What Women REALLY Want in a Physique (And How to Build It)

Summary

In this enlightening video by Renaissance Periodization, Dr. Mike dives into the intricate details of what women find attractive in a male physique. The discussion navigates through four essential attributes that make up the ideal male body according to female preferences. Beyond just the basic inclination for muscularity, the video explores preferences for body fat percentage, height, shoulder-to-waist ratio, and muscular arms—all delivered in a humorous and engaging tone. Whether you're looking to fine-tune your workout goals or just curious about female perspectives, this video breaks down the essentials in an entertaining manner.

Highlights

• Dr. Mike humorously tackles common myths on physique preferences from a female perspective. 🤔
• The secret 'Fudge Boy' physique isn't just about bulking or being ultra-lean. 🕵️‍♂️
• Explanation of why a certain range of body fat (8-15%) is most attractive.😏
• Surprising details on how certain body proportions like shoulder-to-waist ratios appeal universally. 🎯
• The balance of muscle size over height favors being bigger than the average girl, within reason. ⚖️
• Muscles should complement, not compete with attraction—simplicity is key! 🚀

Key Takeaways

• Muscles do matter, but it's about balance - don't go overboard! 💪
• A lean physique enhances facial aesthetics and muscle definition. Keep it between 8-15% body fat for best results. 😎
• Wider shoulders than waist remains a major attraction point for a 'Dorito' shape. 🕺
• Height gives you an edge, but going over 6'3" doesn't significantly add more. 🌟
• Visible abs are appealing, but super shredded isn't necessary—
• Training bigger arms and forearms can boost masculinity appeal. 💪

Overview

In this playful discussion, Dr. Mike from Renaissance Periodization opens up about what truly attracts women in a man's body. Moving past the usual extremes that many believe—either super bulked or overly lean—this conversation sets a realistic guide to achieve what the ladies actually prefer. Don't just lift weights blindly, understand the intricacy of aesthetic appeal!

The video expertly pinpoints four essential physique traits, ensuring it's laced with humor and sarcasm to keep viewers engaged throughout. With insights into why certain body fats are favorable to the ideal shoulder-waist ratio, Dr. Mike paints a vivid picture of how gym-goers can maximize their routines for the best visual impact.

Dr. Mike doesn’t shy away from addressing common misconceptions, all while encouraging a balanced approach. The advice doesn't just stop at numbers; it blends them with a fun narrative, making complicated ideas easily digestible. Whether it's about gaining size or just refining your current body goals, the playful tone makes the learning light-hearted yet effective.

Chapters

• 00:00 - 01:00: Introduction and Humor This chapter explores the concept of physical appearance and its importance in attraction, with a comedic angle. It humorously critiques the extremist approach some men take towards body image, such as striving for extremely low body fat, believing it will make them more attractive. It emphasizes that, generally, women are attracted to men who exhibit a combination of physical appeal and good social skills. The chapter highlights the importance of balance and humor in attraction and introduces characters Mike and Kelsey.
• 01:01 - 03:00: The Four Essentials for an Attractive Physique Chapter discusses the four essentials for achieving an attractive physique, humorously referred to as a "fudge boy physique." Though the video aimed to have a catchy title initially, the term was changed to "fudge" for appropriateness. Dr. Mike humorously engages the audience, inviting viewers to infer the original term while promising insights into what women find attractive. It sets the stage for deeper exploration into the defining factors of physical appeal.
• 03:01 - 05:00: Training for the Ideal Shape The chapter titled 'Training for the Ideal Shape' discusses the exploration of what attributes are considered attractive in male bodies. The presenter, Mike, has analyzed and physically examined hundreds of shirtless men to gain a proper understanding of female preferences. The chapter humorously highlights the extent of this examination with contributions from another person named Scott.
• 05:01 - 08:00: The Importance of Leanness The chapter titled 'The Importance of Leanness' humorously debates common perceptions vs. reality about what is attractive in a male physique. While gym-goers may prioritize big muscles, it suggests that women do find muscular guys appealing, albeit with personality being equally important. The discussion nods to Arnold Schwarzenegger's influence, ending on a playful note to continue exploring the topic.
