Showing up for yourself and finding your soulmate with Tammy Hembrow

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Summary

In this illuminating conversation with White Fox After Hours, Tammy Hembrow opens up about her life as a successful businesswoman, social media influencer, and mother of three. She discusses the chaotic nature of her daily schedule, the pressures of public life, and the importance of mental health. Tammy provides insights into her relationship with fiancé Matthew and her journey of self-discovery, emphasizing the value of gratitude, manifesting dreams, and maintaining a supportive family structure. Whether planning a wedding or launching new business ventures, Tammy's story is one of resilience, growth, and the power of showing up for oneself.

Highlights

Tammy balances being an influencer, a businesswoman, and a mother of three in a whirlwind of activities 🌪️.
She emphasizes the importance of workouts as the only constant in her schedule 🏋️‍♀️.
Tammy's wedding planning is both exciting and hectic, with amazing planners by her side 👰.
Her book 'Show Up' is about embracing challenges and using them for self-betterment 📖.
Self-belief is key, as Tammy proves skeptics wrong with her incredible success 🚀.
Sharing her life with family through social media brings joy to Tammy's days 📱.
The bond with her fiancé Matthew showcases a deep connection and shared dreams ❤️.

Key Takeaways

Tammy's journey from humble beginnings to thriving influencer highlights the power of self-belief and determination 🔥.
Balancing multiple roles as a mother, entrepreneur, and influencer is chaotic but rewarding 💪.
The importance of mental health and mindfulness in achieving success and happiness is crucial 🧘‍♀️.
Tammy's new book 'Show Up' serves as a toolkit for personal growth and self-reflection 📚.
Building a supportive network of family and loved ones can act as a pillar of strength 💞.
Manifesting and gratitude play essential roles in realizing one's dreams and maintaining a positive mindset 🌟.
The joy of finding a soulmate and planning a future with them is exhilarating 💍.

Overview

Tammy Hembrow, in her chat with White Fox After Hours, shares candid insights into her life as a dynamic influencer, businesswoman, and mom. Her schedule is nothing short of chaotic, yet she manages to keep her sanity through disciplined workouts and maintaining flexibility, perfectly balancing her professional ambitions with motherhood.

Wedding bells are ringing for Tammy, who talks excitedly about her upcoming nuptials, expertly coordinated with her wedding planners. The joy and thrill of wedding shopping with Matthew, ensuring he doesn’t sneak a peek at the dress, adds a delightful touch of romance to her busy life.

Besides planning a wedding, Tammy dives into personal growth with her book 'Show Up', which reflects her journey and offers actionable advice for readers. Her story represents resilience and the significance of manifesting dreams while cherishing the love and support of family and friends.

Chapters

00:00 - 01:00: Introduction and Early Challenges The chapter 'Introduction and Early Challenges' discusses the initial obstacles faced by the narrator, including skepticism from others about their potential for success. Despite the discouragement, this doubt fueled their determination. The narrator also reflects on the impact of sensational media headlines, such as those involving Kylie, and the mental pressure of meeting expectations. A personal anecdote about blogging and a close relationship is shared, highlighting the narrator's evolving understanding of support and connection.
01:00 - 03:00: A Week in the Life and Balancing Motherhood This chapter delves into the emotional journey and experiences of balancing new aspects of life such as marriage preparation and motherhood. The author reflects on feelings of ease, certainty, and occasional emotional confrontations during significant life moments. The narrative shares personal insights into self-belief and overcoming challenges, emphasizing that nothing is impossible or out of reach.
03:00 - 06:00: Wedding Planning and Engagement The chapter revolves around the theme of wedding planning and engagement. It appears to involve a conversation or interview, possibly in a podcast setting, where Tammy, who is described as a 'girl boss', is a guest. Tammy is depicted as a multifaceted individual managing two businesses, authoring, and maintaining her social media presence. There seems to be a discussion about dealing with public pressure and scrutiny while navigating personal and professional life transitions, like engagement. The 'old poppy syndrome' metaphor suggests a dialogue about societal expectations and the pressures of being in the public eye. The chapter likely focuses on personal growth, balancing different facets of life, and the empowerment of handling such pressure gracefully.
06:00 - 12:00: Releasing the Book 'Show Up' The chapter provides an insight into the busy life of a mother of three who also manages her professional commitments. Her weekly routine varies significantly, underscoring the chaotic nature of balancing family responsibilities with work obligations. Typically, her day begins with preparing her children for school, followed by office duties, meetings, or photo shoots. Despite the varied schedule, certain elements remain consistent each week.
12:00 - 18:00: Personal Growth and Wellness Journey The chapter titled 'Personal Growth and Wellness Journey' reflects on the flexible and adaptive approach to managing personal wellness and work commitments. The narrator speaks about the importance of incorporating workouts into their routine, adapting to changes in daily schedules, and balancing professional responsibilities with personal life, including being a parent. They also highlight having flexibility in their work, allowing them to adjust to their children's schedules and make time for their well-being. An assistant manages their weekly schedule, promoting an organized yet varied routine. The narrator demonstrates a commitment to office work whenever possible, while also accommodating the need to work remotely when required.
18:00 - 24:00: Family, Love Life, and Relationships The chapter discusses the busy and varied lifestyle of the speaker, who juggles work, travel, and family responsibilities. The speaker describes their hectic schedule, which includes waking up early, traveling to different cities, and attending events such as photo shoots and functions at their children's school. Despite the demands of their schedule, the speaker expresses a sense of longing to be home with their children, highlighting the challenge of balancing professional commitments with family life.
