking audio recordings and text messages. And I know that it's probably not like recommended, but it's so funny to prank people who deserve it. Like, why
• 187:00 - 187:30 are you why are you trusting random people that you meet at a light and telling them to come over when you're intoxicated? Don't do that, men. Stop. Stop. Yeah. Stop saying hi to people. I'm not going to lie, we dragged it. Like we met him around 1:30 and he was still blowing up my phone at 5. Anyway, the point is they terrorize this guy, right? Look, she's real nice to me. I thought she was really sweet. I like her. Her friend's
• 187:30 - 188:00 really cool. I like them both a lot. They're super nice. Um, why are they doing that? Why what's the impulse to that? Yeah, maybe a prank, but it's all By the way, you might have also noticed a couple other Jesus. We went back to get some weed after party. That's the lifestyle. They're at mansions. I know the mansion they went to. They're up at Smiles Crib most likely. Anyway, so I also do after parties myself. So, the point is like um yeah, it's uh yeah, they're probably this this
• 188:00 - 188:30 mansion party that you'll see if you if you know different girls. There's like this pool like a statue. Uh I know all the best after parties as well, right? Like I know where they're going. So the thing is this, they feel a resentment because it's a beta male trying to get them pregnant. That's why. So there's a resentment there when some chump thinks he's going to hit. Now, here's what they don't understand. If guys are told they're toxic, trash, whatever, right? By the
• 188:30 - 189:00 way, that whole argument about toxic masculinity, there are points to that. Men men do commit the most murder. There are points to it. Okay? Sometimes there's points to all sorts of arguments. The problem is is that if you've got a look, my kids are not going to be affected if they're told you're a toxic masculine. My kids won't care because my kids aren't the kids who don't clap. But if you're the kid who didn't clap for Ibrahim, aka all of you, then if you're told you're toxic and the
• 189:00 - 189:30 environment is telling you that, then you go, "Oh, okay." And now the only person who's not affected is a psychopath or a narcissist who doesn't listen. Then now every girl's dated a psycho narcissist. That's why that happens. But you can be a good guy and be attractive not being a psycho or narcissist if you just would clap for Ibraim. So, so let's continue. So, so basic Thank you, bro. So, just cuz the man
• 189:30 - 190:00 just set up your singing and dancing for you for five hours, but I came so I'm the higher value cuz I'm more famous. Just focus on me. [ __ ] him. Then you wonder why girls go for value and you all did it. So, okay, that's the thing. You got to stop being mad at women when you're doing the same [ __ ] It's a human condition. Don't be mad at women. You do the same [ __ ] The most nice in the back I ever got was from men, not women. A woman never jacked me for a millie. They just broke my heart. I got over it. I rebound. I had fun. I never
• 190:00 - 190:30 got jacked by a girl for a million dollars. Now, okay, let's continue down the path. So, if you're being told that you suck, then here's the other key. You're not getting validated. What happens to your winner effect if you're not being validated? It goes down. Now, in truth, I could train you to not have your winner effect go down. And you'll see guys learning that this weekend here at this event very much so. But if you haven't been trained
• 190:30 - 191:00 and you've never thought about it, it's just never been on your radar to be trained on that. Just haven't just never occurred to you before, then what winds up happening is um your winner effect is low. Now, when your winner effect is high, that's when your voice has projection. That's when you take the right pauses. That's when you fly through the tests very easily that create tension. That's when you free associate. Well, why am I able to come up here and talk with no notes? What's going on without even eating or sleeping
• 191:00 - 191:30 today? Why am I able to do that? Hi, winner. Why didn't I get sick for 13 years? Why am I able to come up here and speak without notes? Why am I able to project my voice? Why is it that when I go out, I can free associate? I don't need to stay in routine. Okay. Why? Why can my son Dylan at age 11 run an entire seminar and be a better public speaker than any adult in that room? You ever see those videos? I was there. You were there, right? How much did Dylan crush it? He killed it. That was his first time running a seminar. Wasn't that crazy? It was [ __ ] You know why he
• 191:30 - 192:00 did it? Waiter effects high. We actually underestimate the importance of parenting. If you teach your kid, you're the [ __ ] man. I love you not by what you do, but for who you are. If you're loved for who you are, not what you do, and you feel that grounding from your parents and they believe in you, your winner effect goes up. You can go up in front of an audience. You know that your [ __ ] father and your mother [ __ ] love you. So you're not scared. You guys, as men, do you feel love for what you for who you are, for what you do? How about women? Are they love for who they are, what they do?
• 192:00 - 192:30 So your winner effect is Okay, there's, you know, nothing's 100%, but you just see the general direction. So what you have is this. You're walking around, most of you guys have the low winner effect. It's just the truth. You're walking around with your your brain chemistry is all [ __ ] up. That's why you don't clap for Ibraim. That's why you can't read a long book like Atlas Shrugged or something. That's why you can't sit down and focus on building your business. That's why when you go out, you can't think of what to say. That's why you're loaded with cortisol and sick [ __ ] twice a year. All those
• 192:30 - 193:00 other reasons, too. But you see the point, okay? Look up Robert Seapolski, the research he did on baboons. You can see documentaries on the [ __ ] It shows what happens when people are high status, low status. You go in low status environments. You can see everyone's got a [ __ ] low winner effect. They're super [ __ ] up. They're angry. They're pissed off. Politicians feed feed it. It's a huge problem. Okay. So, the problem is your winner effect is low. Now, here's what's going to happen. If you go out and you get better
• 193:00 - 193:30 socially, the pattern of how it usually breaks down is this. Initially, you're very, very, very bad at socializing. So, you get rejected over and over and over. Your winter effect goes down, down, down, down, down. The worst ones become like those dark incel types. They get super mad. They turn deranged. Then, if you get half decent at it, usually the way it will work for most of you is about one night out of five, one night out of 10, people will be nice to you just by fluke coincidence. It was nothing that you actually did. Pay attention. Okay,
• 193:30 - 194:00 pay attention. It's nothing that you actually did. You just um had a bunch of good interactions by fluke. Like it was basically a bunch of people not like that girl from my phone. Okay. Just nicer ones. Okay. So then what happens is um if you can kind of remember the feeling in your body from that night, you can kind of have a reference experience for what it's like to crush it. Because if a couple people are nice to you or if you did a training with me, I can just pump you up. But the point
• 194:00 - 194:30 is, if a couple people are nice to you, you can kind of get a feel for what that's like. And if you're real clever, if you're really smart, you study how to self-generate that. Do you remember the book The Game where I talked about how mystery had these really high ups and downs? You get depressed, suicidal. Mystery, he's my mentor. But an area that just was not a focal point of his, he just didn't happen to focus on it. Was how to self-generate that. It was more like you get that because he would always say, "Don't be confident, be competent. Don't
• 194:30 - 195:00 be confident, be competent. And if you're competent, that's enough. He kind of has a point to an extent. Like he he has a a point there. But if you don't realize that you can self-generate it, you're always reaching outside yourself. The real art form of this stuff for you is getting that same feeling that you have when a bunch of people are nice to you on your own. You give it to yourself. Oh, watch my videos because that's in many
• 195:00 - 195:30 videos, okay? But this speech is long enough. So, I've made countless videos on it. Now, from there, learn the art form of like Haduk and like Ken and Rayu from Street Fighter type [ __ ] You [ __ ] build that [ __ ] in you. Spin it up. Spin up that energy from no one. [ __ ] waiting for other people to be nice to you. You can give that [ __ ] to yourself. You'll usually need people to be nice to you. a couple times to even know what it feels like to get a frame of reference for what you're shooting for. Bam. Give that [ __ ] to
• 195:30 - 196:00 yourself. Once you give that to yourself, you'll get swagger. Once you get swagger, like I said, value goes up or down rapidly and dramatically. Okay? And so your value will explode. It will explode. Every [ __ ] one of you in here, you as well, every [ __ ] one of you in here, okay, when it does, we get your next
• 196:00 - 196:30 question. So, okay, every one of you in here can be a crack public speaker, amazing socially. You could, everyone of you in here could be a standup comedian. Everyone of of you guys in here could have swagger. Everyone of you in here could have winner effect. You could all learn it within one weekend. I could teach it to you. I denied I could teach it to you a lot. Couple years of implementation, you're a different human. Different [ __ ] human. Okay? Do you guys understand who some of my
• 196:30 - 197:00 [ __ ] clients are? Do you understand some of the richest people in the [ __ ] world? People who are huge on social media. I have the most success stories of anyone you've ever seen, but I keep most private. Now that I've sanitized a lot, more and more people are coming out. If you look even in my Instagram story today, you'll see a guy in a $100 million mansion. Give me credit for starting on YouTube. You go look it up. So, people are beginning to say, "Hey, I stud Owen, but I never make anybody do that." Okay? I never make anybody do that because I know that I've
• 197:00 - 197:30 been controversial. But the point that I'm saying is guys, your [ __ ] potential is so much more than you understand. But what you don't get is this. None of this is worth it if it's just for dating. It's not. Although dating is fun and having kids is fun, it is probably worth it for kids. But it's the changes in your health, the changes in your wealth, the changes in your self-esteem. You going out and getting shot down warns you that you're like that sucker [ __ ] that the girls mocked.