• 08:01 - 14:30: Size Matters: Height and Weight The chapter "Size Matters: Height and Weight" delves into societal perceptions of body size, particularly focusing on muscle attraction. It humorously discusses the idea that achieving an ideal muscular physique aligns with what some women desire, satirically suggesting that this can lead to being used romantically and discarded. The chapter also briefly mentions 'four essentials' related to physique.
• 14:31 - 17:00: Arm and Leg Development This chapter discusses the universal preference for a specific male physique that most women find attractive across cultures. The ideal physique is characterized by wider shoulders and a narrower waist, often described as the 'Dorito chip' look. To achieve this, emphasis in gym training should be placed on developing the deltoid muscles for broader shoulders.
• 17:01 - 20:00: Final Thoughts and Confidence The chapter titled 'Final Thoughts and Confidence' discusses the various muscle groups that contribute to a broad and confident physique. Focus is placed on the importance of developing shoulder muscles, especially the side deltoids, as they contribute to a wider appearance. The significance of lats, located under the arms, is emphasized for achieving a broad, V-shaped back that is noticeable even under clothing. The chapter also highlights the role of upper pectoral muscles in creating a robust, armor-like chest. Achieving a well-developed combination of upper pecs, deltoids, and lats is portrayed as the key to exuding a strong, wide, and confident look.

What Women REALLY Want in a Physique (And How to Build It) Transcription

• 00:00 - 00:30 A lot of guys are like extremists. Well, I I heard you're supposed to be lean and then girls like you and you're like, "I'm at 1%." Body fat, Cindy. Do you love me? That's not going to go so well because typically women that are into men are into men and then you have social skills to work on. Hello, I'm M. Mike. Uh Kelsey. Oh
• 00:30 - 01:00 god. Hello. Uh I'm Dr. Mike. That's my name. Today I have a pressing subject to discuss with all of you. The title working title for this video is not something we can post. It is called the four essentials for a fudge boy physique. Now fudge wasn't the original term. You guys are clever. you can figure out what it was. What do women actually find
• 01:00 - 01:30 attractive in the bodies of males? Oh, and there are so many male bodies to examine. And I did just that for this video. Scott, how many males did I look at and touch with my own hands to get the proper understanding of what females were looking for for this video? Dude, honestly, a lot. I've been around Mike for the last few years, folks, and man, he's looked at and touched so many shirtless men. So many. Hundreds literally literally hundreds of men. So the question today is what do females
• 01:30 - 02:00 actually find attractive in a male physique? We're not talking about personality cuz you know big biceps that doesn't matter. I'm kidding. I'll get to that. Versus what a lot of us gym bros think that females like. And there's a bit of a difference but some overlap. And really the other question is kind of the answer is do women like muscular guys? Yes, of course they do. Stop it. Shut up. All right. Well, Arnold has spoken and that's the end of the video. Oh, hold on a sec. We can dig a
• 02:00 - 02:30 little deeper and we can find out just how much muscle women actually find attractive. And if you gain that level of jackness and that shape, then you give women what they want. And then they can use you to breed and discard you like the trash that you are, which is kind of hot. Yeah. All right. Four essentials for four fingers, Mike. Yes. For a fudge boy physique in three, two,
• 02:30 - 03:00 one, let's fudge. Number one, there is a general shape of an attractive male physique that seems to be a near or actually universal. Cross-culturally, this is what almost all women prefer. No surprise, it is wider shoulders and a narrower waist. wider shoulders and a narrower waist giving you that Dorito chip look. How do you build that in the gym? Well, you want to preferentially train your delts,