24:00 - 33:00: Career, Influence, and Handling Criticism The speaker expresses excitement about attending an event with a fun rodeo theme, including a mechanical bull, highlighting the lively atmosphere typically associated with these events. Additionally, the speaker mentions a personal milestone regarding wedding dress shopping, where they've completed their final alterations, symbolizing an approaching significant life event.
33:00 - 39:00: Future Plans and Projects The chapter 'Future Plans and Projects' discusses personal and upcoming plans, with a focus on the excitement and stress associated with wedding preparations. The narrator mentions keeping Matthew, presumably the fiancé, away from certain wedding-related scenes to maintain surprise. The wedding is only a few months away, adding to the pressure and excitement. The narrator acknowledges the unexpected amount of work involved in wedding planning, expressing relief at having help to manage the stress.
39:00 - 50:00: Fun and Personal Tidbits The chapter titled 'Fun and Personal Tidbits' explores the challenges and excitement surrounding wedding planning. It highlights the overwhelming nature of the process, particularly for someone who may not be meticulous about details. The speaker discusses how they rely heavily on their wedding planners to make choices, expressing a sense of relief in delegating the decision-making process. This approach helps them focus on other responsibilities while still looking forward to the big day. The chapter captures the mixed emotions of anticipation and stress that come with planning a significant life event.

Showing up for yourself and finding your soulmate with Tammy Hembrow Transcription

00:00 - 00:30 I had a lot of people as well back then like telling me I wasn't going to be successful that just made me want to do it so much more what's the wildest headline you've ever heard about yourself the wildest one has got to be the Kylie one of the sacrifices is definitely mental state it's always sort of been a lot of pressure to live up to certain standards or people's perceptions of you I used to love blogging people it was like quite soon in our relationship that's probably why I didn't think that that was going to happen I just feel like he gets me like
00:30 - 01:00 nothing else he just feels like home it's just something that's been so easy like I've never been so sure it was kind of confronting I did the audio recording for the book one of the chapters I burst out crying after planning a wedding just a lot he sent one message in like the group chat with the wedding planners and I was like you need to just stay out of the even if you have to convince yourself until you believe it it's just believing that you can do it nothing's impossible nothing out of your reach I
01:00 - 01:30 feel like we have a bit of old poppy syndrome it's up to me at the end of the day what I want to address and what I don't people were demanding answers straight away when I was still like going through something one thing that I would love for people to take away would be so welcome Tammy hi thanks for having me so excited to have you on the podcast excited to be here so you're an absolute girl boss running two businesses an author your own socials and like most
01:30 - 02:00 importantly a mother of three y we know that you share a lot on your socials but can you run us through what a week in your life actually looks like H I feel like my life is so chaotic sometimes like every week can be so different like for example I'll wake up get the kids ready for school take them then I'll stop into the office then I might have like a shoot or a meeting or something in the afternoon and the only thing that's sort of constant like my week is
02:00 - 02:30 like my workouts like I always make sure I have time to fit those in but it really changes from day to day for me and um I'm pretty flexible with my work which is good for as I'm a mom so I can fit things in around my kids schedule as well my assistant sends me my schedule every Sunday night and it's always just like completely different to the week before so you're in the office a lot as well yeah I am I try to go in as much as I can um but sometimes I do work from
02:30 - 03:00 home um sometimes I'm traveling and then yeah sometimes there'll be shoots and things like that and then sometimes I'll have things on at the kids school so yeah it's really just all over the place she can do it all I mean even today you said that you woke up at 3:00 a.m. been came to City yeah um slept on the flight which was good and then yeah back home tomorrow morning missing my babies already a I know we've got you down for the white fox event tonight we're
03:00 - 03:30 excited yes I'm so excited I feel like your events are always so fun they are everyone yeah there's even going to be like a cuz it's like the rodeo kind of collection we've got like a mechanical ball oh my God stop real like La style oh my God that's so fun I love that you were wedding dress shopping earlier you said your final alterations yeah um it was yeah my final alteration so the next time I come I'll be picking it up so that's really exciting um yeah I felt
03:30 - 04:00 like a princess oh my God exting Matthew's here with me so I had to I made him go like down the road like away from the store I was like do not come anywhere near here I didn't want him to see anything but um yeah it's really exciting that's exciting so when is the wedding it's in a couple of months it's like really really soon so add that onto the list oh it's it's so stressful I didn't realize how much like planning a wedding was like thank goodness I have
04:00 - 04:30 really amazing wedding planners but it's just so much goes into it like you don't realize and I'm someone who's like super just like I'm not really like meticulous and like particular with certain things so my wedding planners are ask me all these questions and I'm like at this point like whatever you think just do it I don't even want to know it's just like I already have so much like on my plate that I'm like focused on so I'm like planning a wedding is a big job like I'm so excited for the day but planning it is just a lot what's your overall Vibes
04:30 - 05:00 for the wedding can you give us a bit of like an Insight I don't want to like give anything away but it's going to be very romantic a that was so nice like your engagement that was honestly one of the most romantic engagements that I've literally ever seen it was honestly unbelievable like such a special moment I couldn't believe it was even happening cuz you didn't know did you no I had no idea and then Looking Back Now I'm like how did I not know I because it was like
05:00 - 05:30 quite soon in our relationship that's probably why I didn't think that that was going to happen but um he was so like nervous and stuff looking back even videos I have of him from like that day he just looks like so nervous I'm like how did I not realize at the time so there was s that day that you were just like and he kept asking about like saying stuff about the weather and things like that and I was like why do you care about the weather so much I'm like we're in like the most beautiful place like who cares and he kept like mentioning things about the weather I was like that's so weird and I don't
05:30 - 06:00 know how I didn't put two and two together that is crazy I feel like having an engagement is so excited but like not even knowing I feel like for someone to pull that off like he did well it was amazing um the only thing I wish we had footage of like the moment like we had um like he had a drone and stuff going but we didn't like neither of us really remember exactly what he said in the moment but it's kind of special that it's like that's sort of just our little thing I just remember I