• 197:30 - 198:00 It warns you of that. It shows you it. It's like taking a boat, putting in the water, and you see where all the holes in the boat are. If you don't even try, then you never see where the holes in the boat are. 30% of guys right now um are not even uh some huge number like don't even basically basically like incels like don't even leave the house play video games don't even try to get a date they've given up it's like a third of guys have just given up guys have given up they've given up
• 198:00 - 198:30 but they don't understand their power so I believe that under the current look really we need to bring marriage back okay it's got to come back under a different guys and not with all this money stuff But that'll be for somebody else to figure out. I don't have the answer to that. But what I can tell you is that now it's a little bit more like you're a lion where the where the women are maybe making the money. Like the women bring the food to the male lion and it's more like you're the male lion. That is more
• 198:30 - 199:00 what you want to be shooting for than a one-on-one kind of thing for now for where we're at now. Okay? I'm sorry to tell you that. That doesn't mean that you have to have sex with anybody. You don't have to, but you want to be the attractive guy that a lot of people like. How do you do that? Build the social skills that I taught you. Access to the best parties, the best locations, the best logistics. Um, just learn to be attractive. You do better learning uh taking a hip-hop dance class than you
• 199:00 - 199:30 would being a protector provider. You'd be better learning salsa than being a protector provider. You'd be better doing an improv class or comedy class than being protector provider. You'd be better training with a bee than being a protector provider. Um, learn about swagger. Learn about like use a lot of your mental capital for funny sound effects, funny jokes, how to free associate, how to talk and talk. Learn about the buyer seller dynamic. I've talked about in many other videos. Could be another seven hours here if we're going to talk about all this. Okay? Learn about the buyer seller dynamic. Learn about learn about the whole like like a cat chasing a laser. You know how
• 199:30 - 200:00 the cat chases the laser frantically, but as soon as it stops, the cat walks off. It goes from 10 out of 10 psycho chasing to zero out of 10. It walks off. That's you when you become too available. You remember I said friendship has no equity? If you've been moving the laser non-stop, right? All that you know of that, say that you've never met a cat in your life and you're moving the laser, moving laser, move laser, move laser. Okay? All that you know that cat is this chasing. So what do you think? If you love the cat, how do you try to help the cat? If
• 200:00 - 200:30 all that you ever saw that cat, you never met the cat before. You've been moving the laser. The cat's frantically chasing the laser. You love the cat. So, what do you want to what do you do to try to help the cat? You stop moving laser. What happens as soon as you stop moving laser? The mask drops and you see a completely different version of the cat. The reason why friendship, money, all that has no equity is because of R flips. If the R flips at any point, you see a different version. You
• 200:30 - 201:00 know they say the woman you marry is not the woman you divorce. You ever heard that? The woman you marry is not the woman you divorce. It's a different one because you're mer you're seeing the RA slipped version. Some new guy will have that old sweet version. That's not for you anymore because for her survival and replica. Look, human beings are psychotically obsessed with status, right? We follow celebrities, who's cool, who's not cool in school. Um, status dynamics go as far back as lobsters. Jordan Peterson famously talks about this. Okay, it's a little dorky analogies, but they're great. So, people
• 201:00 - 201:30 are status obsessed. What would happen to a woman if she was with a man of high status and then his status went down in nature? What would happen? She could die, right? So, she has to leave. So, so is it really loyal to your woman to lower your status? Or is it loyal to your woman to maintain high status her friendship with you? What is the greatest way that you can betray her? To be honest, look, I'm not saying to I'm not saying to cheat, but what is a greater betrayal to a woman? What are you more likely to survive in your
• 201:30 - 202:00 relationship? cheating or lowering your status. Yeah, I'm not saying cheat. I'm just making a point. I'm making extreme point. I'm not saying cheat. But what what is what are you more likely to get dumped by? Cheating or being a beta male? Getting needy. Again, don't cheat. They may leave you for that, too. But you see my point. Okay. Many of famous athletes, rappers got caught cheating. The woman said you go beta. See you. Okay. They they ra flip as a way to biologically they have to leave. They have to ra flip you. The guys do it too over money too, guys. So, it's not a guy
• 202:00 - 202:30 girl thing. It's a human thing. It's not a guy girl thing. It's a human thing. That's what a lot of like those content creators that run podcasts and stuff don't understand. Men are doing the same [ __ ] A lot of those same podcasters that blame women, they wind up having fights amongst themselves on the podcast and then hating each other with a guy. So, it's just the same [ __ ] Okay. Now, what you've got to do is this. Okay. Next thing. I believe that it is actually in terms of old school
• 202:30 - 203:00 Christianity, it is actually Satanism to love a woman in the way that a woman typically obsess over a guy. Why is that? First story in the Bible, Adam and Eve. There's a reason. Why is that? Because God teaches us to love the creator, not the creation. Repeat this after me. Love the creator. Love the creator. Not the creation. So when you're obsessing over a woman, you're obsessing over a creation, not your creator, you are you are loving her in a
• 203:00 - 203:30 way that is breaking the magnetic polarity. As soon as you become more obsessed with your woman than God, more obsessed with your woman than your mission, more obsessed with your woman than your purpose, more obsessed with woman than than your reason for being on this earth and contributing, it creates a reverse polarity. If what you focus on is the following, God, your purpose, your mission, why you're here, adding to society, building out your talents and
• 203:30 - 204:00 strengths, building your empire, but doing so for God, not just for you, but for God. And when I say for God, what does that mean? It means that you're not doing it egoically where you're doing it to take. You're connecting to source and letting the energy flow out and allowing that activity to have more flow, which is the greatest joy. The giving in the Bible is so important because when you give, you get access to the infinite source, not just taking. And then, ironically, you get more anyway. And
• 204:00 - 204:30 that's all written in the gospel. It's all there. It's all there. So, when you do it from that perspective and you make God that source of obsession, that romantic obsession in a weird way, right? That energy, your purpose. When you romantically connect to that, what happens is you'll have unlimited women that are obsessed with you. But here's the thing, they will be the ones obsessing over you, giving you
• 204:30 - 205:00 gifts, try to get in your good grace, etc., etc., etc., and you become the cat chasing like the laser pointer that the cat's chasing because you're moving with God and the cat is chasing you. It's chasing laser pointer. So, understand that getting obsessed with a woman is Satan. It's satanic. Adam and Eve is the first story in the Bible. What happens if you just listen to your woman and you just like, "Oh, the woman like all that, she will drag you out of the Garden of Eden into hell. She will arip you. She will leave you. And not only will she
• 205:00 - 205:30 leave you, she will teach you a profound spiritual lesson because if you married her, she's going to take half your stuff and probably a lot more. And you're going to be punished in ways that you can't even begin to understand. Imagine losing the love of your life while she attacks you in court, takes your stuff, uses your money to attack I mean, it's it it'll it'll send you to selfdeion. Make you kill yourself. If you're someone watching this at home, if you're someone this ever happens to you, don't do it. I will help you. Someone else will help you. Don't kill yourself. It'll push you to the edge of suicide. You will be Look, just losing the love of your life is bad
• 205:30 - 206:00 enough. Imagine getting fleece, fleece, fleece, fleece, fleece, and attack with the very hours of love of labor labor of love that you did. It's unreal. And if any way you complain about it, you're a [ __ ] You're a loser. Yep. Uh louder. So that actually happened to my brother. Yeah. So I I understand. And how bad is it? He's he's terrible. They often never bounce back. They often never bounce back. You know why? He went down a path of doing drugs and he lost himself and eventually he passed away. So your brother's dead. Yeah. So I'm sorry,
• 206:00 - 206:30 brother. Okay. So that So I do it so you can see an example. I understand. That's why I'm here. It's real. Yeah. Okay. So he lost his brother to this [ __ ] So his brother, like my son, Vincent, Dylan, Tristan, they're brothers, right? that grew up together. You grew up with your brother and now this killed him. Okay? So, you see why I'm talking about this stuff, okay? He's [ __ ] and he can't come back. And it didn't have to be like that. And I know other people dead, too. So, this kills people. Okay? This kills
• 206:30 - 207:00 people. Do you understand? This kills people. But will anyone ever cry for your brother other than you? They don't care. They go, "What are you complaining about? Suck it up. Suck it up. Suck it up." Is what they'll say. and you tried to suck it up, but you didn't know what to do. And the problem is, guys, when most when you're younger, you're dating different people. May maybe your brother wasn't doing this, but for a lot of you guys, especially if you follow my stuff, you're dating different people. You've got swagger. You're putting your time and energy into building swagger. You're putting time and energy into meeting new people. You're putting your time and energy into having fun and being in abundance. When you get in a
• 207:00 - 207:30 relationship, stopping the gym, stopping the swagger, becoming a provider, moving to the suburbs. But what happens is when you divorce, she goes back out in the open market as a rockstar. You've now got this house that you have to probably pay her for in the suburbs that you can't even go and meet anyone. They're 45 minutes away. You've got you've you've changed to like a minivan. You know what I'm saying, right? You've gotten out of shape. Your swagger is completely gone. But guess what? You got to pay the divorce. You can't even work less to build back your swag. Do you
• 207:30 - 208:00 guys see this? You can't even choose to work half the time to build back your swag or they'll put you in [ __ ] jail or some [ __ ] for not paying your your support. Okay. So, like, and this is just real life. Like, what I'm saying is so [ __ ] that you'll leave like that's not all real, is it? And then you'll see it happening. This is real life. Okay. So, instead, what you do, here's how it has to play out. Your early for most of you guys,
• 208:00 - 208:30 this is already too late, so you could just start now. But for anyone young, here's what I'd say. Make sure that anytime you have sex, you use a condiment. Don't get anyone pregnant. I might even go as far suggest just don't even have sex because you could accidentally get someone pregnant because the problem is start [ __ ] with the condom. You want to take it off. It feels good. It's warm. It's wet. Okay. It's hard to It's hard to be disciplined. Okay. So, what I'd say to you, okay, and the pull out method is not as good as you think. So, what I'll say to you, okay, unless you're not that fertile. So, what I'd say to you is
• 208:30 - 209:00 um what you do is in your 20s, go out a lot. And what's going to happen is you're going to see what generates attraction. You're going to get in relationships. And in those relationships, you're going to [ __ ] them up. And you're going to see the RS flips. You're going to watch as the love of your life RS flips you. And you're going to see this. You probably need to see this about 10 or 15 times to fully understand it because every time it happens, you won't believe it. You'll be like, she every next relationship you get in because of this quality of this
• 209:00 - 209:30 fallacy of she's not like that. The guy's not like that in business. the quality people, even though none of y'all can even clap. What happens is this quality fallacy leads you to believe that you found the different one, the special one, and that this isn't going to happen. And then the other problem is you view not being more vulnerable and open as negative. You're like, well, it's negative to like, you know, not be more open with my sadness and my neediness and I want to be open about it, right? And you and you're
• 209:30 - 210:00 like, well, I don't want to be some weird uptight guy. Guys, it it's a fine line with women, okay? You can be a little open and you can you don't need to like be all uptight and afraid to talk about problems. Like, you don't need to be like that. But what I've always said about women is this. Women are insanely loyal. They're so [ __ ] loyal. You know how I know that? Because they [ __ ] club promoters. So, if they're going to [ __ ] a broke ass drugged out club promoter who lives on a couch, women clearly
• 210:00 - 210:30 don't care that much about money. But if you lose all your money and the way that you attracted her in the first place was with money and provisions and then likewise if you um if you let losing your money make you lose your winner effect, they're [ __ ] gone and all that money that you spent will have no equity. The friendship will have no equity. Okay? So understand that. So it's not so much that you can like you always have to be rich or you always have to be on top financially, but you can't let it visibly affect you. My
• 210:30 - 211:00 recommendation to all guys is have a group of guys who you trust, who you like, and who you can vent to. Okay? Have people that you can vent to, who you like, who you trust. Okay? That way you don't have to vent to them. Then what you do is you'll get lit about 10 or 15 times. Okay? And the reason that it will keep happening is is this. Okay? Try to follow it. I'm going to give you like crazy ass bombshells here. Okay?