• 03:00 - 03:30 your shoulder muscles for sure, especially side delts which bulge out to the sides as the nomenclature would indicate. Definitely the lats, the under the armpit musculature of the back that makes you wide, especially from the back, especially in clothing. And of course, the upper pecs to give you that armorplated look. If you have big upper pecs, big delts, and big lats, man, you are looking like a wide king, and that's really, really good. A lot of times folks will say,
• 03:30 - 04:00 "Okay, narrower waist. What do I do in the gym for that?" And the reality is there's really nothing you can do in the gym to narrow your waist. It's almost exclusively a matter of genetics, a matter of how you store your body fat. Some of that has to do with age. Generally, as people age into their 40s and beyond, they store more fat in and around their midsection, which, you know, future medicine will solve. But until now, women know an older king when they see one. That's when I guess you have to have Scott enough money and status or something like that to counterbalance that, I guess. Absolutely. And it works. It works. It
• 04:00 - 04:30 works too goddamn well. Scott Scott out here is drowning this M so no you can try to avoid training your obliques like the muscles on the side of your abs cuz they'll bulge out too much but to be honest training your obliques for size is something most people don't do and it has a teeny tiny effect cuz the obliques just don't get all that big. So definitely don't train your obliques with side bends if you want to like have bigger obliques because that's actually backwards. Definitely don't do that. But really, a thick waist comes
• 04:30 - 05:00 from too much body fat and not really the gym. And waist size is mostly about calories in, calories out. Uh, you can't crunch your way to a tiny waist. You can't do sit-ups. You can do side bends and sit-ups, but please don't lose that butt as a sir Mixelot once said. Is that Sir Mixelot Scott? Yes. Yeah. Okay. Excellent. Excellent. And that's it. So, train your delts, upper pecs, and lats as a priority. and just keep a certain
• 05:00 - 05:30 lower to moderate level of body fat to keep your waist as small as it can be. Now, we'll get to what that body fat is in a little bit because there are four tips, not just one. This is just the first. This is just the structural stuff. Now, a quick follow-up question to that is, okay, so how wide should your shoulders be as compared to your waist? Is wider better? Not necessarily. your shoulders visibly being wider than your waist, mandatory for getting in that like potential for peak
• 05:30 - 06:00 attractiveness kind of vibe. So if your shoulders are me out here and your waist is down here or your waist is down me or your waist is down Yeah. like that, those are all kind of like, you know, whatever the woman prefers. But if your shoulders are out here and then your waist is wider than that, it's not the look. That's not the look that most of the ladies are interested in. again, how much wider? Some women love extreme vtapers. Some women get kind of freaked out by them and they're like, "That's a
• 06:00 - 06:30 lot." You know, it's like, well, I was going to make an analogy to women's breasts and male preferences, Scott, but that fell apart upon examination. Yeah, cuz there's no wrong answers, you guys. I guess like quadruple Z titties out to four feet kind of just loses the plot a little bit. And I think if you get a wide enough shoulderto- waist ratio for a lot of girls that aren't super into fitness or bodybuilding, they could just be like,
• 06:30 - 07:00 "Whoa, like that is a lot." But typically not a bad thing. It's just once you have a really awesome clear shoulder to waist ratio that's bigger shoulders, wider shoulders, narrower waist, the ROI on getting that more extreme is a question mark. It's not just yes, it's worth it. And then you can prioritize other things to potentially make yourself the most attractive males that has ever seen a female before. And then you have social skills to work on. Hello, I'm Mike M.
• 07:00 - 07:30 Mike. Uh Kelsey. Oh god. Even simulating an attraction with a female is scary, you guys. They have teeth and horns. I've never seen one, but I think they have teeth and horns and they want something primordial from you that you're supposed to keep inside your body. I've read all the holy texts. Number two, okay, so the first one really quick, and don't worry, we'll recap these off the end, is wider shoulders than waist. Big deal.
