the fear of aging and growing up

Summary

Highlights

• Dustin starts by reflecting on viral TikTok trends and bitter comments about aging. 🎈
• He challenges the fear and negative perceptions of growing older. 🌱
• A lovely hike shows Dustin appreciating the beauty in everyday moments. 🥾
• Heartwarming interactions with friends and family emphasize love and connection. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
• An empowering message about setting personal goals and finding joy in achieving them. 🎯

Key Takeaways

• Aging is not a curse; it's a privilege. Celebrate every year! 🎉
• Every stage in life brings new adventures and learning experiences. Embrace it! 🌟
• The dread of aging often comes from unrealistic societal expectations. Shake them off! 🙌
• Create joyful moments in the present instead of longing for the past. 🕒
• Community and friendships grow with age. It's something beautiful to look forward to! ❤️

Overview

Chapters

• 00:00 - 01:30: Introduction and Fear of Aging The speaker reflects on the passage of time as they approach their birthday, marking the transition from being 21 to 22. Triggered by an emotional TikTok video of seniors listening to music on their last nights, they contemplate the emotional weight of milestones and the fear of aging. The video and its comments evoke sentiments that resonate with the speaker's own experiences and anxieties about growing older.
• 01:30 - 03:00: Birthday Reflections The chapter 'Birthday Reflections' captures the common fear of aging that many young adults experience. Initially, the speaker shares sentiments often heard from peers and society—that life peaks in college and everything is downhill after the early twenties. As a teenager, the speaker deeply resonated with the notion that teenage years were the best and most vibrant life would ever be. However, the current perspective of the speaker challenges this belief, reassuring listeners that aging is not as bleak or fearsome as it seems. The speaker expresses growth and understanding that life continues to offer meaningful and exciting experiences beyond the teenage years, ultimately suggesting that the fear of aging is both common and misplaced.
• 03:00 - 04:30: Embracing Aging and New Experiences The chapter delves into the societal fear of aging and the negativity that often surrounds it. It reflects on how some individuals express disdain and bitterness towards those who are embracing their age and experiencing life positively. The narrator finds joy and fulfillment in life at 31, contrasting with the negativity from others. The chapter discusses how this negativity may stem from personal dissatisfaction and the tendency to project one's feelings onto others. The narrator expresses frustration with the way some people attempt to diminish the happiness of those who are content with their aging process.
• 04:30 - 06:00: Advice on Growing Up The chapter "Advice on Growing Up" discusses the beauty of aging and challenges the fear often associated with it. The speaker reflects on their youthful years and the change in perspective they experienced about aging after turning 20. Through their journey, they aim to convey a positive outlook on growing older, emphasizing the wisdom and experiences that come with it.
• 06:00 - 07:30: Birthday Celebration and Reflections The chapter begins with the celebration of the narrator's birthday.
• 07:30 - 09:00: The Privilege of Aging The chapter titled 'The Privilege of Aging' seems to start with a serene and uplifting mood, possibly characterized by music, as suggested by the recurring mention of 'beautiful'. The narrator shares a personal moment of going on a birthday hike with a friend early in the morning. This suggests a theme of appreciating life's simple pleasures and the joy of shared moments as one ages. The element of music sets a nostalgic or soothing background, framing aging as a beautiful journey rather than a daunting process. The early start could symbolize embracing new beginnings and valuing time.
• 09:00 - 10:30: Media Representation of Aging The chapter discusses the theme of undiscovered beauty and new experiences, even in familiar places, as expressed through a conversation about finally visiting a well-known but previously unvisited location. Despite living in the area for a long time, the speaker has only just experienced its beauty, highlighting the notion that with each new decade, comes new opportunities and perspectives.
• 10:30 - 12:00: Embracing Every Age The chapter titled 'Embracing Every Age' discusses the unique experiences and privileges accompanying each life stage. It acknowledges the excitement of teenage years with high school and early college experiences as pivotal 'firsts.' However, it also emphasizes that the excitement doesn't end there; the 20s bring their own set of adventures. With adulthood comes increased freedom and opportunities, including travel and nightlife, alongside more subtle joys like discovering new hiking trails. This phase also offers personal growth, moving beyond the influences of peers and societal judgments prevalent during the teenage years.
• 12:00 - 13:30: Personal Growth and Friendship The chapter discusses personal growth and the evolution of self-esteem from youth to adulthood. It highlights how, in youth, people often deal with insecurities but as they get older, they meet more diverse individuals and become more comfortable with who they are. The speaker imagines that by their 30s, people have gained wisdom and settled into their true selves. The chapter also briefly mentions an unrelated observation about 'Fool's Gold' and the history of people panning for gold during the Gold Rush.
• 13:30 - 15:00: Conclusion and Final Thoughts This chapter concludes the discussion with a light-hearted mention of weather conditions and a humorous note about avoiding certain places to prevent finding dead bodies due to strong currents causing them to be moved. The speakers shift to a more serious tone, offering advice to individuals who are afraid of growing up. The main takeaway is to not worry about what others think, emphasizing the transient nature of life and encouraging a focus on personal growth and satisfaction.