06:00 - 06:30 was in absolute shock and we were both crying and it was yeah it was really that's beautiful I feel like in those kind of moments it is like that you kind of just like what just happened like I don't remember what we've just said I was in complete shock but yeah it was really nice a that's so nice has he had much of an input with like the wedding planning or are you like you know what let me do this one yeah he has not had he sent like one message in like the group chat with the wedding planners and I like was like you need is just stay
06:30 - 07:00 out on the bab I was like no no um but yeah he he doesn't know he doesn't know much about weddings I feel like everything he says I'm like okay babe you just leave it to me but um he wants to have input which is nice that's nice we need to create the illusion that he is involved he actually it's your show make him feel like he's you know having some input but yeah not really is it going to be a big wedding um no it's not it's pretty much just
07:00 - 07:30 like our close friends and family um I we had to be pretty brutal with the list like there's people I probably would have liked to invite that I couldn't invite because we um our venue has a specific number and I'm just so in love with our venue so that was not an option to do anywhere else so yeah it's not it's not super big or anything though yeah I'm so excited to see it all it was so fun I can't wait and it's getting so close now having your hands as well
07:30 - 08:00 yeah I am so um my best friend Bella and my sister Amy are organizing my hands I know nothing about it um I think it's next month but we're doing like a com like we're doing our own things and then we're coming together like combining the hands in the Box because we just want to like be together we were like let's just do something combined but I don't know exactly what we're doing but I'm sure it will be fun well you've been so busy you've released your book show up congratulations that's amazing thanks do
08:00 - 08:30 you want to give everyone a bit of an Insight on what the book is about yeah so it's pretty much just all me like it's different aspects of my life and my own personal experiences and you know challenges I've gone through and um different milestones and things like that and it's not only that though it's I wanted to make it sort of a tool kit as well so people could use it to reflect on their own lives and sort of
08:30 - 09:00 learn things from it and you know um there's different things in like the chapter's little activities you can do and things like that which I like I'm an Avid Reader so I loved things like that in any of those sort of books that I would read so I definitely wanted to make it like that but it's definitely just my life up till now like the past decade like how I've gone from where I was where I am now how did you have the name show up like what does that mean to you the show up I feel like show up is
09:00 - 09:30 just like it's just one of those things where it's like you can show up in every aspect of your life like show up in your relationship show up at work show up for your family I just feel like as long as you show up even if nothing's perfect even if things go wrong it's just all about showing up so I just like loved that for the title I definitely got that especially from the first few chapters of the book I feel like there's a lot of talk about can make excuses and it's so
09:30 - 10:00 easy to blame it on being tired or being busy or you'll do it later but having that and showing up is definitely how you've gotten through some of the obstacles in your life and like gotten to the successful point that you're at today yeah it's just showing up even when it you don't really feel like it is going to make all the difference so yeah show up just seemed like the perfect title for it did it take some like workshopping or did that come to you straight away um no that was like pretty much one of the first names that sort of
10:00 - 10:30 stuck but yeah yeah what was the process of writing it like I can't even that's a big process for you yeah I mean it took like over a year um and it was It was kind of confronting like sort of deep diving into my own life like I feel like you don't do that a lot like reflect so like meticulously about every aspect of like all these different things and it was really um it was sort of therapeutic as well just like revisiting all these
10:30 - 11:00 different moments and struggles and um like even when I did the audio recording for the book like one of the chapters I burst out crying after like it was just it can be a bit confronting but um yeah it was it was a therapeutic process for sure sure yeah reading it you just said that took a you a week that is crazy yeah oh and I when we were doing the audio recording there was times where I would just keep messing up like one word
11:00 - 11:30 and I could not like stop myself laughing and then other chapters I was crying and then so yeah it took us a while to do the audio recording but I did want it to sort of like come from me the the audio book yeah definitely it seems like a roller coaster yeah it was that would have been nice to reflect on your life though and like I know obviously sometimes people don't and I know you talk about this in your book but you don't actually sit down to reflect and like appreciate your achievements and everything that you achieved but writing it down that would have been like powerful for you yeah it
11:30 - 12:00 really was even for your kids to read one day or like listen to you actually speaking that's so nice that they they have everything there to read about your life yeah no it would be nice for them to read it one day I feel like people looking on at your dream life through socials like would maybe not have realized where you came from and like how you started for anyone who hasn't read your book did you want to talk us through that yeah well I grew up um in
12:00 - 12:30 croman Valley which is just like a small Valley sort of area um for a while we lived in a it was like an old reception hall type thing um we didn't have walls the bath was outside like we we didn't have much basically but um we always we I had like I have really good memories from it um with my dad and my sisters and I sort of feel like before like when
12:30 - 13:00 I was um I'm not sure exact around 12 years old or around then I moved to um Singapore to live with my mom and my stepdad and I up until then hadn't really seen like what success looked like or what like I don't know um like having money and things like that like that was never really a reality for me so I feel like that sort of started my journey of like oh I want to like I want to make something successful I want to
13:00 - 13:30 do my own business all of that so yeah I feel like having those different sort of aspects that like I saw both sides really affected like where I wanted to go in my life it sounded like a pivotal time in your life even just being in that library and reading and getting all that information that you did and yeah yeah it was it definitely was like I went through so many of my stepdad's books and they were all on like self-development and business and and I still love reading books like that but