• 07:30 - 08:00 Huge deal. The second one is leanness. Now, here it's not just as lean as possible, so stay with me. When you're lean, a couple of really big upsides start to check mark themselves in your physique as presented to a a 10erson team of females of reproductive age. You know, Scott, they have like little schoolgirl outfits and they're like college age and they have like their nerd glasses on, their ponytails, and they're like they're check marking their list as you're standing naked in front of them in a room. A typical
• 08:00 - 08:30 Thursday for you guys. Yeah. Yeah. So, in that kind of situ situation, being leaner offers you a few advantages. One is it actually gives you better facial aesthetics. You have that I don't have him, but what Scott the video guy looks like. You've seen pictures, the cheekbones all out here and the big chin and like that. Chad physique, Chad face, which is hot. Women like that sort of thing. Uh, better than like bloated bulk face. You know, when you meet a girl on your peak bulk and she's like, "Can you even see me through those
• 08:30 - 09:00 eyes?" and you're like, "Why? Someone talking to me? Are they a burrito?" That ain't it. So, better facial aesthetics is one of those cool benefits that you get from being leaner that a lot of people don't even think about, but yes, it does in fact as a male make you more attractive to a point, if you're all skeleton face, again, it confuses some women. Another one, for any degree of muscle that you have, when you get leaner, your muscles become more defined. It's kind of like insta gains where like you do a 12-week diet, but it looks like you gained three years worth of muscle. you didn't get any bigger,
• 09:00 - 09:30 maybe you lost a little muscle, but the definition of the muscle is highly enhanced. And then for a lot of women, that's a really good thing. And on average, it works. Another one, of course, huge one, is leanness is what gives you the small waist. Leanness gives you the smallest waist your structural genetics will allow for structurally. You might have wide hips and relatively narrow shoulders. But if you train the living dog out of your delts, upper pecs, and lats, and then get fairly lean, I'll tell you what that is in just a bit. Then it can still appear that your shoulders are a little
• 09:30 - 10:00 bit wider than your waist. And then you're in. You're into that bare essentials. He looks like a man that can, I don't know, like beat up the tribal chief to secure my mating opportunities. Whatever the hell goes through through uh women's minds. Would hell if I know anything about that. Another one is you get the popping abs, the ravioli abs. Scott, have you ever upon eating ravioli realized that what you really want to do is grate your face on a young man's abdominal region after
• 10:00 - 10:30 he sweats through victorious competitive sport with other also young males? I mean, if he's from the Scandinavian region, then for sure. Mr. Scott, I just finished playing a pickup gas basketball game, and even though I'm profoundly Caucasian, I still did okay, and I've got plenty of assists and three-pointers. But now I've got the problem. I don't have a towel to rub off my perfectly symmetrical six-pack abs. Would I be able to use your your face, you pathetic, so that you can get an
• 10:30 - 11:00 erection while I get dried up? Wow, that got graphic. That got real. Come on, Iceland guy. What's wrong with you? I thought your country was full of decent people, not perverts. Popping abs are cool. When you're wearing clothes, nobody can tell. When you're shirtless, which often happens at the beach, pickup basketball, picnic, 5K fun run, the club, school, church, inevitably the
• 11:00 - 11:30 police station. Scott, what's your opinion on uh lady cops? I mean, jeez. 11. 11 out of 10. Yeah. And so when you're getting arrested for being shirtless at a church and then a school, at least you got the popping abs and the lady cop might be like, "Hey, once you get released, why don't you don't go home, go to this address." That could happen. So abs are cool. Again, they're not everything for females, but they're nice. They're definitely a nice bonus. So when you get leaner, you get better facial aesthetics, so you actually look cuter. You have more visible muscle
• 11:30 - 12:00 definition, so you look more jacked, and ladies like that sort of thing. You get a smaller waist, which is really important for aesthetics and popping abs, which is really, really dope. But the ideal body fat range for attracting females actually looks more like 8 to 15% body fat than it does a lower values. A lot of guys, a lot of people are like extremists. You tell them like, "Hey man, I heard you like uh Scott, give me a girl's name real quick. I'm tired of coming up these on my own."
• 12:00 - 12:30 Cindy. Cindy's a good one. Hey, bro. I heard you like Cindy. Yeah, man. She's soing cute, bro. I can't stand it. Um, well, I I heard you're supposed to be lean and then girls like you and you're like, get out of here, bro. So, you come up to Cindy like 5 months later and she's like, oh my god, what happened to your face and you're scared and you're like, I'm at 1%. Body fat, Cindy, do you love me?