the fear of aging and growing up Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 hi guys it is the day before my birthday it's 8:41 so have a few more hours of being 21 I wasn't planning on recording this clip but I just saw this Tik Tok and I was like I need to record this clip right now these girls like seniors blasting emotional music on their last nights is making me unwell and they're like in college or something I was reading some comments and people are so
• 00:30 - 01:00 bitter they're like as a 27-year-old I promise things get worse in college is the most fun you'll ever have or like this other person as someone who just turned 29 everything goes downhill after 22 hope this helps the fear of Aging these days is so common and I was like that too I was so afraid of Aging I just wanted to stay a teenager forever I felt like that was like the coolest age and the most relevant age and after your teenage years life is just whatever and boring you're just waiting for your deathbed and present day me is here to say that is not true and it's just it
• 01:00 - 01:30 hurts my heart to see people who are so bitter and afraid of aging and hate their lives and obviously these negative people in the comments are projecting because even someone responding can't relate life is amazing at 31 for me and then people are like [ __ ] on this person saying almost 200 people agree with the original poster two people spoke out otherwise wait and see over someone saying how they like their life how bitter do you have to be to to bring someone down like that it pissed me off seeing someone hate on someone enjoying their age and be like just wait and see just wait and see you life will get
• 01:30 - 02:00 shitty I understand we're human beings we get really nostalgic but I just wish everyone would realize aging is such a beautiful thing today we're going to talk about chasing the Teenage Dream and how to not fear aging as a person who loves Coming of Age movies and has based their entire brand on being a teenager back in high school I used to be heavily afraid of Aging but my mindset shifted when I turned 20 and in this video I'm going to tell you how hello this is the show called I want to dis C okay let's start
• 02:00 - 02:30 our [Music] show it's my birthday let's go on a hip
• 02:30 - 03:00 Oh What a Beautiful dream Oh What a Beautiful [Music] s going on a little birthday hike with my friend it is 9:00 a.m. pretty early for me honestly [Music]
• 03:00 - 03:30 it's so beautiful wow I can't believe I've never been here before and I've lived here my entire life that's crazy this is one of the places that I've always heard about but just never got around to going to or seeing yeah I parked on the side too I'm literally parked where all these cars are parked yeah me too okay I'm here yeah I'll be right here waiting for you okay a good thing to remember is that with every new decade still comes new
• 03:30 - 04:00 experiences memories and privileges I get it when you're a teenager you get experience High School beginning of college a lot of first and you're learning a lot but exciting things don't stop after being a teenager in your 20s you get to experience so much you're an adult you have more freedom and access to do things you couldn't before whether that's things like traveling or having nights out or even more seemingly mundane things for example me experiencing this hiking trail for the first time not to mention you learn more about yourself cuz when you're a teenager you're just a conglomerate of your PE and classmates judgments I feel
• 04:00 - 04:30 like when we're young we're all just insecure impressionable wrecks I found as you get older you're going to meet so many more people outside of just your little Hometown and everyone is much more comfortable being themselves I imagine in your 30s it's the same but even better you get wiser and really settle into who you are oh my God look at this Fool's Gold though look at this Fool's Gold guys can you see it no oh can you see it can this is where people go panning for gold the Gold Rush it's like cold but it's so
• 04:30 - 05:00 nice yeah for the weather yeah but don't go in there right no or you'll die a lot of dead bodies in here guys yeah lot of dead bodies not here though cuz they move out oh cuz of the current what advice would you give someone afraid of growing up I would say do not care about what anyone says cuz we live in this short amount of time and in this life so be a
• 05:00 - 05:30 kid until you can no longer be one I'm still a kid I don't care I do what I want to do it's fun 1 two three slipping through my fingers all the time I try to capture every minute slipping through my fingers all the time is it called slipping slipping
• 05:30 - 06:00 through my fingers like we just been [Music] singing keeps on gr there's someone hiking by Like We join us join sing with us I am back now to quickly get changed and pack my things and head to meet my friends to go the lake I also picked up
• 06:00 - 06:30 some cupcakes for my friends and I so we can do a little you know birthday celebration all right let's [Music] go if you have ever wondered what's in my Lake bag SL beach bag this is my go-to bag it's a vintage not me calling a military bag vintage obviously it's [ __ ] vintage my journal and a pen my current read sunscreen this is kad's beauty Elixir it's basically just a facial M spray cuz my skin gets dry eyes so I can just like spray it after I go