• 211:00 - 211:30 When you first get in, the pattern of how you get a girlfriend is this. At first, you are a loser. You're looking to women for validation. You go out, you get rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected, rejected because your winner effect's not stable. And you're looking to them for winner effect. Okay? Then eventually after you've been rejected so many times, an inner calibration, an inner shift occurs. The inner shift that occurs is you realize, I've got to stop looking to women to be happy. I've got to stop looking outside myself to be happy. I've got to just be happy on my
• 211:30 - 212:00 own. When that happens, you become more attractive. Then you start getting more success in dating. Then what happens is, and this is the pattern, you start skyrocketing success with dating. But what do we do? We then attribute it. We then come off of the self-generation because we get lulled into the success in dating. Then our results go down. You'll see this happen. You'll see these patterns. Okay, then we go down again and we go, "Why do I care? I'm still a cool guy. I'm on a
• 212:00 - 212:30 dry spell, but I'm still a cool guy." And then they shoot back up. They shoot back down. Shoot back up. Shoot back up. Shoot back down. This will happen over about a two year, three year, sometimes one year little trajectory. Okay? Then what happens is you meet a girl you love to death. You get so excited and again follow me closely. Follow me closely. key pieces that like hadukan self-generation of winner effect. You give it to her because you like her so much. You get in her, you either almost
• 212:30 - 213:00 get her or worse yet, you do get her. You get a little too into her and you get lulled out of your spiritual containment and you put it into her. Boom. She [ __ ] leaves. RS loves you. And then after that happens a couple times, you finally go, "Yes, God, I will stop looking to women for my happiness, you absolutely commit to contain your own happiness." Not even because you logically chose to, but because the
• 213:00 - 213:30 women taught you. They made it where you It's like if you burn your hand on the stove enough times, you just can't even touch the the hot stove anymore, right? You just it's been burned too many times. You just naturally do it. So, you'll naturally not look to women for happiness. That will mean that you're tapped into God for your happiness, your purpose, your passions, your life. You become super attractive. You get the girl you want. That will last anywhere from three months to a year and a half, sometimes three, three years, two and a half, I'd say two and a half years on average. Inevitably, you'll show weakness at some point. You'll get needy
• 213:30 - 214:00 at some point, and she'll leave and she'll rip you. You need to watch how this is happening, and you need to be honest with yourself about why it's happening. Every time that it happens, it retaches you. Now, here's the main key. Don't get anyone pregnant while you're learning this. And don't get married while you're learning this because the problem is again, women run away from you when you approach in a club because they already ask. They run away as if you haven't been talking for the past two hours, right? It's like, we haven't been talking for the past two
• 214:00 - 214:30 hours. Goodbye. I mean, they don't even say that. They just walk out, right? So, you don't want to have her have that RS slip with being able to weaponize the legal system against you. You also don't want to have her have that RS slip if she's pregnant or has your kid. So, you have to make sure that you don't get anyone pregnant while you're learning this and getting the hang of it. Eventually, what's going to happen is you're going to probably have a really good relationship. And I always joke
• 214:30 - 215:00 about this. I say you should have done a [ __ ] Taco Tuesday. Now, when I say you should have done a [ __ ] Taco Tuesday, what do I mean by that? What am I saying? Take a guess. You should have done the [ __ ] Taco Tuesday. What do I mean? Because you'll lose her because you didn't do the Taco Tuesday. Why do I say you need to do Taco Tuesday? And why am I saying taco Tuesday specifically? Why not a super party on the weekend? Why not a super big party on the weekend? Come on, guys. Brains on. value. Okay. If you're in a [ __ ]
• 215:00 - 215:30 marriage and you bring badass models and [ __ ] on a Friday and you keep doing that at your house, what does that look like at a certain point? I mean, come on, guys. A little much. I know you're cool, but that's a little much. It's too much. Like, yeah, look, let's just load this up with Willamina models every Friday, but I'm committed to you. Like, why are we doing this party, babe? It's a model party. Like, it's it's a little much, right? They don't want to be obvious but then correct. Okay, I got but the thing is I can do that because
• 215:30 - 216:00 I'm me so I could do the willina party. But the point is like you know I've been teaching all this stuff for years so I I can do that. Some people can do that. Look if you can't do it to be honest. But for most of us that are not going to not going to commit our whole lives to this. A great little taco Tuesday men and women. If you see a woman at Whole Foods, you can go, "Babe, we should go meet her to invite her to the tacos cuz our buddy Ned wants to get a girlfriend." So, you get to go cold approach and invite. She sees you cold
• 216:00 - 216:30 approaching and for the taco Tuesday. Then what you do is you keep a social circle of girls there. Now, what's going to happen is if the girl ever leaves, you've now got a friend group of 15, 20 women, all attractive, who saw you with that girl, all secretly wanted to take you from her, and your girl has provided the social proof into your next relationship. All my exes knew the previous the next
• 216:30 - 217:00 girl. Okay, so that's how it usually goes for me. Okay, so in other words, you're doing parties, you're just trying to introduce your buddies to some girls, right? You want to help them, right? You're like playing Cupid, right? But now she's provided the social proof. So now if she now a she doesn't want to leave cuz she knows who her replacements are, this competition anxiety. So now you're tapping into the actual value, not the fake value, protect and provide that they don't care about. Okay? Then
• 217:00 - 217:30 what you're doing is you're also protecting yourself because if you have a breakup, you're still socially active. What I would tell you is look, in my case, I'm not a big workout guy because I'm so I'm one of the top social skill skills guys of all time. But for those of you guys who don't have the time to do that, keep in the gym. Keep in the gym. Keep with your friends. Keep having purpose. Keep having passion. Keep going out. Keep socializing. Keep having a social circle. assume nothing because she's
• 217:30 - 218:00 getting approached when you're out. When she goes out, guys are coming up to her. It's not her fault. It's not her fault she got approached. She The guy just came up. She didn't do it on purpose. So, the thing is um she's getting approached. My last major relationship knew who her next boyfriend would be. It was a guy who she was getting some coaching from. Actually, it was his right
• 218:00 - 218:30 hand. She knew who she was moving on to. He was already telling her what a dick I am and supporting her dealing with that jerk Owen. I probably blew $3 million on her over for three years. But, you know, I loved her with all my heart, kept her off drugs, would have cut my would have died for her, was nice to her as I could physically be. Desperately wanted to be there for the rest of my life, but she was just a little too volatile, so I didn't trust
• 218:30 - 219:00 it to like take it next level. None of that mattered. So, okay, by the way, when I met her, I'd had sex with multiple of her friends. I was dating CJ, my previous girlfriend, who a lot of you guys know, who's great. She'd seen CJ crying over me before. her first time meeting me. Another one of my exes, Gabriella. I'm not into anal play. Not my thing. Much love if you guys are. But Gab, she she saw me talking to my ex, talking to my last major relationship, but Gab was a girl from a couple girls before, but a lot of my girlfriends come to my parties. She
• 219:00 - 219:30 walks up to me while I'm talking to my future girlfriend. Her first time meeting me, Gab comes up behind, puts me in a headlock, jams her finger in my ass, and tries a shout to my ass. I've never had that before. I was kind of like, you know, but her first vision of me is a girl's coming up, a beautiful girl, putting me in a headlock trying to [ __ ] I don't know, they call it gooseing you or something, whatever they call prostate play. Okay. And she was up there after I'd hooked up with her friend Caroline. So
• 219:30 - 220:00 what I'm what I'm trying who who I pulled from Leo's table. So what I'm saying Yeah, for real. So what I'm I want to So what I'm saying is her friend brought her to my party who I'd hooked up with and then her first time meeting me as a girl grabbing grabbing me by the head, right? I wasn't even trying to get with her. She was a MissUSA contestant, but I wasn't trying to get with her. She was my buddy. I didn't care. We were friends for a long time. And she'd see other girls liking me and she and she'd go because she's looking at me. I'm not that good-looking. She's like, "What do you like do for these girls? Like what do you do to them?" You know, she's curious. And then one day she got in the
• 220:00 - 220:30 shower with me naked, right? I got like a kind of one of those big showers. She got in naked and uh why was she willing to go in the shower naked? Cuz she'd see me with all these other girls. She didn't. She just like, "Ah, he doesn't care. He's like a Dan Bolzerian type or something. He doesn't care. He He won't He's seen other girls. He doesn't care." We became a couple. So that energy carried the relationship for maybe like a year and a half off the tailwinds of that. But COVID hit in COVID. social
• 220:30 - 221:00 isolation, no status, business was having a hard time. I was under stress. She was very loyal. Look, she did her best. She did the best she could. She's she's a great girl. I actually will always love her all my heart. But the point is this. Um, when she leaves, do you think she's going to say, "You didn't keep up the status dynamics. My hypergamy was not satisfied." Maybe the next generation thing is this, they don't understand why they leave. Last guy I dated, I promise
• 221:00 - 221:30 you didn't understand the problems. They don't understand what they'll they'll have an RA flip. And even if you've taught them what an RA flip is, here's the funny thing. Some of these girls, I've even they've heard me teaching at my seminars what an RS flip is. And I'll be like, "You know you're having one of those RS flips, right?" And they're like, "No, I'm not." Yeah. because they shift personalities as part of their exit strategy. So they forget a lot of the conversations that you've had. They erase a lot of the interaction. So even if you taught them what an RSO is, that
• 221:30 - 222:00 has no equity either. There's no equity in any of it. There's only equity in swag, social proof, validation, buyer seller dynamic, cat chasing the laser. Because again, even the friendship is a function of value. They match and mirror you. So instead, what you do is go through these rounds where you go out and guys, god forbid you actually learn how
• 222:00 - 222:30 to be attractive. God forbid you actually learn how to be attractive because what was marriage in the system back in the day? It was a Chesterton fence that allowed men not to be attractive and still reproduce. We don't live in that world anymore. those dynamics don't exist. That's probably bad because men now no longer have a stake in society. Most um they probably wouldn't defend their own