• 12:30 - 13:00 Are you like going to die or something? Cuz death is like growth. That's not going to go so well. It turns out much below 6 and 7% body fat. For some ladies, they they fudge with that hard, especially physique competitor ladies, which are also highly attractive. But most ladies are like, "Dude, whoa, this is like a bit much." Like I've never in my life had a chance to flex my glutes with striations at a girl and her be like, "Oh my god, like can we just like
• 13:00 - 13:30 do it?" They're usually just like, "Oh, that's cool. Whoa, huh? All right, I got to go." So, they always say that to me anyway. I'm kidding. No one ever talks to me. So, 8 to 15% body fat is kind of the visible lean abs zone. If your abs are clearly visible, like all the packs, however many packs God gave you, if they're just delineated in a way that you can see in decent lighting, you're plenty lean enough for almost everyone. And if you
• 13:30 - 14:00 get much leaner, uh, you either get no extra payoff at all or a very small one. Sometimes it's a negative. If you're too soft and you can't see your abs and if you have some poochie poochie going on, that definitely starts to be a downside. Some women do like the ultra cut look, but the majority prefer what's called athletic leanness, which is I hate I just want like an athlete, which is not wrong, Betsy, but uh that's what people call it. Contest shredded mode is just not a requirement and not even a net bet
• 14:00 - 14:30 that it's going to be better. So like if you're looking to, you know, score the most uh nice girl numbers or however that works. Scott, do people still do numbers or just social media now? Oh, swap DMs or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If you're looking to get your DMs game going, you don't have to be 3% body fat. 8% 10% 12% whatever it is that gets you a little bit of lean face gets you some shreddy shreddy and gives your muscles looking like they're muscles it's almost certainly good enough. And here's the best part. If you're in a
• 14:30 - 15:00 higher body fat range but still look the part when the ladies say nice things to you and you end up sitting across the room from each other and trying to say the right thing that she comes over and sits next to you so you can pretend to watch a movie so you can um you know get close and see that she's not uncomfortable with you yet. And then you kind of sort of motion over and just be like, "Hey kids." Right? And she's like, and then you do the hand. And then you start to slowly rub the shoulder. And then she's super cool with it cuz she's clearly like vibing. And then you guys know the rest. If you want that to
• 15:00 - 15:30 happen, there's a the thing people forget about. Mr. Winky, that your man downstairs that you talk to at night and pray to God, why haven't you become erect in years? Is there something wrong with me? Did I do something bad in a past life? Why aren't the medicines working? Is it cuz I'm ugly? Typical things like that. You want Mr. Mr. Winky to work. And uh if you're sub 5% body fat, Mr. Winky's on vacation. And until you feed yourself enough, he ain't coming back. So if you want to have a real good fun time and you have a high sex drive and you want to be able to use
• 15:30 - 16:00 your bits down there, you know, like below 8% just doesn't work for that in most cases. So there is a little bit of a benefit to seeing how high of a body fat percentage you can have while still having the look. The look. Number three. Size matters. That's right. We're talking about genitals. No, we're not. No, we're not. Wrong channel. Mike, you have a channel that talks about genitals? Yes. Dr. Mike's genital channel.net. Google it. Here's the deal with size. Most
• 16:00 - 16:30 women do in fact prefer a male mating partner. That's the technical terminology. That is visually bigger than them. Visually bigger. Which means women are not going to put you on the scale. They just won't. There's no scales around. In clubs, there's not usually a scale within reaching distance. If you see a cute guy in the street, this is not a thing. But visually, you need to be able to take up more space than they do. And most people
• 16:30 - 17:00 in their brain some kind of subconsciously kind of know roughly how big they are. And they know what they like when they like it. They know what they like when they see it. And if they see a silhouette of yours that's imposingly larger than them, you're in. If they're not sure if you're bigger than them, you could slide in on cuteness factor like, "Oh my god, he's so tiny." Maybe, but it's not the best average bet. So, bigger than the female. Size has a few dimensions. Let's talk about all of them. First of all,
• 17:00 - 17:30 height. It seems to be that going from any male height all the way up to about 6'3 makes you incrementally more attractive to the average female. It's very important to say average because there's a huge huge diversity. I mean, I'm 5'6 and I've always had trouble attracting. Holy it makes sense. I haven't been totally dry is what I'm trying to say. If I was 5'8, hey, more hoes. Although I'm married, so zero
• 17:30 - 18:00 hose. 510, even better. On average, some girls are like, I liked you better at 5'8. 6 foot, etc., etc. At 6'3, there seems to be a cresting. 6'4, 65, and 66 seem to be roughly equivalent to 63 as far as attractiveness. But once you get much beyond 66, you actually have a little bit of a freak factor. Scott, you ever seen a regular sized girl with an NBA player? Oh, yeah. And you're like, how