• 06:30 - 07:00 into the water hand sanitizer Aqua for Chopstick eye drops my eyes always get really dry with my contacts my film camera my Digi and then in this case a lighter for the cupcakes and a mini tripod for my blog camera and my keys and that is what's in my bag and also sunglasses this Puka shell necklace that I thrifted I don't know if Puka shell necklaces are like tacky I don't know how people view them but personally I really like it especially in the summertime I just I just got to pull
• 07:00 - 07:30 this bad boy out I literally do not wear this anytime unless I'm near a body of water suddenly when I'm near a body of water this has to be on my neck when this is on my neck summer mode is activated it also just looks really cute hanging from the side of my bag anyway let's go here is my little sister Destiny and she is 13 years old now her first year being a teenager how does it feel feels great um what are you most excited for
• 07:30 - 08:00 being a teenager now high school because actually um not really I'm more stressed about it um what age are you excited to be um 16 cuz I can D or wait did you get your 16 right mhm 16 because I could drive and hang out [Music] 16 happy birthday should I read this first or should I look this
• 08:00 - 08:30 [Music] okay it's okay St thank you you made prints I made print oh my just one print yay thank you wo it's turn out a lot better it's so cute guys she finally did it she made an an art print take it up when do you think your art Shop's going to go up I don't know hopefully by that you have like a month okay before this video gets up she has her Art Shop up I
• 08:30 - 09:00 will have it linked go go [Music] sh do you guys only take cash as well okay yay there's this like cherry strawberry stand when you drive to the lake and I've always wanted to stop and get some and we're finally doing it today now that you're 22 now that I'm 22 I can get strawberries can we have just a cherries one
• 09:00 - 09:30 you okay thank you have a nice day you too what is one piece of advice you give someone who's afraid of growing up it's not as scary as you would [Music] think guys a minute ago she was like like me like like just keep pushing girl that's what she said I don't have any advice I don't know what to do someone give me that advice well watch this video I'll be given that
• 09:30 - 10:00 [Music] advice what is one piece of advice you would give to someone who's afraid of growing up don't think too fast try to Center yourself in the now I mean you can't really predict the future so all you really have is today so just strive each day to be your better version of yourself better than my
• 10:00 - 10:30 her answer just keep pushing girl that's true though that's honestly true though oh damn these are hella sweet see guys you got to try new things that strawberry stand you always want to go to go to it people tend to forget there's a beauty in getting to experience every age aging is a privilege we've heard this before but not everyone gets to grow old yes it's bittersweet that we have no control over how long we got to stay in a certain period but I think that's the beauty of it there's a time limit to life if helps remind you to stay present and be
• 10:30 - 11:00 grateful also you already got to experience that past age don't you want to experience something else and see what's to come high school and your teenage years are only a small portion of your life and honestly it truly doesn't matter afterwards you don't realize it till you're out of it there's so much more excitement in the future and that's the mindset you have to adapt summer funny enough the Sex in the City
• 11:00 - 11:30 really helps me they were these group of women in their 30s and 40s still living it up in New York City that's why I truly believe we need more media based on older protagonists we just have too much media based on teenagers and stuff even college students I feel like we don't have enough media based on college students either so I think showcasing just older people living their lives and it's not just them playing a parent role or something like that could really show everyone that life doesn't stop after being a teenager being young and also I
• 11:30 - 12:00 feel like in general just the Teenage Dream the concept so unrealistic you're expected to have you know the perfect friends that you hang out with every weekend and you can go to their house unannounced and open their fridge like in the TV shows or experience your first relationship your first love have the perfect boyfriend girlfriend have the perfect family where you eat family dinners every night and just have the perfect life a lot of that stuff takes a lot of time and a lot of luck to develop so obviously it's not super realistic to achieve all that get all that while you're young and you don't really have too much control over that but when you're older things develop you have a
• 12:00 - 12:30 little bit more control over your life and you know you could get those things so I just feel like it's kind of like trying to be successful when you're young but in life terms like you don't have to be successful all in your young years you have your entire life to live to get all those things birthday to my dearest that's happy birthday to you today was such a lovely birthday doing things I