• 222:30 - 223:00 country. It's going to [ __ ] It's a problem, right? So, like I said, you know, you asked the question, should you just pander to that system or should you try to fix a system? I think both. You know, if you've ever tried a drug, don't judge. Just cuz the girl wants a guy that she's actually attracted to is not a bad thing, but learn what is actually attractive. So, see, like I remember I was talking to a Muslim client of mine. He actually took a training with me and he said he wanted
• 223:00 - 223:30 to come out and socialize with guys. His I don't I'm not saying all Muslims are like this. You can't put a one group in in like a box, right? But his personality was very very heavy and dense and the least amount of swag of anyone you've ever seen in your life. He's like, "Hello, Owen. Hi." Yes. Okay. And the way that they do it is they don't even talk to girls at all. Apparently, I don't know the the the dynamics of it, so I'm not going to claim to. But what they do is that's a more patriarchal society. uh to where
• 223:30 - 224:00 basically the guys from from at least from his circle. I don't want to judge all Muslim culture because it's very different everywhere, I'm sure, but it's like no attempt at swag at all and then the women are kind of like under veils or what is that called? A burka hijab. A hijab. Okay. So, basically they put the woman under under a hijab. They have no swag at all and then they kind of have control, right? So, that's basically what the men want. What are some ad what are there's pros
• 224:00 - 224:30 and cons. What would be a pro I'm not saying to do that. I don't agree with that. I like I like a more like you know there's a between a hit job and like you know no swag and like modern American culture of like Cardi B and cocaine. There's like somewhere in the middle. I think that's just me. Maybe I'm wrong. So what would be an advantage though? Because there's pros and cons with everything. What would be an advantage of that? Can anyone guess? marriages last longer. It means you you might have more trust in a marriage. Here's another thing. It means that you
• 224:30 - 225:00 don't have to focus on swag. You can just focus on building your [ __ ] business. You can focus on adding to society instead of swag, right? The problem now is every wants to be a Tik Tocker. I think all you guys should be Tik Tockers actually like actually. So what's that say? But so that's the downside. Look, or that's a upside. The downside is you got a 50% chance of being born as a woman. You want to be in a [ __ ] hijab. You want your guy not to have any swag? Kind of sucks, right? 50% chance
• 225:00 - 225:30 you're born as a woman. You could have kids born as a woman. You want your daughter in her hijab? You want some guy's like, "Hello, sit there." Like, no swag. I said to him, "Bro, you can learn a little swag, too." "No, I can't." I was like, "Damn, brother. Come on, man. Just give her a little swag. Like, it's not even that hard. Can't you give the girl a little swag? Like, no." I was like, "Geez." Okay, come on, man. Just a little swag. No. Right. So, the thing is, learn a little
• 225:30 - 226:00 swag. Okay. But in effect, the message that I had to you is that there's no more Chester and Fence. There's no church before God that's going to make your wife think that she's going to go to hell if she divorces you. There's no community that's going to shame her if she leaves. Because remember that women exist within frame. So the frame if everywhere that she went is you guys are a great couple even if you had a fight you should work it out your man then that was m the frame was maintained
• 226:00 - 226:30 communally but now it's and plus if she left she didn't get anything now she leaves she gets your money she gets to [ __ ] the guy she actually wants or called an [ __ ] the chest and fence is gone it's gone men don't have a stake in sight anymore it's gone so now here's the question some you know that like here's what's funny I'll talk about this [ __ ] and then if some crazy shabas they try to blame it on me look I'm just describing that's happening. But what I'd say is it's going to go one of two ways. I think there's a compromise here, but that's just me. You can
• 226:30 - 227:00 disagree. I think what's going to happen is eventually if you keep pushing and pushing and pushing and pushing, I don't think it's going to end well. Okay? I don't think it's going to end well. And we might wind up regressing back to a kind of society that I personally wouldn't be a fan of. Like I don't want to go like the hijab thing. Okay? That's just not me. So if they keep pressing like this, I think that's going to happen. But I think a better solution is this. Now I've given the solution and I'll tell you the uh the counterpoint on it. But I'll address that too. In my view, a step forward would be
• 227:00 - 227:30 to mainstream a lot of the stuff that I taught over the years. But I don't want the credit. I don't care or want the credit. I just want this [ __ ] to stop. So I don't I'm so good at [ __ ] internet marketing. I can make money doing much more money doing other [ __ ] So I don't care. I don't want the credit. I just want the carnage to stop. Okay? Okay, I want people like your brother to have a shot. You know what I'm saying? That's what I care about. So, you could teach, you know, that clap thing that I badged you guys about last four hours. You could teach that, right?
• 227:30 - 228:00 You can teach swagger. You can teach guys to be attractive. It takes a couple days like all this carnage to not give like three days of training. Come on. So, we've got to start to acknowledge what is actually attractive. And if we can acknowledge that and teach it, then women will actually get to date the guys they want and the problem largely goes away. Now, here's the counter thing. What they'll keep saying is this. They'll say, um, yeah, but if
• 228:00 - 228:30 everyone's alpha, then no one's alpha because it's always like, well, then it'll be like the alpha alpha, the double alpha, the triple alpha. It'll be like that. It's not as harsh as you'd think. Actually, it's not as hard as you think. Yeah. In in truth, in truth, even me with having swag, I wouldn't really say that I'm like the most alpha or anything by any means. I think you kind of cross a tipping point where most women like you. And I don't think you need to be the supreme alpha. Okay. So, a lot of the
• 228:30 - 229:00 thing that we have to fix is that most of you guys have a suppressed winner effect. It's really, really bad. And if you could just fix that in men and then teach them a bit of swagger and teach them how to actually be attractive, the problem would largely go away. Okay? Like if I'm in my crib and I'm with like five 10 of my boys, we bring girls up, like they usually like if we're having a fun night, they usually kind of like all of us, you know? Maybe some do, some don't. That's their choice, but I'm just saying like they usually kind of like all of us, you
• 229:00 - 229:30 know. I was sitting with uh my buddy Ted. He's the co-founder of MySpace. And we're at a table with like maybe eight dudes that are all ballers. And like the women would just see the group of eight guys at the table. And they would just keep coming over like all these amazing guys like all these handsome guys. Like I didn't think any of us were that good-looking. But the point is like every guy there was like more alpha, right? So the women would keep even though it's a group of eight guys, which technically is negative social proof, but because it was eight cool guys in a group, they just want to meet any of us. They just want someone from the table. Look, you ever seen a group of girls and
• 229:30 - 230:00 like it's like the cheerleader effect? Like I just want one of them. I don't care. I take them all, but I'll take one, right? As long as they're at a certain point, you you'd be excited about it. So, I don't think you have to be like the alpha of alpha of alpha. I really don't believe that. What I think is that if you just cross a certain tipping point, you're not gross and disgusting anymore. Gross and disgusting largely comes from the low winner effect, which causes you to be too trapped in your head, makes you very mechanical, makes you overthink things, makes you needy, and causes men to become grabby. That
• 230:00 - 230:30 that was powerful. what I just said there by I hope you're catching this. Okay. The low winner effect makes men logical, makes them in their head, traps them in their head so that they can't see outside themselves. They get needy and some of them become grabby because they become like a like a like the golem, like a taker. So, they start grabbing and taking and being pushy and creepy. That's why the women are disgusted. It's not that they need the double x trillion alpha, okay? It's a kind of more of a tipping point. are you gross or are you not? It's a little bit
• 230:30 - 231:00 more like that. So, I think the problem is that women um they don't get it that like when those girls remember the girls that I put on the phone that are clowning that guy, they don't get it that when you do that [ __ ] you're you're I'm sure they're not doing it on purpose. They're fun girls or nice girls, but I'm just making the point like when you do that kind of stuff, men you're you're you're putting like the kind of mimemetic warfare out there that make men feel like they don't want to say hi to anybody. They don't want to risk being humiliated. They're they're not seeing the bigger picture. They're
• 231:00 - 231:30 just seeing how they're seeing it, which is some beta male trying to pregnant them and they find it gross. But you see the point that I'm getting at too, that guys need to rediscover their winner effect. But let me say this, my friend Joanna, I remember she was at Julian seminar. Joanna's a beautiful woman. And by friend, you can guess what what I mean by friend. So one of my friends, so I brought her there. She's crazy hella confident, right? Julian had this exercise at Transformation Mastery where he would uh take a toothpick and
• 231:30 - 232:00 he would send people out to try to trade up the toothpick and kind of do a little exchange and see what they could get. Joanna came back in the room shaking and crying. Why do you guys think Joanna came back in the room shaking and crying? Because she's never been rejected in her life. What I would say to women, but I don't think they're going to listen, would be you try being in a man's body for [ __ ] like, you know, a day and all that rejection and clownery and stuff like that and see what your winner effect looks like. I think a lot of guys are doing pretty good. I think for how
• 232:00 - 232:30 much you guys are laughed at and mocked when you try to talk to people and overall derided, I think you guys are actually doing kind of half decent. I don't I think a lot of girls would would crumble if they were treated like that. And some of them do get treated like that. They do crumble. Some of them do. So the problem is though is that we have to fix that winner effect issue. Now let me show you also a little bit more what happens in relationship too. Okay, in a relationship, let me show you how most pickups go down and then I'll show you how they [ __ ] up in a relationship.
• 232:30 - 233:00 Okay, let's say that you go to a club. By the way, are you guys following all this [ __ ] Yeah. Okay, I'm going to tell you guys something you don't reg you're not going to realize this now and you're not going to arrest for 50 years. This will be a historical speech. that you're not. You're witnessing history right now and you're like, I'm at the [ __ ] free thing. You don't even know what you're seeing right now. Okay? Nobody understands this [ __ ] properly. I'm breaking this down in a way it's never been broken down. Okay? I'm showing you guys the keys of the [ __ ] kingdom here. So, pay attention. Okay? You don't even know what's in front of you. So, what's going to Here's what happens.