• 18:00 - 18:30 does that even work? And the answer is it does doesn't work that well. And while a lot of women will consider you highly attractive if you're 6' n, some women are like that. I can't really kiss a guy that I don't. It just kind of looks like exotic. Like you might be totally into titties, but if you know what I'm saying, old girl has like triple H's. Isn't that a wrestler? Triple H. Um you're like, "Hey, I I love what you have going on, but but it just um it's not for me." And so 63 seems to
• 18:30 - 19:00 be kind of uh close to that optimal height. 63 64 62 is great. But the problem is you can't train your height yet. So unless you want to go to Korea and get that limb extension surgery which is brutal and takes two years to recover from. You have to relearn how to walk. Height do you have no choice in but weight you do have a choice in. So, the next question is, how much heavier should you be than the girl you're into or the average girls that
• 19:00 - 19:30 you're into? Heavier is an attraction boost for sure. How much heavier? Generally speaking, a very rough number to kind of put in your brain, part of your mental model is about 35 lbs heavier. Scott, I assume your ideal girl weighs 90 lb. That's That's a fine weight. 90 lb a fine weight. I would instantly kill a girl like that in bed by accident, but
• 19:30 - 20:00 Scott's a regular sized king, so you get away with that sort of thing. That means if you were below 125 lbs in body weight, you would have problems and you would need to eat some protein and do some bicep curls to gain some weight. 35 lbs heavier than the girl that you're interested in is typically not a problem. Anything beyond that, especially much beyond, like 45 fine, 55 fine, you get 60, 90, 120 lbs heavier
• 20:00 - 20:30 than the girl you're interested in, it's typically still cool, but fewer and fewer women are into extreme size. And if you're talking about bodybuilding kind of shape and proportions, a lot of times for most girls, once you get above about at regular male height of 5'10ish, once you get north of 200 lb, some girls are just like, "That's freaky big and that ain't me." Other girls who are in the fitness industry, they're muscle fetishists. They'll love you the bigger you get. But now it's more of a niche specific situation that you're maybe not
• 20:30 - 21:00 interested in if you're trying to optimize for the average the most number of women to be attracted to me. Cuz here's how this works. At first, you circle in your physique on the most attractive possible physique it could be. Then you decide what kind of girls you like, and you can actually alter your physique to pursue those. You're some kind of goth hipster You're going to need to lose some weight, pale up that skin, pretend you have demons, grow out your hair really long. Scott, you know, the black hair that like goes down to below their eyes. I mean, you're in. I've considered that myself cuz goth
• 21:00 - 21:30 100% could get it. But you can specialize after that. Generally speaking, anything in that 30 to 40 lb range is good as far as heavier than the women you're into. It for smaller women that uh are 100 to 120 lb, even 30 or 25 lbs heavier is totally fine. For larger women, uh 150 to 180 lb. And let me say something privately. If you're more than 180 girl, I'm saying you can still get
• 21:30 - 22:00 it. You feel me? Don't no anyone tell you you ain't God. There's lots of love for you in the world. I'm telling you right now. Also, black men exist. The the answer is yes for them. Uh it doesn't matter how much you weigh. If that's offensive, you're getting offended by reality, fellas. All love and respect. Um, if you are a bigger girl, 150 to 180 plus, maybe 40 or 50 pounds bigger than you is actually more attractive because when you're a larger female, especially if you're a taller female, if you're like 170 and 5'9, god
• 22:00 - 22:30 damn. Um, if you're watching this, Marcos, Marcos Rodriguez, resident of New York, know exactly what the I'm talking about. We out here. Queen like that means a straightup king. Some kind of Viking No need no, you know what I'm saying? little Twinky thing that you'll just get lost. Yeah, being over 220 at whatever height you're at helps 100%. Because you can if you can make her feel small and dainty and very secure, you're good. At least on that
• 22:30 - 23:00 perspective. Now, there are exceptions. Just remember there exceptions to all this. Some women prefer just monsters. Some women you can even be very high body fat with as long as you have big shoulders, arms, chest, and back. They just want that gorilla energy. It's definitely a thing. I mean, pro strong men, you know what I'm saying? Some of those guys do real well. And it's just like it if you're with a pro strong man at a club or a bar, a social event or restaurant as a girl, even at amusement park walking around,
• 23:00 - 23:30 the degree of animal safety that you feel with that person can't be matched cuz everyone else shudders when they see them and try to make sure they don't make eye contact. But that's not for everyone. A lot of girls prefer kind of leaner, thinner, lankier, more athletic looking guys. And that's totally cool, too. So, again, you got to be heavier than the girl that you're trying to uh attract than the average girl. And probably something like 20 to 50 lbs heavier. 20 if you're a small frame king and she's a small frame queen, 50 if you're larger, everything in between. And even outside of those ranges, just
• 23:30 - 24:00 something to think about. So, I guess what I'm trying to say is if you really like a girl and she weighs 150 and you weigh 150, gaining some weight's probably going to make you more attractive in her eyes. If a girl feels bigger than you viscerally, uh, generally, uh, that's that's no good. My 597-lb dominatrix loves that feeling. Then again, I have to pay for her services. She doesn't just come around for free. Tip number four. Four.