• 12:30 - 13:00 love being outside in nature with my friends and just spending time with them and doing Sumer things and I got to you know cut a cake with my with my parents my family today was honestly like the most perfect day lately in life I've just been having like so many good days I feel very happy I'm so content now I'm back home from the lake took my shower I got that nice you know sun-kissed tan sleepiness right now one of the best parts about going to the lake or going
• 13:00 - 13:30 to the beach or something it's like that post afterwards when you're all tan but a little bit sweaty but then you shower and then you're all tan and Sun kiss and you feel good even though my birthday this year was very simple like nothing too crazy nothing too big but it still felt so lovely and special to me in past birthdays I feel like I've always done something like a little bit grander also these ages always felt special and that's the thing about being 22 now this year is the first year in a in a long time that it's been just like very quaint but I still loved it just as much
• 13:30 - 14:00 I feel like 22 gets a bad rep like any age past 21 gets a bad rep people look at it as filler years they're not looked at as very special when people are past the age of 21 no one is really proud of their age I'm not going to lie I kind of felt that cuz every year I stay up till midnight for my birthday this is the first year I stayed up for my birthday and I didn't feel like this special energy inside I didn't feel like this excitement where I was like oh my God I'm 22 and I think that's because every age prior to to 22 18 to 21 that age
• 14:00 - 14:30 demographic not only am I no longer part of that 18 to 21 age demographic anymore which feels weird but there's nothing really special that comes with 22 when you're 18 you can like I think buy cigarettes and stuff like that and like you know stuff happens you're legal you're legal adult and when you're 19 I think 19 is looked at as not as a special year but I looked at it as a special year because I'm a I'm a lord fan and she has a whole album about being 19 and also I think 19 is just such a special age cuz it's your last year being a teenager you just kind of
• 14:30 - 15:00 really live it up and turning 20 obviously you're entering your 20s that's special and then 21 you can drink legally in the US so that's also really special every age the past four years has been so special and this is the first year that nothing really special has come but honestly I don't really like the bad rap it gets I don't like the propaganda on ages past 21 until you hit 25 I think 25 is a cool age but then after that it's like 30s then you know every five is the the special age but I hate that I'm trying really hard to not feel that way even though now naturally I do feel that way but I'm trying to
• 15:00 - 15:30 shift my perspective I don't want to be that person that that ages and you know is bitter and hates their age and thinks they're old I want to look at every age as special cuz every age is special I mean it does help that I am literally when I'm filming this I am well in a few hours to start my backpacking trip around the world oh just casual So that obviously really helps it helps me correlate 22 with something special which is I'm about to travel the world at age 22 and I think it does help to correlate something with the age so this
• 15:30 - 16:00 year it's traveling abroad but maybe 23 it's correlated with something else even something more simple like maybe I don't know knock something off my bucket list every age is special because every day you're still living your life although 22 isn't looked at as the most significant age but I disagree I think 22 is a very cool and special age and I'm going to cherish it and I'm so excited to see what 22 has to come and bring me actually I want to read a journal entry I'm only going to read a section of the journal entry that's like
• 16:00 - 16:30 relevant to what I want to talk about Amber asked me today what has been my favorite age and I responded I feel like every age has only gotten better and genuinely I couldn't think of a specific age that I thought was the best age I genuinely have felt like every year every age has been good and every year the age just gets better and that's not to say oh 21 was the best age no I appreciate every age for what it was and genuinely I have loved living through every age and I don't think one is better than the other I don't have a favorite every year comes so many new new memories new experiences new growth
• 16:30 - 17:00 new friends this past year has been so good having that conversation today I wish I was filming it but I didn't want to pull out my camera just cuz we were it was just such like a organic the conversation just happened very briefly that little conversation made me realize lot I was like wow that was such like a beautiful conversation and I didn't even know I felt that way until she asked me that question and I just naturally set it out loud also I wanted to do a little birthday haul I'm never the one to get a lot of gifts on my birthday I've just never have gotten gifts from people it's just not really a thing that happens in my life and honestly I'm okay with it