13:30 - 14:00 it definitely like opened up a whole new world for me I think and then I knew I wanted to you know do something big I think it's nice for people to hear your story and know that you don't need to come from like you know having money or like brought up in a certain way to have what you've got like you've been able to build your dream life yourself yeah yeah I feel like a lot of people didn't really know that about me like they think I've or I've just come from that kind of thing which was not true at all
14:00 - 14:30 yeah what about from the switch of knowing that you wanted to do something and then actually actioning it in your life I feel like it's one thing like having the idea and like the drive to do it and then actually putting it in place how did you make that transition I feel like I just had this like innate like belief in myself and I just I'm a very like stubborn determined person so I really wasn't I feel like I had a lot of people as well back then like telling me
14:30 - 15:00 like I wasn't going to be successful or telling me no you can't do that or no that won't work and I feel like that just made me want to do it so much more so just I feel like I've always sort of had that drive in me and it really comes from like I feel like it really important thing is always like that self-belief like even like even if you have to convince yourself until you believe it like it's just believing that you can do it like nothing's impossible nothing's out of your reach nothing's
15:00 - 15:30 you know I I used to have a lot of people say oh that's unrealistic and that was my like most hated thing that people said because I feel like it's might not be realistic to you but to me it's realistic so I'm going to go do it so yeah I love that I think there was one thing you said in your book like if someone else is doing it why can't I and I love that because like yeah it's possible so like we're all humans we're all you know everyone and and you're capable of like so much I feel like so many people limit themselves and it's
15:30 - 16:00 based on their beliefs like they can do so much more but it's because they don't think that they can like they're they're never going to actually be able to achieve something that they in their like subconscious mind don't actually believe that they can 100% do you feel like you always had that kind of belief in yourself or did you have to put in a lot of work to get there I feel like I it I sort of always had it I don't know what it is but there was times where I did have to just sort of like reiterate
16:00 - 16:30 it in my head and like just you know it's sort of like that fake until you make it like it's not faking it but it's like convincing yourself it's just things like even like affirmations and things like that it's just like repeating something over and over until it's like real yeah for sure I feel like a lot of people would say like oh that's easy for you to say but I couldn't do that but it's like it's a constant daily work practice like you have to you have to put in the effort every single day to like reiterate it and keep working towards it because you have to change
16:30 - 17:00 your whole mindset essentially for sure and a lot of that does start with looking after yourself as well because I know that you spoke about before you got into your training and mindfulness like it wasn't always like that for you yeah yeah definitely not um I feel like before I found like wellness and health and fitness and all that I was in a pretty dark place mentally and you know I was smoking weed and just like wasn't in a good place and I feel like I the
17:00 - 17:30 first thing that sort of switched it for me was um meditation and then yoga and then that sort of opened a whole new world and I like realized how important your health and your well-being and your like mental state is cuz that builds a strong mind as well like having a strong body and your mindfulness that's what builds a strong mind yeah well that's why you see some of the most like successful people in the world they like they meditate every day they do all these things because it is so and can have such a big impact what's your
17:30 - 18:00 morning routine then do you wake up and you do all of like what's your R cozy isn't already wake like in my room waking me up if I do have time like before the kids I love to just go sit outside we have the most gorgeous of sunrises so luckily I get up early enough every day to see the sunrise and I love to just go sit out there do a little bit of meditation some breathing some affirmations um sometimes I'll take the kids out there with with me if they're up and we want do little
18:00 - 18:30 affirmations for them nice that you're already getting them to do that yeah they love it um SASS and posy so he wolf sleeps in so he's not usually out there with us but um but sometimes it's more chaotic than that and that's fine as well it's about finding that balance I suppose yeah 100% do you feel like now having your dream life you had to make many sacrifices along the way I feel like like one of the sort of sacrifices
18:30 - 19:00 is definitely sort of your like mental state being that I'm so like in the public eye and I have all these followers it it can be a lot of pressure and it's always sort of been a lot of pressure to you know live up to certain standards or people's perceptions of you and yeah I feel like that has been always been sort of a challenge that um it's been up and down over the years like I feel like some years I'm handling
19:00 - 19:30 it well and then some years I just feel like it's a bit much and I pull back a bit um so yeah that was that's definitely one of the challenges just having such a big audience so many people watching on yeah so many eyes on you it's just like you can be a bit March a lot of pressure and I feel like especially now people are holding creators to such a high standard where it's like so unrealistic that anyone can be this level of perfection I feel like it's crazy I feel like people forget
19:30 - 20:00 that like everyone's just a real person and people I don't know everyone's very like sensitive everyone's very picky everyone's just like Peaks apart every little thing it's like relax and wanting to like bring people down which is I feel like we have a bit of um like tall poppy syndrome definitely in Australia especially I feel like it's so different in the states like I don't know what it is about Australia but it's crazy over here how do you deal with that I feel
20:00 - 20:30 like I do have a really thick skin now with like trolls and things like that like I just I don't look at anything really like I don't look at like articles of myself ever really because half of them are just complete nonsense and then like if if I see some people starting to comment like negatively on something I honestly just will not look like it's just like out ofsight out of mind I care more about my mental health than what these people that don't
20:30 - 21:00 actually know me is saying yeah I know it's crazy these people behind their phones I saw this Tik Tok and it said like before you type anything you should say it out loud and if you don't like it then literally don't write it yeah I can't even believe what some people write sometimes I'm like I could never like it's like what are you so mad about no I know especially for you because like you're literally like I would say the biggest or one of the biggest influences in Australia like you're
21:00 - 21:30 literally getting papped when you leave the house it's crazy so it's like you have so many people who have opinions yeah I used to get like way more sensitive about it especially like in the beginning and I used to like it's frustrating cuz there's so many like positive comments but it will be that one negative comment that sticks out and that used to get to me a lot in the beginning but over time I just had to toughen up and and realize that these people the people that are speaking negatively they don't actually know me