• 24:00 - 24:30 Bigger arms and bigger forearms is a thing. Some women love big arms. Some women don't care as much. But thin, weak little spaghetti arms and little noodle forms that you can lose in a crowd, never a good look. I don't mean never, but it's unlikely that that's maximizing your attract. Take any guy. Let's say it's a, you know, a screo band
• 24:30 - 25:00 drummer and all the screo fan girls like, "Oh my god, I want him to be sad with me. Oh my god." If he has little noodle arms, they still screaming. Cuz if you're a screo drummer, you just girls line up. But if you're a screo drummer and you got a little kind of little thing going for yourself, little forearms, little kind of muscular arms, you're multiplying your probabilities of early pregnancy and regret, which is actually, I think, the point of reproduction, Scott, isn't it? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Scott wasn't paying attention. He doesn't listen to half the
• 25:00 - 25:30 I say. So, big arms, at least well-developed arms and forearms, convey masculine energy, and that's a big deal because typically women that are into men are into men. Hey, we solved that problem. And a lot of big arms can make an impression even when clothed. If you're wearing like a collared shirt at a business function, you take your suit coat off and you kind of have big arms, women will notice. And they boy, once that hap, I don't know how that works.
• 25:30 - 26:00 Women never notice me a single day in my life. But apparently they go to the bathroom with you if I'm inclined to believe adult films. Things happen in bathroom stalls that from the from the degree of the technical complexity of the moves required, the ROI to get into those stances, the time spent making a ton of noise, and the fact that no one called the police on you seems unrealistic. But maybe that's what you can expect. That's all four things. But we have a bonus one. I know what you're thinking. Do legs matter? For some women, they do. Having
• 26:00 - 26:30 muscular legs on a guy. For most, they don't. Glutes are the thing that matter the most. More than your hamstrings, more than your quads, more than your calves, with one exception, which I'll get to in just a sec. A lot of women say they like muscular legs, but there are two kinds of preferences. stated preferences, which is what women say they like, and revealed preferences, which is how they act in the world and actually select mates for mating. And revealed preferences illustrate that women just don't care on average about
• 26:30 - 27:00 legs much. The exception, the biggest exception is that if your legs are comically underdeveloped compared to your upper body, like stick legs in short shorts, people will laugh at you and it's not giving you any bonus points. So, as long as you don't have bro legs, like you train them on occasion or just genetically they look fine. If you flex your upper body and you look at your legs and it doesn't look like two different people just met me melded together, sheer disgusting
• 27:00 - 27:30 genetic accident, you're good to go in almost all cases. Some women prefer men to have shapely glutes, you know, that's uh it's quite hot and uh they like that sort of thing, but nothing extreme. And a lot of women just don't care. So, if you have bigger legs, they're like, "Cool." If you don't, they're like, "Cool. It just doesn't really matter much." Can you get into a situation where athletic girls and bodybuilder girls like a guy to have big legs? Yes. Can you get into a situation where bigger legs are kind of gross for some girls? Yes. But the average is it just
• 27:30 - 28:00 doesn't matter much. And if you're overindexing at how jacked your legs are and you're doing at the expense of developing your delts, upper pecs, and your lats, then yeah, you're probably not running the ultimate plan to get laid as much as possible. So, here's the final tally. If you want to be as attractive as possible, at least for women on average, I was going to say if you have a certain girl you're targeting, but that's a combination of ineffective and creepy. Kind of a weird place.