• 233:00 - 233:30 Okay? In a normal pickup, you go around the venue getting little blobs of validation until the validation kind of settles in you. Then what happens is that you approach someone and because you have the validation more than they have the validation, you become like the sun as opposed to a black hole, they then get globbed onto you. At some point, they do something called a [ __ ] test where they will pull away validation or walk off. If you hold
• 233:30 - 234:00 validation, then you'll maintain attraction and usually the tests result in sex. Okay? But you usually get that by having a killer night of getting little blobs of validation everywhere. Okay. Now, the problem in a relationship is that when you get in the relationship, it's usually when you're on the upward crest of a wave of crushing it being single. So, what happens that you're on the upward upward crest of the wave of being single and you're so much not wanting a
• 234:00 - 234:30 relationship because you're loving being single. Remember I talked about that earlier that what winds up happening is you um you get a girlfriend. You get and you get a killer girlfriend like way higher quality than you could normally get. Credible sex. She's awesome. You're so happy. Maybe you're dating other girls. Like I don't want to date these other girls. I want to date you. But what happens is you now are not getting validated by the other girls and you're getting it just from her. Now initially because in order to get you, you didn't even want a relationship. What winds up
• 234:30 - 235:00 happening is um they overvalidate you. Okay, they overvalidate you. So there's a chase dynamic where you're just kind of living on your purpose, living your life, and they're just kind of needy. But then you stop going out, then you get out of shape, then you eat the ice cream, then you cuddle, then you become soft, then you start to love her more, you become more attached to her, you get a bit needy. What will typically happen at that point, you'll get a bit needy for her because you're not doing the things that initially attract her. And she'll do what's called a pullback. Say the word a pullback. Pull back. In the pullback, it's like a meta level [ __ ]
• 235:00 - 235:30 test. But here's the difference. If you love her, you probably spent money on her. If you love her, you've given up the other girls you're dating. If you love her, maybe you married her and gave her half your equity. If you love her, you stopped uh you know, you've you've changed your whole life for her, right? Money, time, energy, investment. What happens when a girl who you're that financially invested in pulls back psychologically to you? Yeah. Some people massive crush of your winner effect. Massive chase. What happens the second
• 235:30 - 236:00 that [ __ ] happens? They are slip. They dump you. They're gone. Okay. They slip. They dump you. They're gone. Now what happens? You go, "Baby, no, please. Baby, no, please." And you try to fix it. That's more self-qualification. They already slip harder. They pull back harder. You chase harder. They're gone. Okay. So, the thing is that's actually natural. Now, in nature, why wouldn't that happen to some quote alpha guy? Quote unquote alpha guy. Would that why wouldn't that
• 236:00 - 236:30 happen in nature? Simple answer. Come on. What is it? Come on, guys. Why would it happen in nature? Cuz he wouldn't be [ __ ] monogous in nature. He'd have seven girls. So, it couldn't physically happen. So, in order to maintain a relationship, you've got to ask yourself, what's the vibe that I have with seven girls, but with one? So, how do you beat that? Taco [ __ ] Tuesday. Practicing self validation. G having relationships burn out and kind of getting a sense of it. But you've got to understand all that a relationship is all that it actually is is a long set.
• 236:30 - 237:00 And trust me, when you're a girl when you're a girl already slips you and leaves, you'll be like, "That was a long set." Like the same walk-off thing that would happen in the club just happened here. It was just a long set. That's all it was. Yeah. And then in the same way they slip you the club, they are flip you. The the the money, the friendship, equity, zero. Your clown. Look, get your girls talk about any of their exes. They think they're losers, etc., etc. Look at how those girls talk about that one guy. loser because it's a beta male trying to impregnate them. So, do you see how that how you getting validation from multiple sources, maybe even practicing
• 237:00 - 237:30 cultivating internal validation? You remember that pattern where you cultivate spiritual growth and internal validation, it goes up. But as the women validate you, it lulls you into hell. It lulls you into what in religious in religion they call Satanism because you're putting the creation before the creator. Echartole says you can be enlightened in a private jet and you can be enlightened in solitary confinement in a jail. Where are we more likely to be enlightened?
• 237:30 - 238:00 Why? There's nothing to externalize to to chase externally. Even the most spiritually grounded man in the world, when a woman is validating you and loving you and touching you and caressing, giving you what you want, what's likely to happen at some point? It's kind of hard to be like, "No, I find it within me, not your warm, wet vagina that makes me feel euphoric." Okay. It's hard not to wind up like that. So, it throws you off. Okay? It throws you off.
• 238:00 - 238:30 So, you wind up getting lulled into it. Now, especially if now you're no longer going out, your swagger has gone down. You know what it's like for a 38-year-old man who's been in marriage for 10 years, hasn't had to do those lame approaches like those kids do? That's lame having to do that. I've got my wife. These guys should just get a real wife like me. Do you know what it's like for them to like move out of the suburbs, change up their car, change up their situation while they're being legally assaulted in a custody battle to
• 238:30 - 239:00 start going back out. How loud a nightclub is. Just the loudness of the nightclub. Being awake late. But but but I can't be awake late. I have a job. I am a provider. I can't be up late like that. That's crazy. I'm not a kid. Yeah, you're right, [ __ ] You're right, [ __ ] You're You're going to be up late now, like a [ __ ] kid, cuz you [ __ ] up and you're going to have to go basically go back to [ __ ] high school. And if you don't do it, you're less attractive now than you were a decade ago. So, if you think it was tough then, it's going to be even more tough now. You're [ __ ] You are
• 239:00 - 239:30 [ __ ] But they don't know how [ __ ] they are. They resist it. and they think that because they were a good little provider and they built their business and they built their job that they shouldn't have to do that and they wind up [ __ ] again. They get in another relationship without even having fixed a larger issue of abundance and the next girl will flee them and the next girl will flee them and the next girl will flee them and the next girl will flee them. You've got to correct the larger issue of abundance. You cannot even be on equal playing field with your girl if you can't meet women as easily as she can meet a guy. True or not true?
• 239:30 - 240:00 But how many of you guys if you got an attractive girlfriend could honestly say that. So you're not even in a position to do that. Now when I tell you guys all this stuff, I know what you're thinking. It shouldn't have to be like that. Well, guess what? We kicked down the Chester fence. It's gone. Those old mechanisms allowed a 20-year-old man who was not that attractive, who didn't have swag to just get a wife, start breeding. she'd be happy because he was protecting and providing because she was told she was told that these like low widow effect
• 240:00 - 240:30 achievable things were good. Do you guys see that? You catching that? That's a key piece. The protect and provide thing was because to have swag you have to have winner effect. To free associate, you have to have winner effect. It's actually kind of harder to get winner effect than you think. But it's it's very achievable, but you need instruction on it. And usually the only way that you can get it is if you're already alpha. But for a beta male to to level up is tough, right? For alpha, it's easy. Again, I hate, by the way, I
• 240:30 - 241:00 hate these terms, alpha, beta as much as the next guy. I hate them as much as next guy. I just don't want to be like a actualized centered man. Okay? It's just it's alpha beta. Okay? I hate it too, but I don't want it to be like LGBTQP++. Okay? Right? So, I'm just, you know, a centered valuegiving, nurturing. Okay? Like, just go alpha beta. Look, I hate it, too. I hate Look, anyone who has to use the word alpha is pride alpha, I know. Okay? I'm just I'm just trying to keep this [ __ ] It's already long enough speech. You want to make it five times longer? So So I'm going to need a lot of [ __ ] a
• 241:00 - 241:30 lot of lemonade. So So what happens is um the old systems they they would condition the girls that if you found a gentleman that that was a good guy. They believe that. So then if a six came up and was a gentleman, they go, "Oh, he's a gentleman. I have a good guy." They no longer need it for they don't need it for protection. They have more jobs and more college degrees than the average guy. Yes, there's more billionaire men, but the average guy is not a billionaire. So then they don't need it. So this is my lesson to you. All that matters now is being attractive. That's it. There's nothing else. That's it. As
• 241:30 - 242:00 far as far as your life and your career, money, yes. As far as your physical fitness and longevity, yes. But as far as what is going to hold together your children, it's stuff I'm telling you. and you the the average guy now with under the current social structure until we bring marriage back and find some new version of it where
• 242:00 - 242:30 right now did you guys know that we're basically in a third world war right now and I'm not just talking Ukraine what's the third world war that we're in there's a name of it it scares me that you guys don't know the war that we're in right now you guys really don't know the war that we've been No. Repeat this after me. Say the word culture war. Culture war. Okay. Social media has created the third world war. It's called a culture war. They destroy people. I mean, Trump being almost put in prison as an example. Okay. They destroy people. Different leftist
• 242:30 - 243:00 culture, communist culture, right-wing culture, all sorts of cultures in between can change rapidly. Look, back in the day, you had different ecosystems, right? You didn't have boats. You didn't have all the shipping containers. You ever see how um like there's this thing called zebra muscles in Europe and then they glob onto a boat in Europe and then they bring them over to America, but America doesn't have the uh infrastructure to handle the zebra muscles. You ever hear about that? I've never heard of that. It's an invasive species. Okay, you can look it up. Ba basically it's like these things that glob in the pipes. So in
• 243:00 - 243:30 Europe, they have two sets of pipes and when the zebra muscles get too much in one pipes, they have an alternate set of pipes. They move to the alternate set. They clean out that pipe and then they go back and forth. But America doesn't have that. So zebra muscles start to [ __ ] [ __ ] up. It's an invasive species. We're not adapted for it, right? We're not supposed to have these radical dramatic shifts in culture all the time. But with the internet, culture can change rapidly and dramatically. We're not built for that. So, what's happening is culture is going boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. It's changing crazy fast. So, that's why
• 243:30 - 244:00 we're like, I want to get married. And look, I'm pro marriage, but I'm telling you, under the current situation, marriage can still work. You could find a highly traditional woman. But you know what the problem is? You find a girl who proclaims to be highly traditional. She might not be. She might just be matching and mirroring you. Okay. I was at Hyde, which recently closed. It was a great club for many years in LA. And Hyde has a dinner area um and a club area, right? And you can do a little pre-party and like kind of it's called a comp dinner
• 244:00 - 244:30 where if you're look, you should actually do this. It's called a comp dinner. Basically, what you do is you get a free dinner for like you and 20 girls. Isn't that cool? You ever heard of a comp dinner? No. Just look this [ __ ] up. just figure out how to do it, okay? You get a free dinner for like you and like 20 girls, okay? Basically, if you bring like 20 girls to the club, they'll give you a [ __ ] dinner, okay? It's dope. So, I'll do a comp dinner, right? So, I was at a comp dinner. I met this girl who's like she's like uh from a rich family in Malibu. Uh I think she went to Pepperdine. She's hung out with a lot of like the elites in conservative circles
• 244:30 - 245:00 like creme to la creme. Brilliant, smart, amazing, beautiful. We talked for like two hours. I'm like, "Man, this is the woman I'm gonna have kids with. This is woman's amazing. Highest quality woman I've met in my life." Said all the right things. Hyde turns on the club. Immediately, I watched her start doing cocaine. Uh, drinking like crazy. Made out with five or six dudes, all face tattoos, face tattoos, grills, all that stuff. Made out with a bunch of them. She was really elegant and had this
• 245:00 - 245:30 shirt on that kind of had like a like an underboob. Looked beautiful on her. She looked gorgeous. The tits come out through the hole as she stumbles around like this with her tits hanging out. Look just looks so sloppy. I bumped into her in height at one point. I just enjoy my night being shocked by this as I'm seeing this out the corner of my eye in my peripheral vision. And she goes she she literally said this. She goes, "Hey." And this like Asian dude walk by and she's like, "Hey, where are you going?" He's like, "Uh, I'm good."