21:30 - 22:00 for one and for two they're probably just projecting something that they have going on in themselves 100% And you have an amazing support network around you as well I do yeah I have the most amazing family and obviously Matthew um but yeah I have I'm so close with my sisters and my mom and my dad and yeah and that's what matters I feel like the actual people around you that know you everyone else they don't know you like they think they do but they literally don't so they
22:00 - 22:30 can go away with their no profile picture comments it's like user 1 2 3 4 5 six it is so nice to see the relationship that you have with your family and partner and everything like and children like I love watching your Tik toks with all of your kids they're literally so cute all of them yeah we just have fun with it um they love like looking back through the videos they think they're so funny and even posy like Matt will be sitting there and they'll be going through all the Tik Tok that she's in she's just like laughing
22:30 - 23:00 at all them but um yeah like wolf and Sass are obsessed with my YouTube they go watch all my YouTube videos I love it that's so cute you and Matt are just so cute together very in love very happy I mean you're now fiance like it's just it's all so exciting we saw you guys last year at our end of your party and we were like oh my God like I feel like I've never seen people more in love yeah um yeah he's just my guy I'm very very
23:00 - 23:30 happy that I found him yeah how did you know he was the one cuz I know I've heard you speak about that you were like okay I'm done I'm done and then that's when it comes like that's literally when I just feel like he gets me like nothing else and he I don't know it's just something like we're just on the same wavelength like we think the same we we say the same things at the same time like it's just a weird feeling where he just feels like home
23:30 - 24:00 like he feels right and it's just something that's been so easy like I've never been so sure of something I just yeah I just love him so much he's a really really good person that's so nice they do say when you know you know it's just like it's so true it's yeah crazy do you feel like you've learned things from your P relationship that you've taken into this one yeah definitely I feel like you learn different things from every experience in life and obviously like my first relationship I
24:00 - 24:30 was super young so I learned a lot from that I've done a lot of growing since then um even my last relationship I learn a lot with that um and you know I'm good friends with my exes now everything's all good there so I feel like it's it was just a bit of growing up and you know like self development and like um figuring out what I wanted in a relationship as well um and and what was going to make me happy and
24:30 - 25:00 things like that feel like breakups and we always talk about this is like one of the biggest learnings in your life it's like after you go through them even though it's hard at the time you're like I'm so glad I went through that because the person that you change into and all the things that you do you have to like really rain it in and you're like okay like yeah self-help everything but how do you deal with breakups like is there a tip that you have for everyone I just feel like my biggest thing was just surrounding myself with my family keeping busy taking up a new hobby just
25:00 - 25:30 like family was just like the main thing for me because obviously breakups freaking suck and the worst thing ever they're they're not fun so I feel like I'm that's why I'm so lucky I have like all my sisters and my mom and everyone I just spent so much time with my family like all the time so yeah they were such a huge support for sure and I feel like you've handled like both of your breakups in quite a different way even your last breakup you were really
25:30 - 26:00 private about everything was that a conscious Choice yeah um I feel like with um the first obviously I came out with like a video and it was very all very public and I addressed it to everyone I sort of felt like I had to at the time and I felt like with um this past one I felt that pressure again too but I was like you know what it's up to me at the end of the day what I want to address and what I don't and I just think about it like I'm not the only
26:00 - 26:30 person involved there's obviously my ex and there's obviously kids so I just I didn't feel the need to address it and if people were bothered by that then so be it but it's my choice at the end of the day yeah 100% were people like demanding answers from you um yeah I feel like for a while like people would just be commenting that over and over and over but you know eventually they got over it yeah they should like it's literally none of their business yeah I
26:30 - 27:00 just I just didn't feel like and it's also when when you're in the midst of something like I feel like people were demanding answers like straight away when I was still like going through something so I I just didn't even feel ready to say anything I hadn't even processed fully like I was still going through it myself so I didn't want to you know involve everyone else it's hard enough going for a breakup little hundreds of people asking you what's going
27:00 - 27:30 on imagine yeah absolutely not but it's nice that you're happy now and to see you in your little love so much yeah very happy it's funny I feel like you really attract the person that you're ready for at that time like it seems like you've done some work and like gotten to a really good place and then you've met Matt who just matches your energy so well it's just crazy like how like i' I'm just like how did we not find each other sooner like
27:30 - 28:00 it's even like our an oneye anniversary we planned the same thing on the same day for each other and like things like that I'm like we just have the same brain and like for um like one of our last presents it was like Christmas or something we both got each other the same gift with that I'm like it's the weirdest stuff or we'll be like lying in bed and he'll say something and I'm like that's literally what I was just thinking wow crazy and he's just he's such um he's really good for me I feel like is very very good at communicating
28:00 - 28:30 and he's very um like we're sort of opposites like that in a way because I'm can be very reserved and go inwards sometimes and he sort of knows how to like pull that out of me which is good as well that's good I think it's good to have a partner that brings different kind of qualities to the relationship yeah I feel like we bring like really good qualities out of each other and is he living with you now yes oh that's exciting yeah it was long distance in the beginning which sucked but yeah now he's on the the Gold Coast um he has a
28:30 - 29:00 job down there and yeah the kids adore him so it's really good how long were you doing long distance for um a couple like maybe like no I actually don't know I'd have to like calculate it but too long it felt like way too long like I I hated it I never like realized I like I was just I was not cut out for long distance I hated it we wanted to be together all the time it was so tough are you someone