• 28:00 - 28:30 Fundamentally, you don't ever want to target one girl because you've not met that many people in the world. And even if you just like the one, then uh it's a bit of a weird vibe to tailor your entire physique to attract her. Although if you have mega confidence, you could be like, "Hey, I built my whole body just for this moment. What do you think about that?" She's like, "Oh my god, guess I'll guess I'll just have to like have sex with you now." Yeah, I don't know if that plays out. For average increase in attractiveness, you should be at least
• 28:30 - 29:00 about or around about 30 lbs heavier than the average girl size you're targeting. So, if you tend to like girls that weigh 150, some thickious girls. God damn, I should shut up. I don't know what the hell's going on with my sex drive lately. It's getting bit out of hand. Uh, then yeah, like just weighing 180 is probably a good idea. Next, you want broader shoulders than waist as a hard rule. Hard rule. How much broader? Your call, but broader for sure. Visible abs are a great bonus. Super shredded abs you don't have to worry about. So, visible abs and nice lean waist and at
• 29:00 - 29:30 least decently developed arms and forms. I've made a lot of jokes in other videos about arms the king of everything. Yeah, for male physique, for other male physiques, comparisonwise, arms, big arms are the ultimate answer. For females, they at least don't have skinny arms. And if you have some bigger arms, it usually ha um helps quite a bit. Beyond this, more size does not necessarily equal more attraction. It often does not. and extreme mass appeal is actually
• 29:30 - 30:00 quite niche. Which also leads to a really interesting conclusion. If you are interested in girls other than fitness industry super elite tier girls who are also on drugs, um you don't need to take steroids to accomplish the ultimately attractive male physique because steroids actually almost by design take you north of that and then limit the number of chances that you have for reproduction. So, in most cases, this is actually kind of a PSA to be like, don't even take drugs because what you want isn't that exotic. It's a
• 30:00 - 30:30 cool look, but that's where the fascination of females with male physiques roughly ends. And anything north of that is just uh some women are really into it, but most women are like it's a little bit much for them. So, my advice to you to check the four main boxes, keep the super simple for yourself, be heavier than the average girl, be lean enough uh uh with visible abs on average, get a solid margin of shoulders being wider than your waist, and arms and forearms that do not resemble Harry Potter's. That's how you're going to maximize your chances of
• 30:30 - 31:00 attraction. And the rest is really about how you want to look for yourself. Because once you've checkboxed these, there are huge ranges. Heavier than the average girl could mean 20 to 30 lbs heavier. It could mean 40 or 50 pounds heavier and anything in between. Lean enough or visible abs might be like pretty pretty shredded or you know you have abs but they're not exactly the world's leanest man. Your shoulders can be considerably wider than your waist or just a little bit wider. Both count roughly the same. And your arms just not
• 31:00 - 31:30 being small actually doesn't tell you how big they should be. And as long as the rest of you isn't just freaky enormous and really wigs women out, very very large arms for how big your kind of the rest of your muscles are are totally cool. And then so yeah, if you check all these boxes, a lot of the movement in between these variables is totally fine because at the end of the day, confidence gets you laid way more than abs or how the hell you look. And if you are living inside of a body that you like and that you can approach women at
• 31:30 - 32:00 random places where they clearly don't want to be talked to and talk to them against their will and pick up you learned on YouTube and embarrass yourself. Then if you do that in a body you really love and feel confident in your probability of actually displaying the best version of yourself and get that sweet sweetness between the legs going is much higher. So if you got the four essentials the rest is your call. Guys, in the comments below, please, everyone, give me a detailed story about how you were super skinny and/or fat,
• 32:00 - 32:30 you got jacked and handsome, you met all four of these criteria, and now you're swimming in it. Don't make anything up. Wink. But I want to know about it. I want to know about dragons and knights and slaying and princesses with long hair that you can use to climb up uh because the stairs were broken. I'm not sure on fairy tales, but I think that's how they go. I've been Dr. Mike and I'll see you guys next time.