• 245:30 - 246:00 And her friend, she goes, she shows her friend, "I'm gonna [ __ ] that guy tonight. He's going to blow my back out." And her friend goes, "I thought you don't do Asian girl." And she goes, "I let him [ __ ] the [ __ ] out of me." Okay, this was all what I was watching. So, what I'm saying is they're lying. Often a conservative girl who you meet is just a liberal girl with a false sheen that you have to see through the mist. Okay? So, it's it's the same thing. At least some cracked out more
• 246:00 - 246:30 liberal girl who had like 13 abortions. At least you know what you're getting. The same conservative girl did probably did the same [ __ ] and just lies and matches and mirrors you tells you what you want to hear. You don't know what you're dealing with until you've seen someone's behavior over an extended period of time. Okay? The same one that says, "I don't have hypergamy and I'm not like that. I'm not going to RS." Okay? They don't say those words, but that's the essence of what they're saying. will still have the RS slip just like how you guys will have the RS slip. Just like how all you guys here have done drugs. Society's [ __ ] Do you
• 246:30 - 247:00 understand? Late stage capitalism. End of the empire. Wake up. We might come back. We might not. I think we can because we have to. We're trying. But you see what I'm getting at here? Okay. So when you meet people, meet a lot of them. Be in abundance. Screen. Get to know them. They're going to tell you things that
• 247:00 - 247:30 you think that they're ready. This woman, you could have kids there. You're statistically highly unlikely to meet a girl who's capable of being a mother. When people talk these days about having families, it's kind of this weird hypothetical thing of what it would take for them to actually do it that they're never going to actually do. Okay, even a woman like Saudia Khan who's so beautiful and and gorgeous and incredible and brilliant who's always talking about families. I don't know if she has kids or not. I don't want to judge. This is a little bit maybe me being bad talking a little bit of [ __ ]
• 247:30 - 248:00 I doubt you'll ever see her with kids. You want to know why I say that? Because the only dude that that girl's having a kids with is Mike Thirsten. You ever see Mike Thirsten? It's like a guy she interviewed like some herculean millionaire. Okay? And Mike ain't going to wife it. So even when she's saying things like uh you know I think family should be like this or be like that. The common trend these days is to talk hypothetically about what a marriage should look like or family look like look like. But no one's actually doing it. They're not doing
• 248:00 - 248:30 it. So it's just become this weird thing where the population is going to crash. Like I said having children is beautiful. I'm trying to show you how to meet a partner. I know that what I'm saying is scaring you, but the path is this. Take a decade or look, if you're natural, you don't need to do this. Okay? If you've got this, you're good. But for most of us, statistically, like 98% of us or whatever it is, learn how to meet people, learn a bit of swag,
• 248:30 - 249:00 learn abundance, maintain abundance, and you'll you'll go through different relationships, try your best in them, and repeat this after me. Say, "Make mistakes." Make mistakes. Say it louder. Make mistakes. Say it louder. Make mistakes. And then say the word fail forward. Fail forward. You got to fail forward. Go out. Go on a big run. Look, you don't even have to have sex anybody. Just get good at being attractive. But go on a big run. Become more attractive. Get in a
• 249:00 - 249:30 relationship. Try your best in it. If it works, it works. But don't get into a legal entanglement. Then proceed. See where it falls off. And then just keep learning at and and look, trust me on this. The heartbreak that you feel, it's gonna hurt. It's gonna hurt real bad. It's gonna [ __ ] your head up. Okay? But here's the cool thing. It's very cleansing. It's very very very cleansing heartbreak for men. Okay? Because it it gives us almost an unlimited source of energy. A lot of your best self-development happens during
• 249:30 - 250:00 heartbreak. And it also shows you what not to do. Now, is it your fault every time? No, it's not your fault every time. But while it's not your fault every time, and you might have been dating someone with BPD, like borderline personality disorder, or you might have been dating a narcissist, you might have been dating an avoidant. I'd recommend you look all those up, by the way. Avoidance, all that. Nonetheless, you know how when you're in the club and you just got little blobs of validation from everyone, the validation kind of settled in your system. And then because it settled in
• 250:00 - 250:30 your system, you met the right person for that night and you held tension easily. In a relationship, like I said, you tend to get your relationship at the crest of the wave where you're loving being single to the point that nothing could make you not want to be single, right? And then again, you get that incredible person who you never could normally get because you don't even want a relationship. And you become because when you don't want a relationship, what do you become like? What do you become like?
• 250:30 - 251:00 a laser. You're this unggetable thing, right? Which makes you crazy attractive. Your options explode. The creme de la creme people who you'd want to be in a relationship with suddenly are available to you because you're unavailable because you're having too much fun. You get in a relationship. By the way, you notice what most women say these days in their 20s about relationships? What do they say? No way. You notice that? They said most girls are twins. Absolutely [ __ ] not because they want to go get [ __ ] out by fun guys. They want to go on the
• 251:00 - 251:30 boats. They want to go in the parties. There's no reason to do it. And they they usually have like a half They usually have a half decent sugar daddy. Like kind of like one that kind of looks like what I look like to be honest with you. Like a dude who's like 42 pot belly, you know, I'm 45, but you know, like pot belly but still kind of passable and basically guys look like me and and they [ __ ] that guy and they get paid like 20 grand a month. So, they've got a shirt. They've got a provider already handled. They see him a day a week. How many of you guys would [ __ ] a
• 251:30 - 252:00 six for 20 grand a month once a week? How many you guys take him for free? Right. So, they basically [ __ ] a dude who's like a six who who swins a deal by like 20 G's. They get paid a really high salary they could never get. That's why you can't get her to be your girlfriend. She'd have to give out 20K a month. She'd also not get to [ __ ] the super hot guy she wants anymore. She wouldn't be at the parties anymore. What do you offer? Where's your lane, bro? Where's even your lane? You don't got the money, the sugar daddy. You don't got You don't got the swag of the tattoo rapper guy or the promoter, the steroid
• 252:00 - 252:30 guy. Where's your lane? You don't got one. But you're trying to be a provider and provisioner. You don't got one. You know your lane though, it's called 101. Say that oneonone. 101. So, in other words, okay, the main key of the whole thing is being oneonone. It's the main key is all the stuff I show you in all the videos. All the stuff that you watch me do, the old videos where I show the real examples, the student interviews, the seminars, the keys are all there, other great teachers have great keys, too, not just
• 252:30 - 253:00 me. Be nice. So, the way that it works when you guys are at my seminar, okay, are any of you guys like, man, Owen's like the best [ __ ] t-shirt in the [ __ ] planet, and I like him better than say Tony Robbins or Grant Cardone. You feel like that in this particular moment. How do you guys feel like that right now? Here's the truth though. If you guys are Grant [ __ ] you'd feel that way about Grant. If you guys are Tony [ __ ] you feel that way about Tony. Okay. I've watched their [ __ ]
• 253:00 - 253:30 Yeah. Okay. You got a question. So, okay. But you see my point, right? So, in this moment, you're in my frame. Okay. So, I've showed this in other videos, but if I start asking questions the audience, most of you guys will have you ever seen the videos where I show that I ask questions of the audience and the audience are more reactive to me? They're more in my frame and try to keep up with my frame. You guys ever seen those videos? So, like if I go to you, I say, "What's your name?" Scott, what's on your mind? Scott. Uh, RS.
• 253:30 - 254:00 Okay. So, do you guys see how he's in my frame? Your watch. Scott, come here. Yeah. Okay. What's your name? Scott. Scott. Scott. Nice to meet you, Scott. Nice to meet you. Do you see how he's reacting to me subtly? Yeah, I am. Do you feel that way? Oh, for that's attraction. Except Okay. Yeah. Okay. So, if I say what's up, bro. What's up, man? Say it up. What's your name? Sean. Okay. Do you guys see what's happening to Sean here? Hey, Sean. You
• 254:00 - 254:30 see what's happening? Okay. He's in my frame, right? What's your name? Xenon. Xenon. Yes, you got it. Zenon. Zenon. Yes. That's the name of the night. Zenon. Yes. How old are you, Zenon? 35. Do you guys see Zenon's excessive blinking? Yeah. When he talks. Do you see how now Zenon is also trying not to blink because I told him that? Okay. Do you guys see that? You see what I'm
• 254:30 - 255:00 doing? You look a little too excited. Oh, put your hand down. Now you're copying me. Do you think you have a strong frame or weak frame? was defensive. Can't talk. You see what's happening? What's up, man? Hey. Okay, Ryan. Ryan, good to meet you, bro. You, too. So, by the way, he's taller, better looking than me. He's got hair and his beard's not gray, but he's
• 255:00 - 255:30 still my [ __ ] How do you feel about that? It's what I've always dreamed of. Are you trying to say it's what I always dreamed of to have a good response? Are you pausing to have a good response? Are you trying to look like you have frame control? probably. Okay, have a seat. Okay, so notice taller, better looking. Are you guys seeing that? Taller, better looking, but he's in my frame. That's why looks don't matter that much. Are you guys catching this? So, if I'm the one running the show, you guys are great, by the way. Thank you guys for being the example. That's what you have
• 255:30 - 256:00 to be like with your girl. Do you guys catch that? So, so you're always the one running [ __ ] and she's playing catch-up. What I just showed you there is everything you need to know in like two seconds. Everything you need to know. What's your name? Latif Latif Hi Latif. Hi. Hi man. Good to meet you. Latif going to let go my hand. You want me to? No. Let Yes. I love you.