29:00 - 29:30 that's like we're together 24 kind of like me and him can join at the hip like when he's at work I'm like I miss you so much I know even just then when he was like can I stay down here yeah he was like can I sit in the podcast with you guys and you're like get out like can I just do it with you we just like we love being together all the time that's so nice what's your love language I feel like mine is quality time I think I don't know I feel like it changes all the time for me but yeah
29:30 - 30:00 either like physical touch or quality time yeah you're like I need them all though yeah I need literally all of them like buy me a gift what is his love language um I think his is the same I think his is physical touch and quality time as well like we're both very we we make sure we always have like time for date night and you know um just really quality time together I think that's important like so important for relationship even with both your schedules probably being so
30:00 - 30:30 busy yeah yeah that's like an essential part yeah especially like you can be so full on yeah with my schedule and with the kids and everything so just having like even if it's just like a little date night plan at home after the kids go to bed and we just you know set aside time for each other yeah it's good yeah and are you're going on a honeymoon we didn't even ask you that before we are yes I'm not going to say where but um it's somewhere neither of us have been
30:30 - 31:00 ever and it's it's yeah it's going to be amazing exciting you've got lots to look forward to so much it's crazy I feel like all your followers are going to be very invested in the whole wedding I can't wait to share it all it's going to be so good and going back to your book what would be your main message or tips for anyone who hasn't read it like one thing that they want to take from it or your tips to creating your dream life I feel like one one thing that I like would
31:00 - 31:30 love for people to take away from my book would be to celebrate the the little stuff to celebrate cuz I feel like just being like yes success and all this is like all well and good but um like being happy comes from really appreciating the little things and things that usually seem mundane and things just in your day-to-day life and I feel like just celebrating like all those little moments is so important and something
31:30 - 32:00 that I've learned to make such a big difference in your life really how do you celebrate your wins it's just it can be so many different things like for me like I love to like you know just get all my family over like that that's sort of a celebration to me I put out some cheese platters we all just like spend time together but it can be like little moments like if I'm driving to work and I'm you know don't have any traffic I'll just you
32:00 - 32:30 know sing and dance in the car and it's just like those little moments that you just try to like just try to like enjoy your life even if it's something like silly and mundane like the energy that you put out isn't it like the energy level that you're on it comes back and I no that so much like when you are happy about something then more things come and then like in the opposite way it's 100% I feel like that's why like gratitude is so important just you know being grateful for for every little thing that you possibly can do you
32:30 - 33:00 believe in manifesting is that yeah definitely yeah yeah so you feel like have you like how do you manifest I feel like manifestation and gratitude go hand in hand for me so I feel like it's you have to be thankful for everything you have like when I go to bed I'll be like thinking everything I'm grateful for that day or just like in my life in general and then you focus on what you want or what you like like what you want your future to look like and things like that but I
33:00 - 33:30 feel like gratitude is puts you in sort of that positive head space that allows you to manifest yeah definitely cuz I feel like when you're constantly achieving things it's really easy to just go okay next next and not think about how amazing that thing is that you wanted for so long like it's just so easy to go into the next thing so if you don't have the balance of gratitude with the manifesting I just don't feel like it works yeah yeah and the Gratitude like it just attracts more positivity to your life yeah for sure you've achieved
33:30 - 34:00 so much and are so successful but what does success actually mean to you I feel like now like if you asked me back in the day I probably would have been like you know big house and this and that and like all those kind of not not fully material things but like those were all the like perks that I looked at but I feel like now it's very much just like an inner piece like that is what success looks like to me my kids KS being healthy and happy that's success to me
34:00 - 34:30 it's just like all those all those you know like the material things don't matter um yes is it nice being able to travel and have security and things like that um it is but it's just sort of like that inner peace and happiness that is the real success do you feel like it's changed for you from when you first started what success meant to you to now I feel like um like it I feel like it's always always sort of being the same thing but with bigger emphasis on like
34:30 - 35:00 other things in the past so like I was very much like go go go go at the beginning and then now I'm more just like you know go with the flow I just want to enjoy life I just want to like relax a little bit even though I'm still like go go go but I feel I feel just more like content I know I feel like you do go through different times in your life and that's something you talked about in your book as well where it's like you did have to put in that hustle in the beginning and maybe there was a bit of an imbalance with other things
35:00 - 35:30 but now it's like it's so nice that you can kind of level that out and focus on your family and yourself and your relationship a bit more are you starting another business you're like yes I and this is like it's going to be like my biggest Venture yet and it's with um both my older sisters Amy and Emily and we've never done a business all three of us like I've worked with Amy and Amy works with Emily but we've never done all three so I'm nervous we've been so
35:30 - 36:00 far so good but I feel like we butt heads so much so we'll see heard you talk about how you and Amy used to butt heads in the early was it SAS that you worked with yeah I yeah I used to fire her pretty much every single day and then she' just show up again the next day like she wouldn't leave and then eventually she left and we were like damn but now in the new Venture you're working Better Together yeah no yeah that was a really just like trying time
36:00 - 36:30 in our relationship um but now we're closer than ever and I feel I'm I'm really excited about this new business when will everyone find out about it um hopefully soon but it's not going to be launching till next year okay it's something big it's it's in it needs time like we've been working on it for like almost a year now I kind of think what it could be and I just I'm
36:30 - 37:00 like but yeah I can't even imagine cuz you've already got so much that you're doing um this is something that's just like it's sort of fits into my life so seamlessly and it's something I'm really passionate about and something I've sort of always wanted to do like it's been something that I really wanted to do so I'm really excited and to be able to do it with my sisters as well it's going to be good wow watch this space I'm very excited to see more about it y and you talk about your top success list your