• 17:00 - 17:30 I'm not even a huge gift guy I'm the kind of guy who likes really specific things and will just buy things for myself right away when I want them this year I was asking my family what I want for my birthday my mom got me this backpack that I was already going to buy for my backpacking trip my brothers asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I literally think I'm just going to have them go havies on my travel insurance so if you ever wonder what you need to get me for my birthday that's the kind of stuff I'm going to ask for very prac gold I was honestly pleasantly
• 17:30 - 18:00 surprised this year that my my friends gave me little gifts friend Amber she gave me this like first of all beautiful handmade card Amber has been in her scrapbooking bag lately I keep every birthday card so I have like a shoe box just filled with birthday cards from years prior a handwritten letter or note that is love you know what I mean that is something I will cherish forever and I do I keep it all it's all in my shoe box for the actual gift she gave me this art print this is her original artwork she's been working on this piece and
• 18:00 - 18:30 I've been like sliding up on her stories and telling her how much I love this piece and like I want art prints of this if you guys don't know the lore if you guys watch our painting video that we did few years back I've been telling this girl to open an art shop for so freaking long y'all the art print thing is practically just like an inside joke at this point it's like just a running gag will she ever open her Art Shop we shall see I'll probably make it happen guys I'll make it happen for you guys I'll push her to do it I've just been talking about this art piece a lot from par just cuz I just think it's so cool and I love the colors and she got the art print made for me this is I think
• 18:30 - 19:00 the only art print of this piece that she's made so far so I feel very special the first and only one for right now I can't wait to frame it and hang it in my room and then my friend Ella she gave me a birthday card as well I will say with Ella every year we have given each other just really long messages on birthday cards it's quite a tradition we have right now it's generally so sweet so sweet I love my friend so much Ella's just so good at writing cards honestly she gave me a gift this year which I was very shocked about cuz like
• 19:00 - 19:30 we never give each other gifts she actually got me this like mini radio how cute is that and it's also a bluetooth speaker at the same time9 got to the offse yeah it's like a real ass radio and it has like a whole antenna like oh my God it's so so cool literally every time I go to the lake dude I'm bringing this to me that was the little birthday gift haul I've just been feeling so grateful for everyone in my life lately I think this is like the
• 19:30 - 20:00 first time I felt really loved especially by my friends I feel like my friendships have been the strongest they've ever been like I got so many birthday messages and made me realize wow I have like a lot of friends now if you guys have been watching me for a while I've never been one to have that many friends ever or like friend groups I've never had a friend group before so the fact that I have like so many friends now this is like what younger me always wanted just was like a lot of friends and to feel loved and I feel that way way which this is what age does
• 20:00 - 20:30 guys you meet more people you experience more life and 16-year-old me would have never thought I'd have this many friends who actually care about me and love me and look at me now Look at me freaking now y'all that's why I'm saying Adent is so good and you know you're genuinely happy when yes you still have the things that you want and you envy for like for me personally like I still have some career goals I would like to hit but yet even though I still have those wants I'm still so content and grateful for I already have and that's how you know
• 20:30 - 21:00 you're happy when you have this like warm full feeling yes I have these goals but I'm also just so happy with what I already have honestly if this is what I end up with for my entire life I'm happy with that cuz like honestly one of the most important things is life is your community and I have that now to wrap this up if you leave this video with anything I will just say once you accept the fact that you were just scared and start embracing that there's still so many great new things that are coming and can come into your life is when you
• 21:00 - 21:30 won't be as fearful anymore and I think that's just the key to growing up there's just so much of life to experience and you haven't experienced it all yet and I think that's how I'm going to conclude this so anyway I hope you guys enjoyed my annual birthday video and I hope it helped you whether it opened up your mind a little bit brought new ideas or even just brought you a little bit of comfort happy birthday to me and I am now going to get 2 hours of sleep and then go on a plane cuz I'm traveling the world baby come on
• 21:30 - 22:00 22 hey also I will say I'm not on this like high hor I've not figured out everything I think with this and with everything in life there's highs and lows there's you know days where I probably won't like getting older obviously Cons with getting older as well health stuff like that again you just have to embrace what's to come even embrace the down days of how you feel about aging bye guys bye