• 256:00 - 256:30 But do you Latif are you in my frame? Are you reacting to me or are you doing are you centered in your own reality? I'm centered in my own reality. I think you're doing better than everyone did, but I think you're still reacting, right? Are you as centered as you'd normally be right now? Maybe not. Latif, come on,
• 256:30 - 257:00 Latif. Come on. It's okay. You're my little boogie. You're my little baby. Okay. Let me talk later. Okay. Okay. So, what am I doing here? Rain control. Hi. Got a nice technical jacket on for the rain. Thanks. Thank you. What's your name?
• 257:00 - 257:30 Okay. Do you guys see what I'm doing here? That's all it really is. Like, you know what's funny? Yeah, I'm uninhibited, but I'm also in my frame. I could literally in some ways have skipped the last four hours and just shown this and that would be enough in some ways. But you wouldn't understand as deeply though. It wouldn't it wouldn't be like it wouldn't click as deep. Do you see what I'm doing here? So remember globs of validation you'll be more in your frame. In any repeat after me in any social interaction social interaction there's one person reacting there's one person reacting more than the other. More than the other. So
• 257:30 - 258:00 there's one person more in their frame. One person who holds the value one person who dictates the frame. one person who is basically what happens that we're always socially pinging for who has the more certainty and the more social proof. Okay, so repeat this after me. We're socially pinging socially for who has more certainty. Who has more social proof? So do you guys remember earlier with the clap thing? Remember that the clap? How can you forget? Right. Yeah. You're like what thing? Okay. So the clap thing was you guys weren't in your own grounded frame and
• 258:00 - 258:30 then what happened was you went right. Even uh our boy who's who's not here anymore because we're getting late. Um you know, he was like but he didn't know what to do. That's that thing that he did where he almost he went like that is what's happening to him with the girls. So that's what's killing his attraction. Okay. So if you just maintain frame, you'll generally hold a long-term relationship quite easily. But if you lose frame, you usually can't. But the problem is is it's easy in theory to
• 258:30 - 259:00 maintain frame, but it's hard to do in practice when someone has a stronger frame. So if I'm like, "What up, bro? What up, bro?" But you see how he overd does it? Yeah. Do you see the overcompensation? The only way to do it is to actually have frame. Have a seat. So the thing is is that you're going to overdo it, underdo it, try too hard, but you're not going to be you. So how do we do it? Taco [ __ ] Tuesday. Okay. No, but for real, it's like you got a
• 259:00 - 259:30 little party, you've got a group of friends, you're getting validation from multiple sources, you're winning, you're living your life. Read the book, The Way of the Superior Man. Right? Repeat, repeat after me. Read read the way the way of the superior man. So, okay, he talks about being on your purpose. So, also you get it from spiritual growth. Meditation. Say meditation. Meditation. Spiritual growth. Spiritual growth. Studying spirituality. Self-esteem. selfesteem. So it's a lot studying inner game. Studying inner
• 259:30 - 260:00 beliefs. Inner belief. You also get it from accomplishments. Say it. Okay. Like say keeping promises to yourself. Keeping promises. Um internal alignment. Internal alignment. Coming from a win-win place. So I mean if you're coming from a win-win place or internally internally aligned and and the entire foundation of where you're coming from is very healthy. That also helps a lot. So these are things that help a lot. Integrity. Okay, integrity. But let me tell you something. All the
• 260:00 - 260:30 most high integrity guy in the world, I hate to say and I hate that I've seen this is usually going to be less strong frame than a dude with 15 girls worshiping him. Bro, I know you think otherwise. No, no, I agree. I'm just saying. One sec. I'm retracting the question. Okay. Yes. Yes. Both. Both. You got it. Okay. Because here's what I found. Look, I've done years of meditation, but when I go out to a nightclub, it is [ __ ] on on on it's it's a high that is gives you such a strong frame that all the
• 260:30 - 261:00 meditation in the world, if anything, what that does is it creates more of a floor, right? It means that you're not going to go boom like that. It means that you're only going to go like there, you know? But when you've got like that much validation, look, I have spent my life learning how to not depend on external validation. I've made videos that get me mocked. I've been attacked in the media. I've had crazy hater videos, competitors that hate me, a lot of people talk [ __ ] I go out and get rejected. I spent my Okay, I do exercise where people yell at me and clown me. So, I do exercise where I get people to
• 261:00 - 261:30 yell at you and clown you. So, I believe in not being addicted on external validation. I've studied it for years. Meditation, Bible, all that. But after years of studying that, I hit a certain point. I'm like, you know, it's at least somewhat a bit of both. Okay? Like the need for approval and validation isn't just this evil thing. Part of it is to motivate you to actually go win. Okay? So, just denying that be like, no, I don't need to win ever and at all and I'm just going to meditate. Like, that's not the healthiest place to be if we're
• 261:30 - 262:00 being honest. But it's also not healthy to do kind of like what mystery did where you're like, it's not confidence, it's pure competence, it's results. and then trying to always line up your ducks in the road and if you don't get it, you freak out and have to go to the hospital. You know how the mystery is my idol, okay? It's a legend to me, but I'm just making the point. Okay, it's a it's a it's a issue that is public that he has. So, you want to have a bit of both. But as long as you set it up to where you have social proof, you have frame, usually you can actually hold on to your relationship pretty easily. Um, the problem is is that like I
• 262:00 - 262:30 said, even though having frame is easy in theory, it's hard to break my frame when you don't have it. And when you love your girl and she's got half your [ __ ] and you you've given her your [ __ ] heart and you and you've you've trusted her that if you give her your heart that she'll send that heart back to you and that you can kind of like circulate amongst each other and share that love and you love it. But then some other guy comes along and has more swag and she leaves. You're [ __ ] And the
• 262:30 - 263:00 way that it ultimately [ __ ] you is this too. Okay, I know cuz I'm usually the bad guy in this equation. Some guy gave his heart, money, and soul to this one girl. All his validation to this one girl. You are getting validation from many sources. You're working on swagger, which is what they actually like, not provision providing. And what happens is all that opportunity cost and time and energy he's put into providing for that one girl, you you put that into having swag and abundance. She goes
• 263:00 - 263:30 out, you're dancing with her, you're having fun, she rationalizes and she wonders why her husband can't just be cool like you. Why is he so jealous? You'd never be jealous. But of course, if I had all my money, time, energy in this girl, I might feel jealous, too. I'm only not jealous because I don't give a [ __ ] right? That's not a fair comparison. I have an advantage that I'm not invested. So, what I'd say to you is, so that's how
• 263:30 - 264:00 you lose them. By the way, what's funny is the girl also, as you get more betaized, has been poison dripping you, right? She's take out the trash. She's been a bit of a [ __ ] to you. So, your your internal state has been going down and down progressively. the guy who jacks you for your girl like that your girl the guy that the girl your girl leaves you for. You could be 100 times the man that he is, but because you're a good guy and you gave your soul to the girl, you invest in the girl and then she's been
• 264:00 - 264:30 kind of been mad at you a lot and the dynamic's been slipping to where you're now self-qualifying and you're kind of out of frame how you might have felt with me and it's been dripping down. So, you're at like 10% of your total power because you believed in her and trusted her and then she was turned off by that trust because you're in scarcity and you lost frame. And then what what hap how do women act when you lose frame? What do they do? Usually get disgusted by it. They resent argumentative, petulant, nitpicking,
• 264:30 - 265:00 arsing, make you feel dumb. Okay. So what happens is and then you try to address it at the surface but you haven't addressed the actual value like you haven't addressed the value proposition what they actually want. So like no I'll take out the trash. No I won't say that thing that annoys you. You know you try to address at the surface they keep saying it's at the service. They swear up down left and right. She's your best friend so you believe her but she doesn't even understand her own RS flip because she can't. So then what happens is that you try to fix it.
• 265:00 - 265:30 You can't. You're at 100. You get lowered down to 10. This other guy at his full power is maybe a 12 compared to your 100. She leaves you for him. Poison drips him down to a two. You bounce back up to 100. She within about a year she sees you and goes, "What the [ __ ] did I choose? What' I do?" And then they cry. Do that all the time. They cry. They sit there crying going, "Well, how come you couldn't just like do this and like I
• 265:30 - 266:00 wanted to be with you and you made me break up with you cuz you didn't like take all the trash and I had to leave you." You know, all [ __ ] cuz you come back to full power. But all they see is the comparison that moment that guy's a 15, you're a 10, but he's only a 15 cuz he wasn't dealing with her. So, but that's the dynamic slip. So, as soon as you start losing frame and then because they do the pullback. You have your money, time,
• 266:00 - 266:30 energy, emotions invested in her. She does a small pullback. You loved her. You trusted her. So, you get a bit needy. Attraction killed. She becomes petulant. She start blaming other things that if she liked you, she'd tolerate, but she magically won't tolerate those things anymore. You're probably a better boyfriend now than you were at the start. None of those things bothered her at the start. You're probably better now because you put in the effort. But attraction loss, petulant, nitpicking, complaining, [ __ ] testing, pulling back, less aroused, less sex, less
• 266:30 - 267:00 validation. So then you lose your girl. So what dynamic do we shift there? Focus on swagger, yes. Focus on social proof, yes. But here's the other key piece. The probably last piece to leave you with. Focus on getting them to invest. Get it where they have loss aversion. Look, I've been with a girl where I've blown I love a I remember one girl I love her to death. I probably spent six figures over a couple months because I really thought I was going to have kids with that girl and I wanted her to feel special. She slept with me without ever any money involved. Nothing
• 267:00 - 267:30 like that. I never spent a penny on her, but I really trusted her. I got the money. I didn't care. I make a lot of money. I didn't care. I just wanted to feel good. Man, she was out of there. I said one little thing to her. She was gone. You know why that happened? Because she had no financial investment in it. She could just take it as a funny look. I looked a bit beta for a second. She pul she did a little pullback. I got a bit beta left and then what happened was she can leave. Um again when she met me I was the cool guy
• 267:30 - 268:00 with access to the parties dating different girls. She saw other girls that were attracted to me sitting on the same bed as her when she first met me. When we first hooked up there was another girl on the bed that had come there to see me who is who's prettier if not prettier than her. as pretty, if not prettier than her. When we hooked up, there's no money involved. Initially, it was just sex. It was just having fun with each other because we liked each other. But I loved her so much. I want her to have the best. So, I would just do this without even her asking. She
• 268:00 - 268:30 never asked for it. She wasn't bad. I just did it cuz we're having fun. I didn't care. But, you know what happened? There's no financial investment. So, what happens is later, I was overinvested. She pulled back a bit. It kind of bothered me. I looked a bit needy. Bounce. RS flip. Now you ask her would she say I had an RA flip? No. She'll blame it on something at the surface. But the point that I and something but maybe it's a little fair. But the point is this. If you have frame that wouldn't be happening. So I was
• 268:30 - 269:00 overlever. What I learned from that don't do that. Get them doing favors for you. Get them helping you. Get them building for you. So then they have the word is called loss aversion. Say loss aversion. Loss aversion. Make sure that you don't give away. Just like how a girl doesn't give up sex right away, as a man, it's now reverse dynamic cuz women are not slutshamed anymore. So, it's a reverse dynamic. Make it where they're the ones who are trying to hook up with you and then later pushing for monogamy and don't initially give it.