37:00 - 37:30 top 10 successes can you give us your top three so far in your life oh I feel like that's so hard well to me my top three successes would be wolf house and posie yeah that is but um oh I don't know I feel like that is such like a I feel like there's so many different you've done a lot yeah I feel like there's just so many things I I couldn't put it to three you look like you're such an amazing mom honestly I
37:30 - 38:00 love being a mom it's like my favorite job it's so so incredibly hard sometimes but it is so worth it moms are amazing yeah seriously I I feel like I was made to be their mom though like I I love it what type of mom would you say you are I think I'm like a fun mom like I just like to be goofy and silly with them I like to dance around with them I joke with them I was so young when I had wolf and Sass so I feel like we've sort of grown up together a bit like they've
38:00 - 38:30 taught me so much and I was like super young and I feel like yeah it's just I just love having fun with them that is nice cuz when they get to a certain age where they're like you'll still just be able to hang out and have fun like kind of be friend like yeah they feel like my little best friends it's great I love it you do so well with co-parenting as well like that would be really difficult and I think a lot of people would really struggle with that do you have any tips for anyone that might be struggling with co-parenting oh it was it like yeah it
38:30 - 39:00 can be really hard co-parenting and it has not always been smooth sing like I'm so glad now I'm in a really good place um co-parenting wise but my tips would just be like put any of your own feelings about things and emotions about things aside because at the end of the day it's about the kids and you just whatever is going to bring peace like that's the most important thing so even if you have to bite your tongue sometimes even you if you have to you know like things like that it's just
39:00 - 39:30 like it's worth it to just have peace for your kids sake yeah putting your kids first in that situation do you feel like your kids are like really different or do you see qualities of yourself in all of them I feel like they are definitely very different from each other like wolf is very like I'm not going to say like nerdy but he like he loves to read his books he's very so smart he loves to build things he's he loves like gaming he Lo he goes to like
39:30 - 40:00 code camp on the holidays and things like that like he's very much like that SAS is like a little social butterfly she's just always wants to be with all her friends um very creative loves art dance things like that and then posie like just I feel like every day she's just getting more and more of her little personality she is just so funny she makes me laugh every single day like does funniest little things but yeah they they're all so different I love it
40:00 - 40:30 you Hest they're the cutest family I know I love all your Tik toks together we love making the Tik toks they're so fun they're so good at dancing as well honestly I love Tik toks I feel like it's just more like the like silly you know stuff whereas like Instagram posts I feel like can be more like polished and that kind of thing whereas on Tik Tac I literally just post anything is that your favorite platform Tik Tok uh I don't know I like YouTube because I feel like like it dives into my life a bit
40:30 - 41:00 more rather than like a few seconds yeah but um no I love Tik Tok cuz I just have fun with it are you filming YouTube every week like is it like every week I used to film so much but now i' I've only recently just gotten back into filming on my YouTube again and I'm doing like one a month at the moment but it's like pretty long Vlogs like a lot to manage like for you I would do more if I could yeah I do I'm going to I think I'm going to get someone to start editing them because it takes me so long
41:00 - 41:30 I was talking to Matthew about it the other day cuz I I have one that I'm like about to post and it was just taking me so long cuz there was like 3 hours of footage to go through and like oh it's just it's a bit tedious but um no I loved I loved like having the finished video and stuff yeah it would be amazing to look back and see that cuz I feel like even sometimes like just looking back at Tik toks you like have so many more memories like filming so much of your life yeah well I even just always
41:30 - 42:00 go through like my camera role and like just look I I love being able to just like look at everything I love like documenting everything I love that I have all that to look back at and my kids have it all to look back at as well yeah that's so nice for them as well and it's so nice that everyone else like I feel like everyone's so invested in your life your kids lives like you really do have so much support as well so it's like equally I think so much for you having all of that documented but but then everyone is also loving it so much yeah I love like giving people a glimpse
42:00 - 42:30 into my fun little life as well even if like it's not like there is so much that isn't posted or isn't you know put online so there is so much that people don't see and I feel like some people forget that or like don't realize that like there is so much more to my life as well but I love being able to share as much as I can yeah it's crazy cuz some people would just see this tiny bit of your life and they're like thinking that know every single thing about you but there's obviously so much more to your
42:30 - 43:00 life than what you're able to share yeah like there's heaps that I don't share I'm curious cuz you've got so much going on in your life do you feel like you thrive off kind of the chaos and having like every a different week every week or do you thrive off routine I feel like both like sometimes I like like the chaos and I like having a new thing happening every day and then sometimes I just want to stay at home and you know have my little routine like it's the same with like on the weekend sometimes I want to like go do something sometimes
43:00 - 43:30 I just want to like stay in and clean my whole house like it's just I I feel like it's sort of a mix of everything for me and it just changes as I have just such a different like my life is like evolving all the time and it's always like the different phases and I just sort of go with the flow to whatever phase I'm sort of in yeah do you ever go through periods where you're like no like I'm just I need a rest period or do you feel like it's go go go all the time um there's definitely some periods where I just like need to just like slow down
43:30 - 44:00 a little bit and that's usually times where I'll just lean on my family a lot um I'll just you know have a I I feel like whenever I'm go through anything sort of stressful or anything happening I just like spend a lot of time with my family and I do that anyway though when I'm like happy as well or like busy as well so family is just like so cuz do you have a lot of people like staff wise that you can kind of take a step back from your businesses now are you very like still very much involved I can I I
44:00 - 44:30 definitely have really amazing employees that I can trust to handle everything so I can take some time off or take a step back which is really great yeah that is nice how many employees do you have now um oh I'd have to count we have I have my Tammy fit team and my sasky team and they're both quite small intimate teams and they're all like my general manager for saski I've been friends with her like 13 years she's my best friend you keep it close we have like
44:30 - 45:00 yeah all our teams they're all my friends like it's really close oh that's really nice you can go to work every day with all your friends yeah it's so good it's really good a do you have any like issues ever when like there's things that come up with work or do you just work together really nicely no we work together so well and even if like cuz it's we've worked together for so long now and even when things have come up we know how to keep work as work and our friendship as friendship whereas me and
45:00 - 45:30 Amy when we were work together we could not do that like when we like had the work issues we like did not even want to speak to each other outside of that for ages like it was really did you have some time out of your like relationship after that yeah but um now we're closer than ever yeah I think it's important to have like some boundaries with certain people yeah and it's like you know that you can work so well with others but like you learn that through the process yeah absolutely and what is next and
45:30 - 46:00 enough and coming for you other than your secret other than my new business venture um I feel like so much really I just got some really exciting news other day about something that I also can't speak about just yet teasing everyone um but yeah basically just like the wedding and all of that is my next Focus right now planning the wedding and marrying the love of my life and um yeah so much coming but yeah most I just can't speak
46:00 - 46:30 about just yet coming soon there's a lot coming soon so much happening I'm so excited for all of it the wedding I can't wait to see it I know the wedding content's going to be amazing I can't wait have you got a social plan ready like what's your um yeah I have my celebrate also actually does like content so after she marries us she's going to go on to do like the content for the day so a good job for her to have both yeah that's perfect yeah
46:30 - 47:00 that's a real Niche role she's got there she's amazing as well she's wow are you getting married in Australia or you can't say um yes Australia okay I couldn't I would be far too stressed to have like a destination could be it would be stressful especially getting all the kids over there as well I just I don't have the mental capacity to handle that right now oh yeah you're kids must be so excited about the wedding they are they're so excited they can't wait well lot's
47:00 - 47:30 coming I'm sure we'll see everything on your socials very soon coming soon we've got a little game for you the game is Spill the tea we've got a bunch of questions and you can spill a little bit of tea if you feel like it oh God I'm scared they're not scary don't worry okay first one is what's the wildest headline you've ever heard about yourself um I feel like everyone knows that has do you mean like what's all like a fake one it could be fake I feel
47:30 - 48:00 like the wildest one has got to be um the the Kylie one yeah um yeah yeah look it a crazy time have you heard heard anything think that you're like oh my God that is not true uh not that I can think of the top of my head but there has been like so many crazy headlines like there honestly is too many I can imagine did you post a Tik Tok about one recently what was it I I went through and I read like some of like the recent
48:00 - 48:30 ones I don't even remember now what they were I feel like there just be so many that you're like all right another one like okay sometimes it's like do they not have anything better to write about them making up a story it's like it's actually crazy yes I think so it's so silly some of them I'm just like I just don't even know how they come to those conclusions ridiculous but I mean they're talking about you so yeah you know the engagement yeah okay so our next question is what is your most toxic
48:30 - 49:00 trait o I don't know I've got so many um uh I can be very very stubborn like I'm a very stubborn person Matthew could tell you that I'm just I'm very stubborn which has also been like a positive trait in the past as well when it comes to like business but yeah I I can be very stubborn is he also stubborn yeah no not not as stubborn as me so I
49:00 - 49:30 feel like if we were both super stubborn it would be yeah that wouldn't work would it if we were both really stubborn what's your star side I'm a Taurus Ah that's why yeah um okay next one have you ever blocked a celebrity or influencer on Instagram um yeah I feel like I definitely have um probably in the past like back in the day I can't think of any in particular right now but I I feel like I used to love blogging
49:30 - 50:00 people or with a good blog cuz I feel like it's just like if I don't know if it's not there then you can't like think about it or can't you know yeah um but I can't think of anyone in particular right now but you have been on a blocking spray before yeah I feel like I definitely used to have a few of those in the past will you block people that leave negative comments I used to always do that I don't do that anymore I just don't look um sometimes I'll like rest you know how you can restrict a comment
50:00 - 50:30 I'll do that and I find it so funny cuz it's always like the same person commenting like the negative stuff every time cuz it's like that one restricted account commenting over and over and over I'm like do you literally have why you obsessed with me it's like just unfollow but sorry or sometimes I do that I go onto their profile and I remove follower you can do that cuz I'm just like I don't want to give them the isfaction of being vlogged I'm like you can keep giving me engagement but like
50:30 - 51:00 engagement we always say that we're like engagement making me go viral so what is the most recent lie you told o probably something like silly to my kids to be honest probably like a little white lie to my kids like I don't know about why we can't go to somewhere on this day or something but um no I can't I don't really like live yeah I feel like yeah with kids it'd be
51:00 - 51:30 like they don't even know the full story yeah it would just be like a little white yeah it's fine there's nothing wrong with it um and last one I think I know the answer to this but can you spill any wedding Secrets no have to wait and see it's not long now though so mhm we're getting there excited to see it all and the hens that's coming soon so that's a surprise to you Dr for the hens arrives next week I think really did you get to pick the
51:30 - 52:00 outfits at least yeah yeah yeah I'm excited got a white moment yeah can't wait excited to see yes well that's all of our questions that was so good thanks so much you so much thank you guys and for anyone who hasn't read your book honestly we were both saying this morning we like we love it so much so I've been having such good feedback about it which has been like my the only thing I wanted from it so I'm so happy yeah and just to hear you speak it too
52:00 - 52:30 like it just feels so much more real and it's just like yeah little motivation for everyone yeah I know I feel like it's a really good book to listen to as an audio book because like as you're walking it just feels like that positive like motivation for the day oh yeah I hate my own voice so I could never I could not listen to it but yeah I wanted it to like come from me so yeah I've been getting really positive feedback so I'm glad about it thank you guys it all and excited for tonight we'll have a
52:30 - 53:00 drink with you tonight it's going to be fun okay thanks Tammy thanks