• 269:00 - 269:30 So, there's investment there. Get them helping you with your projects. Get them investing in you. The more that you're overinvested, the more likely that you are to fail a pullback. So, don't get in that kind of dynamic. You're going to fail when they they're going to pull back at some point and you're going to fail because you're like, "I gave her my heart, my soul, my money, everything. Fuck." And you're going to go bait a little bit. Remember that your only job is to hold frame. Your only job is to keep self validated both internally via
• 269:30 - 270:00 spiritual pursuits, meditation, hobbies, passions, but also taco [ __ ] Tuesday. In other words, still engaging socially. As long as you have, look, watch this. Okay. So, say I talked to him for like the sixth time. Can I anyone come up? Come up and talk. Hey, what's up? I'm good. How are you? Uh, good. As soon as that happens, she's gone. You see what I'm saying? Like, even if the first six times I'm like, "What's up?
• 270:00 - 270:30 I'm good." Why Why are you making these faces? Are you trying to run the frame on me? Maybe. You can't run the frame on me. Do you understand? You will never run the frame on me. Do you understand? Okay. Okay. All right. Now, you're just imitating. You're trying to run the frame. As much as you try to run the frame, you're still trying, which means you don't run the frame. It's either being, but you can't try. You guys see what I'm doing here? Am I trying or am I being? Is he trying or being?
• 270:30 - 271:00 Okay. But if for one minute she's being and I'm trying, it's about being relaxed. What's that? It's about being relaxed in your friend. Yes. But let's put it this way, okay? When you're out the club, you can hold frame all night. You lose frame. What do they do? What do they do? They run away. How many times you guys been two-hour conversation? Went well, and then because you were in a two-hour conversation, you wanted to work. Yeah. You felt invested. You wanted it to work. They pull back a bit. What do you
• 271:00 - 271:30 do? Oh, [ __ ] my two hours. By the way, part of, by the way, part of being great at meeting people is just getting very This is another gem for you. getting very very internally aligned to where you're really just happy in your own skin. You don't have less addiction. You don't need sex. You don't need anything. So, you really just were there self amusing yourself. You were getting more entertainment than she was from the interaction. So powerful. So key. If you're in there like just trying to get something and you don't get it and she
• 271:30 - 272:00 pulls back, you're going to lose the [ __ ] test. So getting very very very aligned internally to where you just love being out or likewise getting very very aligned internally to where you're enjoying your relationship. But let's be honest, a big part of you kind of wouldn't mind being single again. That's when you hold your relationship amazing. You ever been in a relationship where you're like, man, like I would love to be single for like a day. I got all these options. I'd love to be able to run run with the wolves for just a day. You ever feel that way? You never get broken up like that, right? Have you
• 272:00 - 272:30 ever been dumped when you're like that? Never. Not a guy in yours has been dumped by that. But how about when you're like, "She's my special one. If I lost her, I would die." How many times you been lost dumped then? Okay. But again, the dynamic is always, say the word in flux. Okay. So, the advantage of being a man is you can go from a zero to a 10 in a snap. You can literally become as a man a perfect 10 in a snap and you become you can become a negative a million in a snap. Okay? It's just in your behavior.
• 272:30 - 273:00 Why do these why do these behaviors exist? It's via what's called subcommunication, which is the communication beneath the surface. And if you're in a tribe and you're the one who's killing all the animals or getting the honey out of the tree or leading us to the next cave, your winner effect goes up. And then if you're the [ __ ] loser who's dead weight, your winner effect goes down. And the women can sense that and then they jump on. Oh, well, this week we're getting honey. Have sex with him. This week we're catching the animals. Have sex with him. This week we're moving to the cave. Have sex with him. They see the shifting
• 273:00 - 273:30 dynamic when we try to add a legal container on that dynamic, but divorce is completely legal and all that kind of stuff. Again, I'm not trying to say we shouldn't be able to divorce. I'm just making the point like that's what the system is. We have to acknowledge it. Then what I'm saying is you're trying to use you're trying to legally re in these natural instincts using laws, but then the laws don't actually support you. I remember my last girlfriend, she's like, "We should get married." I said, "Why?" She's like, "So, it'd be hard for both of us to leave each other." Oh, jeez.
• 273:30 - 274:00 But it's just hard for me to leave. Okay. So, it's it's not a it's not a correct dynamic. Marriage is good. We got to bring marriage back. I think I really do. So, that men have a stake in society. But the current version doesn't work because we don't even collectively understand what attraction is. And by the way, how [ __ ] up is it that I have to be the top expert in Harvard should be studying this? Yale should be studying this. Stanford should be science. I don't even want to teach this. Part of why I look mad is that I'm having to teach this [ __ ] I have other stuff I want to [ __ ] teach. I get blowback from teaching this [ __ ]
• 274:00 - 274:30 Everybody criticizes me. Everybody talks [ __ ] Everybody says I'm a [ __ ] [ __ ] for teaching this stuff. I don't even want to [ __ ] teach it. Harvard, where are you? Stop being eggheheads taking notes from a bar and go out. Okay. Yale, where are you? Stanford, where are you? Oxford, where are you? We We watch [ __ ] Thank you. Thank you. So why can we watch some beavers [ __ ]
• 274:30 - 275:00 watch a bunch of insects [ __ ] but we don't even understand humans because there's political agendas at play narratives at play societal structures at play and they can't touch it and we think that back in the day Salem witch trials things like that you know all these like heretical beliefs you went and burned people to stake while it's maybe not as bad as that obviously at all still certain ideas you're not allowed to have. So look, I got a lot of love for
• 275:00 - 275:30 women. I got a lot of love for men. I hope to have some daughters someday. Look, if we ever get reincarnated, we could all be reincarnated as girls, okay? So I'm not trying to be a [ __ ] hijab, to be honest. If I'm a girl, I don't want to [ __ ] one of those schmucks from the [ __ ] 50s that I don't want to [ __ ] So I understand, okay? I'm not trying to take it back there or be regressive. But what I'm saying is collectively guys have got to learn a little swag. That's all that I'm saying. Okay? Guys have got to learn what frame is, what attraction is, how frame is maintained. We got to learn it
• 275:30 - 276:00 collectively. We've got to learn it. This has got to be taught in schools because we go teach someone, you know, tromial factoring, which unless you become an engineer or something, it's probably not going to be useful to you. But we don't show someone how not to lose half their money and get pushed to the point of suicide. We don't show them that. So I hope that after I'm dead somehow someway, I don't know what's going to happen with AI and society, but I hope because I don't think it's going to happen in my lifetime. It might. I [ __ ] hope this [ __ ] gets taught and
• 276:00 - 276:30 I'll do everything I can to teach it. But you want to know the truth? The average internet marketer is mostly just kind of making sales ads all day and doing little V s of virtual sales letter VSSLs all day, stuff like that. They're not actually in the field mastering their craft. They're just not passionate like that. I was pissed off. I almost wound up like your brother, bro. If I'm being honest with you, I was that depressed about it. So, I take it [ __ ] personal and I just think, can someone just do something? Is honestly how I feel. Can you please just someone
• 276:30 - 277:00 do something? So, I got sick of waiting and I thought I'll do something. Okay. So, I've done the best I can with it. I've had positive intention towards I've given the best I can. So, all I'm telling you guys here, you don't got to be afraid of little 120lb girl, okay? She probably not going to take off your [ __ ] You're probably going to be fine, but just optimize for what's actually attractive and realize the social structures that the Charleston Chester fence or whatever it is, they're not there anymore. So, you've got to
• 277:00 - 277:30 actually be attractive. God forbid men would have to learn how to actually be attractive. How do we learn it? Like I said, we go out, we practice being attractive. have failed relationships, learn and evolve and pinpoint where it happened. Allow the alchemy process to occur by going through these different things where we get taught don't find your spiritual your spirituality and your emotional home in the creation. Find it in your creator. Women in many
• 277:30 - 278:00 ways by being a little harsh teach us about spirituality. They teach us about our soul. And there's a great movie if you want to really understand women. It's called The Fountain. Have you ever seen that? the fountain with Hugh Jackman. And the whole idea of it is that Hugh Jackman. What women bring into our lives is flow. They bring a beautiful, beautiful flow into our lives. And they teach us to make love to the present moment. They teach us the power of flow. And so women's role in our lives is not just as mothers or
• 278:00 - 278:30 partners, but also women's role is to get us a little bit more out of our head and into the flow. Okay? And they're there to do that for us. So, when I talk about having swagger, a lot of what that means is just connect to the flow. Like, women want you to flow. They want you to dance. They want you to laugh. They want you to play around. They want you to have a little bit of swag. Like, it's they're just saying, "Take our gifts." So, it's not even that hard to learn this stuff. They're just saying, "Take our gifts." Okay? And when you do that, and you don't just try to be a provider,
• 278:30 - 279:00 man, okay? But you actually take their gifts and learn about flow and learn about just being in the moment and about how things just kind of naturally go and not being pushy and needy, but just naturally flowing, you're going to wind up in total abundance. And if you can just learn to kind of bottle that and sustain it, you're going to have a great relationship. Okay? So, I'm going to do an exercise with you guys today. But that's what I had to say on this. That was the transmission.
• 279:00 - 279:30 And I hope now that I'll get a better reception than Ibrahim. Thank you guys. Thank you. Thank you so much.